Arcangelo

Some comments about the article: ''Mother of 3, gave up a good paying job after the 3rd one. My own family members do not wish to help me in babysitting at all. My husband works hard and late day in day out for the family but he has no time for the kids. Happiness index: zero. Fulfilment? Zero too.'' ''I had one child, a son, forty years ago; I almost lost my life to toxemia, and did not have any more children. If I had it to do again, I would have zero; this world is too cruel; the choice would not be for my happiness, but to prevent the suffering of another human.'' ''Personally, my partner and are both very comfortable with not being parents. The older I get, the more comfortable I feel with our decision. There were many different factors that influenced our decision, the biggest being climate change. My partner works in the environment sector and future predictions on climate change are pretty dire. We both felt that the world does not need the burden of another person, particularly a first world person. We both work part time in work we enjoy and while we may not be materially rich, but we love our lives and we have time to enjoy them and pursue other interests, even if that means just being able to spend an afternoon pottering in the garden, going for a walk in nature or reading a book. Our friends who have kids are good parents, but I really feel for them. They seem to be in a constant state of just going through the motions in life, with no time to look after themselves or for personal reflection. I feel like I would find it very hard to be happy with no time for myself. So for those who have chosen to be parents, I wish you very well, it is not an easy road you have chosen, but I’m sure it is very fulfilling also. For those who are thinking that parenthood is not for them, I’d say you don’t need kids to be happy. My life is simple, quiet and very happy without children.''

You are right. Check it out: '' Research shows (over and over again) that having children reduces happiness (e.g. Anderson, Russel, & Schumm, 1983 or Campbell, 1981), even though parents think it will make them happier. This phenomenon is known as “The Parenthood Paradox” or “Parenthood Gap“. Why don’t children make parents happier? One of the dominant explanations for this is that children increase the amount and level of a variety of stressors that parents are exposed to (Glass, J., Simon R.W., Andersson M.A., 2016,), such as: time demands energy demands sleep deprivation (potentially starting a vicious circle) work-life balance disturbances financial burden It goes without saying that all of these stressors apply even more to the lives of single parents. This is why single parents report the lowest levels of well-being compared to married or unmarried couples who are living together. ''

How to deal with people lower on the spiral dynamics? > Go down to their level. If they start with the jesus fan club thing you can tell them that you already found jesus and that he lives in your heart.

This guy wasn't a voluntary for the red cross you know?

You have a very valid point here. If you don't feed your kids to the machine, the government will say it is child abuse and take away your children.

I will never have kids, they are way too expensive. I am a selfish orange, I want my time and my money for ME. Ain't nobody has time to be babysitting. What if I turn myself into a millionaire, then I will have all the money in the world and kids won't be expensive, yeah that's a good plan but is not fail proof: what if my wife divorces me, then the kid will grow in a dysfunctional/separated family. There is not enough money in this world to make ME divorce proof. So, NO, no kids for me thanks. My chances of getting divorced are 50% I am not gonna bet my future kid's life on a coin toss. Have you guys read the statistics for males that don't live with their biological fathers. They are absurd.

I am above over you I am standing above...

^Yeah, I saw a Discovery Home & Health documentary: They made a poll asking people years after if they were happy about forgiving and they said: -''yeah'' and they also asked the guys that didn't forgive and years after most of them wished they could have been able to forgive. If going this way I think the couple must break up and the cheater must come back asking for forgiveness. Arc

Would you forgive a cheater? No, never. Forgiving a cheater comes from a place of attachment, low self esteem and having a scarcity mindset. Arc

I had the nintendo but my parents never bought me the supernintendo, so i didn't get the chance to become addicted. Parents have a lot to do with this. Now I wanna play but i don't wanna buy. I wish I had gamer friends so i could play sporadically, because life is a video game, but you only have one life. I want to play so i can have a perspective of my spiritual awakening. I used to play need for speed on my brother's computer until my middle finger couldn't take it any more. I used the arrows to drive, and i used my middle finger to step on the gas. Can't apply pressure for 6 hours on any finger, something has to give. Luckily that happened only on Saturdays. 3 of my ''McDonald's'' coworkers are addicted. One of them is super addicted, one day he told me he didn't sleep because he spent the whole night playing. The other 2 are dragging their kids into this addiction. They play metal gears for 5-6 hours with their kids. Nice bonding time right? One of these guys is 48 yo LOL! When i stand up to go somewhere i get to see his screens he is always buying new games through the inet. One day I asked them if they played fortnite. My question insulted them. A lot of gamers hate fortnite with a passion. I have heard them say: -''I invested 6 hours on that game yesterday'' Don't become the 48yo dude that plays metal gears for 6 hours with his kid. He is overweight and he kinda hates life. To the OP you have already got excellent advice here, I got nothing to add except: You can do it! Arc

Hi, today I went to visit my mom and watch with her Joker. Effing great movie BTW. After watching starwars 9 any movie looks like the best movie in the world. So I was on the bus and a girl sat next to me, she was talking with other 2 women behind us about their babies. Then the 2 women hop off the bus. Arc: -''It's so complicated to have kids'' Her: -''Yeah right?'' Arc: -''Do you have kids?'' Her: -''No, all I do is study accounting'' Arc: -''Cool, are you about to finish'' Her: -''Yeah I graduate next year'' Arc: -''That's great'' Her: -''Do you have kids?'' Arc: -''Oh hell no, I will never have kids, actually I gotta go get me a vasectomy one of these days. Kids are waaaay too expensive.'' Her: -''Bla bla bla'' Arc: -Bla bla bla Her: Bla bla bla Arc: Would you like to go for a drink some day? Her: -''No, I can't, bla bla bla'' Arc: -''OK :)'' I really liked this interaction because I was just trying to be friendly, I was totally detached from the outcome, and my smile when she rejected me was so genuine. I bet some of these girls end up thinking later: -''I should have given that dude a shot, but he was a total stranger, what if he is a psycho like Arthur Fleck?'' Stranger Danger See you next time! Peace Arc

Yes you are right, and I was wrong. They do stand a chance. I apologize for laughing at your post Serp. Arc

HAHA! I understand the odds really well sir Check this out TNT 2020 US PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION - WINNING PARTY [33632] REPUBLICAN PARTY -135 -140 is really close to -135, basically the same. Arc

Every man that has ever lived is a PUA. That's what some people fail to understand. Some have better results than others that's all. Why is this so hard to understand for some people. In my case to find a girlfriend. I am alone and I want female company, that's why I go out and talk to girls. What part of it you don't understand? Why am I fool for pursuing my happiness? Arc

Why are you name calling? Isn't it against the forum guide lines? Or this is the forum's ideology now: PUAs are fools. I must remember you that Leo is PUA himself: he picked a girl from a mall and had sex with her. Are you calling Leo a fool?

I don't like Trump either, but I am not blind to the reality: TNT 2020 US PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION - ODDS TO WIN [33635] DONALD TRUMP -140 TNT 2020 US PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION - ODDS TO WIN [33638] JOE BIDEN +450 Sorry but numbers don't lie. The gap is enormous, and the election is on 2020. As I said not a chance, not even close. Arc

To all Mods: You guys are doing a great job! But I'll suggest you guys to be more malicious about the trolls in this site, and to improve your troll detection skills. For example it was painfully obvious that the ''Porn is essentially pointless'' thread was a troll since the first page. The only thing that was weird was the join date of the troll. But this thread was an easy lay up to identify. That thread should have never gone as far as it did. I think that you guys give every single one the benefit of the doubt, and that's cool, it's prolly on your guidelines right? Arc

Check it out: TNT 2020 US PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION - ODDS TO WIN [33635] DONALD TRUMP -140 TNT 2020 US PRESIDENTIAL ELECTION - ODDS TO WIN [33638] JOE BIDEN +450 INEC if it was close Biden would be like -105 or +110 but definitely not 450 The reality is: The other guys don't stand a chance. Arc

IDK how deep their political analysis are, but I am pretty sure it's deeper than yours or mine, because they got supercomputers with super simulators. They are doing their job like they always do (a good one that makes their bosses millions). They have lines on anything you can imagine. They get paid to predict the future, and they are really good at it. (They know things you don't) Joe Biden remains the second favourite for the US 2020 Election at $7.5, Donald Trump $1.91 These numbers are saying Trump is gonna win easily. Easy peacey. Trump is gonna win AINEC. If it was close the line on Biden would be like $2.03 or something. Book makers have literally millions of $$$ on the line. What makes you think that their aren't doing any deep political analysis? No it isn't. As I said the smart money is on Trump sir. Arc

Dude I am talking about Vegas bookmakers.

Well, the guys that make their living out of predicting the future say that Trump is gonna win. I predict that Trump is gonna win. Arc

Hmmm sorry but... yes it does. Yeah, I saw the documentary: Secrets of the Seduction Bootcamp - BBC Panorama It has a lot of dislikes. I am not OK with filming w/o consent, ldo. We might be walking towards a society where it is illegal to talk to strangers on the street. Being able to convince a (young and attractive) woman to have sex is a valuable skill. It's a skill that any heterosexual man would like to posses and master. That's what makes this forum so great, you can't. No reputation for no one. IDK man for me pick up is just a fad. I have been doing pick up before it was even called doing pick up. Back in my day it was called: trying to get a girlfriend. These PUAs just gave it a name to ''brand it'' and to charge money for it. There will always be some dude that sees some random girl that he likes and he will gather the courage to go talk to her. After that, the ball is on her court, THAT's pick-up. These guys broke the law by filming w/o consent, I say let them suffer the consequences of their greed. Arc

Are you a shill for an oddsmaker? Smart money is on Trump sir. Arc

I proved to myself the existence of god through the most simple electrical circuit that can be built.

Oh really? How do you know this? Because I am never ever getting married and i am never ever having kids, (I am smart you know). "You are already whole and complete" - Is that really true? > YES, Absolutely. Gotta have an awakening experience to confirm it though. Arc