Truth Addict

It's kind of funny.. I never mean to offend anyone, but it seems like I usually do. I don't know how to be gentle with other people's egos, because I don't see my way talking offensive, while others somehow manage to see it the other way around. Even the times I offer some advice, I feel like I'm offending the other end. My "problem" is that I am very straight forward, and I'm not sure why that's offensive. I reflect on the things I say, and I don't say it unless I'm sure that I myself would not be offended by others saying it to me. In a discussion, I notice that people care about emotions way more than the main discussed issues which I go straight into. Of course, that does not happen here as frequent as in other societies. I want to solve this issue once and for all, because I care about other people. Any advice? Anyone been there before? Feel free to offend me! Lol!

@everyoneonthisforum This thread is gold. ?

@Markus Makes perfect sense to me. Thank you ? ?

Relative vs. Absolute. Not true. Grounding yourself in the Absolute is radically different from clinging to relativities. Nevertheless, the relative (illusion) is still relatively useful.

@abrakamowse ?

Yes, exactly. And also: Judging other people (criticism) is another trap. Judging ourselves (perfectionism) is another trap. With no one to blame, love shines and rules. ?

Sure. And hell as well resides in the now, when we run away from the now.

I don't like being a hypocrite either. But sometimes honesty creates resistance in the other end, and therefore limits and hinders the communication that we're aiming for in the first place. Not everyone is comfortable with facing truths, let alone opinions.

Exactly, that'll be heaven.

A thought, the ego.

When one reaches heaven, it won't be wrong anymore. Suffering is wrong when one is suffering. And when one is suffering, suffering is wrong. It's a vicious cycle. If you already have no problem with it, that's heaven.

These are synonymous to a high experience. Heaven is right here and right now. It's something that doesn't go away.

Think again.

It's where I don't suffer, no matter what.

@Joseph Maynor ??

The rules of this current dream.

@Joseph Maynor @Serotoninluv I really appreciate your help guys. Really! You brought to my awareness things I wasn't conscious of before. I knew the ego is a bastard, but I didn't expect it to stab me in the back like that. Everything you said applies perfectly to me. I'll work on it. Thank you ?

@OmniYoga Of course, while everything you said can be right, there's still the issue of heaven and hell. I don't know about other people, but I literally used to live in hell before I was introduced to spirituality. So, I find talking about God (Truth) very valuable. The ego always wants to survive, but better survive happily, rather than miserable.

@TheAvatarState Thank you for your response. I did learn about spiral dynamics, and it kind of helped me. But still, I assume it's something to do with my upbringing. My parents are also bad at this, and I was an introvert for almost my whole life. I consider myself at blue/green on the spiral with slightly more yellow than orange. Maybe I need more experience, what do you think?

@Annoynymous I agree. I was going to make a post about this issue. The stuff that Leo is teaching is very advanced, I have been following his content for almost 3 years now, and I still struggle to catch up with him. Okay, maybe we can relate a little bit, but what about others? Everyday, new people start following actualized.org, most of them are not even interested in God, they may need to watch at least 50 hours to get to the point where they can be open to God, let alone trying to understand it, let alone working towards it. Also, I think that a lot of actualized.org followers are already convinced of God, so why spend a lot of time sharing ideas (although always interesting) while work is all we need? Doesn't that make actualized.org just another belief system? Leo promised a variety of topics, even though I think that "Godly" topics are important, but I also think that there should be some interval between them, and that's where other topics should fit perfectly. @Leo Gura what do you think? I know it's your content, but I think we might have some perspective.

@Salvijus I think that's what I was missing. Thank you ?

@Salvijus Thank you! I admit that sometimes that might be the case, but really, even the times I try my best to show compassion, the other end receives it as offensive. For example: Someone on Facebook was making a poem about politics, I felt the anger and hatred in his poem, he ended his post with the following words: "it's obvious, just open your eyes." I tried to give him the ultimate solution for his problem, so I replied: "maybe try closing your eyes, there you may find relief." He immediately got angry at me and took offence and replied with sarcasm. Where did I go wrong?

@LoveandPurpose Authentic= happy, relaxed, confident, loving, present.

@Sven Is @Wisebaxter's Girlfriend Really an Illusion?

Your gf is beyond real vs illusion, your gf is the truth.