NoSelfSelf

I feel you man... you just need one great experience with some people to destroy this belief that there are no people for you...it gets better from there...there are literally millions people for you but you hold yourself to meet them while you think you dont...start seeking people in new places...

@Javfly33 but he said that you have to be real selfish to burn through it to become selfless worst thing you can do is being selfless when you are not up for it...its like selfish /self love then selfless/love for all....

@Javfly33 No.. being bad is also sometimes good its all about timing and right situations its about being integrated being good,bad and all grey in between....

@Javfly33 yeah comes from belief being good will make me the good life, wothout problems...which is further from the truth being good only, wont make you come to your full potential...contemplate whys that the case when you got that and when you see in yourself switch it and push through the resistence...be intentionaly a jerk sometimes...

You give yourself a premission to be it basically...your body will do what necessary to stop you and you dont let it...many problems would just dissapear of people go through those negative resistences...

What do you want from this thread? Any construct criticism ?

Exposing yourself to social gatherings or looking for people online for your area of interest...going through the fear you will find friends more easily than you think now...

Yeah probably good idea to not take substances before you get more centered mind...

Putting too much effort and wanting it to work badly end up hurting you... thats why many guys are detached from catching feelings...it wil take 6 months to completely forget about her peace...

Just a part of the journey... stuff are working its sometimes a brutal process it comes with phases of nihilism and depressiom etc.

Start living your authentic life, work on your social skills and you will meet people on the way...if your energy sucks and you dont go on activities you love then idk ?...

@aurum Just be confident bro ?

I noticed that in spirituality there is a phase where you dont enjoy anything, because its meaningless, then when you come closer to awareness you can enjoy the most mundane things in life...its not like you now wanna live in some cave and only enjoy being you can enjoy anything or just be...

@Vzdoh You are acting in masculie frame and got it all mixed up ?

@Loba Oh maann i thought a girl wrote that one...your masculine is so wounded... @Vzdoh this will work only on guys that dont have options also lol this is a massive red flag for me...if thats a balance im going to die ? See guys women will only tell you what benefits them and then they will friendzone you ?

@OneIntoOne i had panic attacks where you feel like you are going to die and i surrendered to experience and it went away while someone i know couldnt surrender to experience and had panic attack for hours to the point they got grey hair in some areas..

Just allow it to happen without judgment what bad could happen?

Only you can know how much you can handle you start with 5 min then increase over time if you sense you cant handle it...

Yes finally someone got it... alot of girls have problem with this they act as men should pursue ?... But when you pursue you repell her because you in your feminine ...

@StarStruck you need someone to help you and its not this forum...you are not coachable and stuck in your ways...ive been there but was humble that i dont know...

Thats what you think you projecting your feelings on to her they werent mutual... If she tells you that you the nicest guy ever shes basically telling you...you are not doing it for me sexually

@Emerald I overlooked that its true..i didnt take into account that you talking about yourself and not in general terms...

@Emerald This is so manipulative in my eyes but i guess it has to be like this women trying to be selfish as possible to counter mens selfishness(vice versa) in ideal world there should be clear communication for what you want and if other person doesnt want it move on... Its all wanting more and more while not having value to bring to demand

This is disturbing to read ?

@fopylo Doing meditation is nothing for now, did you get more to the present moment and get what meditation offers? I could be singing and never get resaults because i havent embodied what it takes to be good at singing You havent got skills to be good at socializing and want to see resaults its pointless if you think about it....