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@Shin No i don't care about death. I care about suffering and pain. Of course when the moment of death comes i may be quite terrified of it because i don't know what's next. But behind the fear of death is a fear of pain and suffering. I disagree with this whole concept that we are all afraid of Death at the root and that's it. I think we are afraid of pain, suffering and misery at the root. Someone who commits suicide, isn't afraid of death. He is afraid of misery. There are many people willing to put an end to their lifes just to escape the misery of their existance.

When you get to the point of considering suicide, You'd accept to try anything. Luckily I found Leo and not a cult leader !

Every sentient being (so long as we say there are sentient beings at all to begin) all play a role of victims, perpetrators, and rescuers. Every. Single. One. The motivation and function of being a perpetrator is not possible without having been a victim. The reality is, I can also just say that could be the karma of that particular animal. Saying you can't kill for sport is just your self biased view. The fact is is that you can. Ethics isn't purely determined by the actions you take by the way you experience it. The manifestation of one's ethics is very much based on one's point of view. Suicide bombers and terrorists experience tremendous states of ecstasy and bliss when they are doing what they're doing because for them from their smaller vantage point of perspective, based on their stage of development, what they're doing actually is ethical. And guess what? If you go back a couple thousand years ago when human societies functioned at an ethnocentric level at best, which was considered the leading edge at that time, similar sort of actions that we today in our world centric cultures call terrorism, would've lead such warriors to being considered cultural heroes because they actually were! Our society was only possible thanks to tons of rape and pillage, conquering, war, devastation, suffering, and also great innovations, leadership, etc. And guess what? Things are actually better thanks to this so called "immoral" function. Why? Morality and ethics are very much relative depending on the vantage point of one's perspective. Child sacrifice was actually considered very honorable at one point in history. The reality is, none of these views, and that's what they are, views, aren't really true in it of itself. I'm not saying or suggesting some dismissal of feeling your heart break open if you see factory farming or you read about the kinds of suffering animals go through in a laboratory. I am saying though that that is the reality in which we live. That is the case and it's not ultimately a matter of good and bad. Many of those animals that are tested on in a laboratory ground a way for us to create very helpful resources for the world such as various medicines. Being a human being is very complex. This binary view of ethics is just naive. There is great suffering in the world and no matter how "advanced" humans get, that will remain to be the case. Suffering and survival go together. They cannot and will not ever be separate (at least by and large). Yes they actually do. This has been known by yogis, shamans, etc. for thousands of years but even modern science no longer disputes this. Read up on Rupert Sheldrake's contributions on the matter. The fact that you think plants don't have a nervous system shows you're uneducated regarding basic biology. Plants do experience sensations. It's not "pain" in the way human beings conceptualize it as even human "pain" isn't really pain but is actually very much conceptual. However, they do experience sensations, and, depending on the plant, are quite sensitive to sensations and what they take in. Speaking about all individuals that follow this general food trend is not useful. Many vegans I've met (I live in San Francisco so I've met A LOT of them) are very ideologically driven and actually rather tribal regarding their view. Many vegans I've met also have rather shitty diets. Following a vegan diet doesn't at all mean you're necessarily conscious of the things we're speaking about or even following anything healthy. You can drink tons of beer and load up on all sorts of junk food, which, by your moralistic thinking, I could argue you'd be funding corrupt corporations that poison people with food coloring agents, preservatives, or you're paying for fruits and vegetables that were grown in completely unethical ways (see my first comment on this post where I point out, and you can do your homework on this, how even our "organic" fruits and vegetables that you buy at Whole Foods are still grown in very "insidious" ways). The reality is, this simplistic view of ethics and morals is just a circle jerk. Morality and ethics are very much relative have no reality beyond these views. It is not true in it of itself. So all these claims you're making as declarative truth statements don't hold water, ultimately. Again, I'm not suggesting you don't feel what you feel. I am saying though that our dispositions are just that, dispositions that are full of bias, conditions, deception, etc. that serve a particular agenda, namely survival. I also want to point out, again, that not everybody can even follow a vegan diet for various reasons. Vegan diets aren't healthy for everyone. Vegan diets isn't possible for everyone even in terms of convenience in regards to what their local markets have to provide for food. I am not fond of trophy hunting or anything like that. I would like it if that stuff could stop. That said, it should be here and does here. Why? Because it already does. That is the fact. To argue otherwise is to argue in favor of lies, fantasy, beliefs, etc. In other words, what's not true. There is tragedy in the world. That will remain. There is suffering in the world. That will remain. There is also comedic aspect to all of this too as well as a profound sense of beauty. The most rapturous insights regarding the beauty of everything is precisely because our world situation is so utterly complex, confusing, paradoxical, twisted, and so forth. That is the joke and the tragedy and they both go together. My challenge for you would be to view your ethics from such a vantage. Dare to be honest with yourself on both ends of that spectrum and not lie and say what you don't like shouldn't be the case because guess what, it already. Don't disown anything and do whatever you want.

@VeganAwake Yes we can clearly see the "Nihilistic" mind in you.. But love has nothing to do with fear of death. What is there to fear about it? Either experience goes on or it does not either way its all fine ? Imo life is suffering, so if the case might be that non existence is a real thing then it is what it is and is not necessarily a bad thing. But actually something doesn't feel right about non existence. And that has nothing to do with fear as you might claim. Do you know that the biggest fear about death is what will happend afterwards? Not to not exist but to be scared about the experience thereafter. To not exists is not a problem. I truly hope for your sake that death is the end of your experience cause it shows in all your posts that you want a spiritual suicide more or less. But hey thats maybe me projecting ? But non existence is as logical as to say that the big bang happend out of nothing IE non existence and out of it particles came and it was random and yet mother nature still is ordered and structured. Existence has no opposite really. And it is ONE. So "you" are IT. How to escape it?

The main question I have is, what is your best understanding or theory that can describe why hatred, specifically homicidal imaginations with true desire behind them, is the only thing capable of allowing me to visualize things? It’s like a switch being flipped from 1% visualization capabilities to 99% visualization capabilities. My mental health is very stable currently; I don’t need any advice related to that. As a child, I spent a significant amount of time reading fiction books. I was able to visualize quite well. It was like watching a movie but of course a little toned down from that. The most surreal visualization I’ve ever had happened maybe around 6-8 years old. I was sitting in church, and I envisioned myself as a roughly 50 ft tall demon tearing the church goers apart in gruesome detail. The visualization was so complete that it wouldn’t have been that much different if I was actually experiencing that as a demon with my eyes wide open. This was fueled by pure hatred. It was not that I was having fun imagining some scenario. I wanted to literally destroy everyone around me. There were no significant triggers for this that I can identify. I generally was just bored in church. I didn’t hate being there or anyone there really other than I’d rather be playing games or doing other more stimulating kid stuff. Around the beginning of high school, I stopped reading fiction. I shifted my focus to just playing video games in that same free time. I think this was around the time I lost the ability to visualize things in my mind. I didn’t completely lose the ability to do this, but it became far more difficult. Now I can hardly visualize anything. I can get momentary glimpses but even then it’s nothing compared to before. I hardly ever experience hatred or anger. Last year I had my first ever hospitalization for suicide/depression. I was dead set on going through with suicide, but I was stopped by friends and family. As I was unable to carry out the act as I was in the hospital, I developed an intense hatred within me. I became overrun with homicidal thoughts. As soon as this happened, I was able to visualize in a hyper-realistic way again. What mechanisms are at action here? I’ve experienced plenty of other intense emotional states. None other than hatred seems to have this effect in me.

134-03.05.2021 Still in detox. It wasn’t hard to not to be on social media or porn. But I had A LOT suicidal thoughts today. I really felt emotional pain. It was really hard but I am at some low percent a Christian and the thought that I probably could go to hell because of suicide pulled me always towards distancing me from this thoughts. Also I don’t like the idea to give up because it’s getting hard and to bring this emotional pain to all the people I loved. After hours of strong depressing feelings I prayed to god for the first time since to years and after that I felt like I’m a super hero. Then I topped my record from 15 push ups and did for the first time since October 20 push ups. Why did I feel so bad? It’s because my parents are pulling me into competitive mathematics (I like mathematics but I hate this competitive stuff) with high pressure so I’d spend my whole time after school doing these mathematics where I’m not even learning things. I would rather study with my own sources and not just to get high points. So I feared that they could make me wasting my school time and pressure me into becoming an engineer even if I don’t want that. But it’s just victim mentality (I’m feeling guilty by writing this because I suffered so much on this). First I need to improve my strategy. I can do that by starting walking in the park again. There I’ll get a free mind. Then I need to do the basics at first and not get caught up in distractions. See you tomorrow❤️❤️❤️❤️? Peace?????❤️???

Hi! Its been almost a year since my last trip on LSD where I attempted suicide. I was not suicidal before, it was just on this trip. It was the worst day of my life. Since then I’ve mostly stayed away from psychedelics. I’ve only ever done LSD and magic truffles and I always valued the insights they gave me. It makes me quite sad that I can’t use psychedelics as a tool anymore because of my fear. Is there a way to take psychedelics and at the same time make it absolutely safe? By safe, I mean physically safe, as in, the body as an organism is unharmed. By this I mean safe in the sense that you won’t hurt yourself physically. I’ve researched a little bit but I wanted to also get the opinion and experience of people on this forum. Maybe someone else had a similarly scary experience but has found a way to use psychedelics anyway? Lsd is too scary for me but I was thinking maybe a drug with a shorter duration like DMT for example is less risky when it comes to freaking out and starting to hurt yourself? Also, would taking Xanax, for psychedelics in general, before a trip minimize the risk? I’ve even played with the thought of constraining myself physically before administering the drug. But then I saw the possibility that I still hurt myself by biting off my tongue for example. The irrational mind states I’ve experienced on lsd would definitely make that possible. I know it sounds kind of ridiculous to think about such drastic measures. Maybe I should just leave it alone. But it’s also just that I don’t want to have this fear of psychedelics anymore and I don’t know how to do that without facing it. It’s very strange to have had both the most beautiful experiences and most horrible experiences of my life on LSD lol. Cheers!

This. Important. You can't debate cancers of the mind any more than you can debate a guy in a suicide vest.

Ego can be very nasty in it's effort to force you back under its influence. We often underestimate how vicious it is. I've had some very nasty things happen to me. I was in bed for 3 months with an injured nerve and went through 7 doctors who all diagnosed it as a hamstring pull. I could not walk except to the bathroom and back. I thought about suicide seriously because I felt I could not live the rest of my life in such pain. Finally I was led to a remarkable doctor who diagnosed it and gave me meds so that I could function again. The latest was when I broke my back at the beginning of April trying to lift my husband off the floor after he'd had a reaction to the second covid vaccine. This occurred right after having several awakenings in a short amount of time. Ego lashes right back when you've made any progrress of a spiritual kind. I wish Jeff the best and luck in finding a cure.

I think its a chicken and egg problem, is he staying confident and positive because he lacks fear (rightly so) or does he lack fear because he is staying confident and positive? He also has nothing to prove, because he is already in the top 1% of men. He knows that if a beta male comes and starts to pick a fight with him, we can all laugh and point at the beta male until he is embarrassed enough to either leave or get restrained by the mob if he gets physical. Arnold literally can not lose unless he decides to beat the beta male into hospital, which would be a social suicide for him. If a beta male comes to me and starts to pick a fight, I have a reason to fear in that situation, socially and physically. My survival is 100% dependent on me doing the right decisions, I dont have trained bodyguards or mob helping me. If I answer physical attack by getting physical too and cops arrive at the scene at the wrong time, Im the one going to jail. If someone films the fight and makes clever cuts, I could get fired from my workplace and otherwise socially castrated. If I do nothing, I might get killed. If I run, I might fall over and still get beaten or killed. Staying calm and positive in that situation could get me killed, so my brain basically returns to monke while trying to process what the hell I should do to stay socially and physically alive I think the best thing for a regular guy to achieve Arnolds level of confidence and positivity in a violent situation would be to master some martial art that gives you ability to disarm and restrain the aggressor with ease and without causing injuries (I think grappling arts like Judo are the best ones for this). That way you could easily restrain the aggressor and call the cops while the guy under your ass contemplates his life choices. You would also be socially well because you can show that no harm was done to the aggressor. If cops arrive to the scene just to see how you grab the guys fist and make them kneel with Jedi trick, they probably wont shoot your ass and you have time to explain what happened before they arrived. If someone films you, you probably get applauded at the next training session. All in all, I dont think it has anything to do with Arnolds political views. He is just being a politic when he is saying so EDIT: You can also get fear by clinging into beliefs such as honor, so if you dishonor a politician with this belief with an egg they go into a fight or flight mode because the dishonorable behavior of the aggressor. They fear that they lose their face and political points when someone dishonors them with an egg.

5-MeO can be much more scary than LSD, and so can n,n-DMT, but n,n-DMT in small doses would perhaps work better for you than LSD. Not saying it definitely won't go bad, but there are some reasons why LSD and 5-MeO (and to a lesser extent, ketamine) are sort of in a league of their own... LSD is actually somewhat similar to 5-MeO, in that ego-death, dissociation, memory suppression, and thought-loops/confusion can be particularly prominent in the experience... which can often lead to fear or irrationality. Even psychosis/delusions. n,n-DMT is more visual, sober, and hyperspace-like -- you're less likely to have complete memory suppression and ego-death. Mushrooms are kind of like half way between those 2 camps. Don't take this too literally, it's just my particular intuitive grasp, based on well over 100 trips. It may minimize the risk of anxiety and possibly delusions, but not depression or suicide. Probably not a great idea. It really sucks the life out of the trip anyway -- you'd be better off (in terms of both anxiety-relief, insight-promotion, and safety) just taking half the dose of psychedelic. But don't go too low -- IME if you dose too low you get all the anxiety and none of the benefits. Too low IMO is less than 1g mushrooms or less than 75ug LSD, fwiw. Don't. Please don't. Lol. Good luck. I'd steer clear of them for now, though.

Can you provide a link to this trip report?. Also are these drugs legal in your country?. If not I wouldn't want to see you be incarcerated as then you may end up actually committing suicide. In my country possession carries a 7 year sentence, dealing carries life!

Perhaps as accurate as it can get. I still have some blue in me, when things go terribly wrong (like twice a year or so) I start praying to God in the old fashioned way. Even though aware this is not the most high realization of God I had, I allow myself to do so as it gives me some kind comfort. This prevents me from falling deeper and blaming others. When things don't go that well but not very bad like they are going now, I have the tendency to rationalize or to fall into the trap of nihilism (orange?). Yesterday I cried after hearing about a murder of a 32 year old man by a 19 year old, not that I judged the murderer. I felt sorry for him too. He had attempted suicide before and was addicted to games. His motive was: I wanted to feel like what it is to do in real life what I do in video games. I felt his pain and how he lost touch with reality. When I saw a picture of the victim my intuition told me it's at least a stage green person and it made me cry harder, like he had such a good vibe on the picture... Gosh I'm almost crying right now while typing this. However I'd feel like I'd give even the murderer a big hug. I guess these are 'green' feelings? Nonetheless I've experienced moments of what one could call unimaginable bliss, love, fearlessness and peace though. Not caring about talking, needing to answer any existential questions or doing anything, feeling 'God' energy, having only intuition and barely any thought. Ultimately it's beyond words. Those are second tier experiences I guess? But I assume many people in 'green' have them now and then, for example during a walk in nature during the summer when it's raining just not caring about getting wet? Just feeling the rain rinsing away ones ego.

So why are we meditating so much to experience God and don´t just suicide to merge with the Godhead?

Thanks for sharing with us your way of living. I've read several of your posts, about suicide too, but i am not sure what are you trying to say. Do you need any help?

Then why suicide? You can pretend suicide feel good by saying it's comfortable, but those are not the same. If your heart felt like suicide was right there would be no doubt. Yet there is, just as there is this forum post. There's no reason to resort to suicide though. If you want to contribute to society you can, it really is up to you. You don't have to but you certainly can. Putting all of that aside, what would be the next amazing to do in life? It doesn't matter what happened, right now what do you want? When you say suicide, I doubt what you want is the pain of hurting the body. What do you think you can only have in the "afterlife" you can't have right now?

Look if you are truly happy and not hurting anyone, power to you. But your family and friends deserve love too. It's not their fault if they don't understand, try and put yourself in their shoes. Consider the fact they raised you, sheltered you, fed you, and loved you for 18 years. Reconnect even if it's painful and don't be avoidant. Be humble enough and realize maybe your "level" isn't as high as you think it is if resentment and anger are the emotions you have towards those who aren't as conscious. Suicide is not the answer to anything. It's just another form of selfishness.

I have been homeless for a number of years, I have seen what time can do to the scared and desperate. I have seen pure hatred for life where a person will beligerantly cuss at everything in their way constantly with a completely dirty outfit, discusting teeth and hair, with nothing to do but be hateful towards everyone while having nothing in life at all not even a place to sit and relax from being scorched by the sun, trust me that's how it was for him. I wondered if I could ever get like that how could I possibly not kill myself. The more I went through life having that come up in thought, which is more often then it probably should've, the less I blamed him. I have attempted suicide a couple times because I had no hope or forsight to be content. That's what drove that man into a hateful existence I believe, he had no room for contentment as his life slid into a bottomless pit of shit. I am currently homeless but I am lucky enough to survive away from civilization and having to live in the hell of believing in God, karma, comparison, and judgement. That shit is a never ending cycle. I am homeless by choice, I am 25 and meditate and wander around my desert oasis in Arizona 24/7, dream loving dreams, eat whatever I choose to carry, read cool books but mostly contemplate how eternal my peace will be. I wish more people could relate and so you have my best wishes! All I ever did was be an introvert as hard as it is. Astrology opened my eyes after I believed aliens were looking out for me, they weren't.

There are books written about this subject.. which I have read. Nato reminds me of the holism thing which Leo has talked about. Because all member countries goes together for the greater good. It acts as one. It prevents wars because attacking a Nato member would be suicide. Together is strong. The former Sovjetunion states Georgia and Ukraine aren't Nato members, and they have been attacked by Russia. While the Baltic states (former Sovjetunion states Estonia, Latvia, Lithuania) are Nato members, and they haven't been attacked by Russia. It's their Nato membership which has saved them. Ukraine is now begging for a Nato membership, but unfortunately they can't join Nato right now because that would instantly trigger a war with Russia. A country should join Nato before war starts, to prevent a war from starting, that's why I want Sweden and Finland to join Nato now while we still have peace. NATO is a international intergovernmental political organization in which the decisions are made by consensus between all 30 sovereign member states, and every member has veto right, so everyone benefit. But hostile aggressive countries do not benefit because they can't attack members. "These organizations bring member states together to cooperate on a particular theme or issues that have global impacts and implications such as human rights, trade, development, poverty, gender or migration." https://libguides.lub.lu.se/c.php?g=489859&p=3938549 "Article 5 provides that if a NATO Ally is the victim of an armed attack, each and every other member of the Alliance will consider this act of violence as an armed attack against all members and will take the actions it deems necessary to assist the Ally attacked." https://www.nato.int/cps/en/natohq/topics_110496.htm Basically every swede who is against a Nato membership is against it because they believe in some myth about Nato, or have misconceptions about it. Every argument against a membership can be killed by pure facts. Most swedes don't really know what Nato even is, they just have prejudices and wrong notions. And they also don't know that Sweden isn't neutral anymore, because we are EU members, and we have a thing called "solidaritetsförklaringen" in which we promise to help other Nordic and EU countries if they are attacked. If a war happens in our proximity then Sweden will be dragged into the war even if we aren't members in Nato. And if Russia attacks Sweden it will be because it needs Gotland (a swedish island) and maybe southern Sweden because of strategic reasons if Russia attacks the Baltic states. Because Russia can then cut off Nato from helping the Baltic states, by putting air and sea missile systems on Gotland and southern Sweden, so Nato can't come from west to assist the Baltics. In case of a war Sweden will assist Nato anyway (despite our lack of membership). And Russia knows it. And Russia will act accordingly. So there is no reason for Sweden to not join Nato. Sweden is a close partner with Nato. A Nato membership would definitely increase the safety not only for Sweden, but also for the Baltics. The Baltics have repeatedly said that a swedish membership would increase their safety. It's also morally important to be on the good side and defend the free world, our shared western values, human rights and democracy, by being a member of Nato. For example Belgium don't have any foes, they are surrounded by friendly democratic countries, they are cocooned in safety, but they are still members of Nato because of moral reasons. They want to contribute to a good cause. Almost all the good guys are members of Nato. This should be enough to understand that Nato is good and that Sweden and Finland should join it: Trump didn't like Nato and other international cooperations, while Biden loves them.

All these objections are your ego talking. Notice you didn't deliberately "think" all these thoughts. They just came out of seemingly nowhere, right? That is the ego's job. To be negatively oriented, keeping you close-minded. The ego's job is to keep your body alive. Not only that, but to also keep "itself" alive -- the illusion of being a separate self inside a body -- socially & hieracally, climbing the ranks among "the human status space" (we are fucking apes in uniform, man) or at least trying to make sure you don't fall down. If you were open to, or even accepted that you were God (which actually is your true nature lol, but we could also call it Love or Pure Awareness), your ego is afraid you would stop pursuing sex, money, fame, achievements, success, all that jazz. The ego's job is to tell you that you're miserable and not good enough. You mostly believe it. So it gets you up in the morning and makes you pursue things. Illusory betterment for a mental, social construct. But by believing in it you will never become happy or at peace. Cos the ego naturally cannot be satisfied. It is always ready to tell you that you're a piece of shit and that danger is luring all around,... and thus you become afraid and at constant inner conflict on the inside - always looking for something external to make you feel fulfilled, if just for a brief moment: Sugar, sex, drugs, video games, junkfood, junk TV, small talking with other apparent egos, climbing the social ladder, getting higher salary, a new car, prettier muscles, new fancy fashion clothes, more power, more success, more achievements. This is the Matrix. This is enslavement. The movie, The Matrix, is an almost one-to-one analogy of the ego's power over us; its bars around our freedom. Heck, we are all mostly unconscious addicts, enslaved by the ego. How do one get free? Consciousness. Awareness. Love. Conscious suffering & a deep authentic desire to be fucking free again. Don't hate or love your ego. "Just" transcend it. Become conscious of its purpose, nature and mechanics. The shadow & darkness of the ego cannot survive the illuminating burning light of your consciousness. Stay mindful. It is valuable to know that there are two primary ways in which you can see that a person is deeply enslaved by his or her ego. It can indeed, namely, express itself two ways externally: - the inflated selfish external persona that is constantly participating in one-upmanship, constantly reminding himself/herself that he/she is superior to all others (as a way to suppress the ego's negative thoughts). You see that in people who are opportunistic, have zero integrity, and will do everything to achieve their ambitions, including hurting other human beings. - the victim persona. Here the person has not "managed" to suppress the ego (by lashing outwards as in the inflated case). Instead the person has bought into the ego's negative thoughts, believing them. Thus the person think he or she is a terrible human being, not worthy of love, or even worse: not worthy of living (suicide can happen). This person is constantly afraid, and feels like the world is cruel. Indeed, to become a mature adult, you shouldn't suppress nor accept the ego's thoughts. Don't try to "stop" the thoughts either; cos you can't! You didn't start the thoughts, thus you cannot force them to stop either (only suppression/denying will happen, which makes you an inflated, selfish person). As said, you should "just" become conscious of the ego's ways of behaving. Awareness alone is curative. By maintaining mindfulness, you can manage to see the ego unfolding its negative thoughts during the day & constrain yourself to not make the two possible mistakes of either *accepting* or *denying/suppressing* the ego's thoughts. Don't accept ego (you will fill miserable if you do). And don't suppress ego (it will come back a thousands time stronger, if you do). Just be conscious of it! And let it all go. ??? Your true self is NOT the ego. Your true self is Consciousness/God/Love/The Selfless Self/The Universe/ -- whatever you wanna call that ineffeable, mysterious formless "no-thing-being" that you truly are -- that innermost essential experience of 'being you', and which you deep, deep down know you are --- and will see yourself to be, if you can let go of the filters of ego. Ego is not equal to personality either. In fact, a human being's true personality/soul will shine through much clearer if the ego is transcended. Now, it is no easy task to transcend ego. It can take a lifetime. This is what life is all about: becoming your true self (you already are 'it', but realizing it!), becoming free. Also just to note: the ego isn't "an entity". In fact it doesn't really exist at all. "Ego" as a concept is best described as an inner 'tension', a special form of inner "negative energy" that is constantly 24/7 trying to convince you - the real you - that you're 'a separate self' located inside a skull placed on top of a human body. The ego's job is to make you feel guilty (or perhaps indirectly superior if you suppress that guilt). To make you feel anxious, afraid, angry, scared, like you lack something, like you desperately need x or y to become happy. The ego works through comparing you with others. Through dividing, fragmenting and splitting up the outside world in "bad" & "good" objects. The ego creates dualities: good, bad, worthy, unworthy, pride, shame, etc. The ego attaches itself --- often totally unconsciously to you, cos you have bought into the belief that you ARE a separate self (ego) --- to all kinds of things: this person is bad, this person is good, this is MY girlfriend/boyfriend, this is MY enemy, this is MY country, this is the right religion/ideology/belief/, that country is evil, and so on and so on. You thus become deeply attached to all kinds of objects, ideas, beliefs and persons. If your car or smartphone is damaged, it feels like YOU have been hurt, right? Your sense of identity is TOTALLY in the hands of the ego. The ego unconsciously created a worldview for you. A lens through which you perceive and interpret the world. The real you is experience itself! Consciousness. The perceiver is the perceived! The real you is equal to Love, Happiness, Peace. The real you is Whole. Oneness. It doesn't need or lack anything. It's completely at peace, cos it is in a sense nothing & everything simultaneously (non-duality). The ego and the logical mind cannot comprehend this, though. Don't even try to understand it, cos you will fail. The one who "wants" to understand it, in order to become 'superior', more powerful or 'better', is the ego. Likewise, the one who dismisses everything I wrote here is also the ego; protecting its own worldview, denying it could be otherwise. Close-mindedness is the job of the ego. Spirituality isn't about "adding stuff' to oneself (that is the job of the ego). Instead, it is about becoming free (again) through constantly practicing greater and greater self-awareness. Thus, it is actually about "dropping stuff", letting go of unexamined beliefs and attachments. Thus, slowly, your inner true being is allowed to shine through your human incarnation more clearly. We have to acknowledge that there are (sort of) positive things to say about ego as well (don't accept or love it though & don't hate it either): It keeps your alive. Its physical purpose is to keep you alive and make sure your genes pass on to the next generation. Unconscious ego is the main issue. When you have become fully conscious of the ego, it is naturally transcended and it's not really an issue anymore. Its energetic patterns/structures will still lay latent in the brain/mind and activate from time to time, but you are so conscious (of it) now, that you know when to listen to it, and - most importantly - when not to! Thoughts/thinking in and by themselves is an amazing creative technology created by the brain (God) and is not an issue in and by themselves. The ego, however, tries to make sure that you are constantly spending MUCH of your energy on: - polising your self-image, the mask you pretend to the world/social groups/workplace/community - thinking about how others perceive you, cos your ego REALLY wants to accepted by others, cos it believes this will allow higher chances for survival and gene-passing. - worrying, regretting, perfectionism. In fact, when you have transcended your ego fully, you will be AMAZED how much more energy you have available to divert into other activites such as: creation, art, love, creativity, humour, laughter, crying, dancing, playing around, having fun, being empathic with others, building crazy projects, helping others, doing actual GOOD things for yourself and others (healthy eating, meditation, exercise, reading, spending authentic time with other souls). But thoughts created *by the ego*, which you unconsciously attach yourself to (in lack of maturity/ wakefulness/love/consciousness/wisdom), is a BIG time problem and takes SO MUCH of your inner energy resources. As long as you can stay mindful and not attach yourself to your thoughts, it's good. This is much, much easier said than done, though! On a more metaphysical level, the ego is sort of "the shadow of God". God is Infinite & Eternal. The Infinite doesn't "know" it is Infinite cos it lacks the contrast of "finiteness" to be able to see/perceive/know its own nature: Unconditional Love, Selflessness, Absolute Infinity, Infinite Imagination, ... God. Thus, God created the ego as a tool of (ultimately) being able to know Itself. But first: Leela. Play. Survival. Drama. Suffering. Fragmentation. Hide'n'seek. Contrast. And then: self-realization..... Now that you know all this, go ahead and start slowly transcending your apparant (illusory) separate self (ego), so you for yourself can see your true immortality, divinity & Godhood. Practive Self-Love. Practice staying mindful. Meditation is inherently good. ❤️❤️❤️ Oneness is what is. It's all One & Whole. No real separation. I am you. You are me. Just Love. Just God. Just magic. Just mystery. Lila (Divine Play). ❤️❤️❤️ https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lila_(Hinduism)

After boosting the ego, if the things doesn’t go the way that ego wants, almost impossible to stop it. As you said, the situation leaded to suicide. Lol. ?

Digital Self Harm and Masochistic Epistemology The section between 22:40 and 30:36 talks about digital self harm and masochistic epistemology. I hate to admit it but find myself relating to these terms Contrapoints talks about digital self harm and how people seek out information that hurts them and that might not be rational to reaffirm their limiting beliefs and their world view. It's about having a masochistic epistemology which means what ever hurts must be true. The reason why I relate to this is because sometimes I catch myself going to the dating section of this forum or I check up on someone going on a racist rant and I'm always tempted to respond or to follow along and watch the drama unfold. But this literally does nothing but reaffirm my limiting beliefs around dating which consists of men being trash, I'm never going to find a decent man, and that men are manipulative misogynistic creeps who only value women for their youth and beauty and once women turn 25, they start losing their value. I know the average man isn't some red pilled scumbag but if you have been locked in the house in the pandemic for a year and the only man you associate with on a regular basis and who is not related to you is the guy at the Cinnabon drive through, you can't help but fill in the gaps of your experience based on the few things scumbags say online and have your views on what men are really like get distorted. As a result, I've been trying to cut back on what I see on this forum and mind my own damn business in my journal. I'm getting better at it but there is room for a lot of improvement. Another instance of this is how fatalistic I got with my world view when it came to capitalism. The pandemic uncovered a lot of messed up systems in society and I'm pretty sure a large portion of the youth has some form of critique against capitalism whether they realize that or not. And plus, I'm locked in the house all day with nothing to do except watch left tube so I started getting really pessimistic of what the future held. It's to the point where in my mind I was like this weed smoking hippie that didn't want to get a job because that seemed like emotional suicide. My rational mind knows that's not the case but the irrational part of me just associates work with abusive bosses and being paid slave wages or if I am making money, working crazy hours and having my labor be exploited until I can't mentally or physically continue. Yikes. Yeah I cut down on leftist media, forced myself to get an internship, and I'm working through my limiting beliefs around money. Don't get me wrong, I still believe that there are systemic issues with the way capitalism is structured but the difference is that now I try to be aware of it instead of constantly focusing on it and causing myself to spiral. And finally, I remember when I got rejected by all the schools I wanted to go to in my senior year of high school, I came across this channel that would basically say things like if you don't go to Harvard and kiss the ass of the people above you that you are going to be poor and miserable for the rest of your life. It reaffirmed the negative thoughts I was having about myself at my time of vulnerability. But then I found that this guy was a part of the alt right and I kept getting recommended red pill stuff so then he lost all credibility in my eyes and I never returned to his channel or similar channels ever again. I noticed that with red pill in general, I can't stomach that type of thing. I try to be open minded and take things with a grain of salt and a lot of times I can do that but when it comes to red pill people, I can't deal with them without feeling like trash about myself. Just goes to show that I still have a lot of healing to do. In the mean time, I mean I already stay away from red pill sites in general, but I should mute people like that on this site because I'm not mentally in the place to read what they have to say. Like it's to the point where I started questioning my own sexual boundaries (YIKES) and I catch myself feeling more and more pessimistic about my dating prospects. I think the whole thing with masochistic epistemology is present with guys who have issues with dating on this site. They believe that you have to have all of this money and status to even get a girl and that everything is hopeless but even when people try to explain that this is not the case, they get all defensive and then it devolves into a gender war. These guys aren't wealthy or powerful, they are using this rhetoric to hurt themselves and get into a fatalistic spiral about how men like them can't get laid and how women have it better and that they are gold digging whores by nature, annnnnnd next thing you know you get a bunch of red pill ideology. It isn't reassuring for them to be proved wrong, they find comfort in their pain even if it is delusional. And I play a part in that and in a way I'm no better because I'm still engaging in digital self harm by tuning into bad faith threads and comments that do nothing but make me feel like trash. But yeah, something like pessimism can be very addictive. I think people sometimes tend to want to be right than to be happy. It's the path of least resistance and a survival mechanism. In ancient times, it's better to assume you're right about there being a tiger behind the bush than to incorporate ~positive thinking~ and figure that it's just the wind. The former negative thinking keeps you safe while the later can get you killed if you are wrong. There is a sense of safety that is associated with being right. I think it can also be seen with people preferring familiarity over what will make them happy even when that familiarity is something like a bad habit. Reaffirming a negative world view can be reassuring. It can make you feel like you are right and that you aren't alone.

Insecurity about not being able to match up to someone's credentials or achievements is one thing (we all suffer self doubt often but it's not really harmful to the other person) Yet insecurity about feeling threatened by someone's success such that you see it as a threat to your ego where it fuels jealousy, envy and hate towards the other person is a dangerous form of insecurity that hinders another person's success and devalues their achievements. Such people resort to sabotaging another person's success. For example, when I was getting my Master's degree and my uncle told my mother - don't let her pursue further education, if she gets a PhD then she will find it tough to get a husband. I still think about that. It always hurts knowing this culture where men have an endemic jealousy and insecurity towards a woman's success.. I remember how in my mother's time, they used to deliberately not educate women in our culture because according to the general male mentality in the culture, there was no point in educating girls because their only job was to get ready to marry a man and learn kitchen stuff and serve him well in the marriage as a good wife and bear him children or else she won't have any identity or value as a woman and she had no value outside of men and marriage. She had nothing to aspire to and this was all she was made for.. Today the government ensures that women get education and men still whine about it saying that successful women won't get husbands. It's the same archaic patriarchal trope that keeps running and deeply hurts women. But women in my culture have decided to consciously break that barrier and not be a slave to the patriarchy anymore. Women get better education and score better academically than men in my culture. There was also this thinking that athletic women won't get husbands in Indian culture. Somehow everything that an Indian woman was or could be, only depended on if she could get a husband. She was considered a failure otherwise. Now women like Sania Mirza broke those social barriers by being successful in sports and also got married. These are evil taboos that keep women behind and do not let them achieve their potential.. I don't care if I get a husband or not. This is an empowered statement. because I'm tired and fed up with this whole patriarchal nonsense where my life, value, existence and identity is decided by men?? No that's not happening. My life belongs to me. Enough of men controlling the narrative. My existence belongs to me and not to a patriarchal society that decides my worth and identity. No. A society that doesn't value my accomplishments does not have any room in my life. Sorry my life is more precious than some fucked up patriarchal mindset that doesn't allow me to realize my full potential and doesn't respect my humanity. This thread was deeply emotional for me because I was reminded of all the struggles women in my country went through to fight against that barrier set by men. India has a deep dark secret and that secret is female infanticide where females fetuses are aborted(although the government is trying to control it, it still happens ) because the male child is more valuable than the female child, so millions of baby girls used to get killed after birth because they were considered a waste of space and resources. Women used to be constantly reminded that they had no other role but to be a servant to a man in marriage, this mentality gave birth to many social evils against women in my culture where it was a routine tradition that a widow would be sacrificed by being burned alive on her husband's funeral pyre to show how much of a devoted wife she can be... This is the mentality that Indian women had to fight against generations after generations because millions of Indian women have paid a heavy price with their deaths because of an evil patriarchal mindset targeting women ruthlessly in the most sociopathic ways imaginable. Today Indian women have come so far in destroying evil social taboos against Indian women so it is very upsetting to find another post trying to devalue those struggles by stressing how women should be relative to how men want them to be. It looks light hearted and chill in the beginning and nothing harmful. But when you extrapolate this same mentality to the extreme you get a country and culture like India where women were routinely subjected to heinous crimes and atrocities as a part of tradition and social practice. Now that we have come so far as Indian women in finally liberating from these heinous evils, we still have many miles to go because there are still parts in India where girls are denied education because the fathers in that community think that girls don't deserve anything else outside of being shipped to a husband as a slave. A lot of Indian women of my age don't even think of marriage and are rather happy not being married because they see marriage as a dangerous trap considering all the past horror stories of Indian women of my mother's and grandmother's time who would be subjected to ruthless atrocities in a marriage by the husband and in laws, bride burning etc. My own mother was forced to either get married or commit suicide, something she never wanted for her own daughter. So she let me date whoever I wanted. All of the generations of women before me in my family were forced to be married, some of them married when they were only 8 years old.. Yes child marriages was a regular practice in India and my grandmother was married when she was only 8. And groomed from that age to be a good wife. And this is not too long ago because my mother was born in late 1960s. So you can imagine that. And my mother was forced to get married in the 90s. So this is not long ago. I'm the first generation in my family to get the chance to decide my love life on my own. And I'm not going to be another statistic in the long list of Indian women who were murdered to keep the patriarchy alive. I live my life on my own terms even though I have my struggles. This thread was started by an Indian guy and against the backdrop of a massively misogynistic patriarchal Indian culture, it really cuts deep. Felt like the same echoes from my ancestral past were being ricocheted. Here is how the first female teacher of India, and the mother of Indian feminism was regularly harassed and abused by men on the streets while trying to open the first girls school in India. Yea this thread triggered a lot of thoughts.

I have mixed experience with stage blue. First, I recognize a unique advantage that the pre-rational has over the rational. Stage blue is more open minded to God as a direct experience. When I tell deeply religious people that it may be possible to create an experience of God, they light up and listen intently. I don't go around trying to convert everybody because I realize that not everybody is open minded. I only tell them If they are ready. If stage blue is hateful toward other religions, I don't bother trying to convince them. They are too strict in their worldview and they do not see any validity in other religions. Sometimes stage blue recognizes the deep similarities they have with other religions. They even admit that all religions are fallible and written by people. When they do this, they are more open minded in a way that makes them more loving. These are the kind of people who can change and might be open to change. This is why I only told one of my grandmothers about experiencing God. She was very grateful to learn about this possibility. One of my grandmothers is subscribed to the theory that Obama was a Muslim and she seems hateful toward Islam. I did not tell my siblings or mother because they are not interested in this topic at all. I could tell my aunt, but someone in the family committed suicide. I will have to wait until after the funeral to tell her. My aunt is open to other religions though. Some deeply religious people will be open to meditation, journaling, shadow work, and more. I don't tell them about the psychedelics though because in my experience nobody is open minded to that possibility. I don't really try to convert people. Instead I work with their worldview. If I work against them, they will be too stubborn and I may cause more harm than help. If I run around telling everybody about this, I might further entrench them in their worldview, making them even more toxic and hateful. As for the specific video you sent, I never ran into stage blue people who are closed to video games. I think the culture will evolve on its own and I don't need to change anybody on that front. I can just do my own thing and let progress win out in the end. If you are interested in working with stage blue, you need to wait for them to be open. I hope you found this useful.

Monday 19/04/2021 11:11 I think I often forget the very obvious fact that whatever I'm thinking, I'm indeed thinking and is in my mind. I can get so lost in my thoughts that I imagine the thoughts to be something external to me, but it is in fact here with me. I think this partially adds something to not procrastinating. It's then somewhat impossible to procrastinate facing my fears and negative emotion, because whatever I'm thinking about and am lost in thought about is already here. The alarm clock is ringing, it's already time. Whatever I'm thinking about is indeed already here, in my mind. This is a very important point to realise. The mental lag between not even realising that your fantasy and bendy maze of mirrors is indeed actually occurring. -- The pain in my stomach yesterday was unbelievable. Eating any food sends me into an intense nausea and pain right now. I had this for 1 week several weeks ago, and now I'm having it again. After I only had 1 meal yesterday, I was so nauseous I was making gagging sounds but no vomit came out. And so I instead forced myself to vomit hoping I would feel better. It hardly helped. I tried eating yoghurt later yesterday, my stomach made lots of sounds and I had the same problem. I've been losing weight quickly due to this. This has all been very unpleasant, but at least I'm getting one benefit perhaps. I'm gonna be ringing and going to the doctor ASAP, this is all so unbelievably painful and debilitating. I have too many stresses in life as well regarding uni, but I'm now taking steps to face them, god willing. My imagery is one of my intestines being all tangled up and tightened. Plus a deep pit of negative emotion and misery. This is all going together with all the pressing deadlines I have. I'm gonna have to change my course, I can't just "push through" some of this. Need medical advice and support from uni. -- Yesterday was an intense day. When I was feeling extremely low, someone reminded me by mentioning one of my best friends who commit suicide. All that repressed grief came out again. I just erupted crying. I had forgotten about him and had repressed it. Typing this now, I'm tearing up slightly. I woke up this morning feeling a lot better. Just briefly, I was feeling great. But then I remembered the events that happened yesterday I felt and the guilt I felt, and this guilt was a very old thing I recognised suddenly coming to the surface. It's as though the universe will present me with the same situation again untill I choose differently. And so I've chosen slightly differently. But I felt like shit. Saw some other thing which made me feel like shit as well. And so it is I wonder. What was that sweetness in the morning? Why does any of this have to happen? What is my choice now, and is existence + reality a prison on what I can do, where I am predestined to go through all sorts of garbage? But why ask such questions? What are such questions? The taoists like to say war is the opposite of reality so as to prescribe how I should align, but if I'm not in a war then what am I in? I've had a hope or fantasy that I could terraform and recreate myself. Platitudes about Plato's cave are another plateau.? Lmao. I'm pruning the ___? Hedges. Ledges like the Freemasons are ___. Praising.