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Last night I slept in the bed of a female friend of mine, while she was sleeping with her best girlfriend. She told me that it was the first time she let someone sleep in her bed. Now my pajamas smell like her perfume, and I like it. I don't know what those things mean, but I just wanted to share.

@Paulus Amadeus @TimStr You both are right. I don't like spending money for myself and for others. I don't like go asking for money to my parents.

Probably he would have apologized. We are good friends and I'm sure he meant no offense. He wants me to be more generous.

Personally, before sleeping, I find very useful writing in a diary the fanny things that happened during the day

@aurum Yes, he does a little. Tommaso is a kind altruistic person. He speaks his mind, but sometimes he came up with this kind of stuff. But, honestly, this time I felt really hurt

What kind of topic do you usually cover just before kissing a girl for the first time? Random stuff? Emotional stuff? Or something? Do you let her know your intentions somehow? Or Are you kind of mysterious?

After one month of trial, I could say that it definitely helps. I can see the funny side in every situation. I remember jokes better and I can entertain my friends easily.

What if I had a diary where I note the jokes I hear around? In order to develop humor

Is feminism about desexualization?

Are there more "nice guys" now than the past? If the answer is YES, then, does society tend to hide our sexual desire?

The first sexual experiences as a teenager involve masturbation. Usually, that kind of masturbation becomes a road toward ejaculation, a road to feel great for a few moments. That's shallow, I agree. But what if you masturbate in order to try to master ejaculation? I mean focusing on your breath, on your sensation and before you are close to ejaculating you practice contracting your pelvic floor to develop muscular control. Then, like Deida puts it, you feel the orgasm "up the spine and into the brain". You can repeat this exercise multiple time.

Yes I know, Deida helped me a lot, but I should remember what you said more often. Thank you Gabriel Bonus if you succeed when she is with her friends ahaha Thank you Spiral

@aurum So I should start the self-inquiry from the bigger picture and then move on to the smaller things. Not reverse. Smaller things can change, the bigger picture cannot. I hope I got it, thank you so much

@Psyche_92 Bring it on I love pain Pain sets me free (The Tools by Phil Stutz & Barry Michels; chapter 2)

@aurum Ok, I'll try to be more specific. Is talking about attraction unattractive?

I almost forgot! Yes, I'll try it as soon as possible

I'm sorry, "emotional" is too general. Maybe "sentimental" is the best word. I mean talking about previous relationships and analyzing some emotions. At the beginning, I tended to do that to figure out whether she was interested in me or not. Approval need, fear of rejection... Now I tend to avoid that kind of stuff. Ahahahah absolutely not I agree What about the place? Except for clubs and similar, it's better far from prying eyes, Right? Maybe outside if the weather allows it. What do you think?

@Spiral your answer is really concise and specific! thank you so much Actually, I'm not an expert, I'm 19 and I've kissed only a few girls But what I personally find out in my little experience is that: talking about emotional stuff just before kissing isn't a good idea. I did that and I felt like I killed the mood. kissing while sitting hurts your neck. I'm just curious to hear your own experience guys, and what you think about that.

There is a project I would like to keep going. It is a student newspaper. The attendance at the newspaper’s meeting decreased a lot when the three founders leave the project about a year ago. They moved to another city in order to go to the university. The purpose of this newspaper isn’t just writing some articles, but creating a moment of dialogue between us ( students from 15 to 20 years old) In the past we have talked about whatever, even enlightenment stuff. I have known a lot of brilliant guys (like me ) and some beautiful girls ecc... How can I recreate that environment? How can I involve more people?

@abrakamowse thank you I also noticed we struggle to find topics that catch other students’ interest. Usually there are awkward silences and some discussions seem inconclusive.

@Shin ahahaha And also no newbie state

@Leo Gura I'll host you in my house, in Italy ahaha But, sadly, I think no one comes from Italy

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surely not! ahaha I'm not defending the common statement "be yourself" in which it seems like you can stay still waiting for the perfect partner to come magically. I ask this because I'm actually trying to figure out those rules, but they often seem contradictory

You can't just "be yourself". If you want to succeed, you have to find and follow those rules. Right?