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@Arcangelo I know, they are the comments I am talking about. I just need to know if its a good idea to 'skip stage orange' and go straight to 'stage green' I think I have the answers now, I will certainly talk to girls and flirt with them here and there, but I wont be doing pickup. Its too creepy for me, there's something about it that I don't like. I mean, I'm actually looking for a girlfriend that I can share deep connections with, not dating and shagging 200 women before a certain year. I just needed to know if I was alone in thinking this way...

@Michael569 really great comment, thank you.

@JohnnyBravo great post. You summed it all up! i am pretty good socially, I sometimes get a bit of social anxiety now and again but this is with difficult people, most people are fine to talk to and so I do talk to them. But yeah, there is so much bullshit on the internet, and I’ve fallen for the trap many times, most recently being Leo’s recent comments on this forum. I know he’s right in most of what he says, but the pickup stuff is just bullshit. I hope he knows it’s bad. It’s his video on YouTube that speaks more sense than his comments on here. thank you everyone for the replies, I needed to ask people before I went mad. It’s like, I needed to confirm I wasn’t skipping over something Leo has said is important.

@JohnnyBravo thank you! this is exactly what I have been thinking, these pickup guys have some deep issues that they need solving in other ways, like counselling or meditation maybe. It just isn’t for me, I can’t do that shit to people. And I’m happy enough with my looks and personality that I don’t need to validate it by chasing after vagina. Dont get me wrong, I love women. I think they can be a lot stronger than men sometimes, and I’m not going to manipulate them for my own silly needy needs. There’s too much suffering involved.

I meant so they have a positive attitude about life, and are generally friendly people. They are the ones you want as friends. Obviously they aren't going to be happy all the time, but neither will you. I honestly think having good friends leads to us having a better life. But they are hard to find!

Of course you need friends, life can be miserable without people to do fun things with. Just make sure they are positive people and are into the same stuff you're into. And beware of fake friends, you need to learn to screen them out of your life.

I get lost in personal development too, and have sometimes rejected my friends when I should have gone and hung out with them. And it's come back to bite me! I've had to let go of some of the friends that wanted to have fun ALL the time. I've recently quit partying and late nights and I feel incredible, and I think everyone can gain from quitting drugs and alcohol. Well done for not losing touch with your fun side!

I've found that the only way to get rid of. social anxiety is to literally get out there and talk to random strangers, or to get. a job where it forces you to talk to people. For me also, I had to quit alcohol. Alcohol had a HUGE effect on my social anxiety, I stopped drinking and my need for social connection increased, so now I can socialise without many problems. In fact, I actually get energy from talking to people. Not talking to people drains my energy and I would just want to hide away indoors all day.

Lifestyle minimalism is waaaaaaaay more important than getting rid of items in your house. Watch Leo's video on it

I don't blame her... Who gets married these days?

Obviously you don't have to have kids at all, but most women look like they love raising children! You could just have animals instead, plenty of people just have pets. Children are a full time job for some women, and other women focus on their careers or whatever. Ask the women with children around you in real life and you might get a better vision than asking random people on this forum.

For a woman, having children is probably the most fulfilling duty to have, your greatest duty on earth will be achieved. But it's a personal choice, plenty of women choose not to have children. The only advice I would give is make sure that the person you have them with shares your values, otherwise it could end up bad for everyone involved. And don't listen to the pressure other people put on you, be wise and make your own mind up!

I think everyone needs to let go of the labels 'alpha, beta, sigma' All of this is extremely limiting, with no room for actual growth. Just be yourself without any labels. All this 'alpha' bullshit is like being back in the school playground. Time to grow up and let go of the silly immature labels we use to keep ourselves and each other in a box.

The only way to break free from social anxiety is to go out and talk to lots of people, random people, friends, family, whoever. Deep down I think everyone can do this, and it's only when you do this that you can be cured from it. I don't think Leo is going to do a video on this as it's too simple to explain. Just get out there and socialise! force yourself through the pain of it!

Having lots of free time is NOT a bad thing at all. Most people's problems occur from not having enough free time at all. You just need a couple of hours a day to meditate/do yoga/exercise/journal.

There are videos about Red Pill and MGTOW everywhere on YouTube, and I have seen Leo comment about how bad it is on here a few times. I'd love for Leo to do a video about why it is bad, because some Red Pill stuff does sound logical to me. Hope he gets to see this!

'30 Ways Society Fucks You in the Ass' and 'Lifestyle Minimalism' They have completely changed my world view and whilst at the start they made me angry, after some reflection and. contemplation they have given me peace of mind. There are so many videos of Leo's that I love, but these two are just incredible. Thank you Leo!

So do I! I need answers on why the Red Pill and MGTOW are like cancers. I know they are both incredibly negative and the people who promote it all seem bitter and twisted. But I need answers as to why they are bad 'Philosophies'

Come to the realisation that we are all doing the best we can, and we all need love. You shouldn't judge other people based on their 'level of consciousness' At the end of the day, everyone has to change themselves, it isn't anyone else's business what others decide to do in life. We can only really give advice.

I honestly think its outdated and old, it can also be great for people who make it work well, but of course that is rare. With the divorce rate skyrocketing, I'd say just be in a relationship and don't get the government involved. Also, people think that marriage is the end goal in life, and this is simply delusion.

Hi all, It has recently dawned on me that I need more life experiences. I am 25 years old, currently in a well payed job that although I enjoy, I don't think I can carry on doing it forever. I've saved quite a lot of money. The thing is, I feel that I have wasted a lot of my time just working during the week and partying at the weekends, and not getting out and about more, taking in all life has to offer. I have been watching Leo's video on 'How to get started with self actualization', and he says on there how its important to get more life experiences, I feel like I have hardly any. Where do I start? Would travelling give me this? Where are the interesting, cool people? I also feel that I am just letting life slip through my fingers, each and every day, and I really do not want to become stuck in my ways like so many other people I see, and I can see how much suffering it is. (Not to demonize these people!) Can anyone help? Any advice would help massivley.

He is continually growing, so his personality will change. I love watching him change, he was awesome 5 years ago and he is awesome now!

The problem is that its extremely addictive, and you get shitty withdrawal symptoms if you have been drinking it for a long time. I drink it all the time but it doesn't effect me too negatively, I can still do the things I want to do.

Happy Saturday! Today I read up about Eckhart Tolle’s story on how he was ‘enlightened’ and I’m really confused about how he did it. From what I’ve read, one night he woke from his sleep and had an epiphany, got enlightened and was in a constant state of bliss and completely in the present moment. It all sounds very well and good for him, and it sounds like what the people on this path want in life, but it sounds a bit too easy. So how come we have to do so much work to acheive this?? Can’t we just be in a deep bliss right now? Is there anyone other than Eckhart Tolle who has achieved this deep bliss so easily? After one night? It sounds like he didn’t need to do years of meditation either There might be an obvious answer to this so I’d love to hear from anyone who can shed some light on this. Many thanks.

I find vegans too aggressive and they give off the whole attitude of ‘if you aren’t vegan then I don’t like you’ and it comes across wrong for me. They say they are healthy but they look anything but. Most of them look like they are starving (which they probably are) sorry if this offends anyone who is vegan, but we’re all here for truth...