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@Husseinisdoingfine You are still hoping to solve this problem by comitting suicide, I understand, but be aware you are not in a good state of mind right now, don't make important decisions in a bad state of mind. Do you want to talk privately? You literally have a lot of potential from seeing and knowing your previous posts, don't waste it brother. It will be alright, trust.

My brother just killed himself about two months ago. Right before his suicide, I started my first job out of college and moved to a new state. I spent this last summer listening to Leo's videos, meditating, applying to jobs, and talking my brother down from multiple suicide attempts (he tried 30 different times from May to July. I tried to save him, but failed.) He was 26 years old and I'm 22. He suffered from bipolar disorder, diagnosed around the age of 15. I spent most my youth planning to become a neurologist and or psychiatrist in order to help him. We were extremely close. He was my best friend. Now that plan is in the shitter. How could I ever start a successful business, family, etc..? I moved to a new state in my brother's time of need. I was and am a coward. I guess my question is how can I prove to myself that I'm not a loser after losing/giving up on my brother. Thanks

Is any of that "known " ? I have no problem with any story you fabricate to explain existence but at some point you just need to get that you got not the slightest idea who you are ..what the world is or what anything is . Then maybe you look into the hungry mouth of death spread wide open ready to swallow you into the unknown. If One embraces the unknown..they will never suicide. They will never even know how they will behave in their lives in a better place than what they are.

I recently celebrated my 30th birthday, and I wanted to reflect on the past decade. Here's a quick backstory to put all this into context: - I grew up the only child of a middle-upper-class family. - My father is an extremely abusive toxic stage red/orange narcissist. It made for a very unhappy childhood - lots of emotional, psychological, and verbal abuse directed toward me and my mother. - My mother is one of those people who was born to be a mom - warm, unconditionally loving, showed an unwavering belief in me even when I gave her no reason to suspect that I was going to flourish and prosper. Simply the best mom a son could ask for. - Parents separated when I was 8. It ended when two police officers came to the house and arrested my father for assaulting my mother. Saw the whole thing (the arrest) happen right in front of my eyes. - My mother and I moved from Toronto to Vancouver when I was 9 to get away from my father. I was too young to appreciate that my mom was trying to protect me. I saw it as her uprooting my life, so I hated her for it for many years. It didn't help that I found out by my father telling me that my mom was going to kidnap me and take me to Vancouver. Truly an awful experience. - The aftermath of the abuse, trauma, and move set me back academically, socially, and physically. Overweight. Mental health problems - depression, anxiety, OCD (inherited on my father's side), and, I suspect, ADHD (though never formally diagnosed). Lots of subtle addictions as a teenager - food, porn, marijuana, and video games. Complete underachiever hanging out with the wrong crowd. Started seriously considering suicide. Alright, so that's a very condensed recap of my childhood/adolescence. Here's what happened next: When I graduated from high school, my mother took me on vacation to Mexico, where I had something a spiritual experience, if you can call it that. I remember walking out of the hotel onto the resort grounds, looking up at the sky, and feeling this deep, intense knowing that I was going to live an extraordinary life. This was before I had any concept of personal growth or self-actualization. It was just a deep knowing, felt in my soul. I can't describe it in any way other than divine revelation. And for the record, I'm not religious. I was 17 at the time, and it wouldn't be until age 21 or 22 that I would discover the frameworks required to turn this revelation into reality. Fast forward to 21. I had just broken up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years. It was a really unhealthy co-dependent relationship. We were both really neurotic and insecure, and we enabled each other's dysfunctional tendencies. At this point, I started to take my studies at the local community college more seriously, and I brought my grades up enough to get accepted to university. I broke up with my gf, packed my bags, and left town. It was during my university years that I would discover Leo's work - a discovery which would radically alter the trajectory of my life. At this point, things were a little better - my grades were improving, I was working out consistently 3 days/week, and I was cleaning up my diet. I also made strides with my addictions to porn, marijuana, and video games. Whereas before, these three things basically constituted my daily routine (no exaggeration. I was playing 5-8 hours of video games every day for years and smoking pot every day), they now became occasional indulgences. Still, issues persisted. My social skills were subpar. I sucked with girls (I only had a gf from 18-20 because she made the first move and we both had issues, which seemed to attract us to one another). I still suffered from mental health issues, especially my OCD. I suffered from a subtype of OCD called Pure Obsessional Disorder, which made my life a living hell at times. Anyway, being a horny 21 year old with subpar social skills and even weaker dating skills, I decided I wanted to get better with women. I found a company called Simple Pickup (do any of you guys remember them? They were hilarious!), joined their members group, and started watching all their videos. This is how I got into cold approach and, being in university, I was in right environment to hone my skills. I'm proud to say that every single date and romantic encounter I ever had in uni was done through cold approach. Never used the dating apps. This produced IMMENSE growth. Quick digression: I remember when I started cold approaching, I was so scared that the best I could do in the beginning was tell girls that the reason I was approaching them was to run a "social experiment" for class. Looking back, it makes me laugh, but hey, you gotta start somewhere! It was through pickup that I discovered actualized.org. Someone on the members group posted Leo's rant against the pickup community. As soon as I started watching, I knew I had found something (and someone) special. The depth of his analysis. The profundity of his insights. The wisdom. My heart resonated so deeply with this man's teachings. This opened Pandora's Box. Leo and actualized.org provided the frameworks, concepts, and teachings required to turn my revelation at 17 into reality. For the next decade (technically, 8 or 9 years), I would go on to study Leo's teachings, as well as the teachings of others - taking what I learned, contemplating it, putting as much of it as I could into practice, doing the hard labour (physical, intellectual, and emotional) to integrate the teachings. This slowly transformed my life from the inside out. Of course, there were lots of ups and downs. It wasn't a linear trajectory. But I took the notion of self-actualization very seriously. Over the last decade of doing the work, here's what I've accomplished: Social Life Whereas before I was awkward and anti-social, today I have a large group of amazing friends. For a long time, I struggled with the introversion/extroversion dichotomy, trying to figure out which one I was (I was very outgoing as a child, but quite withdrawn as a teen). For a long time, I rationalized that I was an introvert. But since overcoming my issues and my social anxiety, I've come to see that it was trauma and insecurity more so than introversion that was standing in my way. I've really come into my own as a social being, figuring out how to be authentic with others, becoming magnetic, and attracting awesome people into my life. This has been very rewarding. Love Life In the beginning, I SUCKED with women. I didn't have the faintest clue how dating, attraction, relationships, and masculinity worked. The pivotal moment for me was discovering Corey Wayne's work, which completely revolutionized my dating life. Today, I have an amazing girlfriend. We've been together for three years. It's a healthy relationship characterized by love, healthy communication, respect, kindness, fun, laughter, etc. I have a deep connection to my masculinity, too, whcih feels great. I'm receiving more female attention now than at any other time in my life, which also feels great! Also, big up to @Leo Gura for his videos on how to have amazing sex. Those videos completely revolutionized my sex life! Health and Fitness Whereas before, I was overweight, sedentary, and had a poor diet, today I'm in excellent shape. I work out four days a week (and have done so since my early 20s). I prepare all my food from scratch so I control what goes into my body. I eat as close to 100% organic as I can currently afford (will go 100% organic as soon as I increase my income). I don't drink. No drugs. No smoking. No vices. I treat my body like a temple. I am the healthiest person I know. Mental Health Whereas before my mental health was a constant source of pain, and sometimes anguish, today I enjoy excellent mental health. I went and saw a CBT therapist. This was a turning point for overcoming my OCD. This, coupled with a pair of articles titled "Thinking the Unthinkable" (or something along those lines) gave me the tools needed to extinguish my pure obsessional disorder. This took approx. 3-5 years to accomplish, and it was totally worth it. I still have OCD, and I'll likely have it in some form for the rest of my life, but these days it's confined to simply keeping things orderly, tidy, and organized. I've actually transposed my OCD into something that helps me! As for my depression and anxiety, they're basically non-existent at this point, given how well my life has been going for the past few years. This is all thanks to the personal development work I've done. Personal development + therapy = great mental health! Hobbies Daily guitar practice, hiking, exercise, cooking, archery. My hobbies add depth, richness, and enjoyment to my life. Career/LP This, and finances are what I'm currently working on. This is the next big piece. I've been working in the fitness industry as a group fitness instructor, which has given me the flexibility to figure this part of my life out. I bought and completed Leo's LPC, which helped orient me in the right direction. I've spent the last 10 months learning to code, and I will soon begin putting together a portfolio of projects so I can begin my job search. Over time, I intend to use my coding skills to build a personal development platform of my own. Finances My net worth is well into the six figures. For the last year to year and a half, I've dedicated a half hour each day to studying finance to learn how to build and manage wealth. Most of my money is invested in VGRO, a globally diversified ETF. The decision to invest this way was inspired by one of Leo's recommended books - It's Not About the Money. I have a nice emergency fund, and I'm putting away anywhere from $500-$1000 each month to invest. Once I bring up my salary, I intend to invest even more (as well as allocate $$$ to other things, like therapy, savings, vacation, seminars, coaches and consultants, courses, etc.). Right now my salary is limited because I've chosen to take reduced hours (and, of course, reduced pay) in order to explore and create a LP for myself. Spirituality 10 minutes of meditation each day. It isn't much, but I've done it every day since age 23 or so. I also do daily gratitude, which I've been doing since age 23 or so. I suspect the daily gratitude practice has had a profound impact on my happiness. At this point, my brain is wired to appreciate anything and everything in my life, which is a big happiness booster for sure. Serious spirituality will come once I have (a) sorted out my career/LP and (b) gone to therapy to work through the remainder of my childhood trauma and forgive my father. My relationship with my father At age 25, I finally made the decision to go no contact. It was very hard. Narcissists do this thing in relationships called "love bombing" where, after they abuse you, they shower you with love and affection. The dramatic shift from terror to relief creates a strong emotional reaction that produces something called a trauma bond, which is one of the reasons why it's so hard to leave an abusive relationship. Disowning my father was one of the best decisions I ever made for my mental and emotional health. I still have hatred in my heart toward him, and for this, I need a skilled therapist. As I mentioned, once I get my career in place, therapy is the next step. Current struggles 1. Getting my career off the ground. 2. Reconciling the love I have for my girlfriend with the desire to see other women. Plans for the future Once I've got my career off the ground, the next big step is therapy to forgive my father and work through my traumatic childhood. After that, my time will be spent on philosophy, spirituality, and becoming more well-read in various fields - science, politics, society, history, etc. The bottom line What do I take away from all this? Self-help works. People are capable of immense growth. The work can be extremely hard. And it's worth it. Thanks for reading! P.S. A big thank you to @Leo Gura for his work. It has truly transformed my life for the better. You have been my greatest teacher.

Nice video overall. The version of postmodernism you’ve presented is mostly just Derrideanism, where it’s all about deconstruction and endless reinterpretation. However, many postmodern thinkers grappled deeply with what comes after "déconstruction" and weren’t simply nihilistic academics. When Nietzsche (who, for some reason, you haven’t mentioned once throughout the entire talk) famously proclaimed the death of God—i.e., the death of grand narratives—in his 1882 work Die Fröhliche Wissenschaft (The Gay Science), this was only the beginning of what is considered his "mature works." It also marked the start of his Umwertung aller Werte ("revaluation of all values"), a project cut short by his mental deterioration. From this, we get concepts like the "Übermensch" and "Eternal Recurrence," both of which are about affirming life and embracing one’s "Will to Power"—that is, one’s own values and highest vision—despite fully accepting that there is no rational or transcendent justification for any of it. Similarly, Gilles Deleuze expanded upon Nietzsche’s ideas. To put it briefly, he developed a post-metaphysical metaphysics of absolute experience, anticipating and paralleling the teachings of your sacred cow, Peter Ralston (who, to be fair, is quite on point within his domain of thought). Deleuze’s Difference and Repetition argues for the priority of difference—distinction over identity—while Capitalism and Schizophrenia is about "deterritorialization" and "reterritorialization," which Ralston would call "opening" and "grounding." Deleuze’s unfinished work, Immanence: A Life, written shortly before his tragic suicide, centers on the singularity of "a life." This contrasts with your favored Heideggerians, Derrida, and Dugin, who still posit a "Sein" beyond "Dasein"—a "Being" beyond "being." For Deleuze, however, "being" is already absolute "Being." This is, of course, what the death of God signifies, which is why Nietzsche said things like, “Mankind, in its most profound self-abasement, in its most profound self-alienation, has dared to invent an ideal world of being in order to devalue and afflict with suspicion the only world that exists.” It would have been nice if you had actually engaged with the thinkers and ideas behind postmodernism more deeply. We could have had a much more profound and nuanced discussion on postmodernism and made meaningful contributions to the discourse. As it stands, your presentation is just a collection of loosely connected ideas that you’ve appropriated for your own purposes (whatever they may be). Fair enough, but don’t expect any serious intellectual to give you too much applause for what you’ve done here.

Only option = suicide, = nonsense. Why would a physics degree make suicide YOUR only option? You make suicide your only option by attaching yourself to a physics degree. It is also nearly impossible to de-sculpt yourself from that desire. You can't not feel the pain, not feel the desire, just from one decision. Because of factors such as brainwashing and social and psycho-societal validation you want a physics degree, but you also simultaneously choose to live up to your desire and affirm yourself along with it. Now there can only be a leftover of the desire which you don't control, but do control whether or not you commit suicide or whether or not you affirm the desire. There might be incredible difficulty in trying to give up that goal fully simply because it failed AKA due to an outside circumstance which is supposed to be the thing going against it. How well will this be accepted by your mind? Not very well at all. But it will also find nothing wrong with just choosing something else or just wanting something else. Or simply acknowledging that it's no longer possible to get the physics degree.

I would like to add here that from a yogic perspective, people feel suicidal when the prana or chi levels in the person is very low... If people commit suicide on the basis of existentialist or nihilist despair, what is apparent to me then is that personal interpretations of certain philosophies of this kind and the thinking and emoting process it generates can lead to low prana or chi levels within the personal system. It has been observed by physicians that when a patient is negative-minded and has lost his will to live, this can have a further adverse effect on his health.

You could maybe make a case to me that suicide is justified if you have some incredibly painful late stage cancer where ever moment of your life is filled with physical pain, but man I’m telling you, get some perspective on this and you will see this just is not it bro. You sound like a young guy, spiritual because you’re here. Do you believe you have innate spiritual value no matter what? Why not connect with this. This is where your true talents and genius lie. Your life is just beginning man.

Information Update, I mentioned in the OP that I used a suicide website. On that website, I've been complaining about this problem since October of 2023. https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/i-plan-to-kill-myself-this-weekend-but-im-worried-about-the-pain.150955/ https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/im-suicidal-due-to-academic-competition.138142/ https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/i-want-to-ctb-because-i-feel-inferior-to-my-peers-do-i-have-a-low-iq.136921/ https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/im-really-insecure-about-missing-out-on-the-college-experience.136792/

I am literally just as lazy, my mom helped me through highschool. It's horrible to not achieve results, I feel you there really. Failure has caused me so much so much pain, but bro, I don't think its enough to consider suicide.

I hear you, man, but I need you to listen to me straight-up. You've been hit hard, and the frustration and despair are real—I get it. But this situation isn't the end, no matter how much it feels like it right now. The fact is, you've faced a massive wall, and you're crushed because you care. You had a vision for your life, and right now it seems like it’s fallen apart. But let’s get something straight: this isn’t about your intelligence or your worth. You’ve been knocked down by some setbacks—calculus didn’t click, maybe you’ve got a mental block with calculations. That sucks, but it doesn’t define you. It's a problem to be solved, not a verdict on your future. Suicide? No. Absolutely not. That's a permanent solution to a temporary problem, and you'd be cutting off the possibility of figuring this out. Maybe physics isn't where your talents lie, maybe it is, but one class isn't the measure of your potential. The rope? Throw it out. There are people who want to help, even if it feels like you’re all alone. You need to reach out to a counselor, talk to someone about this crushing weight you’re feeling, because it’s lying to you. And let’s talk about sociology. Yeah, it’s not as glamorous as physics in terms of earning potential, but it’s not worthless. It’s another path, and if you're passionate about it, you can carve a niche where you’ll thrive. Passion plus hustle beats anything. And even if sociology isn't where you land long-term, it’s not the end. Your degree doesn’t define your entire future either. - I have a bachelors in sociology and I'm happy with it. But still I knew the job opportunities were limited, so I stacked on with other courses like psychology, neuropsychology, pedagogy and other stuff that I could tie into my life purpose. And now after a long route I finally have a really great job that I love, within the field I want to work in. So its not hopeless!! Here’s the real talk: You’ve hit a setback. A big one. But it’s not game over. You’re still breathing, which means you still have options. You have to dig deep, get the support you need, and live to fight another day. This world needs you in it, whether you see it right now or not.

In all honesty, your plan was poorly made to begin with. It should have been apparent since high school that you do not have an aptitude for mathematics and such, so why go to Physics? A dream job sure sounds nice, but it's an idea in your head, the reality may differ significantly. For a brief period my dream job was to become an accountant, then first semester of college after a few classes I realized how immensely boring it actually is, nothing like the picture I envisioned. The fact that you're now going to remain a loser after failing the degree is also something your mind has constructed. Are you a prophet? The future is fluid, and can change a lot in unexpected ways. Maybe when (IF) you're 35 and working at McDonald's barely able to afford rent in some shithole, revisit the suicide route. But right now your situation is not a dead end at all, in fact it's likely going to feel liberating once the initial depression wave passes. Hold tight and try ro recontextualize it into a positive. Few other things, there's no need to beat yourself up for repeating the same mistakes, in fact that's the best way to deeply learn a lesson for many people, you step into the same pile of shit over and over, and finally decide enough is enough, that determination will be so strong it'll hold for life. Also, practically speaking, an average sociologist has better employability prospects than an average physicist. You'd have to really excel to achieve the prestige you wanted, so simply passing a class wouldn't have made a difference in the end.

@Husseinisdoingfine Please seek professional help immediately and don't do anything stupid. Call 988 - the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Or, Text HOME to 741741 if you prefer texting over calling. Failing an exam or dropping out of university are not a big deal in the grand scheme of things. In hindsight, they can even be seen as valuable or necessary experiences. Of course, you are unable to see this at this point as you are extremely emotionally involved in the situation right now. And it sounds like your issue might even be fixed yet. In any case and however it turns out, you can and will find a way forward. This is not worth throwing your life away over.

First World proplems . You are so out of touch . People in 3d world countries and in Gaza are starving to death and you want to suicide yourself because you can't find a girlfriend? Boo fucking woo. I'm not judging you..but you are so ungrateful to what you have and you are out of touch with the world.

But this is like only 10-20% of all suicides. Most people who commit suicide have been suffering for years. It is the only way out for them.

Yeah. That's the saddest aspect of suicide. The mind is clouded.

There are some people who commit suicide as an irrational emotional reaction to a sudeen event. A girl throw herself from a bridge because her boyfriend left her.

God would. Suicide IS Love There, I said it!

Happy Suicide Prevention Month I love you thank you for being here with me

Happy Suicide Prevention Month!

I don't think that an eternal god who desires things, like living a human adventure or whatever, is possible even as an idea. He would have already lived infinite human adventures. If that god acts for "fun", he would be immersed in the absolute horror of eternal existence, after infinite human "adventures", the adventure of a Japanese office worker with suicidal depression number infinite would be equivalent to absolute cosmic horror and that god would only want to commit suicide and nothing else Id say that the thing is totally different : Given the absence of limits, reality is, and is absolute. There is only one reality, the absolute, and it is you and you can realize it right now. Now, given the absence of limits, there are infinite manifestations of that infinite absolute, in infinite directions and dimensions. All of them are the absolute, and all of them, infinite, which is unimaginable, are coordinated in an absolutely perfect way by total intelligence, inevitable since it is a consequence of the infinitude. We can call this god, but it is a god that does not want anything, that does not decide anything, that cannot help being, nor does it want to, it simply unfolds infinitely without beginning or end, which is not understandable by the mind, and here I am typing on a phone, which is a manifestation among infinite manifestations, so it has a meaning equivalent to zero, and an essence equivalent to infinity: the total absolute.

🤣🤣🤣🤣 I hope that those men, after a while with you, have not committed suicide due to extreme humiliation. It's hard be a weak man, There is a lot of talk about how men should be vulnerable, not be afraid of being emotionally weak, of our insecurities. No way, if you are like that, you only get dissatisfaction, problems and misery in relationships. Better not to have them until you are a solid man, if you can. but the fact is that the weaker, the more in need of ties.

Physical, Conceptual, or even Ego-Suicide We don't know what comes after, nor aware of why we're here Suicide means to end the nature of the current experience It is rather foolish not to exhaust all of one's options first But nothing is ever foolish if you embody the perspective "A suicide may bring about his own death because he rejects existence on any but highly specific terms chosen by himself. Many others, however, choose to deny experience while within the physical system, committing suicide quite as effectively while still physically alive."

hamas is very active in the west bank. In fact most of the suicide bombing in the 90s and early 00s came from there, what forced Israel to enter this area much deeper, actually until this day.

I agree with your points that we need high conscious ppl in control but the solution is def not no censorship. Think about the implications of that Threats of violence, coercing ppl to commit suicide, organizing terrorist attacks, nazi propaganda Etc. Etc. Like imagine we couldn't censor ppl for giving out nuke codes lol