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You cant make big leaps only if you dont know your current state, you need to know your limits and how much you can push above them, it takes patience to grow yourself you cant just go to the finish line thats not what someone who understand growth do, its a sure way to burnout. That flame doesnt matter what matters is to constantly improve every day bit by bit.. You cant change identity atm you can only make a choice to move into the person you want to be slowly by time...

Its called self-confidence for a reason, using something to depend on is precisely what decreses self confidence,im refering to not use anything if the goal is self confidence,also nothing outside of you can give you lasting confidence...

@Sugarcoat I was legit calculating the number if i got it right,now i wonder if hes trolling ,since he mentioned that he is 21 years old stage yellow spiral dynamics ,dating 30 year old woman ?

@Sugarcoat Hahaha i just read them i cant ?

@Ayham Your mind can only work for you when you start figuring out things on your own,at this point you dont trust yourself to find a way to stop procastinating ,so your mind is like oh well, he doesnt care about his own methods his own thinking why should i then and follows it by self sabotage you with distractions.. You created the mind that self sabotage itself it thinks its doing you a favour... You actually want to distract yourself...

@Chives99 But here im talking about living your own truth that's the point. Not living your own truth will resault, like topic starter being controled by social conditioning and you would not know who Socrates is... You cant be true to who you are if you dont live by your own rules and principles, if you dont do that you cant lead yourself,you cant be who you are and then you gonna change yourself for women,not being able to lead because maybe she will leave if you going to take her somewhere you want and you will always being in doubt of who you are , what to say, what to do etc..

@Chives99 Why do you think Socratese drank the poision from the cup, when all he needed to do is say his teachings are wrong and save his life?

I like how you say almost to leave room that maybe you not doing something bad for yourself. There is nothing you can say to justify this,because if you think for a second you want to be friends for hope you will get back together.Meanwhile shes benefiting and in control, you being in a weak position,so that's why you never put yourself in weak position where what you want is not a hope but potential reality. I loved one quote: women come and go but your self worth stays....

@Thought Art How your body feels is because you worship them,but ill let you do your thing ,i just said it just in case good luck!

@Thought Art "they are so beautiful" "dont feel confident with my clothes" You dont have game so everything is reaction by default...

@Thought Art Worship=seeing someone as special ,seeing someone as special=reaction, reaction=nervous,doubt, lets get wasted to talk to someone...

Strange every time i did something creative the process of making was like pulling the strings from depths of botomless pit and then experiencing the thing i created was the best part , hitting that play button over and over.You are doing it on more serious level i assume and when you do that, you could be making it so logical and serious that it extracts that joy of why you doing it,probably you are not doing songs you really want to make but what people would like to hear and in that mindframe you cant bring best you , unfortunately only you can know the answer..

You are worshiping women ,it will be like going with a stick on a tank ,but good luck alot of growth awaits!

@The Redeemer Precisely why you came to the conclusion that is your looks, is why there is no "hook point" because you are not a catch, your level of thought is displayed that you are same vanilla guy that she gets to experience every day ,what seperates you on a mental level thats the queastion what makes you stand out to be appealing when you open your mouth and move something in her mind!... You could get that hook point thing(i dont like those phrases ?its like doing surgical manuvers on innocent women ) by looks alone but then what she will realize soon enough(she already did) that looking at the nice body is nothing if there is nothing underneath it! #Game cant be cheated

By simply not caring about the world and people ,you now think subconciously if you are being compassionate,good,subservient then you will get what you want think about it..like giving an extreme example can you catch and kill a fish being compassionate well you can(when i think about it)but you are not being nice,good,emotional,thinking what fish family will experience, you just dont care you do it to feed yourself.Its called being selfish, you just think being selfish is evil thats also part of the problem why you cant detach..(being selfish is cause of evil if we gonna go that path) There is many other things like neglecting parents,causing you to be codependent or having unhealthy attachment to your mom etc.

You need to have a marketing team in your game to know how to sell/pitch yourself to yourself ,so then you can do it to a woman ,you cant express it because you havent sold yourself to yourself first.... Before that you need to really know yourself ,so then you can stand on who you are ,so you not moved or influenced by the situation by her tests etc. You need to have a standard on everything and a structure to your game to lead her in that direction ,otherwise she will see you as someone that she can run her game on you ,aka friendzone that all starts long before you go outside... Cant cheat the game famous saying

Put more substance in the post or it will be locked...

Rewrite this whole thing, it sounds very low quality,tough to understand any of it. Thanks.

That's rough...spiritual journey sure has its dark moments,its mixed with nihilism, so that is normal on the journey, there is this battle :what is the point of it all ,induced by spiritual thruths and ego backlashes after each ego death. Beware of nihilism as being another trick.If there is no point what is the point of making it a problem. Spiritual journey has dark moments they pass.Sometimes they take weeks...nothing you can do about it. If you havent had over 10 ego backlashes(could be more), you not doing the work properly..

I dont get what other people has to do with you and you also judging them? It shows your level of development, if you are so above them, there wouldnt be judging or caring what they do..big self development trap,bigger than its talked about...you just cant grow truly with that thinking and mind deception...

@Yimpa Yes i didnt know its ADHD, i had explosion of ideas/ thoughts constantly coming in (usually i couldnt root it in reality because it was idealistic)i couldnt concentrate on studies fully,now i have really mild simptoms, which one of them is: when i figure something out ,it forces me to move on to something new / new challenge (which topic starter could have),then i remember ohh its ADHD lets continue in same direction...

Im not saying to you only ,but to all similar topic starters, stop just following if you got bored ,think its not good enough ,start do it yourself, its easy to come here and talk when you are just a consumer ,go deeper than whats presented,go beyond leos understandings on your own ,you cant? Then dont complain... Its like spoiled child that didnt get a ferrari for birthday only bmw ...

@Sugarcoat I get what you mean im the same, you seek that deeper connection that people dont have because they are average with no substance, people here are deeper thinkers than common folk,but i assume you need even deeper than that uncommon among the uncommon people to get that missing part fully ,which you need to position yourself greatly to find...

It could be sign of an ADHD mind...