Omni

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  2. Posted

    As someone who was diagnosed with ADHD and blamed a lot of my problems on ADHD - from my experience it's simply symptoms from the lifestyle that create and reinforce the idea of ADHD. Perhaps to some degree my thoughts are sporadic and recurring but i'd argue that comes from improper parenting (due to unconsciousness and culture - not exactly the parent's fault) to be able to teach proper techniques to help clear a racing mind, falling asleep etc, but it can easily be misdiagnosed for so many other things (and this isn't limited to ADHD) that it's hard to say whether or not it exists as it's own true unique disorder.

    Adderall and one other type of prescription both were not helpful in the pursuit of minimizing ADHD, in fact the side effects of the drugs were much worse than me being antsy. 

    A few things that i've known to alleviate many symptoms of my "ADHD" such as insomnia, hyperactivity, impulsiveness, etc

    • Don't consume caffeine
    • practice focusing techniques, don't multitask
    • limit addictions if possible, dopamine fasts might work well here

     

     

  3. Posted

    3 hours ago, Ampresus said:

    @Omni You are acting as if I have done this before. Only once. Rejected. I know of the possibility, I just don't want to keep it all in. Thanks for the advice.

    if you've only done it once before than this is practice, you're too focused on the end result. I'm not an extrovert, dealing with crowds drains my energy faster than any workout could. If you go in as "i'm gonna get rejected, she's gonna think i'm an idiot, what are her friends gonna say about me when i leave? Are they gonna tell the rest of the school?" then you've already lost the battle. 

    You're still in school, you're a grade above her which in some context gives you hierarchical advantage, people are generally intimidated by any grade above theirs, if you miss out on this one then you leave with more experience, two rejections under your belt is better than one despite what you may think. You won't ever figure out what you did wrong if you succeeded and got her, therefore you'll never get good at it.

    Go in with the intention of this being a win situation for you no matter what, you're no longer oozing with insecurity. You're focused on improving, in fact school is the best place to make these failures, despite any objection you may come up with. 

    If you get the girl, then you get the girl, if you don't then you gained experience in a situation where you're uncomfortable - which is exactly what you need at this point, plus you have plenty of opportunity for other chicks and that rejection doesn't seal the deal, you can always try again, you're acting as if this one move will alter everything in some massive scale and putting way too much importance on it.

     

     

  4. Posted

    6 hours ago, Ampresus said:

    Hello everyone.

    There is this girl who is one grade below me. Recently I have had an eye on her. We have never talked or hung out. I know I can approach her if we are private in the hallway, but that never happens.

    I see her when we switch classes and my class gets to have her classroom. For a brief moment I see her.

    I also see her during breaks. Now you might say that I should approach her during the break. Of course I have thought of that many times, but she is always with a group of friends. Me as a loner am always alone. Either reading in the media library or waiting in front of my next class. She and her group of friends most of the time eat in the canteen, somewhere I don't come close to while it is still Ramadan.

    Any advice on how I approach this lower grade girl?

    A classmate of mine told me how he got to date someone in a lower grade after I asked him after school. He said that he contacted her with social media. I, however, deleted all social media apps. It is mostly distraction for me. However, if you guys suggest this too, I could make an account again and try to contact her. After her answer for a date and (maybe) exchanging phone numbers, I will delete it again.

    Pfft

    Ask her in front of her friends. Perhaps even have an outgoing approach to it and say "Hey! how are you guys doing?" Fit in a few lines of small talk and proceed with "so, (insert name here) I was wondering if you were interested in going on a date, etc etc - important not to be too attached to the outcome here.

    if you win the group, you'll likely win the girl. This isn't always the case but that's a clear indication of confidence and they will all pick up on that instantly, don't be super quiet and non-talkative, just play it casual as if they were already your friends.

    If you're rejected don't walk away in shame, go along the lines of "no worries, figured I'd ask anyways. Have a good day guys - and if you change your mind you know where to find me" type shit.

    Initial rejection doesn't mean you've lost her, she may reconsider "lost the battle but not the war, blah blah"
    though don't take this as permission to act as a stalking creep if you are rejected, just be open to the fact that her one response isn't always permanent.

  6. Posted

    7 minutes ago, Truth Addict said:

     

    @Omni I didn't mean that. I meant that it seemed like stage Blue morality being preached to everyone, not stage Blue in particular. Please, try not to be too gentle with me, I understand your criticism and it's fine. I think I am well aware of why I felt disappointed, and that is because I place so much value on Actualized.org.

    Misunderstanding in that regard then - i'm going to finish up with this post and then get back to my work that i'm procrastinating on;

    If i'm being truthful about my opinion, i think you're not aware enough of why you're disappointed - otherwise you wouldn't feel the urging to express it or suppress it, there's a third option: letting go of it. But that's much harder to accomplish and will many times either be confused as suppression or disregarded as not even an option.

    So what i'd like to point at is that your username, the very symbol that you want to identify with on this forum is explaining what you are: an addict of truth. You've stated you value actualized.org and you were strongly disappointed. These are all identifications, keep in mind i'm also not criticizing from a point that is free of identity, i'm in the same boat.

    However if you do desire truth, eat yourself alive. theoretically of course. I mean, theoretically or literally is fine but i'd suggest the former.

    eat yourself alive until there is no addict left.

  7. Posted · Edited by Omni

    5 minutes ago, Truth Addict said:

    I'm really disappointed after watching "What Is The Point Of Life?" episode. I didn't really expect to find real tangible answers in there, but unfortunately, it felt pretty much like stage Blue brainwashing.

     

    Your very first statement in this post was specified at saying his most recent video was targeting blue. 

    You're more than welcome to express your disappointment, there's nothing wrong with it. I'm simply attempting to help you be aware of a potential blindside.

    It's easy to scapegoat, but how do you respond when you take responsibility for it?

    Try not to see this as a personal attack, rather a helping hand from one ego to another. You can't see what the back of your head looks like, using a mirror can be difficult at times, but it's much easier for me to get a glance and explain it.

  8. Posted · Edited by Omni

    10 minutes ago, Truth Addict said:

    @Omni would I not be allowed to vote for Trump if I were enlightened? I can have strong opinions and be detached at the same time. There's no suffering for me here. I've actually enjoyed the discussion, the agreements and the disagreements.

    I'm not telling you what you would, should, could or (n't) do with or without enlightenment - quite frankly that example is arbitrary and somewhat missing my point.

    I'm simply pointing out the strong sense of identification. Nor am I saying you're suffering just because you're strongly identifying either, in fact gaining pleasure/enjoyment from egoic actions is precisely the reason egoic actions are so easy to pursue. Of course I don't know you well enough or even myself enough for that matter to take a guess whether or not you're enlightened or even close. 

    My question for you:

    Why do you see Leo aiming at lower stages on the spiral as disappointing? There's more here than just what appeals to you, and targeting more demographics on the spiral is actually beneficial to us all.

     

  9. Posted

    2 minutes ago, Truth Addict said:

    I'd say yes, because I'm open to being wrong.

    Your objections and disagreements are a proper step to "truth" - though are you questioning your desire for where you want Leo to go with Actualized.org? You proclaim strong objections while stating that you're aware of the map/territory, of course i don't have enough insight into your situation to tell you this as a fact, it seems like you stumbled into a trap.
     

    Keep in mind while all of this is going on you're using the models Leo has set up, lingo and all to objectify his own work, which is actually the point. But It seems as if you're getting lost in the identification here.

     

     

  12. Posted

    It's good that you've allowed yourself to become vulnerable and have opened up, especially publicly despite your millions of objections.

     

    A few questions that might help your journey:

    • Why? For any of this, Why do you feel that way?
    • In what ways do you do the same things you dislike?

     

    for example:

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    I hate how my older brother is so arrogant.

    Why do you hate that he is arrogant?
    How are YOU arrogant in the same ways?

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    I hate it how they bully and make fun at gay men.

    Why do you hate that they bully?
    How do you bully others? 

     

    Keep in mind your shadow is your blind-side. You will not just see these things as obvious, they will be hidden and very hard to catch unconsciously. Same with whoever you're judging in these situations - they are also NOT aware of what is going on and assume it is completely acceptable.

  13. Posted

    It seems, generally speaking (not excluding myself from this generalization) , that most of the forums is used for "finding other like-minded individuals to interact with" but simply leads to endless mental masturbation. And of course there's plenty of other variables at play other than just the forums that would attribute towards transformation - but it seems like trying to sift through everything that is said in hopes that there's one nugget of truth seems less likely when you account for the fact that there's no guarantee you'll even notice the nugget of truth. 

    all in all, do people who achieve true transformation reside in this forums, or is this just another fly-trap for egos and the one's who have achieved self actualization and or enlightenment simply move on?

  18. Posted

    1 hour ago, SQAAD said:

    @Omni

    I have not received the answer to the question of why do i want the Truth. That's what i am working on. My only answer so far is that i want the Truth because i want the Truth. I want to go deeper than this answer but i can't.

    Think of your ability to question like a machete within a dense forest and everything that doesn't hold firm isn't truth. You can go further, you don't want to.

  19. Posted

    I suggest reading the Jed Mckenna trilogy.

    Either you'll get to the truth with a ravenous hunger and truth above all costs, questioning everything until there's simply nothing left or you will detour along the path and prefer safety and comfort above truth itself.

    Something tells me you fear going deeper into the questions once you hit a certain point, excuses may vary - however if you've not received the answer and the questions have ceased, you don't embody truth.

  20. Posted

    3 hours ago, Tom T said:

    Hello everyone and thankyou for the reply’s :) it’s nice to get some more perspective of this :) 

    @Omni yes  I do know what you mean. I read a quote by Osho on how love has to grow in a non demanding atmosphere and I think my plan dose not allow for that to happen. 

    And yes !!! I know what you mean !!! I think I could still get to know her in the process of doing all this. I have actually thought about who I want which is a spiral dynamics stage green infj, infp, intp or enfp. 

    But your other point on how I’d be worrying about getting all this into place I don’t think I’d struggle with that as I’m pretty organised but I think that plan lacks spontaneity which is a problem!!!

    No amount of organization or pre-planning in the world will help you experience a happy relationship. There will always be something you didn't factor in - and that's okay.

    If you plan on trying to determine where she is on the spiral as well as her personality traits it will be an interview, not a relationship. I suggest looking into masculine vs feminine energy. The two are highly different and you're approaching finding a woman with a logical brain, which will 9 times outta 10 blow up in your face.

    Improvise and understand how to empathize.