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Just because someone accepts theirself it doesn't mean they don't want to change or develope. I see true acceptance as being okay with what someone was, what someone is and what someone will be, at the same time.

I think I got it... Though I'm still hesitating. Is it really okay to leave depressed people alone? I mean, I distract them from their negativity, if I was gone they would be worse. Depression is about obsessive negative thinking and when a depressed person is distracted from those thoughts it's just good for them.

Yeah thanks, I think it's a bit more clear

I'd suggest to be as open minded as possible and to put everything on the same level: just as everything deserves to be respected, everything has the chance to be made fun of, and by doing that you shouldn't worry too much about respect, because that's just going to make you filter what you say. Of course, the respect filter has to be on sometimes. It's better to not tell dead people jokes at the relatives of the dead one at a funeral. Or to make blaspheme jokes in a church. Play around with common sense, and when it's possible, twist it with your jokes. Also a very important part of humor is how you tell it. Sometimes people can laugh at you just because you tell absurd jokes with a chill face, or because you make weird faces/poses and use a funny voice. Both these behaviours show that you are confident while being funny, amplifying the "oh no i can't believe they just said that" effect.

My biggest distractions right now are: - Whatsapp - Gossip about people from my school or my town - Youtube videos - Learning things by reading articles or sites like wikipedia I used to waste a lot of time on Facebook, Tumblr, videogames and comics.

Yeah, it's mainly about her being loud. And it annoys me a lot. I'm 16 and she's 40 and our personalities are kind of in conflict: I'm an introvert and speak very little, she's an extrovert and tells people literally everything that's on her mind; I'm more of a "logical thinker", her logic seems driven a lot by her emotions. We're similar in the fact that we both like playing the devil's advocate, ending up doing a lot of useless arguing, sometimes not even realizing we're defending the same side. She would do anything to have the last word, but she doesn't want to hurt me. I get annoyed hearing her voice not just when arguing, but whenever she's talking. I tried to tell her, but she doesn't get it seriously hurts me. Sometimes my dad defends me, for example when it's late and I'm trying to sleep while my parents watch TV/talk/whatever, but my mom just wants to talk and thinks she has the right to do that whenever she wants. Ah, my parents are strongly religious and want me to stay in their cult, I don't know if this changes something but I'm leaving it here anyway.

Thank you, I'm checking out your links!

Whenever I read or hear about someone successful, I find their purpose to be something along the lines of "I want to impact other people's lives". I noticed this is very very common especially among creators. I, on the other hand, don't feel much motivated by people: I wouldn't call myself traditionally selfish, but stuff like understanding the world is what I'd tirelessly strive for, while helping others doesn't fire me up that much. So, is it necessary to be motivated by others when it comes to career? Am I just an individualistic kind of person or is it that my ego blocking me in this zone?

Okay, I think I got it, thanks

Ok, I get that people influence me and that I influence them, no matter what. But that doesn't mean my goal is to influence people, that's just something that happens and it doesn't give me motivation. All the successful people I see around me want to impact people in the best way they can. I guess that's part of their life purpose, and I was wondering if having that purpose is necessary to be motivated enough to run a business or things like that. Please explain if I'm missing something.

I get that vibe as well: many times people don't even think about what being sorry means. They just automatically apologize to not get in trouble or create more problems. But I wouldn't generalize it. If someone actually changes their mind/understands something, they can feel sorry for real.