Carl-Richard

Not in a detached manner but in an embodied manner.

I'm not saying it can't ever "work". Of course it's better than doing nothing. It can even be better than meditation if meditation doesn't work for you. However, what it does not work for is establishing a stable baseline of mindfulness (perpetual, self-consistent non-duality). Your mind will never shut up on its own if you keep redirecting it with these meta-exercises. You might be able to shut it up for a while, but that silence will be interrupted when that impulse to do the exercise re-appears and you're lost again. It's this mechanism that is so toxic, and I'm so so familiar with it. If you want to go for stability rather than sensationalism, you must leave a sizeable space open in your day where you can rest. That is where you actually grow. You don't gain muscles if you work out 24/7 a day and never rest. Muscle building happens between workouts. This is what balancing the masculine and the feminine is really about. You need to allow yourself to just be, surrender to yourself (feminine), and when it comes down to doing work, you do it with all your might (masculine) untill you fully exhaust that impulse. “There are only two mistakes one can make along the road to truth: not going all the way, and not starting.”

Pornstars would like to have a word with you Power dynamics makes it into an iffy subject.

Hell yeah. But for real though, I spent two years cultivating mindfulness, and it simply doesn't work. It's like chasing your own tail. It has nothing to do with how you approach it. Merely by holding on to the belief that mindfulness is in anyway desireable or worth your time, you will remove yourself further away from it, no matter how subtle you think you're being. Are you willing to drop your attachment to mindfulness and spirituality in general? Are you willing to let go of everything in your life? That is what it takes to wake up. My advice, to spend 97% of your day without purposely entertaining that attachment, is in my experientially informed opinion a step in the right direction. That is all I'm going to say.

I don't consider it a practice either: I consider it to be a neurosis; pure, 100%, nothing else. I only became truly mindful once I dropped the idea that being mindful is something you should be concerned about.

This is what I'm really trying to say: I've tried all kinds of methods, but I've come to a conclusion. You're better off condensing absolutely all of your spiritual practice down to a select time period of the day, where you deliberately focus all your heart and soul into just doing that, and then after that is done, you just go about your day. Spiritual practice is like planting a seed. You do some digging here and there, but most of the time is just spent leaving it alone. You're not letting it grow if you keep digging and re-inserting the seed all the time. Practices that are just done on a whim while you're doing stuff in your daily life are essentially like mind viruses that create erratic and neurotic patterns. You cannot establish a calm and stable energetic life if you don't leave time for yourself to just live. The seed won't grow in a thunderstorm. In my opinion, these kinds of practices only exist because they feed of our addictive, repetitive and low quality mind states. Leaving that aspect of yourself alone almost becomes a practice in itself.

WHY ARE YOU APOLOGIZING???

Contemplate all you want. Just don't go for half measures. This stuff is just fun mind games.

Dear forum nofappers, I'll pray for you and your misfortunes.

You see, this approach of constantly reminding yourself to act a certain meta-way, to discipline your expressions, is fundamentally a masculine left-brained thing. If you think this will help you to unlock your feminine side, think again

bahahah no why This is the spiritual ADHD I've been talking about. Neuroticism on a silver platter.

... or you can just read the rules .......

Authenticity happens between thoughts.

I don't think anybody is denying that microorganisms exist. It's more about what they're doing.

"You're blind sheep getting drunk on the collective viral kool-aid"

Try to find a world outside your own.

That is a great analogy LOL

Yes. The cases where you're actually inclined to break the law or hurt somebody if you just let your emotions go, that would be a valid case for emotional repression. Learning appropiate emotional repression is therefore a part of emotional mastery.

I actually do express it outwardly in a pretty violent fashion for how short it usually lasts, but that descripition is of course pretty relative. Anger usually only lasts for long periods of time if it's constantly re-ignited by repetitive thoughts. On average, the less thoughts you have, the less anger you have. That is why so-called angry people are often low consciousness. They are addicted to spinning self-serving narratives.

LOL

I don't often feel anger, only for a couple of seconds at most. However, I used to repress my emotions a lot in the past, but I've been consciously working on that problem for a while now. Right now as it stands, I don't see how I could be repressing my anger to any serious extent. I've learned to become aware of on a bodily level when I'm holding on to an emotion and how to release it. I did a lot of crying meditation back when I used to be a total mess in this respect and that helped me a lot. I really recommend it if you feel like a numbed out disembodied zombie (even that is often very hard to realize just out of the blue).

But is it a sign of emotional mastery?

I think it's mostly a personality thing, although I used to get angry more often before I started meditating. Then again, I was also a teenager, so who knows