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Thank you to all the replies so far. I kind of know what’s going on here, it’s a lack of confidence in myself and me having childish thoughts of attractive girls being completely different to any other human beings. Looks fade, after all... But I acknowledge this will take some deep work on myself and some re-wiring of my subconscious mind. I started holotropic breathwork last Saturday and plan to do it every Saturday for at least a year, hoping this will help me with many areas of my life. I also go out nearly every weekend, as staying in only makes my problem with women worse, as I don’t physically get out otherwise. I wish it wasn’t such a big problem! But as a young male the issue I have with attraction won’t go away. Thanks again!

@Bill W Lol, you can't use that as an excuse. Minimise your lifestyle down so that you have plenty of time for rest and a good night sleep. I know bills have to be paid, but you can still do it along with 8 hours of sleep at night.

That fear is in me too, but at the moment I am in a job where most of my pay is disposable and I actually quite enjoy the job. I know this won't last forever, but I can't think of a business idea at all and its so frustrating knowing that there is a 99% chance of being a wage slave. But I haven't given up on business ideas, its just every business idea I have it has already been done because I've seen it somewhere else, someone beat me to it... But that's life! Escaping wage slavery isn't meant to be easy, that's why most people are wage slaves. I think its good to remove yourself from the label 'Slave' too, we'd all be suffering more if we were REAL slaves...

Sleep is the FOUNDATION of human health. It is the number one thing we really need for a healthy body and mind. Healthy food and lots of water is good too but it doesn't come close to having good quality sleep night after night. Read 'Why We Sleep' by Matthew Walker and it will change the way you look at sleep. We humans are the only animal that purposely deny ourselves of sleep in order to do more, its absurd... Other animals only skip sleep if their survival is threatened.

@wk197 do you have any other solutions then? Lol

@RareGodzilla The only solution for incels is to stop looking on the internet and go out and meet people in real life. Being sociable is 90% of the solution to getting laid. The solution is so simple but instead they sit there on forums playing the victim all day. Also, before the internet, there wasn't even the word 'incel'. They have literally created their own suffering with labels and playing the victim... Sad really!

You need to make all your problems melt away when you're sober, otherwise they never really go away. The MDMA will only make your problems worse when you have your comedown. What goes up, must come down...

@Cepzeu you’re wrong about people being addicted to cigarettes all their life. People quit all the time and never go back.

@Marks199 I think it’s important to have people around you who you care about and who care about you, but you have to get over the deep loneliness and realise that you are alone, always have been and always will be. But that takes a lot of work to get to. Relying on people isn’t all it’s cracked up to be because if they go, your screwed. That’s why it’s important to face it head on. But connect with people more, it’s great for the soul. Just try not to rely on them to be there 24/7. It’s needy and unhealthy.

Didn't Leo say that to get rid of loneliness, you have to go into it deeper. Like a solo retreat or something? Great for introverts, not so great for extroverts...

@Giulio Bevilacqua Of course! They don't want the new you, they want the old you. I'm telling you now... if you stick with these people it will be incredibly difficult to grow yourself, which is what you want, right? Don't make the mistake of looking down on these people though, because they are just doing what you were doing

@Giulio Bevilacqua I know what you mean. Toxic people do rub off on you unconsciously if you spend a lot of time with them. And like others have said, if they are doing unconscious things around you all the time, you might get dragged into it too. It might be best to separate yourself from anyone you think is acting like a chimp and start finding people that go to yoga classes and stuff like that.

You don't deal with them, you let them be

Being single is not a problem at all, but you will get lots of people tell you otherwise. Ignore it... Being in a relationship takes a huge amount of self development. So develop yourself first before getting into a relationship again. Also, you are still young, in your 20s you most likely are emotionally immature, so just focus on yourself and make yourself a valuable human being.

I've made the horrifying mistake of telling my Mum and girlfriend about Leo and his videos. My Mum is really interested but thinks I'm going down the wrong path and my girlfriend just can't get her head around most of it, however, I do not blame them. This is tricky stuff. And I'm still learning all the time so I consider myself a noob with this stuff. I honestly think you should keep this work to yourself, use it for yourself and yourself only. It kinda looks bad putting all this stuff on other people.

I've found relationships to be the trickiest thing to be in. Its a constant battle with yourself and the other person. That being said, I do enjoy having a girlfriend. But for me they are a complete mindfuck, a constant test. And like Leo said, if your completely honest with yourself, all your trying to do it get your own needs met... that's the mindfuck of it all!

Most definitely. I'd say all The Beatles were stage green at some point. John Lennon just wanted world peace, and George Harrison was a hippie for sure.

I blame my parents for me not trying hard enough at school. I wish they sat me down and said “listen son, you have to try hard at school, and if you don’t, it will come back to bite you on the ass later in life” I’m 25, I probably still have time to do something better in my work, but it feels too late. I didn’t realise how important it actually is to get good grades at school. I had way too much fun with friends. However, I know now that there is nobody to blame except myself, which is terrifying to admit to myself. I’m glad I’ve found personal development and spirituality, but that won’t fix the career problem... Ouch...

I'm addicted to Leo's youtube videos. I can't tell if its a good or bad thing either... Help

@themovement How old are you?! Lol

What do you guys think about this? I think its the perfect way to go from stage orange to stage green. Is this actually possible to achieve?

Why don't we all stop putting Elliot Hulse on a pedestal? That might solve all these problems... Use spiral dynamics on yourselves...

It’s all inside of you, you might have some inner demons and you see it all around you, like a projection. Thus giving you a negative attitude towards life. If you face your demons and face your fears and realise that we are living in paradise, then you may begin to feel kore positive!

@SFRL Exactly. He makes videos about the things that are trending at that moment. Breath work, Alpha male stuff, Red Pill, MGTOW, Donald Trump. Its easy to see through when you look at him closely. He hasn't really got anything unique and different to say, just what ever he can jump on. I'm bored of him, I'm bored of people that jump on trends for money. Its probably addictive to him doing all this stuff...

Even though I'm nothing special, I do tend to feel superior over other people... I need to stop doing it, but I find it hard, maybe ego has a lot to do with this? We all start somewhere so really we can't judge people. But people can only change themselves, nobody else can do it for them.