NoSelfSelf

You are either trolling or have the most insane resaults in history of pick up ? you say to friends i need to borrow her for a second ,make sure she is turning towards you and not seeing her friends, in her world it will be like they dont exist.. you befriend the friends showing them you are not creepy but social dude, if they see you are cool they will let her go

You sound so down but thats impresive dude you manage to pull a girl and you never did it...and with mind that produces panick attack thats like homeless guy owning a villa all of a sudden ?

Becoming something for others to get something from them is never a good idea, its like nice guys trying to be nice to get approval and likes from others..it comes from a weak mindset and frame...to become something of value you do it for self and to bring value to others just because and not to survive better with people just a causion to not go overboard its a balance you cant use just one tactic...

I have friend that we meet once every 3-4 months...i created the list of importance for how much i put in the effort in people, if you are on top you get vip status,if you are on bottom its superficial friendship..rang people based on importance and how much you are in same boat...

Sounds weird but by becoming a victim(seeing its not all your fault) you could move up...

@catcat69123 amazing post ?? Fake front is creation of false self to become liked by others while authentic self=something bad will happen,they wont accept and like you why do you need to be liked? @B_HAZ authentic self dont need to be approved because thats your reward being yourself

First i would regress to talking to clerks in shop then when you feel "ready" when you see a girl you go straight to her without thinking just doing it(have success bar extremely low) the more you do the more mind relaxes...when you start thinking how im gonna do it rather than doing it then mind will find an excuse to not do it...

@Galyna im impressed with people who can do both like leo im not the guy to speak on that i just know thats a good sign you are making serious progress..

Thats exactly what a spirituality process looks like its nothing wrong its a struggle...and all that will pass at the end of the storm

Dont try to function properly accept as you are and if you manage that tall task chip away at first thing that pops and do that for years and eventualy you will get there it took me over 10 years to beat social anxiety its still here a little bit that means chip away some more...depression and helplessness comes from you trying to make it different then it is univers is trying to mold you into something more and it gave you this big task to conquer probably not what you wanted to hear thats just my 2 cents...

Nice work ??

Only is she asks you for an advice or you ask so you need an advice? But usually they dont want your pragmatic advice they want to resolve their emotions to feel better its great recipe to be he male girlfriend trying to fix them its a hell to be in ?

Im not good at this but can tell you what i think you are doing wrong...you are putting on a show for a girl and not being real but fake you dont try being not needy try being agressive for her you do what makes you feel good and let it rub on her...

Its usually a self image problem or you dont know who you are and just dabble in everything and getting lost... Not defining your succes so you dont know if you progressed and looking for external validation etc.

Belief is a function in every human being just like a focus, if you focus on your legs thats what your experience will be, like with belief(there are beliefs in your subconcious that run your behaviour tho and believed automaticlly) and function of believing, like you have thoughts my cat is on fire and if you dont believe in it it wont become your experience if you do however ,even tho your cat is not on fire you will feel like it is...

Im on your side on this one you dont want to be part of something thats not natural to you and thats okay,your mom doeant understand you because she doesnt see it as a big deal i would say go out that day somewhere its worst to be among the people you dont want to be(forced) it wont help you and will just make you resent yourself,them and future gatherings...

Her saying you are too pragmatic means she doesnt want you to fix things rather hear her out and ride her emotions making her open up even more...

Usually either you are dealing with a narcissist thats upset because they cant never be wrong(no acceptence of boundaries),they see you as a nice person and get shocked that you expressed yourself in that way or they see you beneth them as a lower value or they are unconcious of their own behaviours not understanding why you got upset mybe because of unclear communication(you dont know how to express your upset so people can understand)..

Nice attitude ?

Enough

You are in specific situation,but i dont belive in it and dont like it a bit...

Do you feel ready to do pick up? If you do then dont look so far ahead, first you have to built a skill,for example can you approach on command and talk for 1 min about something random? If not start there its not like you will approach and get a date and a gf right of the bat mybe you are natural but its not likely...and you dont have to go on a date just built the skill thats the key...

I think its a self esteem issue, you want to be special and feel it from them,you want them to think you are the man and no matter how many sex you get and attention you get you will always crave it because it gives you sense of importance/validation that you are the man that can achieve the goals you set up ... now how to get rid of it its tricky you have to know you are worthy without it...

Locked as requested.

Does they help in long run or just making you feel bad temporarily?