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30 day challenge of studying at least two hours daily yesterday i wrote some questions for a course after i didn't feel the alcohol anymore. today i wrote some questions before and after work, a total of one hour. Took a break and got caught in youtube. I decided to quit for today and wake up earlier tomorrow. i am stressing again thinking about not passing exams. General i feel afraid for my future. will i make a leaving? should i focus on social media instead? plan b? i questioned what i am actually doing at that internship with my time. i don't think my help counts. i am not learning about social media and marketing much from my boss as i hoped. i learned some stuff from my boss but i need a mentor for social media. he cant teach me. he doesn't grow our plants properly. he isn't an expert in that field either. oof. this time off from working because exams made me see things in a different light. i am doing a lot of shallow work there. a little bit of this and that but not even at an average level. i learned a bit about how a business is running which helped clear some limiting beliefs. but is time to move on. i realised i can learn even better how to grow plants form books than what he can teach me. i am pissed. i wasted 5 months working there. the other internship- this guy seems better at his job of cultivating. and i will focus on learning just that. but i again, have to go to someone who does marketing and social media stuff for a living. to learn from the source. not 2nd hand information. and also run my own experiments and read by myself. and combine this knowledge together. i think my main mistake is that i had no idea what or why i am getting into it. and i offered to do social media and marketing beside growing plants hoping i can help and learn everything. i think some boundaries would have helped: i will only help you with x . i will make a decision after exams end. also, i have to prepare some papers for Erasmus then.

30 day challenge of studying at least two hours daily Wednesday was ok. Yesterday was more difficult to study. I ended up not doing the last 20 min. I was very tired. I prepare for an exam i took today. The exam was ok i guess, but some work put it earlier would have helped. Today i slept again after uni. Then went to work for my parent's business. After i arrived home i drank and now i am sitting in bed writing this. I think i will write some questions for the courses i had this week. I realised that I am usually coming from uni tired, Internship work sometime then i go to work and krav maga leaving no motivation for studying. But writing questions one day and review during another is manageable. Today at uni i fell asleep every few minutes with the pen in my hand taking notes. Is something that happens to me very often. My sleeping schedule results in bad notes. I plan to fix this too. General: One of the rednecks told me smth, and i responded back. He shut up. Nice. By choosing to build the habit of studying i neglect other aspects of life. And is ok. I cant be in balance all the time. Is very important. Now i am happy with my life, even if i am stressed of arguments. I am pondering whatever i am actually spending my time productively with that internship. I am not really making any big contribution. Is not challenging anymore. I feel bad to quit. I will join my father's working hours to get into conflict more often. He always gets into arguments and I can use this to get some practice. But after exams. I wanted to tell to a professor how she should run her class and exam. I chose not to because i just want to pass the class more than to make her treat us better.

30 day challenge of studying at least two hours daily Ate a banana after university, yet felt sleepy and went to bad. Woke up 5 hours later. Lol. I already studied one hour. I have a test tomorrow so i will go to bed later again. I am quite tired of studying. If it wasn't for this challenge i would have quit study sessions faster each day I noticed that i am not taking my notes at uni good enough. I will work on this. Other stuff We found out today on Thursday we have an exam. Just got moved from next week to now. Man, cant wait to be done with this shit. I cant even complain to someone because they will punish me in the form not letting me to pass the course. They said good morning to today. And i thought for a few seconds hmmm they are nice so i should be speaking with them more. It's a trap! Each time i speak with them i act in such a way i exhale fear and beta vibes that they make fun of me sooner or later. Interesting. I kept my distance from them at class and everything was alright. I realised that those rednecks made fun of me only when i also made fun of other people together with them. Call it karma. And each time they would pick on me afterwards.

30 day challenge of studying at least two hours daily I arrived home tired af after uni, ate heavy and went to sleep for 4 hours. I waste so much energy thinking when i use public transport and at uni. I studied two hours but the last 30m i didn't do my best. However, i am studying more than before because all that's in my schedule is to study. So i dont postpone it because i have nothing else to take care of. After studying i watched some episodes because i still have time to relax. Lol. The break between sessions gets longer than i want each time. I will use a timer. I remembered that i dont want to speak with my colleagues. In the last few months i forgot this. I want to fit in even if i dont like those people. I will keep my distance from them. I dont even want to talk or listen to them anyways. I just feel weird to sit alone. But is ok. I had this simple idea a few hours ago: to do the lab classes with other groups, and minimising the time i see those rednecks form my group. They only pick on me during those classes, since there are less people. I will be done soon with this semester and i can start implementing this. I dont think i cant stand a fight with that guy because i have less experience. But it seems the right solution to avoid him now, but i will insult him until the semester ends if he's a dick. I dont know if this choice is smart or is a pussy move. I am pretty sure they both will fail uni. In krav maga we dont do sparring and we didnt learn how to protect from punches much. He did kickboxing for 2 years so i might start doing that instead as well.

I decided to cut off my summer goal of doing food delivers on bike. Is challenging but not as much as pick up and driving. Nor will have a big impact on my personality. Same for swimming. I love it but improving my skills with it wont make a big difference.

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So the 6th day of just was finished. This day was the hardest. I had 0 motivation for the last session. I learned from Cal Newport's book that spending a day for making questions for each chapter and only studying them next day is better. Better than learning and making questions in the same time. Now i will spend some time writing down questions. Didnt think of bulling pretty much. I will deal with it when it happens. I think these days i just have to feel it.

Last night the only thing that pushed me to study was because i didn't want to lose a day of this challenge. Is not just other day. Almost completed the 4th day of studying. I am starting to worry for exams, is so much to study. I started to write questions for each topic studied and place it next to the chapter studied. Is very effective but it takes a lot of time. I will study half or less of each chapter, to be sure i can remember something for each. I see the importance of starting early to study. I decided to focus mainly on studying and learning how to study until summer break. I will work for those internships only if i have time left. The priority is studying. This makes me feel very relaxed in contrast with starting to work on other issues all at once. I am actually fixing this problem. I got distracted again from studying thinking about bulling. I decided to fap last night. I felt pressure to go on for 30 days, together with the other challenge. Now, i feel calmer that i have to focus only on studying.

I will take advantage of the Erasmus programme. I will prepare the required papers after exams. Hope i get accepted. I havent fapped in a few days, not sure how many. After a few days I was watching some videos on YT which included hot girls. It seems my mind wants to see women and get aroused as a substitute for not fapping. In 2017 i only fapped twice if i am not wrong and it got to a point when i had a photo folder full of hot girls. Interesting. I started a 30 day challenge of studying at least two hours daily. I study for one hour, break and then another hour. Just finished the second day. I noticed resistance and disbelief i can complete this month. I start to have problems to focus during the second hour. Also, i get hungry even if i ate before. I expect improved focus by the end of the challenge. Yesterday i didn't put a timer for my breaks and it went out of hand fast. Today I took 10 minute break without checking messages, YT or social media. I wont study more than 2 h today, just a few stuff. I am resistant to check what i learned. I searched some tests online because if i do the tests myself i tend to make them easy. I found some test in english on the subject I just studied and i took it. I noticed that it was harder for my brain to understand and process information in english than in my native language. This was one of the reasons i failed exams. It would have required me way more time to understand the concept than if i studied in in my language. This idea was suggested to me last year and i was like pfff i read everything in english so it cant be a problem for me. I was too proud. I am now focusing only on studying. I feel relaxed and more motivated to study. I have more room to breath and less guilt. But i see myself wanting to pick more to do! New hobbies, books, courses and to make myself busy again. I cant understand why! Learning how to study is the bottleneck solution to many of my problems: if i know this i can apply to all the other things i would rather learn right now. I went to sleep last night and i didn't watch yt or tv series to fall asleep. I just observed my thoughts. A lot of clutter. Basically it made me realise that one of the reason i let colleagues made fun & bully me, didn't get a driver license, didn't ask girls out in school or got a girlfriend, made toxic friends, avoid confrontation it is the fear that I will get beaten. It blew my mind. In my childhood my father would pin me down or grab my hands very strong and i just pleaded to let me go for feeling pain. He would laugh. This would happen when i would argue with him or he just made fun of me. Is just sad how my life got evolved from that. I learned that i will be punished if i stand up for myself. Wow. Learning how to fight is opening a door of new possibilities. When i was in 7th grade these two guys would make fun of me for hours and i wouldn't say nothing. This went on for a year, and reached the worst record of bulling i have so far. I got made fun of before and after this. And i acted the same. I said nothing and i would even trying to be their friend. Once i got beaten. I didn't even fight back- i froze. I even wanted to be his friend a year later. I didn't let myself to realise what was really happening. At times i thought they made fun with me not of me. And i fully realised this recently with the bullies at university. Man, i cant believe my subconscious tricked me into not even understanding that i was made fun of. They aren't my friends. Lately, my mind is daydreaming fights and arguments i would have with these guys at uni. So i let myself to think about them, even more brainstorm insults i can use. And i have a list now to choose from. Next time i am made fun of i will come back at them. I had enough. So far i see that learning to fight is the bottleneck solution to many of my problems and i will keep going. This solution solves 90% of my fear of confrontation and the rest i can use to let go, meditation, journaling and so on. I am actively working at the root of this issue.

Update! I will postpone reading about daygame after exams. I will focus only on passing exams. I will listen to podcasts and read books about how to study and apply this knowledge. Is far more important than pick up for now. I just got started to study better and i need time to make it a habit. I decided to move pick up for summer. Moreover i will schedule my activities based on the goal of passing exams. I will do work for the internship or go to krav maga if i finished first to study. Also, i stopped reading a book related to krav maga and one about the internship. I will allow myself to read them if i already studied for that day. The video below is the most helpful one i heard in years. I literally got into a rut for the last 3 years for not applying what they are speaking about. I had a bunch of insights and i am only halfway through.

It makes me so satisfied to see some of my colleagues from university pleading on the group chat for class notes and information on assignments. They didn't even bother much to come to class since we started. Some dude says that he will come to uni regularly after exams- yeah sure. And the people who skipped classes and tests have to take all of them now. Imagine the stress level they have now. Heheheh lol.

I tried to focus on too many goals at once and failed. I didn't end up with any solid skill or knowledge. I put a lot of stress and pressure on myself. But I m making the same mistake over again. I decided not to start another internship this summer. I already have two, even if i didn't start to work a lot for the second. The summer internship i wanted to do is doing something i need time to learn to do it right. I cant do it properly this summer. I decided that i better keep on with my current goals. And pondering which other goals to move for another year too. I have time to do everything and i better do one thing at a time (ideally) properly. Update: After i wrote that last night i had another idea: to focus on the two internships for 2 years and then dive deep into social media. Social media its own thing and requires massive effort and practice. I want to do things right and get some read knowledge. I cant juggle with 3 internships. Is not productive and i dont make real progress. I have all the time in the world to focus on my passions. And i should cut it down to one internships but i dont see this happening.

Studying is getting better but i am not starting each day at the same time in order to make it a habit. I am not so easily distracted by my phone or my rage thoughts. I study in sessions of around one hour to thirty minutes then a short break. I have water on my desk and thick clothes. I noticed i am very resistant to sit at the desk when i feel cold. I would rather be lazy in bad. Practicing deep work is amazing- wish i started a year ago with this. But back then no matter how weird it sounds i thought i dont have the time to learn how to learn. I addition to stopping reading and working on the other goals i said no to any work for my old and new internships. I need the time to study. Last year i did the opposite. What matters now is to pass those exams. I can pick up with everything else afterwards. I went to bed earlier but i remembered that one dude beat me in middle school and that i should check his profile to see what martial art he learned and where. I found one dojo so far. My idea behind this is that i will be able to let it go if i am doing that martial art for more years than he did. Thus being better than him. So far learning self-defense increased my self esteem and life quality a lot so i will keep on this road. I exercised in my room in order to gain muscle a few years ago and didn't see the same results in my confidence. It barely made any difference. Anyways, my quick check turned on to evolve in buried feelings of envy that he had more sex and girlfriends than me. I was in this state for hours looking at his profile. This made me commit to continue with reading daygame right after exams. If i was able to improve my fear of verbal and physical confrontation and i can tackle this as well. I also, remembered some of the insecurities i had back then, and how i got to the point that i dont even think about it now. My brain reminds over and over again of what i still need to take care of, and i have to get the hint and work on it. My best friend is better with girls than me. He always talks about girls, sex and his ex girlfriend. I feel embarrassed for not having what to add to the conversation. But also upset that i have the impression that he is just bragging about his few experiences. This guy who beat me had more sex than my best friend and he didnt use to point it out all the time. Seems that i never stopped attracting toxic people in a way or another. I dont consider ok for him to brag so much and make me look bad. My mind went into several directions, arising thoughts and memories. One worth to notice that i feel like a fraud to work for that internship and of improving myself more and more. I think of myself as a fraud. I feel i am not good enough or deserving to go on with my life unless i am good with girls and to be able to beat the people who beat me. Like how can I do passionate work now and in the future if i cant approach a girl or be able to have better fighting skills than the level that those people had when made me feel like shit?

I think i will get my driver license this year after exams, starting in march. I also decided to focus even more on these goals based on their value for me. So i stopped reading about pick up and everything not related with studying or improving studying. First thing first is to pass all exams. I have time to deal with the other goals after exams.

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The last few days i found myself getting overwhelmed by rage and negative emotions. I imagine how conflicts would go at university or working for my parents. I elaborate ways to insult and swear, where to hit and so on. is very exhausting. Which makes me unable to sleep or study. When i feel this i have to remind myself that i am not dealing with any of that right now. That i am in my room safe and studying for exams. I think that one of the reasons i got into a lot of stuff to do beside university is to exactly make me avoid studying and the struggle that comes with it. I noticed that i want to put even more energy in my hobbies now, when i should study for exams than before. That's sneaky. It feels crucial to work on those projects right now then to pass exams.

Exams are near and I am beginning to freak out again. I feel huge resistance to study but i can tackle it since i passed everything so far. But it takes me a long time until i start each time.

Proud i made some progress improving that skill!

Now i find myself quite wanting more money! I didn't think i would get the taste for making money. Am i getting more orange?

I read a few pages from the beginning of this journal. I cant believe i wrote that. ?‍♂

So I read this article and it reminded me why I started krav maga: to learn to protect myself in a street fight. I forgot this in the last few months and imagined I will do it until brown belt. But that’s not my goal. The article talked how knowing various styles of combat is better. Thus, I will continue with krav for two years and after that boxing or kickboxing. Another thing I am concerned is that there is no sparring in krav maga. You learn dangerous kicks but pretend to use them. My teacher said he never had a fight since he started krav maga because he knows kicks too dangerous to be used- I think that’s bullshit. I want to learn to fight from someone who uses his knowledge in real fights on the street. I know that at kickboxing there are bouncers and other guys who actually use what they learn.

Hey At krav maga the other teacher and the older students started speaking about their fights, some avoided and some done. Interesting that they realised the damage they can make and chose not to attack but others did it for fun. Also, they chose not to strike because the paper work necessary with the police. This made me think about my situation at uni with the two guys making fun of me. And that i am not doing much to stop them. This talk made me to conclude that i cant go on like this, i i will respond their insults with insults. Is not OK to let them treat me like this no matter you put it. And i am sure i can beat one of them but the other has some fighting experience. Even if it leads to fight i will fight, and i will make him hit first so i will hit back as much as i can and then go to the police to file a complaint against him. This whole situation makes me emotional and to get lost in frustration and anger. I cant let someone to treat me like this, especially rednecks like them. Is unrealistic to wait a few more years until i feel confident in my fighting skills to stand up for myself. Another idea would be to ask my krav maga teacher for advice. Also, to ask my father and brother for advice. When i was in middle school i got beat up and i was too ashamed to ask for help. It was a mistake.

@RendHeaven happy new year man!

Started listening to an audiobook called daygame by roosh v. His style resonates with my level of development in relationships: red and orange. Also, begun educating myself regarding the work i am doing for this internship and the one i will start this year. I got pissed for not starting this sooner. So much stress and guilt could have been avoided if i only read books and listened to podcasts ?‍♂ Looking back on 2019, I concluded that I should say a big NO to any work for internship during tests and especially exams. I made the mistake of doing other time consuming work before exams and this is one of the reasons which caused failing uni.