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@BjarkeT Man hoping is shooting yourself in the foot thats a scarcity mindset...with that aromantic shes saying shes not interested and mybe if you stick around enough ill give you something...they love attention you are her source of attention(she will use you as her attention/emotional tampon)basically you staying in that position is just hurting you you are your own worst enemy....i cant tell you in words how that hoping strategy is weak,you will find out someday how old are you?

@BjarkeT Because women ask for being in a relationship....you are now friendzoned and acting like a beta male orbiter...

@BjarkeT You never ask a girl to be your girlfriend ?

Hello ive been searching for life purpose for a long time and it came to me that when i find it ill need money for a big vision...so i want to focus on getting only money...people with bussiness experience what to look for at the beggining and what would you do and avoid if you had to do it all over again?

@BjarkeT You want her right? You dont want to be her friend so do it...you will find out it wont change a thing its not a big deal....

Improving yourself...

Life is infinite possibilities ready to be experienced...perceptions and positions..(and this is just one of the positions ?)

@Chumbimba You can isolate the two with your attention ignoring emotions and going into logic 100% and vice versa...im use to just feeling and when i used only my logic it surprised me that you can isolate like that...

Problem here is that hes very kind ?

@crab12 It all depends in the state of conciousness you are in altruistic behaviour could come or not you still value nice things but you dont depend on them like others...

@crab12 Enlightement is not end of your life you still live like before i dont know where do you got the idea that you dont need money etc. Its the same but will lot less suffering...

We are not equal in a physical sense that is a delusion

Its in the breath shallow breathing and breathing with your chest causes low tone breathing through zhe diaphgram(belly breathing) give youmore power

@laurel emotion is what it is... anger etc is learned behaviour(mental construct) focus on feeling and letting go of emotions or using it for (e)motion...

Preatty much what average unconcious person is

@Raptorsin7 Have a who gives a fuck attitude for end goal(detachment from the outcome) To enter the zone 1.Motivation (your involment) have an effort that is optimal to the situation not more not less 2.Focus-concentrating on the moment here helps mindfulness meditation 3.Self confidence-you cant build confidence you can only believe in yourself and build skill 4.Not caring if you make a mistake

@Raptorsin7 Looking for yourself is the single most important thing to do to understand who you are looking for sufferer is good but with that you will just find 1 thing about enlightement

Im infj too well i dont have any advice beside understanding more how relationship works,start putting yourself first you are important too,and do alot of spiritual work...you want everything to be in harmony but watch out which situation is suited for that,which situation is right for you to make it harmonious...

@Leo Gura do you know a root cause of not being assertive?

@Preety_India Omg so there are degrees to narcissism hes the worst in the category...what you just described is classic example what people with that personality disorder do...when you get emotionally attached you are done for long time...im glad you escaped because what is missing is that they make you depande on them for survival...whatch out next time for signs of guys being too good to be true then all of a sudden everything shifts they start blaming criticizing you for everything,angry all the time,controling every step you take then ignore you for punishment as if you did something wrong but they got hurt in some way...they are really insecure and cant live wothout extarnal validation,and feeding of your energy... im telling you all this because there is a big chance you get attracted to same guy again.... Also look into codependency you probably have something like that just assuming...

@Preety_India Good for you! Im impressed you did it so quickly...otherwise they are good at making things so it seems really good then its horrible and then they make it good(idk but they are master at that)...so you get stuck in that cycle..

@Preety_India isnt this narcissist you are dealing with it just sound like it...is he controling and criticize all the small things?

@Leo Gura i have problems with that one day i come to a degree where i see that i was not even born(i become everything) another day i come into the void and another is ego with no mind other is i struggle to even think you get the point i dont know how to stay in highest degree where you are happy with no reason...

Conflict of values is a big problem in relationships to have a best relationship you should have same values...

Because you should know that any perspective how ridiculous it is it has truth in it and point is to combine as many perspectives to make a big picture...most uneducated people speak truth but its low value or it could be a big value to incomporate into your big picture understanding of a thing...every perspetctive=half truth More half truth=better big picture understanding...