Carl-Richard

You gotta be strategic when interacting with normies. If they show signs of walking the path, give them some bread crumbs, but don't overstep it. Feed slowly. Besides, nobody likes a preacher.

What Orange calls debate is a caricature of the potential of what debate could be.

Red - no debate; war. Blue - no debate; dogma. Orange - no debate; "debate". Green - no debate; opinions. Yellow - no debate; conversation. Turquoise - no debate.

You're acting like fap is your cryptonite. It's not. The cryptonite is the black and white approach. You go for 2 months and then you wonder why you fap 3-5 times in a row. It's not rocket science: it's unsustainable. If you're doing pickup and sports, that means you're capable of disciplining your impulses and taking a nuanced approach (there are "other ways than fapping"), so why the black and white approach only when it comes to nofap (why aren't there "other ways than nofap")? Let's say we took a black and white approach to pickup: do nothing else but pickup every day for 2 months. Does that sound smart?

You don't really get to go deep on instagram, but you do you.

I used to think like you, that nofap is some magic solution for everything. It's not. In the end, it makes you tense and restless, and then if you keep going, you eventually you lose touch with your body and your emotions. You'll never get a girl while being a stiff, emotionally repressed stick insect. Fapping in correct amounts levels you out, makes you chill, more grounded, more able to connect with people emotionally. Too much makes you drowsy, yes, but too much nofap turns you into a robot.

Have you actually confirmed that this is true after your nofap adventures or is this based on experiences before nofap era? I was in your spot, but after I did nofap, it somehow reset my brain. You don't even have to do something like once a week. Just find the spot where you don't lose too much energy. If you're able to go 2 months, you're able to go 2-3 days. This alcoholic analogy might be a limiting belief you have.

You can think about it all you want, but when shit goes down, shits for real.

Pharmacology is not elementary school maths.

@roopepa But have you tried meditating?

True spirituality will never be mainstream. Death doesn't sell.

When I realized what you just realized and stopped pursuing enlightenment and stopped meditating, it became even stronger. When you say "to hell with it – this wasn't what I was looking for" to all of spirituality, that is when you completely let go, and that is when the truth starts to shine through by itself without any effort. The effort then becomes to actively try to hold on to yourself and reconstruct a sense of illusion, and that's what I've been doing for about 1.5 year now. I don't know if that is exactly how it is for you, but that's how it is for me at least, and in one way it sucks, but in another way it's very sweet. However, if you choose to hold on, it's going to be very painful and it may seem futile, but over time you'll get used to it.

The end of that video blew my mind.

Why is lack of self-talk a problem? I kinda like it.

Teamwork mastery

This topic is a ticking time bomb ?

Hahahaha it's the "do-nothing" method. You can never do it properly, because it cannot be done ? This is serious advice btw. The do-nothing method is about accepting the fact that you're helplessly "doing" all the time and that that's totally fine. In any meditation technique, can you just accept that you're completely garbage at it and that it's completely OK? If you can get there, the job is done and the technique does itself.

If your focus is outwards on other people or things and not inwards towards yourself and your own ideas, you will tend to focus on what already is and not what could be (essentially the N/S dichotomy in MBTI).

Of course you will feel like shit if you go for 2 months and then suddenly fap 3-5 times in a short span of time. You need to find a golden middle way because this is obviously not healthy. I've been at both extremes of the spectrum, and I have no energy issues from fapping once every 2-3 days (that's the optimal frequency for me). I also feel way calmer mentally and much smoother physically than when I did 6 months nofap. Fapping isn't negative at all.

Non-judgement is a judgement

@kinesin I am helping.

You have serious emotional issues.

Triquetra (Celtic Knot) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Triquetra

Describe your experience of cessation.