Brandon Nankivell

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  1. Kudos to you for reaching out for support ? Let's get truthful so you can not just combat the issue, but solve it for good if you're open to it ❤️ You'll get the most out of this if you are honest with yourself and set aside time to carefully reflect on each response. Don't skim read and don't always go with the first answer in your head! Are you sure you're not? If you keep telling yourself that, indeed! Great job on giving it a go. You haven't failed, you've made an attempt and didn't get your desired result yet. What was the thought that entered your mind to take another swig of alcohol or smoke that blunt again? Was it a helpful thought or non-helpful thought? Would you like to listen to that thought next time you feel like a swig? You do, but you don't want to. You want the substance more than you want to discipline yourself to not have the substance. The substance has made a big impression on your subconscious, which has you feeling it's very difficult to give up, but it is possible. Avoid this language like the plague. It will never lead you to a solution. Try: "I would like to know what I can do". This is psychological fear speaking. It isn't necessary. Don't listen to it. Indeed, this is escapism and will not solve your problem. The key is to want to give up alcohol and smoking more than you want to keep doing it, but first you have to get honest and admit to yourself, and really feel it, that you want to keep doing it. You keep doing it because there is enough benefit to you to continue it. So consider the pros and cons of continuing the habit, versus giving it up. Set aside sufficient time to do this. If at the end of it you still see more benefit in continuing the habit, then think harder! Or feel free to ask for further support. Would be great to hear from you if this helps
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  3. Why do you want to develop a reading habit?
  4. I ran like my life depended on it. Got my cardio up at least 10 minutes a day for weeks, then it gradually went away. Lots if science backs this up as equal if not more effective than SSRI's. Then focus on the basics - meet survival needs, eat organic wholefoods, get your sleep, have a goal you are working towards, speak and share what's on your mind with a trusted friend, mentor, or therapist.
  5. Dm me if you would like to chat ??
  6. DM me if you would like to chat ??
  7. When I moved to the East coast of Australia a couple years back, I had moved in with a self-proclaimed Narc. I was accused of moving his nuts in the pantry. On the day I moved out, I hopped on my motorbike to get going and the postman rocked up. There was this awkward scenario where as I was about to ride off, narc guy made multiple attempts to step in front of my bike so I couldn't leave along with erratic verbal prompts that seemed to be stemming from abandoment issues. There were also multiple occasions where he would say things to 'try and pull me in' to an issue. It was my first time dealing with a true Narc and I learned quite quickly that when involved with a Narc or anyone for that matter, always stand in Truth and a Narc can't get the satisfaction they desire, and so the sitch they are trying to create never gets momentum. There's many tricks they will try but If always just took what they said on the most objective grounds possible, I would remain unswayed. My replies were often just a few words because that's all that was needed, and gives them less bait to work with.
  8. How do you feel about Nithyananda? Didn't he run away to an island off Ecuador after being revealed as sexually abusive?
  9. Cool share. Noticed he has a video interview at the gas pump: In case anybody else finds it useful to get a feel for an author before diving in.
  10. Breakfast Muesli with banana, dried goji berries, cashews, coconut yoghurt, honey or molasses, and store bought almond milk Lunch Nothing Dinner Basmati rice with red lentils + Potato, sweet potato, carrot, pumpkin, cabbage Everything organic.
  11. @Thought Art +1 similar personality and delivery
  12. If you will, for a moment, drop all of the details about your life ("I intuit I will be at X in 5-20 years, I work 26 hours a week, I play music" etc...). Find a quiet place. Sit still. Close your eyes. Ask yourself: Why am I distracting myself? Then remain quiet. *** What comes up? Often the first thing that comes up, the thing that comes up most, or the one you feel most in your heart/body/soul will lead you to an answer. *** Possible follow-up questions (if needed): When I ask why am I distracting myself, do I feel fear? If so, what is that fear?
  13. 'I think' = hesitation = you aren't feeling ready to let go And that's okay.
  14. By manifest I mean all phenomena (trees, sounds, light, etc...). By unmanifest I mean that which can't be named, spoken, pointed to (the eternal, the unspeakable, Atman) If the answer is yes, why?
  15. God's Mountain by John Scott and for early civilization and intricate details about the crystalline structure of the universe. Out of Australia by Steven & Evan Strong for a controvertial but possibly ground-breaking take on the origin of humans. The Trap by David Icke for origin of existence in general. Some occasional great one-liners from Yogananda in his talks, see Man's Eternal Quest (Collected Essay series), Bhagavad Gita Commentary. Leo's videos.
  16. Thanks for taking the time, much appreciated
  17. Ah yeah, and: If one human learns not to kill another person, why does God separate itself into more humans who also eventually learn (or not learn) to kill others? Wouldn't God learn its lesson through one human, then be able to automatically apply implement that wisdom to all humans? It's like God is repeating the same mistakes through the vehicle of endless humans/ forms etc...?
  18. Great post ? Questions: If God finds a part where it's divine bliss, why doesn't it just stay in that divine bliss for eternity instead of doing all this creating and exploring and risking the possibility of pain and suffering? When one person is at the peak of an Absolute awakening, and they feel themselves as everything that ever has been, is, and will be, how is it that you could have another person on the other side of the world who also awakens to the Absolute Truth? Are there two separate simultaneous Absolute awakenings, even though Absolute would imply there is only one? Is it true that I will (perhaps some point after my physical / egoic death) experience your subjective reality at some point? Will I repeat my subjective life more than once? And therefore I should make it the best one possible?
  19. Why is useful for stuff. Ask 1000's why's and you may enter the wonderful agrippa's trilemma.
  20. God punishes you by giving you everything you want. !