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@mr_engineer Only a man can teach you how to be a man...classic queastion that assumes someone hurt me, precisely opposite i was hurt by not knowing what im telling you,being ashamed of man qualities just because you hear all the time that man being a man is bad and to be a good boy follows it because i didnt know better being lost like you are now...

Because so called problems that you represent is those problems that a man precisely doesnt have,thus you will be called out by someone who is masculine,because masculine will tell you straight in your face without trying not to hurt your feelings and cuddle you with a nice warm tea,you will then become emotional like a little boy they noticed you hold dear to your heart..nobody can demasculate you if you are masculine... In this scene Soldier boy tells how it is to Homelander its man talking to a little baby...

@Schizophonia Nah that is more of a being emotional in the moment than anything to do with empathy. Empathy is just being able to feel the other person and enviroment like a satelite it doesnt mean something cant distrupt the signal. You can add your why behind it, this is my experience... Also curious if there is more to it than what i said.

@Schizophonia I dont get how you can be hipersensitive and being an asshole, that is not what is being meant by here since its personal and i experienced it. Narcissist is also hipersensitive but its not same as what i noticed from this thread its tough to explain if you havent experienced it.. There are actually hipersensitive people who recieve and feel everything 10 times more than other, psychopat dont feel anything and narcissist is sensitive because of the trauma/insecurity/shame...

I was born with this, so i know what you mean, what helped me the most is integrating the qualities of someone who you would consider an asshole,like not caring(destroying empathy not fully but enough it doesnt bother you),taking logic over emotion in contemplating about relationships,becoming more selfish,full acountability on yourself,seeing emotions as weakness,not judging yourself in any way ,not judging anyone because you dont care about the outside world(to kill this strong empathy even further) ,also taking more of a man approach to living life(study from someone that is ruthless but not with toxic idelogy, if they talk bad about someone then thats not it)takes time and hard pills to swallow until you dont feel emotions that strongly but in normal way...meditation ofcourse helps.

@The Redeemer You lying to yourself i can see your lies,well do you care that i dont miss anyone ,i never get lonely and you find it super deep worth discussing about. Peace. Ps. Make threads more of a quality next time

I miss the days of quality threads on this subforum ,add something deeper than this your threads are just random thoughts with no structure. You dont appreciate yourself so she is special bottom line...

You live in reality where you pity yourself about such a trivial thing that is sad,so why would they give you a chance based on your weak perception of yourself and the world? If you think women accepting you will make reality better then she got you, she is on top you are at her mercy...

@Sugarcoat Appreceat it ? @Ajax Yes exactly thats 100% how you are if you dont know about this topic.You are basically caring too much which causes emotions and your attachment to them,basically you want things outside of you ,which someone who is working inside out doesnt want anything from the outside, because he pleases himself all the time.. For example if you see a woman and think she is sexy, automatically you are influenced by the outside then you look to have sex with her automatically ,because you influenced by her looks (the judgment you placed on her) and then you will look to manipulate the situation based on the judgment you made of her that she is sexy by being different towards her than with the woman you think is average.Someone who is influenced by himself wont look at her as sexy and wont look to have sex with her because that stops him to be authentic and look at her as human being. Probably too advenced or i dont know how to convey it yet it in simple terms, if that's possible. Perfect example is character Wednesday to check out but you will look her behaviour and not her thinking process..

@Ajax Im stealing here, but it has everything to do with man/women dynamic, you think you are leading a woman, no you are not you are leading yourself and she is the one that chooses to follow ,you think you are influencing outside first no, you influence yourself then outside follows or not ,you making it about outside world in ,instead inside then out doesnt matter(it matters to adjust a littlr but for simplicity sake lets keep it like this)... Its like everything is happening on the inside but you kidding yourself that you have anything to do with the outside world, its all inside working out...this is not enlightment its game of everything and its you..

@Sugarcoat im getting a rash just by staying here take care ✋

@Sugarcoat Its not that easy for me, if i hear someone saying women this women that, im getting allergic reaction to it and when i caught myself getting involved in it you can call me a doctor to bring me back to life ;)...

This is my favourite topic at the moment that im wrestling with, its like an art form of balancing,not trusting mind,connection with yourself all that good stuff... I hate you for making it to trap me in here ?.

@Thought Art You need this more than you know it, keep bleeding but proactively,reactivley doesnt count for the blood bank ...

What kind of life can you enjoy if you didnt bleed for it?

@jdc7733 Cortisol effect prefrontal cortex yeah,so you need to either fix the mindset and all your thinking patterns based around that thing or you need to get small wins to increase dopamine.Or if you have a chance to rest few days so it comes back to normal.

You just dont want to do it plain and simple. Where did your charm and skills go, i remember you had it in abundance year ago and brag about it?

@Salvijus I always wanted 1 tatto and one tatto only ,it havent got stale in last 5 years, but there is always that fear ill regret it in few years...tattos are mostly representation of some trauma inside, that was personal so you brand yourself with it...

@StarStruck Thats exactly my point you judge tattos based on your reality and who you are in it ,that makes you see them as bad thats firts layer, second layer is how you view women and yourself with them ,that makes you not say the truth, so you then act that way and thats your limitation. You seeing my messages you can only interpit based on perceptions of your understanding and how you see things, then you judge it if it doesnt match your reality and all of that is basically lies on top of lies because if it seen you will say my truth is: i dont like tattos because if you cant answer because you were brainwashed by something...

Its funny how with just one action there is a chain of things associated with it ,not saying truth=looking for her validation,not seeing yourself valuable,being something you are not,manipulative,scared to lose her etc. because fundation is build on lies and not who you truly are ,because your reality is not you,but all the peope who told you who you are and now you live it... Your reality and who you are in it is your limitation and what you must live

This thread is toxic and posion for those who are innocent bystanders, im locking it.Way past the original queastion...

In my opinion course is too advance for you do regular enlightment work, if you cant meditate for 1 hour then you are jumping to the university while not finishing gradeschool..

Loved this post been thinking about it good points...

@Vrubel how long? @Spiral I agree with you on everything but sex ,since you giving her a service there and im quoting "who controls the bedroom controls the narrative".Many women that are nagging and complaining is because they are unsatisfied in the bedroom.. You can tell who is good in bed by how quiet and drama free space is ?

@StarStruck But she doesnt know the difference between a man and a male ?‍♂️...