Aquarius

You don't need to argue with anyone, but if you feel differently about something I don't see any reason to just say 'ok' and hide your true feelings. If you care about what your friend says they should care about what you have to say too. People argue because they feel attached to their point of view, people who are open about things just discuss them simply even if they don't agree with each other's opinion.

Not everyone ends up being like their family. It's not always the family that's influencing our behavior and way of being, but it's more about the resources we consume.. the music we listen to, the books we read, the movies and videos we watch. You decide what becomes of you. My family is also always stressed about something, but nobody will tell I am like them. I simply distanced myself from them, I hang out with my friends, read, spend a lot of time alone. Avoid them when they are caught up in the drama or fighting. Try to spend most of your time away from them if they are bothering you. Just react calmly to everything that happens.

I have had OBE before, randomly. Yes, we have an energetic body that can travel outside the physical body. I kept hearing all this no-self thing around, but do you ever experience that? In your experience you are someone, you have an awareness and feelings and senses. You never are not yourself.

I wouldn't. I know there are friends of mine who searched for my name on the internet before. Some people do that. I posted quite a few personal posts in the past. It's really helpful to just have an anonymous username. After all, most of us come here to ask for help in personal problems. But thanks for the idea of thinking like my real name was my user, it really shifts the perspective of what I should and shouldn't post.

A friend of mine told me he was reading a book on smoking and he said it helped him because it didn't just tell him what the bad side effects were but also the good effects. It helps knowing the full picture not just the bad things. So awareness is definitely helping people in quitting. Obviously smoking is bad for your health, but knowing both sides can give you perspective on what you are doing. Another factor is willpower. I think willpower is most important. I used to smoke cigarettes sometimes, no idea why, it just felt relaxing. I realised they are too expensive and I also started coughing, so I gave most of my cigarette pack to someone who was smoking more than me and I quit since then. There's a website that tells you how much you spend on cigarettes, it might help: https://www.quitnow.ca/quitting/calculate-my-savings

hi anyone from romania? i never see you guys around

Hey guys. I am unable to love anyone else than myself. And by myself I mean my EGO, not the True Self, which is God/Everything Real. I feel scared that I will be scarred for life again like last time/ first time I fell in love. I still feel deeply for my first lover, but I repress it. How do I fall in love "safely"?

@Farnaby Get in touch with your emotions and don't repress them. When you feel angry with someone maybe you just sit quietly to avoid confrontation, but it's a smarter idea to talk it through with said person. Like honestly telling them, "Look, you hurt me with *this statement*." And then elaborating on what they said and why it was hurtful. In a way letting the person know why they should avoid talking to you like that. If you're angry with yourself, or at life, just honestly ask yourself what it is that really bothers you. And acknowledging the feeling behind anger, which is usually sadness, or shame or other negative emotion. For me it helps to just cry it out, like really just let yourself cry if something hurts. You're going to be so much stronger after that.

Happy for you. And just because you don't have many friends, the simple fact that you're developing yourself and reading a lot will help you out when you're finally having a conversation with someone. I'm also a loner but when I meet someone I can talk just as clearly as them about these kinds of yellow/turquoise things. In the sense that I don't have experience with social life, but if I have to talk about something, I can express myself. I think you are going through the same thing. Never worry about expressing yourself socially, because if you have the knowledge to understand Leo's complex videos, you can easily talk to anyone about basic or even high consciousness topics!

The term "spiritual" is so vast... what IS spirituality really? Some people take 5 minutes to meditate each morning and that makes their life better. Others make altars and complex rituals with their spirit guides and angels. Some read a book on how to become a better version of themselves. Others again make colour therapy or listen to subliminals. Some others hire a coach or psychologist to become who they really are and advance their work. To each his own! You didn't mention what practices you do.. But my idea is, that as long as you don't become obsessed with the things you label "spiritual" (because in reality there's no distinction between material and spiritual), you can do anything you wish. It all should serve a purpose though. It's not just about becoming "a spiritual person", but first you have to know what you're aiming for. Enlightenment, better health, knowing yourself better, working through your traumas, connecting with God/angels for guidance, exploring the hidden, becoming more mindful in your actions... There has to be a tangible goal. I came to realise that spirituality for spirituality's sake is a rabbithole. Why? Because the danger of it is wasting a lot of time exploring ideas that might not be part of reality. My friends who pursued spirituality and philosophy told me they came to suffer because their mind wouldn't let them live life fully! All they did was explore ideas and possibilities, and they didn't put it in practice. And I saw famous people even seemingly getting lost in their ideas and beliefs about reality because of the weird stuff they focused their life on. So if you're ever going to become more "spiritual", take care of not alienating yourself from the real world.

Oh hey neurofunk I'll add some too

@Zec Feeling in to your emotions should be part of your meditation practice, because what meditation really is for is not repressing things or even letting go, but becoming aware. I feel like if someone has gained a deeper awareness or mindfulness through meditation they will usually express their feelings more immediately, thus they will not be resentful for a longer period, I mean emotional scarring, trauma will be avoided. Anger will be expressed in time, in a conscious manner (if the person has developed the skill of communicating in a radical honest manner). Aim to be keep awareness outside of meditation practice too. Also feelings become more intense and "real", as you become radically honest with yourself.

@VerballyHazardous Well idk I just made a new account and added about 35 friends. It's all I needed. Would've been too hard to delete and block 1000+ people. And I mean.. online friends are cool, but I was looking for something that could happen in real life. Most people I met online were terrible friends. I don't really keep in touch with my friends in real life because they live someplace else. Right now the only friend I have is the one I approached a week ago. And im not even looking for too many friends, just maybe a few more to hang out with and discuss serious matters like here on actualized with you guys. @Roy Thanks Roy! I don't use social media much. I deleted my facebook and made a new one. A clean slate. I never used facebook much. I use youtube and spotify to listen to music that's all. I don't have much negativity in my life and never had. I'm a really chill person. But thanks, if I did all that and had all that crap in my life, I'd probably detox once a month. My main question was how to find more friends though. @blueberries No idea and they were from very specific Asian and African countries. But I live in Europe. I don't even know how they found me, we had no mutual friends. I guess Facebook has an algorithm or something.

So many people I met on social media, but all of them are bullshitting humans, maybe a few good artist friends, but the rest are just males looking for female attention from someone that has a decent profile picture. I had an okay profile picture and all guys were like you're the most beautiful woman yadda yadda, the usual bullshit i dont buy, I feel like it's all just people trying to impress someone they look up to but it's so shallow. It's all based on how someone looks. If I looked ugly none would care about my talents or dreams or other stuff that makes me, me. Also I noticed I post a lot of shit. I'm a very random person with all kinds of moods. Social media is dangerous on the image I project in this sense, especially with 1000+ friends. If I'm friends with someone shit, then they affect who I am and I post what they would post. I feel like I ruined everything lately because I posted lots of shit I regret. And there are all sorts of people who are stalking me and judge me. I added all kinds of people that sent me requests.. i had like 700 requests. They are all bullshit people who either send d*ck pics or talk in different language. Rarely someone intelligent, but even intelligent people are not what I look for. I want someone to come with ideas, someone to work with. They all just wanna talk, all day, all just wanna chat. What the fuck do these people even work? How do they allow themselves to spend so much time on social media? They also have nothing to offer, or just offer that they are "a nice loving open-minded very open man that is kind and always good".. you get it. they're also old and writing poems and all kinds of desperates etc. I have a 100+ messages to read and delete and sort and respond and block. Depends on the person. I wanted to create a different account or just delete it? idk. I need it to keep up with friends who are close to me, but the rest I just lost, idk, im in a weird place in my life where I cannot trust anyone. I did an attempt at pickup in my town last sunday and I met a guy who I approached and picked up successfully. He is spiritual, into Ekhart Tolle, artist, and now we are working together as a team to gain more money. This is what I was looking for. Why aren't more people like this? He still thinks someone made me approach him, because it's unbelievable for him that there are people whom you can work with, and people who are into growth and grow themselves. Also girls don't really do pickup. Should I just do pickup and/or approach guys and girls to talk with in the park? Facebook is a mess and isn't good for meeting friends. But people here are not that openminded to someone approaching them. What else can I do to meet quality friends to work with?

You're right, I discussed this with someone yesterday. The idea of there being an ego is a sham I think. Vulnerable. Okay. By self vs true self I meant I love my ego, Aquarius, not the true self, which is god/ everything. I did some work on myself since I posted this thread. I felt empty when I posted it, like I couldn't love someone relationship-wise. I wanted to be alone. Now I'm working more on this, giving up myself to love someone special now... what can happen? Nothing bad I guess. Yeah I had just exactsame ideas in mind. idk where you came from but you really hit the point and yes we sound similar in our approach. If I settle for somebody it's going to get very boring I met someone special but I feel better if we don't put labels and don't force our wants and needs on each other. Just two persons who feel happy when they meet. I might give in after a while and call him my boyfriend. But these initial pursuing behaviors are so nice, I don't wanna give this up. I guess he feels attracted to this exactly, most men are. And I feel attracted to being pursued and him trying to catch my attention What do you recommend? I obviously love other things than myself, I just meant I cannot fall in love romantically. But lately I am proving myself wrong.. And I love all animals not just "pets"

Was going to comment this, should've come online 13 minutes earlier lol Leo you're always earlier than me ugh

Didn't read the books but I'm not monogamous. I ended my last relationship because I was honest with myself. Many will hate on my for leaving such a "great" guy (he was actually boring af), but I have thousands of options soo.

@Codrina :) thanks for your empathy

@ivankiss If im with friends, okay. If im alone, no. No dancing alone. @Epikur We just go in nature in Romania and let go of our inner animal

im scared to do it because ive been to psychiatry a few times for doing something similar...:s

@Member Don't laugh pls this is serious business.... Ok, no. BWahahahahaahhahahahah im such a weirdo

@IJB063 Muzica buna bre (tr. good music, bro)

New poem in English

@Elham Misunderstood? Not understood? Not on the same wavelength?

@JessiChell No it's neediness to be around others and to feel connected. Solitude is the connection to yourself. Disconnection of yourself is ego-death or emptiness. Or absolute neutrality if ego is yet intact.