Carl-Richard

@Danioover9000 Just brilliant. And of course he has half my name

It's true that streaming is harmful, but two harms doesn't make one good That's why I hate to use that analogy Let's see what MrGirl has on that ;D Even if he wasn't a streamer, I bet you he would find a similar outlet for his sensation seeking cravings. It all goes back to that. He would still be poly, he would still be dating crazy people, and he would still not care very much about other people's feelings. As far as I'm aware, Melina did not complain about the manifestos or the debates, only the people in their personal lives. I don't think crazy people are limited to the political debate space.

Don't stare into the sun.

Dr.K was not being clear in that interview. ASPD is only 40-50% heritable. It's very possible to fit a diagnosis without a genetic predisposition. The truth is that childhood experiences dictates a lot of your personality (look up the ACE study). If you've seen the guy who found out he has the brain of a psychopath but he is today a well-adjusted person, that was of course due to his healthy upbringing. So unless Destiny had a divine upbringing (which according to him is not true), he will certainly benefit from therapy. Yes. You don't let predators out and about. I hate to use that example again, but you don't let child rapists do their thing just because it makes their life easier. The idea that it will destroy his career is also highly exaggerated. He can still be a streamer who talks to people, just not a psychopathic one. He has managed to re-brand himself a few times already. I also believe that much (but not all) of the drama he experiences is self-caused, i.e. if he stops being a psychopath, less people will shit on him.

Sounds pretty Orange, but you usually need more context to assess Yellow.

@The Mystical Man Cucked by dreams ?

They didn't watch enough MrGirl.

It's not the whole story, no. It was really funny though how we arrived at it. So we both study psychology (his name is Emil, pretty Ne guy), and one time, we had some work due the next day which involved interviewing three people about a subject. I asked one of our other roommates and ended up talking at great length, stressing that we had to follow ethical guidelines of no pressure, while Emil just casually asked our other roommate who walked in the door and she agreed without question. So I suggested the next day while walking to class that his strategy, which involved more risk taking, was also extremely efficient (he didn't spend more than a second on negotiations while I spent minutes), and that this is how society progresses, because like you said, the risk takers who succeed reap massive rewards which they can share with the community, while the failures just get eliminated and forgotten. Then later that day, we were talking about random shit, like "what is that weird structure on top of that building over there?", and we laid out our theories and everything, and then we somehow landed on how talking about useless shit is another example of how society progresses, because just like risk taking, people who make the good connections reap massive rewards, while those who don't just waste their time. And hence we arrived at our conclusion. That was one fun day

Haha me and my roommate were talking about this one time. We concluded that society progresses through risk taking and out-there ideas.

When it comes from a place of psychological health and the ability to be empathetic and show real care for other people as opposed to a pathological level of emotional coldness and sensation seeking. That doesn't mean Destiny should be jailed or something (as far as we know lol). It's more an ethical issue. As a society, we dislike certain psychopathic traits. Does that mean we're saying psychopaths shouldn't be allowed to exist? Well, kinda. At least do what you can to fix it (go to therapy).

Thank you, master.

This thread has really bad vibes.

I don't get how you can do it.

You should probably avoid associating with psychopaths, yes ? And if they're hurting those around them, the onus is on them to change.

I've thought about recording myself every time I sit down to play guitar (I basically spend 90% of the time just improvising over some basic chord progressions that I have on loop) on my shitty laptop webcam like I did on that one guitar cover, and then maybe after a week, I'll find a selection of moments where I enter that state and post it The main hurdle is what Gavin Harrison (drummer) once put so eloquently of "mentally undressing", which is harder when you know you're being watched. So my plan is that if I get used to recording every time I sit down, that problem will be solved.

Quote from Fredrik Thordendal's "Sol Niger Within": It's a pretty cringe spoken word, but it leads into a jazz fusion orgasm, Holdsworthian solo improvisation (actually on-topic): 9:23

Yes, he is being perfectly logically consistent and is acting perfectly reasonable given his premise of not dialing down even 1% of his addiction to internet crazies. It's Destiny we're talking about here, the guy who concedes to stomping puppies to death in vegan debates. But is it a good premise have? Does he "oUgHt" to value internet crazies over his wife's emotional well-being? If he was a wise man, probably not, but he is a psycho-weirdo, so yeah.

The man is a seduction machine, intentional or not. And no, she did not know what kind of monsters he would be inviting into their life. Maybe not even he knew. So yeah, he trapped himself However, the real issue is not whether he willfully set the trap. It's that he has the choice to diffuse it, but he refuses. That is why I asked for a better hypothetical Apparent transparency aside, MrGirl has a point when he points out the power differential and how he has a lazer beam of harassment that follows wherever he puts his eyes. He can mouth half a word "rapi-" and that person is over with. And by the way, the problem is not mainly overt malice. It's more like a structural problem. Destiny's problem is his unwillingness to address that problem. It's like if the government refuses to do anything to solve structural racism, hence perpetuating racism: "the government isn't racist; real racism is when somebody is being directly racist towards you".

Yeah. He trapped himself in that situation. What a genius But let's be real: if you're in top 1% in terms of psycho-weirdo shit and you trap someone who is just a normal person; if anyone should change, it's you. Let's say I seduce a woman, and I tell her after she has become absolutely obsessed by my psycho-charm that I like to do weird stuff in the basement by myself which I find extremely exciting, and she says that's ok, and then she finds out I'm raping kids and is absolutely horrified by this; legality aside, maybe I'm the one who should change? (Please make me a better hypothetical ) In other words, he has a pathological level of sensation seeking which he can fix, while she just wants to live a good life like any person. What could she change about herself? (And the child example is actually analogous, because his sensation seeking actually hurts other people as well; don't let me cite the 50 manifestos in the last year).

You can tell a 20 year old a lot of things. That doesn't mean they'll understand it. It was not a trap in the sense of intentionally withholding information, rather he was not able to give full information. He also probably didn't tell her that on the first date. It was probably only after she was decently hooked and secured (after he felt it was going somewhere). So in that case, she was never in a neutral position. It was always a double-bind. You can't. The solution is personal development and therapy. He needs desire to stop causing the hurt. To come to that place will be hard for him, just like the therapy process. The real problem is not the manipulation. It's how he chooses to act in general.

...yeah... he only invented psychotherapy...

Yep, he was very good at trapping her "Hey by the way, if you're ever hurt by how much I don't care about you, that's on you, remember that . I only say this because I care about you Love you btw "

Might go for a lighter shade of green in the spring, then full green again in the summer, then amber-ish in autumn.

@Arthogaan Leaving is not a neutral option in a 4 year relationship. She also had no idea what she was getting into. She is stuck in a double-bind: her only choices are to either continue getting hurt, or get very hurt by leaving. Destiny has the choice to stop hurting her, but he won't. He gets to have his cake and eat it too, and she gets nothing. It's not even an all or nothing deal. She said "maybe dial it back to 80%?". And by the way, "you can leave, I don't care" is of course manipulative, because he obviously cares, but by saying that, he removes the leverage that she has by threatening to leave. What he is really saying is "I don't care that you're hurting".

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