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@zasa joey I would just like to add a little something here that I haven't seen anyone include. Completely and totally stop watching any television or negative web channels that put hopelessness and despair into your head. Todays media has practically nothing positive to say about the world anymore and it can easily begin to take hold of your psyche and manipulate your thoughts. If you must find only those genres geared to making you laugh and put a smile on your face. Or expand your mind with documentaries and knowledge based programming. Or finding truth like you can find here in our forum.

@maryam I'm sure he's asking the same thing about you. Where is she? Patients. Continue to stay positive and your path's will cross. You can't rush fate. If you try you just end up mucking up the natural order of things.

I can remember a time way back in the early 80's a group of us doing some psychedelics (can't remember what though) and we spent the night discussing the meaning of life. We were thrilled after having figuring "it" all out, unfortunately we'd forgotten all the answers after waking up the next day. We were so disappointed. So in my own opinion, what's the sense? I think our goal should be to figure "it" out in our own unfiltered reality thus giving us the opportunity to return to "it" whenever we wish.

@T1r1on Thanks man, you have no idea how happy that makes me feel. My ego started doing summer saults in my head, got me all dizzy and shit. People have no idea what's it's like to get up rooted and have your whole life turned upside down after their parents split unless they've lived it themselves. Then again sometimes it's for the better and I'm just wondering if perhaps in your case this is true. I'm glad you knew right and wrong and choose the right path for yourself. You could have just as easily done the other and blamed it all on your upbringing. A perfect excuse for most. I'm sure you didn't know it then, but those experiences will actually help you in your future. They teach you that life isn't easy and that we all most go through trials and tribulations in order for growth and to know what's really important in life. By the way, I'm 50 so there's another 30+ years of this stuff. My journals go back that far so anything I've forgotten is written down. It's cool to look back on them, have the memories come flooding back, and then being able to retell them here. Later Brother.

@Ryan_047 Greetings Ryan. You express yourself very well. Great trait to have many do not have this talent. You've been given some great advice here and I'm sure you can tell that many of us feel for you. I went through those types of feelings as well. Here's what I did and over time it seemed to help. Every day I wrote my feelings onto paper (we didn't have the net / computers back then). What am feeling? Why am I feeling this way? What bugs me? What can I do (lists)? What happened today? Here's my plan. Here's my goals. Just write everything in your head. Remove the clutter and confusion, writing helps. I have journals from 35 years ago that I can read from those days and MAN!! What a different time makes. What your feeling now can change in an instant sometimes. Sometimes you just need patients. Find anything positive in your life and concentrate on that. You make think to yourself I have nothing positive and you know what? That's ok, you may not realize it now but these things your feeling are actually a part of your growth and your life journey. Sometimes we have to start from scratch in our life to clean the slate and start new. Maybe that's what's happening to you now. Your so young brother, give yourself a chance to grow and you'll find your path in life. Have patients and your path will find you. Take care.

Here's a day dream on the subject. 100 years into the future. The majority of the world has entered the "green" state. There are a variety of communities specializing in; Artistic, Environmental, Agricultural, Technogical, Industrial, etc., etc.. Each child is taught a variety of subjects until their natural ability shines through. Then they are given every opportunity to thrive at it. There is no such thing as marriage anymore although if desired I suppose you can make a "commitment" vow to one or more persons. Because we have all become enlightened, we have complete control over our egos and the negative emotions that come with it. We are now free to enjoy each other, together in harmony and equal understanding. All taking care of each other in different ways without conflict. Man... what a dream.

I think once we come to the conclusion that all life is equal then jealousy no longer becomes a factor. This is simply your ego being pissed off because it's telling you that he / she / they have something you don't. Be it money, career, possessions, looks, relationships etc. Now the biggest problem is unless your at the top of the mountain looking down on everything else, you'll always going to be jealous. So your ego will never win this argument so why feel the emotion in the first place? At one point we have to begin to feel content with the things we have, the things we are gifted with, and the things we may strive for, although we may lose them and fail at them sometimes. Thinking of all things being equal on the inside of each of us can eventually take away the power of those things we see possessed by others on the outside. When you find yourself and know yourself, this becomes the greatest possession you'll have and no amount of money, career, material things, appearance or relationship is greater than this. Continue your search and you'll discover this for yourself.

@Paan My opinion is an absolute yes we are. Unfortunately I'm sure that in a very short time it becomes cluttered by our surroundings and the dogma we're fed from the day we're born. It then becomes just a matter of time before all "truth and awareness" is lost deep within our consciousness and every new day just buries it deeper and deeper. (Imagine parents that taught us differently our potential) I mentioned this in another post as well. I'm sure that the sooner you begin searching for enlightenment, the sooner you may find it, because the younger you are, the less shoveling and hard work it will take to get through the quagmire of our society and this orange way of thinking,

@Endew Not having sex or a girlfriend is secondary. It's not important and should not have a bearing on your life. What you don't mention in this post is your interests. What do you presently do with your time? What are your interests? What are you good at? You have to be good at something. Start there. If all you think about is sex (is this what you mean by A?) then you need to tell yourself to stop, it's inhibiting your life's journey. Trust me, sex and intimacy isn't all it's cracked up to be. Your daydreaming about how great it must be, because you've never experienced it (in real life). Change your way of thinking. Find other interests. I'm sure if you put as much effort into those, as you put into your sexual frustrations, you'd find a lot more success and fulfillment in (B), and over time, the confidence in yourself will increase substantially and then these relationships you crave will naturally develop with little to know effort. Find your purpose first (and it's not women), that rest will fall into place. Good luck.

@Pyrrhocorax graculus Such a shame. No wonder our world continues to dummy down, instead of smartening up.

@jcgiusto I don't know of any books with this concept. But perhaps you could do some research and find a future retreat your interested in, organize a type of package deal for said retreat then advertise it on various websites. You never know, you might find that there are more of us out there than we think. This would cost very little money to research and advertise (since many sites are free) and you can then find out if there's interest or not. I know this is a very simplistic approach, but like anything, you must first plant a seed before you can see growth. Take care.

@jcgiusto This just kind of popped in my head. Thought I'd throw it at you. What about being the organizer / host / director of a retreat travel company for those of us searching for enlightenment, awareness, truth. Plan trips around the world and get like minded souls like ourselves together as one community for empowerment. Just saying.

@T1r1on Dude stop being so hard on yourself. It's actually your ego that's putting you down. Think of it as that voice in your head. That's not you talking, it's your ego man. Think of it as someone else. Tell it your trying your best and to shut the f up. You'll get it eventually. Your ego is telling you bullshit all the time. The sooner you come to this realization (awareness), the sooner you'll know the "truth". Your right to, that clarity your feeling is the real you. Journey on brother.

@T1r1on Oh yeah... Polyhistor. Why didn't you say that in the first place? LOL. Later

@luigi1994 your so young brother, I feel kinda bad with your saying you don't need anyone, because quite honestly we as humans actually do. We're a social species and we all need other people in our lives. Not to make us happy necessarily, but probably more to give us validation of our own existence, if that makes sense. Did you know that one of the main causes of Alzheimer's in the elderly is being left alone for long periods without socialization? In fact older people that in retirement homes are far more less likely to develop the disease than those that live alone, and have few visitors. It is true that only you can create your own happiness, but I don't think that's the true meaning of relationships anyway. True, authentic relationships with others, and real uninhibited intimacy that can be shared between two or more life forces together will be very positive and healthy for your future, so you can't abandon that. Unfortunately they're hard to find and lead to emotional pain and mistrust, but you can't give up because if you stop trying then you'll never know what an authentic relationship really is. Your just beginning this journey so every mistake and future relationship you have is a learning experience. You must continue this social path in order to grow and increase your knowledge of the human condition. You may also find that "one" intimate relationship is enough for you and that's completely ok. Just don't settle, and have patients for the real thing. We are all different and have our own truth's, find yours and the happiness will come from within and not from anything that's external in your life. In fact those things will have no bearing on your life at all when you find your true self. Take care.

@Ade The truth will set you free. It's just not a saying. Once you've released that burden, you'll come to realize you worried more than you had to. Your true friends will forgive you and comfort you in your decision. Your false friends will not and you'll read them like a book. Then knowing your real friends is easy. Keep your true friends and drop the false ones. Then whole experience will actually become a positive in your life. Just my opinion, but think truth because it never lies. Good luck in your journey.

@Elemental Wow... I had no clue about that career field. Too bad because I'm sure that's where you can find some of our most creative and brightest minds. I guess in todays world it pretty much doesn't matter what field you pursue, it's always the me verses you mentality.

@T1r1on Autodidacts???? Sorry bro, I have no clue what that is, so writing anything for you sounds impossible. Maybe I could add some cartoon drawings. LOL. Later.

@ChiguIn my opinion I'd stick to the engineering and complete that goal first. In the mean time perfect your musical skills and once you think your good enough, start auditioning at various clubs, café's or wherever your music genre is best excepted. Start out part time and weekends. If you have enough money, have your music professionally recorded and promote it everywhere you can. Then when you know your music can support you independently you can make your engineering career secondary, but always there to fall back on should you ever need it. The entertainment / music industry is a very cut throat and deceptive business and although you may love music itself, you may not like that type of world that it revolves around. Music is in my opinion is one of the greatest and creative things mankind has ever produced. Unfortunately mankind has also created the industry itself and in my opinion it's far from great and quite the opposite. Good luck in your journey .

With no place to live and absolutely no possessions I had to move into my mothers apartment. For the past few years (since grade 11) A few friends of mine had a garage band and I was the lead singer (ironically called Deceiver). We played heavy metal cover bands like Sabbath, Maiden, Priest, Cooper etc. We played at parties and a few battle of the bands type gigs but to be honest we weren't that good. I had a mustache and hair on my chest for about a year so a majority of bars allowed me in without proof of I.D.. I became friends with many of the local bands in the area and had gotten to know them very well over a couple years. The number one complaint was that they'd never make it big while playing in this dead end city. That's when I decided to become a manager to these guys and make the good ones famous. I started Majestic Industries with a buddy and his $2,000. We placed an ad in the local paper and set up auditions for the local best and brightest talent in the city. Within a month we'd signed six very talented bands ranging from heavy metal, hard rock, and pop. The next step was to leave the city and attempt to organize a road trip / tour for our talent. We took professional pictures and recorded some demo tapes and hit the road. We didn't make much money but we were able to get most of these guys a brighter future in music. One of our bands (called Wicked Angel) actually went on to record a few albums in the mid 80's. They also helped me start my career in the entertainment management industry, but not In the way you'd first think. Here's the story. At one time we were in Toronto attempting to get our bands booked in some of the well known clubs in the circuit. One club, called the El Mocambo had bands like The Stones, The Who and many other famous bands attend their stage over the years. We found out that in order to book there we needed to see a guy named Steve Thompson of ST Productions. We went there. He told us he had an opening that weekend at the Harbor Castle Hotel in downtown Toronto. We wouldn't get paid but we could showcase our talent to anyone we wanted and also charge a cover to cover expenses. This deal also covered 6 rooms in the hotel for 3 days and 2 nights for free. We accepted. Now I could share with you how all this went down but I'll make it short. Wicked Angel ended up throwing a party in their room with a bunch of groupies after their set and completed trashed the place. They also proceeded to clean out the bar fridges of every room. (not included in the deal by the way). After these events I thought I'd end up going personally bankrupt because of the enormous bill we were sure to get afterwards. While waiting in the lobby for Steve Thompson to come and settle the bill with me I thought of just running away and avoiding the situation all together but I stayed. Thompson goes to the check out and I watch as this three page expense bill churns from the machine. He hands her his credit card and pays the bill in full. Turns around and comes towards me and I'm shitting bricks. Thinking I'll be run out of town and sued up the ass. He says; "Wow, you guys really know how to party eh?" Then says; "By the way kid, anybody who sticks around to face the music after a bill of $5,000 shows a lot of integrity in my book. If your ever looking for job just give me a call, here's my private number." and then hands me his business card. I replied right then. "When can I start?"

I'd just like to add a little something that I've discovered in my old age. I feel that each and every one of us are given what I'd like to call "natural" abilities. At an early age we may not know what these abilities are, so we will attempt any number of things in our search for truth and meaning. With trial and error, life experiences, and our continued striving for knowledge, these "natural" abilities will begin to shine through. These are what I consider our life's purpose. That being said, as discussed before, These goals (actions) that you have set for yourself is your hunger for knowledge and self-improvement. Some of these goals you will succeed at, while others (sometimes many) you may miserably fail at. In stead of becoming discouraged with these failures just come to the understanding that in the bigger scheme of things, you weren't meant to attempt them in the first place. (Although we do still learn, even from our failures). Just a thought.

I'd have to agree with you 100%. Society has screwed this up so bad, the chances of this phenomenon ever changing in our lifetime is in my opinion 0%.

@T1r1on Awesome dude. Sounds to me like your definitely dedicated to improve your own self-awareness. Also sounds to me like your meditating is working. What you say is happening can only mean that your consciousness is trying to break through. Most will NEVER get this far so your progressing for the better. Maybe I missed it, but what's the website subject matter? If you need a writer let me know, I can do that kind of thing for nothing. I just enjoy it, gives me self-fulfillment. Just let me know. Finally to answer your question about how long it takes. Well believe it or not I do about six to ten at a time. The paint designs are a secret discovery (the swirls and such). The frames are second hand. It takes about three days per batch (16 total hrs). I then have a gallery (rent space) for sales with a price range of $30 to $150. I make enough from these to live a comfortable (albeit, modest) life. Not bad eh? Later brother. P.S. Comic book / sci-fi type guys and kids love this stuff, executive types not so much, thus the price range. It's a niche' market for sure.

@Kelley White Wow girl. I've been journaling for most of my life and I can tell you from experience that writing down what's in your head becomes an effective therapeutic release. That being said, You must have an enormous head. I find it astonishing the amount of thought your able to share. For me personally if I had that much to think about everyday I'd probably put myself into a self-induced coma every once in a while just for the break. Seriously though I hope this type of constant thought doesn't overwhelm your life and that sometimes you get to just "stop and smell the roses" as the saying goes. Life's too short to be thinking and doing so much but if your happy then who am I to give advice? Take care.

Thanks @abrakamowse I just calls it like I sees it.