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The problem is that suffering has a design that doesn't allow "enjoying" it. Maybe you can enjoy climbing an ice wall in the Himalayas in winter, but you can't enjoy compulsively thinking about how your best friend raped your 12-year-old daughter and caused her suicide. They are extreme examples but human life has them in abundance. When we talk about mental suffering, which causes hatred, war, human horror, we talk about that kind of thing. A primitive human saw it clearly: an affront had to be balanced with revenge to restore balance. From this dynamic arises civilization, law, and human order that gives rise to evolution using violence as a catalyst. No one has ever cared that humans were happy, but rather that they fulfilled their role in the function. That's an option, quite uncomfortable, but what to do?. The other is that mysterious and rare state called enlightenment , where the human condition is transcended. But talk about enlightenment as it were something simple is a joke. If we even want to understand what it implies, we must understand the human condition and not simplify it in a naive way as if it were something silly that we fall into by mistake.

Yes, and many of the helper roles are filled by women, who also historically don't receive as much pay as well. It feels like a poor integration of respecting and realizing the importance of the feminine-featured roles in society. Softness is made fun of and seen as weak, when I think it can actually be just as strong as hardness. It definitely takes strength to be soft while attending to parents mourning a child's suicide in the next room...wouldn't ya think? The capitalism part also means a lot of MFTs are coming from a group of people who may have been well off to begin with, as graduate school and licensure is also expensive, meaning less diversity of related life experience for clients to choose from. The volunteer program I see the same problem, with 80% being retired financially stable white women who are comfortable with their free time...not that they aren't good people...but their lack of related life history/culture with the rest of the community has been inconspicuously evident in some cases. I mean I am definitely seeing some sort of change, for instance a scholarship opportunity was recently created for my field where you can be awarded up to $35k, which I have not seen anything like it before. Catch is, I must work with underserved youth/young adult populations for 1 year after graduation to accept the scholarship. Not that I am opposed to working with them, as I have before, but it obviously doesn't pay too well... and I would have to delay graduate school for a year. Still hoping I get accepted though! I want to get to a point that I am not worried about the money like this either, and can just focus on the people I serve and not worry about survival mode. I could start developing myself more in other personal/spiritual pursuits, which I feel would actually help my clients the more I develop, but I can't get there fast enough with all of these financial delays . Not losing sight though, as aggravating as it can be at times.

I've realized how much I've been stuck in victim complex over how nobody told me how bad these meds are and how I got involuntarily hospitalized over some suicide attempt. I think it's about time I snap out of it and regain some control and drive back into my life. My SSRI symptoms have been as following: - memory loss - ahedonia - complete loss of motivation and drive - emotional anesthesia. I don't feel emotions. Numbed and blunted. - Complete mind blanking. I can't think and my mind is completely blank for most of the day. No imagination, thoughts, visualization - Sexual dysfunction - Less creativity - Cognitive impairment - Depersonalization and derealization - Impaired judgement - Borderline psychotic state - No dreams at night - Bruxism - Sometimes waking up in sweats

There is a group of online predators coercing children into committing the most evil acts possible. This includes killing pets and committing suicide. All of this is being done for the amusement of these predators. I have important questions about posting on a subject like this. Is it morally wrong to give groups like these attention? Should I stay quiet instead of giving evil people more infamy? There are mass shooters who want people to be drawn to infamy. Is it wrong to do what I am doing now?

Been contemplating suicide quite a bit. I have up and down periods with suicidal ideation. Part of me at times seems to make peace with the idea of being dead, but just concern over how I'd do it. Seeing another doctor on friday. My psychologist recommended referral to a psychiatrist regarding the possibility of somatic symptom disorder. Not sure I want to mention anything related to mental health as they'll immediately use this as an excuse to say my issues are just stress and not do any fucking medical tests. Will probably focus purely on potential medical issues and advise of my physical problems in detail. These doctors have good reviews. Need to articulate what I'm going through accurately and carefully. My last GP just didn't give a shit. Sometimes I wonder if I even care about getting better anymore. I'm trying my best to communicate my symptoms to my psychologist, but defusion is primarily what we're focused on. I wonder if we're ever going to get to the core of my mental health issues which have been exacerbated over last 9 months by whatever is going on inside of me, but were pre-existing so maybe this period of pain was necessary to get to the route cause of that.

The impac is if it doesn´t crush you it moves the shit out of you. In the past i was close to suicide and mental insanity, psychedelics saved me out of that and from that it started a path. Now i can say nothing can break me, because reality has broken me so much i have merged with it, i have surrendered to it, now there´s no "i" and "reality", only "reality" (or only "I"). Is all crushing down process of the ego to stop existing and only God remains.

Guys! Did you know that 1+1 actually equals 11? The government doesn't want this cat out of the bag, so if I'm ever found dead, just know: not suicide.

What would happen to you in the spirit world if you reached full enlightenment, but then soon after you committed physical suicide? Not out of hatred or depression for this world, your love for this physical world is very deep, but you just felt like playing a different game, to just go to the other side sooner because you simply wanted to. It could thought of as, you love your country, but you feel like living in another country because you just want to. How would this affect your reincarnation cycle? I understand if you reach enlightenment, your reincarnation cycle ends, but if you commit suicide after enlightenment would you be somehow forced to go back into the reincarnation cycle? Also, would you be left in some lower dimension or even hell if you did this even after enlightenment? Or maybe somehow cause yourself some other negative consequence. Or would it all be the same as just dying of natural causes, where you would end up going into some very high dimension and be free of the reincarnation cycle?

It will come sooner or later. Just have fun with life, and forget about death right now. You are already what you are. And to realize this, yo do not need to suicide.

This topic is quite sensitive and controversial, this is why it is especially important to talk about it. The uncontroversial topics can be answered by the AI, that thing is getting pretty good but it still has a long way to go. We have two different energies within us that play a crucial role in determining who we are. Let's dive into finding out what really means to be a man or a woman. It is very important to follow through till the end so you don't miss my point. This article has a more ambiguous structure because it was written in many months. It grew from the beginning, from the middle, and from the end. Warning! This is an advanced material which tackles a sensitive topic. If it will sound offensive to you, I don't mean it, it is just that my passion is to find the most objective truth possible, not to feed into people's ideologies. If you read this, please read the whole thing before judging or labeling me. If I say that there are biological differences in behavior between biological sexes that does not mean one group is better than the other. Be very careful when you study the behavior differences between sexes and races! You can fall for racist ideology, eugenics, sexism, conspiracy theories. There is NO such thing as "inferior" gender or race! Introduction If you find yourself at the table with some hippie people and you dare to open this female vs. male topic, most probably you'll ring all their sexist patriarchy alarms. And I understand why, it is a topic that requires a lot of research and contemplation, a lot of logical analysis, and as we know them, they are not the best friends with research and logical approaches. What is their approach to this topic? Well, they might say something like this: "Yeah the traditional beliefs that men are like this and women are like that, these are outdated beliefs from traditionalist religious people and they always tend to favor men over women, I think everybody is different man and we should embrace every individual as it is regardless of gender. We need to break free from stereotypes man...". Although their point is valid to some extent, you don't need too much research and effort in order to hold these positions, positions like: "do not generalize", "we are not that different", "I reject labels", and "just accept the person as it is". That is cute and all that, but I always had a feeling that something is missing. I observed closely that in general there are important differences in how biological men and biological women are behaving. You might say we behave differently because of cultural expectations and norms, not because of our nature. Of course, culture has a lot to play here but is it really only cultural determinism? We have literally different organs in our bodies, different bone densities, different average heights but some say we have on average the same behavior and preferences. I don't buy that. If you have a point about this topic, you might be put in two categories: the progressive category which advocates for cultural determinism, or the conservative, religious, traditionalist perspective which advocates for biological determinism. Both perspectives lack complexity, depth, and nuance. We are influenced by both biology and culture and I'll explain why. We are not the same, although it might seem so nowadays. There are niche cases of feminine men and masculine women who love being like that, and even individuals who want to transition to the opposite gender or to identify as something completely outside of these binary genders. There are also people born intersex with XO or XXY sex chromosomes which means having biological characteristics of both male and female or just a completely ambiguous biology. These are rare cases, I honestly do not know enough to discuss this, what I know for sure is that you need to find your authentic self. If you really feel that you are the most authentic when identifying as non-binary, and this is also confirmed by experts, then do it. In this article, I discuss what the main trends are but I'll also try to tackle the gender identity issues because when I say masculinity and femininity I don't mean biological sex, I am pointing to the two energies within all of us, a part of who we are or at least want to be. You'll want to classify me as conservative or progressive. Open your mind to a third possibility and forget about this binary political crap for a moment. Here I am after more than three years of researching this topic. I don't even know where to begin, at first I wanted to make this material to be a quick info article but it turned out to be a mini handbook because it is a remarkable topic. There is just a lot to talk about. Again, forget about politics, we are trying to find what is true, this is not scientific proof for sexism, we are different but equally powerful and beautiful, each in our specific ways. I understand your concern, women were thought incapable of reason 300 years ago, that is not science but complete horseshit. The Beginnings of Life I found research which says that on average, when a baby boy forms in his mother's womb, he gets a testosterone injection in the body, which means the brain also receives it. What testosterone does to the brain is remarkable, it makes the individual behave in a slightly more autistic manner. Scientists measured the prenatal testosterone levels of individuals and correlated them with increased slightly autistic behaviors in childhood. Nature is not 100% precise, so baby girls can also get a high dose of testosterone before birth, leading to a more boyish girl or tomboy, and nothing wrong with that, but boys got on average double as much as girls. Here I agree with hippies, everybody is different and needs to be accepted as they are. There is a chart on the PubMed article I put at the end of this material with prenatal testosterone exposure on boys and girls. They found a strong correlation between prenatal testosterone exposure and sexually differentiated play behavior in both girls and boys. And this is a PubMed article not some evangelical church science. The base brain, the one unaffected by testosterone, is the feminine brain, and I'll explain what femininity is throughout this article. The "extreme male brain" theory of autism proposed by psychologist Simon Baron-Cohen suggests that individuals with Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) exhibit an exaggerated version of typical male cognitive patterns, characterized by a strong interest in systems and a reduced emphasis on social cognition. Just because autism as a disease is debilitating, that does not mean a tiny bit of autistic behavior is debilitating! If I say men are on average a bit more autistic, that does not make them inferior in some way, it is only that their brains function differently, they get excited by abstract nerdy stuff, they like to figure out stuff, create maps as I am doing now and further differences that I'll discuss soon. ASD is 3 to 4 times more common in males than females. Notice when I mention the words: "most of them", "on average", and "tend". There are no black and white distinctions in this article. Some Key Differences in Biology and Behavior How about when the children grow up? Of course, they will go through the renowned period of puberty when men get another big dose of testosterone in the system, which makes them grow taller, grow hair everywhere, grow bigger and stronger muscles, and get a lower-pitched voice. Whereas women get a good dose of estrogen which makes them begin the menstrual cycles and develop the typical feminine traits of wider hips and bigger breasts. What about the behavior though? There is the so-called "big five" personality traits test. This test was given to millions of people around the world. Statistics show that women scored on average higher on neuroticism and agreeableness which means women are on average nicer, more agreeable and more sensitive to emotions. Women tend to be more social, are more in tune with other people's feelings and they tend to choose fields and jobs where emotional intelligence and socialization play an important role. Fields like psychology, human resources, healthcare, and very interestingly they get attracted by science fields where they study people or animals like sociology, political science, veterinary science, and gender studies. Much less to computer science and programming. Now does it mean women can't be good programmers? Of course they can, but many won't find it very enjoyable. Fun fact about the ICF coaching course I went to: coaching is an EQ-based profession, the trainers were two women and the attendees were 7 women... and me. At my first job in Sweden as a massage therapist at a SPA, the staff was composed of 11 women, one gay guy, and me. At Swedish nurse schools there are around 100 women for every 10 male students. Sweden, the big mamma of gender equality has made considerable efforts to equalize the gender gap in professions, but the result was the opposite, the gap is even bigger in Scandinavia than in the more traditional countries. People will choose to work whatever they want to work regardless of your equality ideals and ideologies. India has a higher percentage of women in STEM fields than Norway, even if Norway created the "gender point system" where they give a head start to people who choose a field in which they are a gender minority. People will choose to work in fields that fulfill them when money is not a big problem anymore. Scandinavian countries try to erase the behavioral difference between men and women, teaching boys to be more emotional and girls to be stronger and independent. Basically swinging the pendulum from one extreme to the other, if traditional countries push for widening the gap between men and women, progressive countries push for making them behave the same. If you raise the question of behavioral differences between sexes in progressive circles, you get that vibe of "we don't do that here". Why? Are you afraid that your hippy-dippy position is wrong? As the Buddha says, always take the middle way. You can brainwash people to believe biology is not an important factor in the same way women were brainwashed to believe they are inferior 300 years ago. Having the right approach to this topic requires real intellectual skills and knowledge, it just doesn't work to "follow your feeling" and "reject labels". Let's take a look at the gentlemen for a minute. Asperger himself said that in order to become a successful scientist, you need a touch of autism. Nicola Tesla might have died a virgin, and Albert Einstein was late to talk and said he was never very interested in socialization. Statistics show a much higher density of autism-spectrum individuals in so-called "IT hub" locations like Silicon Valley, and they are mostly men, you guessed it right. Men are on average more individualistic and less communitarian. Have you noticed how many men are advocating for libertarian ideals like tax cuts, deregulations, free market, and private property? Whereas more women than men tend to advocate for socialist ideals like welfare state, tax increase, and more regulations. Women's holistic, less autistic brains make them on average less competitive, more cooperative and more compassionate towards those in need, for animals and the environment. The pay gap between men and women is influenced by this, besides the still prevalent prejudice against women in patriarchal societies. Tech jobs are on average much better paid than HR or healthcare jobs, another influence is that men negotiate their salaries more aggressively and are much more confident in their capabilities even if in reality they pretty much suck, they can at least appear convincing. Testosterone makes them more competitive and drawn to seek appreciation for their efforts, if money and hard work is a valued character trait in their social circle, testosterone will motivate them to climb the ladder, earn more money, and work until they fall sick, especially because that will bring them better chances to mate. If you ask ChatGPT about how testosterone influences behavior, it will answer among other stuff that it develops aggression in the individual. You see, there is a misconception that testosterone makes all men more aggressive. It can be so if their social circle appreciates aggressiveness or the survival needs pushes him towards aggression as we see in the animal kingdom. If they lived in a ghetto neighborhood for the last 20 years, then yes, testosterone will make them more aggressive as it makes them seek the appreciation of their social circle who value a dominant and aggressive behavior, and of course, improves his chances to mate. But if a man lived in a Buddhist monastery for the last 20 years, testosterone will only motivate them to become even more kind and meditative, as these qualities made them feel appreciated there. Want a less aggressive man? Then don't date a gangster for God's sake. In fact, what makes most men aggressive is too much estrogen and low testosterone, which makes them unmotivated, passive, and irritable. Now that we have an idea of what testosterone does to the brain, let's take a look at what estrogen does to it. Estrogen is renowned as the main female hormone. John Gray presents in his book, Beyond Mars and Venus, the whole hormone dynamics that happen in a woman's menstrual cycle and how it changes her mood throughout the month. I won't delve into that here, I just want to skim the surface of how estrogen affects men's and women's lives. Disclaimer! I do not agree with Gray's points on gender and sexual orientation, he got that part wrong. But I also know that almost nobody has the complete picture of this complex topic I raised here. It needs an eclectic approach. If I mention his work, it does not mean I completely agree with all he says. This is how you do good research, you triple check the information, you reject what is flawed, and take only what is good. Dismissing a teacher just because he or she is not 100% right is a trap, almost nobody is 100% right when doing such sharp statements. I'll quote a note I took from his book which says like this: "A life purpose, appreciation and the feeling that people need them for their competence increase men's testosterone which makes them endure unimaginable stress and they'll do it with pleasure, but when they lack these feelings, they lose steam and testosterone levels decrease. Both sexes lower testosterone and increase adrenaline and cortisol when they encounter a lot of stress. If they are in touch with their authenticity, men tend to do actions which increase testosterone to get rid of stress. At the same time, women tend to choose activities that increase estrogen, and oxytocin." When they have low stress levels and their hormones are in balance, men and women tend to act similarly, it is only when the imbalance happens that their differences become obvious. This is overly simplified so that we have a big picture, I know it can be confusing. Especially nowadays when women are becoming more independent and men are less masculine, we get the feeling that only looks make us different, that until your relationship goes to hell and you don't understand why. The science based evidence on how our biological sex and hormone dynamics correlates with our mood and stress moderation is bad. Mainly because we are bad at soft science and we cannot apply hard science very well here, there are so many "soft" variables that cannot be properly measured in order to "prove" this hormone dynamics theory. And this subject requires more tools, not just the scientific method. It is like trying to understand art with math equations. On top of this, in the west there is also a bias of getting rid of the biological differences in order to better understand gender. I've read somewhere that a neurophysiology professor from Lund University was denounced for being "anti-feminist" because he said that there are, on average, real biological differences in behavior between men and women. Academia has become an insult to real intellectuality in many fields. Sometimes academia feels like a cult to me, they feel superior, they have their complicated way of explaining things so it sounds smart and you can't point why. I see this happening in philosophy, science, gender studies... They need to humble down and get rid of that stupid complicated academicsplaining jargon, just because you sound smart does not mean you are smart. Some basic people come and turn all your academic ideas on their head, there is a chance you are wrong, keep that in mind. Glad that I chose a non-ambiguous and fun major which was physiotherapy and had intelligent wise professors. Anecdotal proof is also proof, millions of people resonated with John Gray's books. You might be turned off saying that these are just generalizations. Yes, you can use generalizations as a map that helps you understand life better. If you get that the map is not the territory, you'll be ok. If I make the generalization: "Men are taller than women", I also make it implicit that there are women who are taller than men so there is an overlap, the same when I talk about behavior and preferences. I was rejected by two Swedes I met telling me "we don't click" just because I said I am studying this topic and writing an article. I usually don't tell about my self-improvement shit to new people I meet because they might not give a damn or get prejudged and misunderstood, but the subject came naturally somehow if I remember right. That was my welcome to the Swedish culture, thanks guys! Even Swedes had enough of these snowflakes who cannot accept divergent opinions, the right wing raises like a rocket. The Universe has a lovely way of punishing you for being an idiot in the end. Everyone who does not completely vibe with them is an enemy. Sometimes, right wing Swedes come to me for massage, they explode in frustrations when they realize they finally have someone who listens and understands them. You silenced them instead, they voted in silence, against you. Now just because of saying what I said now, some of these people might label me "right wing". How dare I understand and love the enemy? You can understand and love even the "enemy" dear adult child, I hope you will understand that one day. Activities that disconnect you from your emotions and make you feel useful, competent and appreciated increase testosterone, like skillfully riding your motorcycle or discussing the last football match with your male friends in your man cave. Again, it is not black and white, I also heard of women who go into their male side when feeling stressed. I heard of a woman running 30 km a day during stressful periods. But in general, when a feminine woman is stressed and she is in close contact with her needs and intuition, she'll want to do activities that connect her with emotions and with people, activities that increase her estrogen and oxytocin. Like these so called "me time" activities, eating a tasty meal, reading a romantic novel, watching a love movie, or calling her best friend or therapist and telling her how she feels and what happened, getting validation. You'll wonder why men want to increase their testosterone and women their estrogen. Gray advocates that men need to go into their male side to be able to relax and get rid of stress whereas women need to get into their female side. Shortly, men feel good being men and women being women, the same as an introvert wanting to return to silence and an extrovert to his/her friends in order to recharge. I identify as a man and I know that the so-called "man" identity is a social construction, but it is a social construction that fits my biology, personality, looks preference, and hormone dynamics. We have these two genders not just because the oppressive patriarchy forces us to choose them, they also align with 95+ percent of us, we actually like to be like this. I love to be a masculine man, most women love to be feminine women. Relationships and Contrasts Gray also talks about the actions that create contempt in relationships. Most commonly, the man is lazy and careless about his actions: not properly cleaning the house, not helping her with basic chores, not showing her enough attention and affection etc. The woman usually complains about the man's carelessness and gives him unsolicited advice that will lower his testosterone and make him even more careless, angry, and detached. How much better a world would we have if men would treat their women as well as they treat their cars and if women would talk to their men as nicely as they talk to their clients. This problem is so common that you can find jokes about it on the internet. I'll leave one here for you. -My dear, for 34 years you have only been criticizing me! -35 years my dear. You might ask: what about gay relationships? Well, you have to have an open conversation with your partner and realize how your personalities and energies can blend together harmoniously. And beware of compatibility! If both of you have a strong masculine energy, it might not work. This applies to straight relationships also, sometimes it won't work, no matter what you do. That is due to personality and hormone dynamics incompatibility, or even trauma. Trying to change your partner in order to fit you is the most newbie mistake you can make. Everybody has his or her male and female side. In progressive countries like Scandinavia, we see a lot of women tapping into their male sides by getting into leadership roles and stressful positions that crave a lot of competence. That is great news. Finally, women can fully embrace both their energies, not just the female side by taking care of the children and being provided for, but in some cases it can lead to burnouts and depression. Even in Scandinavia, the work environment is still stressful and competitive, especially in high paying jobs and people still work their ass off in order to travel and get a nicer house or car, not as socialistic as you imagined. If your man isn't properly helping you, you always have to tell him what to do as if he is your child, then you end up worse than in a traditional relationship. Not just that you keep in check the house, food, and the children, now you need to earn money too. When women are not secure in their female side, they cope by giving and sacrificing themselves till they get exhausted and sick. Vulnerability and asking for help, asking not complaining and criticizing, is key in this situation and swinging from sick leave to a job that you hate just to "keep up with men" is not a long term solution. It is not ethical to your colleagues and managers who don't do that and have to deal with replacing you all the time. The welfare state compensates for the lack of support you feel in life. There is no shame in choosing a lower paying job or working less just because you want to feel better, happiness is money. I am a relatively masculine man but I still prefer happiness over some high paying corporate job or working all day competing with workaholics, but if my family would need more money, I'll make it happen. A real man would love to do the hard work for you as long as he sees that you and the children are happy. He'll bring the money, he'll do the house chores, anything for a family who deserves it. Men would even risk their lives for a good cause and you stay there and count to bring home the same amount of money. This is why it is crucially important for you as a masculine man to have a strong purpose, everything will become bearable if you have a passion and something meaningful to fight for. It doesn't mean you have to become a millionaire entrepreneur, it can be simply working what you love and supporting your beautiful family. Forget about that elitist bullshit of becoming a top business tycoon, you can be a self-employed programmer, coach, trainer, bike mechanic, massage therapist, barber, plumber, construction worker, electrician, whatever… You just have to love what you do and do it for a reason. I am probably biased here because I like that my work is not dependent on a lot of colleagues or a big team but if you like corporations, so be it. The masculine grows by challenge, purpose, appreciation, and duty. The feminine grows by support, nurture, care, and praise. We don't care about splitting everything 50/50, we care to see our women and children happy and to appreciate our efforts, and in that case we will move mountains for them. One magic thing though: appreciation, understanding, and non-criticism. If you don't do so, your man is gone, he might also go on sick-leave in this case. Fun fact: I remember when I was a horny virgin adolescent full of testosterone and riding my BMX bike in the skate park, I was completely done after a full day of riding but when my crush came to watch us ride, my energy went to full in an instant and performed again like a peacock in front of his potential mate. You might say: "He does not take good care of me and I have to beg him to help me around the house all the time and I don't criticize". That is because nobody taught him how to be a man, he is a boy. A real man is a leader, he organizes stuff, he understands the needs of his woman, he is full of testosterone and energy due to his life purpose and feeling of duty. As Teal Swan says in her teachings: "healthy masculine men feel the need to "contain" their women, which means to provide and offer safety without constraints and oppression." Still think all this is bullshit? Just take a look at the young guys in first world countries, I never ever seen so many unmotivated and passive men. "The system is rigged so they give up". Give me a break, you can create a successful small business even in Iraq. Don't blame the system so you have an excuse to watch porn and play video-games all day, there are tons of opportunities if you open your eyes. We are mainly attracted romantically to qualities opposite to ours, if you are a more masculine woman, you might find the feminine men more attractive. Only you can find who you really are. Ask yourself why you don't need support from a man in your life. Because you analyzed it closely and you know for sure this is you? Or is it because you were socialized into that by your progressive friends and mother? Is it because you want to prove something to yourself and others? Is it because the men in your life were worthless and you were forced into it? Or just because you were treated or still treated badly by men and now you create a shield as a trauma response? The different ways men and women behave and respond to stress are very important, especially in relationships. If your man comes home stressed and wants to go take a beer with his buddies let him go instead of continuously asking him what went wrong. He does not want to speak to you because he wants to detach from what happened until he replenishes his testosterone and feels better. If your woman comes back home sad and stressed on the other hand, ignoring her will not help, because in contrast with what you used to do when stressed, she wants to connect with her emotions and have someone to support her. And the way you as a man solve this kind of situation is a bit different from how women do, she won't need solutions and advice at the moment, she only wants emotional support and understanding. You can be "Mr. fix it" another time. If we do not get these critical differences the relationship can suffer. The masculine-feminine polarity is what makes it a romantic relationship, the contrasts between us make it exciting and romantic. Otherwise, we will be just two friends who have sex occasionally. A healthy long term romantic relationship can remain healthy only if both partners have an understanding of all these things, either they are smart enough to intuit them or they learn them. One more tip for improving your relationship is to find your own and your partner's love language, there are mainly 5: physical touch, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and words of affirmation. Read Gary Chapman's book for a deeper dive. Common interests, romance, and polarity will make you commit to one person, not just sex and looks. There will always be a hotter girl or a bigger cock somewhere else. It is not just about the looks, the behavior makes you who you are, you perform the gender. Think about how cool a well made MMORPG game is, how equal in power but at the same time how different the mage is from the warrior. The same with men and women, we are equal but not the same. In this kind of games, the strongest pair team is a team formed by two very different characters, usually one who screws the enemies while the other one supports him with healing. Why should we erase this beautiful difference between us that will make us stick to each other like a magnet? Sex and attraction Of course, we need to talk about sex. There is an extremely obvious contrast here. A man can get aroused by simply seeing a beautiful woman, whereas a woman needs to get to know the man, and feel secure and intimate with him before getting aroused. She actually needs to make a bond with the man and feel safe, she wants emotional stimulation and safety first. This is what many men don't realize and get surprised when their women don't want to have sex on command. Because for men, having sex is like taking a piss. There is a huge underground sex market for men. Because women are not so interested only in the act of sex, at least those mature women in whom I am interested, they want a whole emotional experience. This is very important, many guys who struggle with dating are getting sour on life because they feel that women have it much better, that they can get sex much easier. Yes she can get sex whenever she wants, but she doesn't value the act of sex as much as you do, she values finding a quality guy who is willing to commit only to her, and that might be very hard to find. And the main cause of you not getting laid is not the feminists or your looks, it is because you don't socialize enough and stay all day in your room watching porn and playing video-games. Back to sex. Women who deny their female side can have trouble having quality sex. If you always penetrate the world at work and at home, how would you be able to receive your man's penetration? You'll resist it. So many women have this submission to dominance fetish because at least in bed they want to feel the taste of masculinity if not somewhere else. If we look at the animal kingdom we see that the right to sex is not given at birth, males need to fight for it and the female will choose to mate with the strongest male which will ensure the highest survival chance for her cubs. Most of us are not wild animals anymore but this dynamic still expresses in us to some extent. Feminine women tend to not care so much for beauty, more about the survival abilities and social status the man has in society, so that he'll ensure the kids survival while they can relax in their feminine side. Masculine men are so attracted to the genetics and physical beauty and less about the survival abilities of the women, because they are the ones who will mainly take care of survival, they just need to be sure the kids will have the best genetic baggage. Maybe women will value men's beauty more in the future, when society becomes less dangerous, competitive and stressful. It will make logical sense, but our biology will not change overnight, we will still somewhat be driven by feelings and instincts that drove us millennia ago. What are the main things women want from men? Emotional stimulation, charisma, initiative, security, high status, boldness, confidence, affection, support, and beauty but as secondary to all previous. What are the main things men want from women? Beauty, sexual diversity and availability, companionship, appreciation, and a sense that she needs his help in her life. Imagine you have these two energies inside you: masculinity and femininity. Masculine and feminine are not gendered, they are archetypes, energies. Femininity vs. Masculinity and Excesses Forget about gender and sex for a minute. What would be the masculine characteristics? Action, groundedness, focus, assertiveness, individualism, penetration, ambition, courage, logic, cognition, strategy, detachment, duty, purpose, competitiveness, enduring hardhsips. How about the feminine ones? Beauty, sense of belonging, interdependence, intuition, feeling, receiving, vulnerability, sensitivity, nurturing, creativity, flexibility, empathy, compassion, forgiveness, mercy, rest. The ultimate distinction would be that masculinity would rather hurt feelings in order to tell the truth, and femininity would rather hide the truth in order not to hurt feelings. Especially progressive women are scared of the word "interdependence". They want to be independent, but you see, we all depend on something. In general, women want to depend on other people and estrogen-increasing activities, men tend to depend on things and testosterone-increasing activities to make them happier. Just look how dependent your man is on his beer buddies that disconnect him from emotions, video-games, football, or his car. Or in my case, dependence on learning and figuring out stuff, I love it. Have you noticed how men always want to figure out stuff and create models? If these energies are in balance, you will behave in a calibrated way, when you swing too much towards one energy and ignore the other, problems appear. What does excess of masculinity look like? Well, toxic masculinity. An unsocial, over-competitive, unemphatic, selfish person who has a robot-like behavior and sees everything else as objects to be exploited. An overly masculine society would be an autocratic, mafia structured, overly-hierarchical, every man for himself, law of the jungle, libertarian hellhole where if you're not tough, you'll be basically used as a slave, killed or starved to death. Children will be traumatized by the beatings and non-permissive parenting, they will grow up hating their parents and eventually rebelling. Women will be treated horribly because they don't fit the revered "tough and strong" vibe. The country will have a high chance to go to war because they will see the smallest threat as a call to war. Society will eventually become more feminine as more and more people get educated. With education and affluence, comes empathy and compassion. What would excess femininity look like? An over-emphatic, over-indulgent, overly-collectivistic person, emphatical to most people except the perpetrators and "wrong doers". What Does an overly feminine society look like? A partially democratic, socialistic, overtaxing welfare state, non-hierarchical feelingcracy. The resources will be shared equally and you'll be all good so long as you don't say or do something which will raise feelings of you hurting or offending others, or try to rise above the rest and control people in some way. In that case you'll be seen as a cancer and will be canceled, reduced to nobody. Some children can grow up soft, vulnerable, immature, undisciplined and with emotional problems because of overprotective parenting. You cannot protect them forever, teenage years will hit them like a train if they are not ready for it. The society will lack innovation and a full freedom of expression. There will be endless talks in political and philosophical circles on what is ok and what is not ok to do. There will be indecision, lack of action, and fear of "being wrong". The army will be weak and underfunded and God forbid if some country decides to invade them. The law enforcement and authorities will be weak and permissive, the borders will be almost completely open and unenforced. The crimminal gangs will move into the country because they see them as an oportunity to be exploited. The masculine part of society will eventually revolt because they cannot express their real personalities and will have enough of all the crimminals wreaking havoc, the overly feminine government will eventually be overthrown and the energies will balance. An overly feminine person will get burned out because she only looks for the needs of others and disregards her own needs. Many women get abused and exploited in relationships by selfish toxic men and forgive them all the time by backwards rationalization. What they should do instead is to connect with their male side and decide to end the relationship for good, to heal their female side by taking care of their own needs and forgiving those who hurt them, raise their standards, and find better men. Be careful about your childhood trauma though, my mother had a bad relationship with her father, he was dominating her all the time. That made my mother vow to take care of everything by herself and marry a docile man. She ended up regretting the choice she made. She had to literally do everything as my father was mostly passive and absent. Women love to be vulnerable and be led and provided to by a competent loving man. They hate when they are always forced to go into their male side and come up with solutions, figure out stuff, and fend for themselves because their men are lazy and incompetent. Now think about how many women are in this situation, living 20-30 years in the same house with such worthless men, no doubt why they get fed up and become passive-aggressive and depressed. You don't have to fear masculine men, you need to find one who embraces his feminine side also, they are pretty rare though. Better alone otherwise. The problem with most men is that they either have the attractive masculine vibe but they are "old fashion", domineering, closed-minded, and macho-like; or on the other hand they are too soft, unattractive, unmotivated, and emasculated. The nice guy vs. asshole dichotomy. A wise blend between these two characters is preferred but if you like being feminine as a man, cool. There are women who like more feminine men. Just make sure this is really you and not only a coping strategy or a mask. Eckhart Tolle is a feminine man, and he knows his shit, one of the wisest people alive. To be more like a man you have to be more like a woman. The problem with the macho old-school man is that he creates a shadow from his female side and only channels his masculine energy outwards, he should focus it inwards instead, fighting his own fears and inner enemies. If he would do that he would realize that he is playing a "tough guy" role in order to mask his insecurities and traumas. The masculine energy is immensely potent in curing trauma, but at the same time it also can prevent you from seeing it. Being a man means to be yourself as you are regardless of what people think of that, to be an unshakable pillar in the middle of a storm. Playing the role of the "tough guy" is probably not authentic to you, you do it because you don't really trust yourself. You might ask why did the universe make us in this way? I see it as a survival specialization, we lived in tribes for millions of years. The universe specialized women in keeping the social cohesion of the tribe, gathering plants and fruits, and taking care of children, because children need love and empathy more than anything else. Men specialized in hunting, exploring, defending the territory and competing with other males for the most appreciated females. Ensuring safety and providing resources, actions which require more detachment, courage, a desire to figure out stuff through strategic logical thinking. Imagine the women being beautiful pearls and the men being the shells protecting them so as they can express their love, beauty, vulnerability and creativity. Now that can be a reason why women vote for welfare states these days, because they feel unsafe in this men-dominated capitalist madness. Masculine people metaphorically ejaculate into society, they impregnate it with ideas and technology, the feminine part of society decides which "sperm" is of the most quality and rejects the harmful "sperm" (bad ideas and unregulated tech). Without femininity, all that technological progress will do more bad than good. Nuclear technology will do more harm than good if we use it to nuke each other or destroy the environment. In fact, the world is so broken today because there is too much toxic and too little healthy masculinity present. We need to become more feminine and emphatic in our approaches. We also have to be careful about the toxic femininity, which will try to filter out the very popular "bad ejaculators" by force and oppression. If a such person is popular then ask yourself why it is so. Maybe your society is not yet ready for so much empathy and compassion as you imagine. Another flavour of toxic femininity is naivity, I presented in the analogy with the feminine country, we are not all at the same level of development, there are crimminals who cannot wait to find a naive unexpereinced victim to exploit. Healthy femininity is pure love, love and understanding even for the oppressors and egomaniacs, but it is also realistic and understands that boundaries have to exist. The masculine and feminine were somewhat balanced in most tribes, but around 10 000 years ago we started to create "civilizations". In these civilizations the feminine energy was systematically suppressed. In the middle ages, women were belived to be lesser humans, less intelligent, deserving only to be ruled. It was taught that because of Eve, they lost the kingdom of heaven. It was taught that they have to constantly procreate because otherwise their "seed" will coagulate inside themselves and will make them fall ill. I didn't know how to react, to cry or to laugh. Fortunately we do not live with those dark mentalities here in the west anymore. After such a long time we finally begin to embrace our feminine side again and women are empowered. When the resources are scarce, the societies structure in a patriarchal way, because there is lots of competition for resources, but here in Scandinavia I see the society becoming more and more feminine because the resources are more abundant. The same thing we can observe in chimps and bonobos. Chimps have a patriarchal social structure due to the scarce environment in which they lived for thousands of years, bonobos on the other hand have a matriarchal social structure due to a frugivorous diet and the abundant environment. Our societies today are still overly-masculine all over the world, this is why there is a bias towards masculine qualities and women strive to acquire those qualities because in this way they ensure survival. Further Political Problems and Solutions It is great to see this powerful raise of feminine energy, but there are some excesses. The progressive liberals don't really understand masculinity and why most straight or even gay or transgender men need to learn about it and embrace it as part of their identity and personality. People watch the horrors of excess masculinity and get disgusted by it, and in an emotional reaction they label whole masculinity as bad. I totally understand, I am also put sometimes in an emotional righteous care bear state whenever I see how women are treated on the streets and in relationships and especially when I read human history, then I really get sick in the stomach. But with emotional reactions we don't solve the problem. We have to let ourselves cool down and think rationally what can be the solutions, criticizing and calling names won't really help, it just makes them angry. The leftists want to equalize everything in society, they have a hard time dealing with equal asymmetries, things can be equal even if they are different. And by the way, how can you call yourself egalitarian when you say that women would do better than men in many fields like politics or leadership? Double standards. My work here does not throw away the work of progressives and gender scientists, it just adds up what is missing. You read Judith Butler's books then you are in the air. Ok gender is a social construction, now what? What are we going to do? Telling your 7 or 8 years old children only that they can identify with whatever they want is just unwise. It is not that children cannot find who they are, it is that the adults don't have a good approach to teaching this and they themselves do not understand this stuff. I think the best approach would be to teach them that gender is a social construction, but also about masculinity and femininity, their biological sex differences, how the brain gets influenced by prenatal testosterone, hormone dynamics, and the correlation between all of this. Then they might have higher chances finding the perfect blend of energies and perfect gender identity for them. They need clear information that will help them decide, otherwise they will just do what is "cool" and copy each other without a clue of what they are doing. This is dangerous stuff, if you send your kids to hormone therapy without good investigation and patience till they understand how to find themselves, you can destroy their lives. This stuff has to be handled by serious experts not by brainless politicians and parents. And these ideas of gender neutral changing rooms make me laugh. If there will be only one changing room, you as a girl will have a bunch of creepy guys staring at you while changing clothes, then suddenly you'll admit that we are different, oh the irony. There has to be a limit to anything, it is great to be inclusive and open-minded but not so open-minded so as your brains are falling off. In the past it was cool to be a rocker or a punker, now it is cool to be a political activist. Fill your own buckets before filling other peoples buckets. "I don't know" is a powerful wise sentence! Much better than spitting some ideology you've heard from some blue haired leftist Karen. I don't care to prove conservatives wrong on this topic, that is easy and boring, there are lots of people who do that well already. My ideas show even how progressives get it wrong. And I don't want to sound superior, I just want to humble you down, your perspective is better than the conservative one but it is not perfect. The society will become less sexist and patriarchal by simply spreading this information and those who are ready for it, will receive it. I dare to talk about this because I have over 13 years of serious personal development, this is my life purpose not just an interest. People just hear: "Masculinity is toxic". Ok but show me what healthy masculinity looks like. It is like me being an introvert and instead of accepting this part of me, I suppress it because everybody around me says that introversion is toxic, do you get it now? Many people now portray the perfect man as being some variant of Eckhart Tolle, namely an agreeable, calm, zen-like man. No! Eckhart Tolle is one type of a great man, for some men like me that is not authentic. When I was following Eckhart many years ago I forced myself to be like him because I believed he was the perfect man example. This is the big mistake that spiritual people make, they portray some spiritual guru as the one and only ideal for how a man should be. We are born different, we have different personalities, I had to accept my spicy way of being, I get excited and passionate about problems in society then tell them honestly and sharply, and sometimes in a more emotionally reactive manner. There are uncomfortable things that have to be said even if people get offended by them. That doesn't mean I invade Poland after, some emotional reaction in talks spices up things, makes it feel real and taken seriously. This stuff has to be taught in schools, exactly like sexual education, so kids can understand themselves and become men, women or something else instead of remaining boys and girls their whole lives. When a wounded and suppressed demographic finally gets empowered, it tends to swing the pendulum all the way to the opposite extreme. Mothers who teach their sons only feminine qualities because they were wounded by toxic men. If we only teach feminine qualities to boys, they will become unmotivated, prone to addictions, unattractive, lonely and disconnected from who they are. And because of that imbalance they can become aggressive. You get what you fear for. We need to show our boys what real masculinity looks like not to throw it away. In regards to women, most of them are very intuitive and behave in a feminine way even if they don't know about this stuff. Some of them can exaggerate with this "strong independent woman" crap they get from the extreme left, but I perceive this to be a rare occurrence. Some women are constantly bossing others around, complaining and moaning about how unjust everything is, imposing to others their point of view and if they don't embrace it, they're calling them lazy, dumb, toxic, sexists, racists, homophobes, Nazis, privileged etc… It is mainly because for some reason they did not manage to mature emotionally or they met such low quality people in their lives that it accumulated and made them sour. Femininity is about daring to be vulnerable, delicate and ignoring the things you can't change. A mature woman knows that criticizing others, canceling them, or calling them names will not change their minds or actions, in fact it will have the opposite result. She has the courage to find and let a real man help her in life, she is a flower instead of a cactus. She dares to relax into her authentic vulnerable self, trusting that her man will not hurt her. This dynamic is exceptionally beautiful. You might say: "There are no good men around". It is true that they are rare, because someone has to teach them this stuff, but do not generalize men based on your subjective experience. You do not attract what you want, you attract or get attracted to what you are. Think about this next time you reject or friend-zone someone or when a man disappears from your life after a few nights with you. What can you offer more than just sex? Easy to criticize others. Even the most commitment phobic man will eventually want to commit to a woman in the end when and if he realizes that sex is empty and will not make him fulfilled. But to the woman who he really feels happy with. Forgiving the men who hurt you is the only way to liberate yourself. Where I feel we as a society need to really become better at is taking care of our health. A healthy beautiful physical aspect is important for a woman, but our sick society makes them overweight, stressed, insecure, and unhealthy. Wherever you look you see unhealthy food and everybody eats it, which breaks my heart to be honest (check my article about how to take care of your health if you had enough of all the bullshit health information on the internet). A woman can develop her male side very well and she can take care of herself and kids without any help, like a female mamma tiger or mamma bear. But we never lived like bears and tigers, we are social animals and love being like that. Why struggle with all that when there are men who would absolutely love to help you? If all women will get on this mamma bear path, what will happen to men? Some people wanted to do a study on how porn influences men's psyche but they did not find enough guys who don't do porn for the control group. Pornhub is the 4th most visited website in the world. We already have a loneliness crisis among men especially since the rise of social media and dating apps where women have by far the upper hand. Young men are gaming all day and doing nothing with their lives because they wake up in their 20s unprepared for life and they just give up. Angry, lonely men following toxic role models like Andrew Tate. You cannot cancel these people, you throw them out the window and they come back out the door, they are popular because there is something wrong with society. Why do so many young men follow these kinds of people? Because they are those who at least pretend to understand their suffering, the rest of society tells them somewhere between the lines of: "Dude you live in a male dominated society and you are a white man, what do you want more?". Well they want more, they want to find who they are and why they suffer, they want someone to understand their suffering, you cannot hug yourself. This is the thing that those feminazis don't understand. EVERYBODY needs love, not just the victims. Even the perpetrators are suffering, this is why they do what they do, mainly because nobody listened to their suffering, now or in their childhood. The most life-threatening thing for men under 45 in the first world is suicide, it is themselves. And the most dangerous people for others in a society are men who feel misunderstood, lost, lonely, and depressed. In a democracy everybody should believe whatever they want, but I agree that some influencers are so toxic that they need to be kicked out of all platforms. The same way we don't let people take a shit in the city square. Afterword We are approaching the end of this material, reflect a bit on the way I wrote all of this. This is a healthy masculine energy. Courage to challenge the common beliefs but still tamed enough to be desirable and sound. A blend between ambition, discipline, competence, logic, courage, and empathy. I encourage you to do the same in your search for meaning and answers, theory is very important. If you don't have your theory right, you won't know how to act and whom to believe. My masculine personality of detaching from silly group-think and pursuing my own journey of figuring out how the world works saved my life. But I see how important it is to balance it with femininity, to help and connect with others instead of judging them for their intellectual laziness. Try to find the right feminine-masculine blend, the one that fits your hormone dynamics, physical aspect preferences, sexual orientation, gender identity, and personality. Most probably you'll fit your biological sex gender like I do, but even if you need to find another gender that fits better, it is fine as long you know what you are doing. I hope this was helpful, if you want to deepen your knowledge on this topic, check the books listed in references. References: Ridley, M. (1994). 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People usually commit suicide because they perceive there to be no hope of getting out of a painful situation. It is a form of escape usually done on impulse. It is why health professionals always ask how you are planning to kill yourself so they can assess how much of a danger you are to yourself. Like if you own a loaded gun or something. I hope you get the help you need. I'd wager that you are suicidal because you're in pain somehow.

Sorry to hear about your current issue. If your current mental health professional is not working, seek another. How is the rest of your lifestyle btw? I have also considered suicide but am still running down my options.

I think depersonalisation already made me have the epiphany that there is no “me”. Like I’m in tabula rasa. I feel a loss in identity. I don’t identify with what happened in the past nor the future anymore. Something clicked and I’m in the now so to say. With my mind blanked. What makes suicide so attractive is that I want to go all the way in. I feel like I’m done and there’s nothing more to do. I will save up the money to try psychedelics at one point though

Just save some money and purchase it. After that you will realize there is no you to die, it was the ego only. Do not try to suicide!!! It is the stupidest thing to do!!! Maybe @Leo Gura can help you.

@UnbornTao Thanks for the encouraging words. I will try what you're saying. I'm really hoping this will wave off of me at some point. I asked an old high school friend about how she dealt with learning that her boyfriend cheated on her, and she said it took her a good half a year to get over him. Mind you, they were together for 2 years. @integral Thanks for the encouragement. I've been hearing this a lot from people the last few days. My guy friends all say that it's basically doomed and if they were in my shoes they would just act distant until she leaves and then move on. But then I talked to the doctor and he said, now that we're equal, we can just try again and see what happens. I'm not sure how to proceed, but I guess once she leaves it will be clearer for me. @thierry See I would like to believe you. I really do. But the fact that her molly trip made her accept what happened more and be able to still enjoy life makes me think I need it to. It's already difficult dealing with that information about her cheating, but to see her completely unbothered by the whole situation almost makes me feel like it could at least help me too. Then again, she says she still suffers immensely but her brain is shutting off to try to protect her from this trauma. I don't know how true that is. All I know is I cry a lot and am very emotional, meanwhile she doesn't seem that emotional about all of it at all. @Basman Thanks for the kind words and you're right, she admitted that in that moment for her the relationship was already over. She just didn't have the balls to tell me, but would rather instead talk about "needing space" only to cheat in revenge. Also, when I say she was my only friend, I really mean it. I don't have boys to reach out to. Nobody who wants to go hiking with me. Hence the feelings of loneliness, self-harm and suicide. Because she somehow got off better than this than me. She actually met new people, made friends, is starting to enjoy her work and all this. And I'm stuck with nobody. Nobody who texts me how I'm doing, asks me to go out for the evening, train with me or whatever. I am trying though. I reached out to old friends, hung out a couple times with them and am going out with one tomorrow. Not saying all hope is lost, but just trying to explain how it all makes me feel.

"Tomorrowland" I have been having this vision in the back of my mind for quite some time now. A world where karma is the only currency. You enjoy the fruits of everything you do, also you're not supposed to do anything either. This is also an imperfect world, because karma isn't real either at stage Turquoise, also societal(collective) karma is almost nullified, nobody is forced to do anything. This world here isn't interested in hoarding anything, people are free to do anything, but alone. The goal is that one doesn't interfere or even passively impact the other. There is no need to earn money, or even contribute to the society, you can live a perfectly good life, doing nothing. Infact doing nothing is the norm, it is the best thing to do. Activity is neither encouraged nor discouraged. Flowering of an individual's true nature is celebrated. This world at first, focused on tech advancements as a community, like "Tomorrowland". Soon they get bored of it and commit suicide out of boredom. Because every form of "pleasure" is short circuited, it was not really suicide, it was MahaSamadhi. People left behind their bodies, consciously, without any external aid. Where did it go wrong? Or did it? Thoughts?

Wow TS, it's sad what happened to Reckful. Suicide impacts someone's life esp at a young age, it isn't easy.

How do you know that antinatalists are the majority? I think acknowledgment of our destructive ways can be good. We become so conscious of our destructive ways that we open ourselves up to change. Some people in life have to make the decision between suicide and changing themselves radically. That could be it on a more global scale.

Yes, because an experience insinuates that there's an experiencer. Enlightenment is the recognition that there never was an experiencer from the start of body birth or even before birth for that matter. "There just never was a YOU" The only thing that SEEMS to have an experience, is the conditioned illusion of self. The very energy that labels and judges the experience as good or bad or whatever, isn't actually there! When that illusion is shattered, everything becomes an empty happening. Ground zero it could be called. There's no one left itching or trying to have a good experience over a bad one. What remains is just whatever is happening without the conditioned illusion of self labeling or judging apparent reality as this or that; good vs bad ect... And that sticky illusion of self can never accept or grasp this because it's like illusion suicide. But see illusions cannot die because they were never real from the start. It's indescribable because it's the end of the conditioned descriptions. It's not an experience because it's the end of the experiencer which never existed anyways! In other words, bodily conditioning is like a mask over an empty and meaningless reality. It sounds horrific to the self illusion, but it's actually the freedom longed for by nobody 🤣 ❤️

It's ultimately not different from a heroin addiction. You want to live in a constant extremely positive state, and that ends up ruining your natural reward system and sober life. Sober life can never feel as good as a heroin high. At least not without decades of development. Death can come in multiple ways: Suicide Careless accident Delusional thinking Overdose Disillusionment with human life Losing your mind / insanity

I understand so in short you neglect your material life on this earth. You are not as motivated because reward from constantly being high is good enough to make you satisfied with life. You don't have a feeling of change anymore. But you need to change and do stuff because survival is still at play, although you can override it from time to time with being high. I hope that's what you mean although I don't understand how it can lead to suicide and death. Because you think after death you get instant infinite love? Or because you neglected your life so hard that your relationship, your finance and physical health is broken beyond repair.

Many, many ways. The constant use of psychedelics will make you lose touch with reality, make you ungrounded, make you weak and avoidant of hard work, ruin your motivation for business and personal development, make you irresponsible, leads to spiritual bypassing, will ruin your physical health, will cause physical injury, and eventually suicide or death. As I said in my traps video, unsustainable lifestyles are a trap. You cannot keep being constantly intoxicated. This will absolutely destroy your life. Stop bullshitting yourselves about this. Just because I speak highly of psychedelics does not mean I condone such abuse of them. Many of you guys will ruin your lives if you don't wise up and get back to the fundamentals of hard work.

I agree with most of what you said, but this ICC stuff is mostly political theater. We get it, everyone hates Israel. Now what have you achieved? Is international isolation going to make Israel commit suicide and cede the land to the Palestinians? Of course not. What's more likely is that isolation makes nations more aggressive, as we've seen throughout history. The U.S. is both Israel's greatest ally and the only one capable of tempering them and reigning them in. It's a double edged sword. Without the link to the U.S. they'd just be another nation trampling a group of people whom no one cares about on a scale much greater than Israel. Which is what is happening all over the world right now. It's clear new leadership is needed on both sides, and with that there is the possibility for renewed hope. The longer this drags without a push for statehood, the worse it will become.

@Leo Gura Leo but what I just remembered now is that hamas has always increased the terror just after it smelled a breakthrough in the negotations between Israelis and Palestinians. A very famous example is Oslo agreement in 1993 when after it has been signed, a series of terrible suicide terror attacks has started as an attempt to fail it. Paradoxically, the most extreme parts of the Palestinians aren't interested in any of the oppression issues. Because if they were, they wouldn't try to fail the negotiations. The "right-wing" of the Palestinians try similarily to the right wing of Israel to fail any negotiation and a chance to achieve a deal. So according to this, hamas is this right wing of the Palestinian side, who don't want anything other the total annihilation of Israel, and the occupation of the West Bank as it sees in 1967 doesn't matter to him at all, but 1948 is.

I wasn’t sure if this topic belongs to this segment, but definitely doesn’t belong to the serious emotional issues because I want to discuss and analyze suicide but from a more practical point of view using real logic as much as possible. I have always heard and read that suicide is bad and should be avoided because you would pay for the consequences (bad ones) such as: going to hell, reincarnating to a lower level of life, being eternally in the other realm suffering, and many other theories. But nothing of this makes sense to me because not everyone is under the same circumstances in life, so “God” (or whatever you call it) just can’t judge everyone the same way, right? I will give some examples of different scenarios to show why. 1. Lets say 2 people commit suicide. One of them had a really great quality of life in general terms but eventually got something like bored, depressed and finally committed suicide. The other one was born under the most miserable conditions you can imagine and suffered a lot all their life, and finally to end the pain of his misery he ends his life too. Why would God judge both in the same way and both will suffer bad consequences? It seems a little unfair to me. 2. Fool example but just to explain my point: A person is on a boat in the middle of the ocean and the boat starts to sink. He will literally be dead in less than 20 minutes by drowning, but also he has a fire gun. He decides to shoot himself (commit suicide) by a headshot instead of waiting to die. He is going to die anyway in some minutes. Why would God judge him for dying in the way he considers less painful or whatever reason? It seems a little unfair to me. Also, why would God judge for such a decision if God itself put the person in that particular situation? The person commiting suicide didn’t decide to be in a situation where there is unbearable pain and suffering. If one simply cannot take the pain anymore and thinks it will stop with death, why would God judge? I just cannot understand why taking your own life is said to have the worst consequences. And also, what happens to the people that commit suicide without realizing they did it? I mean the people that were in such a bad place mentally that they were not conscious at all of their act. Why would God judge those people too if they commited suicide without knowing they were commiting suicide, they simply did it because of their mental state. Why would people commiting suicide be judged in the afterlife? Please if someone can give their opinion on this. I think I explained my point about why something about the theories doesn’t smell right. Thanks for any input