NoSelfSelf

@OneWithAll not everyone is unconcious there are many that are developed and its actually good to spent with unconcious people because you can learn alot...and thinking you are superior to them is a trap lack of development on your part because every behaviour and act, you could have easily fall into and its not far from you and any conciouns people...

@OneWithAll you misunderstood there is no conflict between solitude and relationships you can have both its stupid to limit onself in anything @Pilgrim its not manipulative to be a challenge that creates excitement that is understanding of how attraction works...giving eachother what we subconciously desire is good otherwise you pick the other (in your word non manipulative way )that wont be interesting and will fall apart ...

@Preetom i think its not problem of marriage but who you marry and who you are and how do you understand opposite sex its a complex system that people just get into not knowing anything about it cuz of arrogance..

@MM1988 yeah fucked up thing is you will suck even more before you will become confident masculine that you really are...but like shin said practicing things that we talk here will make the process easier but it will still suck...you have to do what works fail at it until it becomes second nature...i also have to do this so i know what you are experiencing...

You are looking in a wrong place women dont want you cuz you are no challenge,have weak energy,dont appear confident,beta...thats what you have to fix otherwise you will get same resaults every time...Biggest thing you have to be a challenge and you are easy...

You will intuitively know who you are and that you cant be seen but you percieve everything..

You can meditate,you can meditate with inquiry deeper is realizing who you are as an observer who cant be seen...

Embrace vurneability...

@Jack River first queastion..yes...not resisting but becoming more concious what is actually better more concious option...we came into mental masturbation teritory....wanting others to make you happy is miserable life there is no way around this....

@Jack River then you are agreeing that hes self decieving himself and you are helping him decieving himself

@Jack River thats self deception...thats opposite of growing and what this forum is about...with that thinking you are stuck...aceppting what is is ok but aceppting something thats not working is ignorance...

@EvilAngel im not saying you should be alone im saying you shouldnt depend on others to make you happy you either make yourself happy=making your needs met,or you try to milk it from others usually threw manipulation like @ajasatya said not knowing you manipulate because you usually try to please others for yourself...and i could tell you that you now dont really have meaningful relationshipa because when you are needy people dont like it..they move from you..

Depended on others for your happiness? Oh man thats a recipe for miserable needy fearful life...

Impossible to not get attached if you are attached to the body mind...

Kriya yoga

You cant be friends with someone you want to be with romanticly end it or leave it as just casual friend you barely see...

@Lynnel yeah true...what i meant what is beyond the concept of self actualization thats like all aspects of life what could be beyond that?

@Leo Gura how can you outgrow this channel is there anything beyond it?

@Toby yeah thats exactly what it is i was stuck in the limbo i didnt know it has a name cool..

You learned all this stuff,and dont even know what will make you happy fullfiled and you know nothing can get you that from the outside world i think you have to have paradigm shift that only happiness will come from inside and you heared it probably million times alredy but you are not getting it from inside and not from the outside(because you are concious) that created all sorts of mess and confusion...

@ivankiss i made peace with myself that im different that i dont really need anything or anyone to be happy that i could work on myself in peace and dont beat myself up because im not fitting in...or when i do im still indiferent

The story you made is just like my life but non duality was only cure to this game that made me accept what is...

If you are stuck in something,you should consider unlearn everything and start from the start it is also good because now you can avoid things that didnt work for you...this sounds like a great idea to me...

How would you define development? Who is a developed person?Does it all boils down to enjoyment of life in present moment?

Yeah deleting is strange but can you see the title its him vs actualized.org...hes better hes this hes that making generalizations based on people he spoke on here like everyone here understand the theory and applys it...its so easy to run into a trap,and 90% of things he said was not true hes using clips in the vids to prove his point...like it has to be one thing or another he doesnt realize that in one context one thing applys if he operates from ego(which he doesnt even know what it is) then things being said yeah it will ruin you but it has to,(or it dont need to its how you interpet it...) so you can get rid of it...hes into working out he should know that you have to suffer to grow...