NoSelfSelf

@Weltesche it does matter what ego you have, having healthy ego(more concious and truthful) oppose to unhealthy(lies,self deceptions,fears) makes it easier for you to observe and see what ego and existence is...

@Weltesche i dont get how it doesnt matter ? ego is responsible for your level of conciousness and in what reality you are living in..i heard it in many places that it doesnt matter...ego must be caught and his power removed before you could see that its an illusion...in my experience if you observe in lower level of conciousness you could see the truth but it wont matter ? In the end it doesnt matter but its too advanced to say just observe imo..

I was going in opposite direction..deconstructing weak ego then making it stronger and the more work i did the more it leaded to awareness...building strong ego is valuing yourself,loving yourself,living authenticly,living your own truth,becoming your number one priority in your head etc...

Self respect for myself would need to be really low to accept this...how much you respect yourself thats how much you gonna tolerate unnecessary things like this...

Whats the context hes bringing that stuff up? I mean thats his problems to fix on his own you cant help him even if you knew what to tell... Its good to be vurnable but not emotional as a man tho... You cant relate because you look at him as someone strong that will take care of situations... You are looking for a man and hes not that and now you trying to force it basically Man doesnt talk emotional and about his wounds to a woman because he knows hes on his own... nobody really cares... he should pick himself up and own his world and others should be looking for his support, hes the one influencing the woman not her influencing the man!

You never ask her if she has a bf thats a weak queastion noone good with girls asks that its like you ask a director of a movie how does the movie end?

Its self sabotage whole psyche how you view yourself is not in aligne with you having sex so extreme anxiety comes to stop it from actualizing... Second problem you dont know yourself and you dont have confidence in yourself because society and gurus telling you how to live your life so you are unsure how to deal in those situations and makes you scared...you could push through it but deep down that confidence issues will be there you having sex or not sex wont fix nothing assuming thats why you desperate to lose virginity...

If you care for being able to defend yourself and people you love or just be a punching bag ?

@Someone here ??

@Someone here See you know what to do but dont do anything for the woman it wont work! Do it for yourself then showing her your life will make her want to have sex 100% but you havent yet started to work on yourself because thats another ball game you are left on your own! no advice from nobody you pulling the strings! Self sufficient...

@Someone here Whole thinking process and who you are is repelling to a woman by the post you just showed us if you cant see it then i cant help you its too much...

You will get married because you are horny cmon dude ? you are so in your feminine that you could get a woman with a foot long beard...

I think sex starts way before actual sex...sexual tension flirting convo should be moving in that direction from the start! its worst when you just have to jump to being sexual out of the blue ..all that "great" chit chat wasnt moving you towards what you want it seems just sex ?

Its cringey because you think other people think its cringey and you dont want that so you hate yourself for doing that...but in the end when you think about it you dont care about it you care what people thought about you and want them to percieve you in some better way..

All is see is no interes from them... And you showing them you dont know what you doing

My point is how can you work on yourself when you actually dont know yourself? You can't!( Here im talking about illusionary self that helps you navigate the world)... There are so much people that ask for advice that doesn't even apply to them.How do you know which path to take?how to think?how to feel ?how to see the world how to eat etc. If you dont have yourself you will become thinking mind of Leo and wonder why you dont improve... If you are not completely focused on your own original thinking of creating your own personal world then you cant improve! You personal world for example how you gonna think about this topic how you gonna behave in this situation? Crazy part is you wont get right experiences to move you to your own personal improvement!! You gonna talk to that girl in the way you think she will like it instead creating your own way to talk to her and then you can get experience to upgrade your way of communicating if you dont have your way you will spin around in circles and become bad versions of who you follow ... It looks simple but check in im sure you will find you dont have yourself you dont know what to do and work on just spinning in circles jumping from one thing to another or its just me ??

@Danioover9000 what are you growing yourself into by doing nofap?

@Loba Its not changing yourself what im saying its building yourself on top of your own authentic self and potential you got as a birthright...if you are fine with what you have thats okay keep doing that thats the point...

@Emrie Great job ?? i know how that is ive been there you were like on level -5 and had to work hard to come to normal level 0 and now that you are hear what im trying to say, you know in general that you need to work on social skills but in what way you gonna go about it? in what way you gonna show up to the people in what way you gonna express your sexuality with a girl ?thats where the improvement lies in my opinion not just general improvement its shallow because you will turn into someone elses copy and mehanical being thats not gonna work and stick for long it will be a long hard manipulation and people pleasing...

@Omni Self help is toxic because it shows you you are not good enough as you are but rather you need all this to be something better than yoursel so you abandon yourself and try to be someone else rather working on your own stuff its how its applied and its applied toxicly... @Vincent S Process is to work on inauthentic self to get what you want which will always leave you feeling disconnected and that you are not really improving real process is going deep into your own ways of doing stuff and using self help as a little map to show you stuff but not become that map you become your own map!

You are alredy at a loss putting her above yourself no matter if you take her on the end of the world and back.... Edit:and putting things outside of yourself that will bring value to make her stay is a big no no disconeccted from your own self better queastion is what my inner world ill show her that nobody can? instead of what venue ill take her...

He hates himself and dont have love for himself to change it going on with the thread is pointless...

You should be deriving insights for yourself and not live leos life ?

Focusing on this bs wont get you any women ?

Whats the point of this thread?