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Let the despair crush you and keep moving forward.

Great video.

If you really wanna do it, perhaps the best thing would be to casually mention it to her mother, but it also might get creepy and it's best to keep yourself out of this. Freedom doesn't necessarily mean to do whatever you want, whenever you want, but to feel free to express yourself within the confines and rules of this world. A girl probably wouldn't know how to respond to that compliment, especially coming from an adult man, in front of her mother.

https://youtu.be/jnp26RriUTw This is my favourite artist nowadays.

You need to pop that balloon of things being tense. Ask them what they're passionate about, become interested. Make jokes that you actually find funny. Admit to them something you're going through..

You're 35 man, don't do it, it's weird as shit. Practice expressing yourself freely with women your age or more towards the legal side haha. Love

The only creepier thing than approaching women is a guy that doesn't do it at all.

I find that you got enough high-quality answers here. You have a right to believe what you want. Based on your answers, chances are you still have a lot of time to put into meeting women and developing yourself as a person. We cannot do that part for you. Remember: you can grow bitter or grow better. I'm off this topic.

Yeah, this is a great explanation. Being yourself - Don't feel guilty about who you are, but instead feel proud and enrich others with uniqueness of your personality.

Also imagine the terror of being on the other side of things. Of being a woman. You get judged solely on your looks and ratio's of your body parts, at least on the first glance and most of the time forever.

It's a biological mechanism that doesn't need breaking because it's damn useful and important. It signals to a woman a man of value, who is capable of handling adversity, provides for her and conquers whatever he needs to get to where he wants. That's what we're talking about here. True confidence will mostly be well recieved and reaffirmed by females reactions. If confidence has no basis or doesn't relate to other people well, it will be overlooked of course, that's why social adaptability is also valued. Of course you shouldn't need to look at women to approve of your confidence, you just know by yourself when you're confident, but you can bullshit yourself more easily than they can bullshit their instinctive reactions, which as we said are based on millions of years of evolution.

Right You suggest it was silent confidence, but probably it was not. I don't know how much in your life you've practiced talking to girls, but it takes years to start getting good reactions on a regular basis. It's a big task.

For the most part it doesn't differ too much, but some might prefer chill guys, others' may prefer loud, talkative, energetic ones. The point is that none wins the most fights and it's more about underlying characteristics and values they can read behind what you portray than what you portray. Basically they have a sense for it, a radar, it's evolutionary, biologically ingrained within them so you have a really hard time faking it.

That's just how OP framed it and I don't think there's anything wrong with it, especially since it's the type of advice that's perhaps most recommended in dating, so it provides an additional context to the topic. I think he has to be to an extent and embody that character in order to play a good role. @UnbornTao You're making it tough for me to answer your points because I would have to get too much into details, we would have to define extroversion/introversion for the sake of this debate etc. We're all playing a character but what does that object to? In order to play handball, you have to do certain things that bring more effective game and you play in the context of rules and best practices. It already got to deep and I don't think it's too necessary for the sake of this topic.

Too much questions. Just be yourself introvert or extrovert. Extroverts can be annoying as fuck to women. If you're an introvert, it's just important not being afraid to state your opinion, but state what you're for and what you fuck with. Chill guy with silent confidence makes them crazy.

Same here

In my experience and opinion it's a far deeper problem than people are ready to realize. And for deeper I mean it's probably going to be really hard to reverse ages of jerking off to porn and looking at top models to make yourself cum as soon as possible. I find this to be one of the main causes of the problem, combined with high sex drive and confidence. Just like getting good in pickup and trying to enrich and step up your dating game, this problem needs serious approach and threatment. From the physical standpoint, what you can do: Look into kegel exercises and how they play into better control over your orgasms, more powerful ones and perhaps with enough training being able to delay them or experience multiple orgasms just like some women are able to. You need to reapproach your masturbation style, warming up your genitals first, focus on touching yourself more which you will probably feel weird doing being a man and not trying to do it by looking at porn and just trying to bust a nut, but instead relying on imagination and perhaps NSFW photos or very light, healthy type of pornographic content. The key is to get very good at knowing your PONR (point of no return) and practicing getting close to it but not too much. Learning to make your masturbation sessions longer and feeling your whole body and genital area more rather than focus to just get to the orgasm. You need to get to know your body. Diet plays a role as well, as with everything. If you eat more junk food and sugar, you will train yourself for instant-gratification and thus will be much more likely to have that mentality in masturbating or having sex. Not to mention probable effects of having a better functioning body, tissue repairment etc. which is very likely to negatively effect your stamina. Confidence. As much of a physical problem it is, it gotta have something to do with confidence as well. I suggest you start working on this as well, especially by interacting more with females and becoming more comfortable around them to the point where seeing and talking to a sexy women is no longer such a big deal and you're active in your sex life so your baseline of arousal is not making you come within seconds.. Practicing self-love also adds to this and will make you take things at the proper pace. Talk good to yourself and start praising yourself in doing and accomplishing basic tasks.. This may not be the answer you're looking for and it might take years of practicing to get to the point where you're satisfied with how long you last. I'm struggling with it as well, but decided to take it as my responsibility to get over the issue and provide better experience to my future sexual partners. Just as with everything worthwhile pursuing, you need to focus on these basic points and make them part of your life; there is no shortcuts, same as with building muscle, pickup, spirituality, business etc. IMO you don't wanna rely on performance substances or purposely making your sex experience worse by imagining some other things. It's better to be able to fully immerse and experience the woman while having the ability to last longer and have more control over your orgasms. Good luck ?

Agree True, thanks. The only way I see it is to lead by example and talk on every thread with total respect and gentleness even within the strong opposition of views. This is a far better way to show and practice open-mindedness than desperately trying to knock someone's flawed way of thinking, or lash out because someone else has lashed out. I perhaps can't speak on whole forum, but I'm frequently following and seeing this in Relationships/Dating section. A lot of people just wanting to be right and talking more in terms of who knows more in theory rather than exchanging experiences, real opinion and hearing each other's takes and approaches. I will try my best to always answer/debate consciously and with kindness, no matter what I get back!

He is surely not low iq. He has above average reasoning skills and ability to debate and defend some of his points. He is probably not a genius, but I'm sure that he's well above average. This doesn't take away from the fact that he has some fucked up stances and questionable confidence.

Reality check - I need to seriously start working on breaking my social comfort-zone and become more comfortable with people and putting myself out there.

Congrats man! Seems like you learn fast. Continue this on a regular basis and I'm sure you're gonna have more insights and get better

Don't look for safest bet and comfortable in pickup. Try to be on the edge. This will develop looseness and a space for her to be open. If you're taking things light and in the confines of normal social interactions without eminating a strong sexual energy, there's no space for her to be in her feminine aka get wet.

Hey I'm a janitor, laugh if I'm nervous.

Coke is the best I came across lol. You will feel like a god and social cues are suddenly a 6th sense. I don't recommend this though. Get tough sober. Get disgraced, learn to laugh at yourself. You won't wean yourself off the substance because you're not getting better sober. What you practice is what you become..

2 days ago was perhaps the first day where I got lines from the universe so to speak. It was subtle and effortless. Practicing more gives you more chances of having a spontaneous flows of energy. I feel it, I'm gonna be it. I have a lot to offer.