NoSelfSelf

@Emerald yeah i was mixing attraction stage and relationship faze..."problem" is that i think that the girl i want is not attracted to the man i am now so im trying to change...

Yeah its still happening by itself dont get bothered by it too much you will see in the end there is no you doing anything and you will "think" well all the fun is gone there is noone doing anything how funny but it wont bother you

@XYZ yeah true but to express it more clearly how can you change when there is noone doing change its like you are on autopilot idk if this makes sense just curious how it works its a mistery....

There is nobody whos listening and talking its just movements and sounds happening...nothing wrong...

@Emerald i can tell you hes really lucky to have you...i was sharing and acting naturally(sharing etc) like you describe but these days girls have no patience with those things if they see that you have some problem they move on ....

States come and go its not a state

@Emerald Yeah i was honest and it didnt go well relationships would be so easy then every time i have some problem ill spill my emotions on her to deal with it you think your husband is 100% honest with you he probably say stuff only when its really necessary and thing built up inside....if everybody is high quality emotionaly stable people we wont have relationship it would be reserved for the elite...im openminded i can change my mind but this is what i got from direct experience so far....

@zambize No dude girls text goodmornings and what are you doing call you 5 times a day because they want to feel your presence(when they love you) they are made to recieve the man presence and let go(if you ignore her then she will think you dont care )...thats why they first make it hard for so she can be sure you will protect her heart...but yeah they are more insecure than men it has to be that way because they are emotional when guy does that its complete turn off...

@zambize when it comes to face to face interaction you should say things that bother you in that moment when its happening but not arguing or get super emotional showing you cant handel some little thing she does ...

@zambize Yes because he should use texting for making plans and leave her to chase him and asking about what hes doing...he should work on his purpose and spilling his emotions would only cause unecessary things because its virtual thing and him thinking he has to text or something bad would happen

@Emerald This never works she will percieve him as weak and do it more often to make sure he isnt @F A B sheldule a weekly skype date why bother texting texting is just for making plans

Good you are making progress,sometimes when you feel really bad its sign of getting really close but dont label it that its something bad or wrong about you...

Why meditate(actively) after you reached enlightement when you are 98% of the time in no mind....

@Bluff whats here so hard to understand?

Thats not what im asking why they continue to meditate after enlightement if they are in no mind...im saying they because saying i have no mind has a bad rep

Embrace the darkside or it will always be here but how did you turn it around share some mayor shifts you encountered?

Never express feeling of liking her before she is in love with you and by more investing you mean texting her or what?

@tsuki yeah like life @ajasatya so many people solve tough problems but they solve it in such unconcious neurotic disfunctional way that there is no high development needed

@tsuki yeah thats why i asked developed or not who cares?

@xoxoxwillxoxox Thats all good but why is he developed with all this things...is it then hes more capable to do things have more options?

Still confusing ??

@SQAAD how can you do it for 1 hour!? In 10 minutes im fried...

What do you expect to get from reading non fictional books?

Describe him

Tests test your strenght and what are you made of if you pass them then she will feel more comfortable to surrend to you to lead like shin said...