You know, I've been through that as well... this phase will just blow out of your way. You said that you're not judging them, but anyway you're minding their behaviours. This means that you're just seeing in them what you used to be, and this freaks you out! That's why you are so concerned about it!
A trick that will help you is observing yourself when you're minding negatively the behaviour of the others... It means that there's something to be changed in your view!
If you change energy, you'll attract people who match better to your life! And unfortunately, as long as you see the negative side in the others that's never going to happen!
Cheerio