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It is more than that. it is creating an identity that fits your perosnality. Most people who are attracted to masculinity choose the woman identity because it fits their personality better. It is like having to choose between a warrior character and a priest character when you start playing WoW. There is no such thing as a woman or a man. We create these identities, social constructions, because it helps us survive better. The same way we invented money and we gave them value. These post-modern people who say these identitites do not matter and we are just writing in the sand do not understand the issue. They were given ideas that they cannot handle yet. It is like giving a shotgun to a child. Very bad idea. I saddens me alot because they paint a very bad picture of the left. This is why I don't really want to say I am a leftist, because I don't want to associate myself with such weirdos.

She was very paradigm locked into "men and women are not so different". She came with very long posts that had a lot of content but little substance.

yes you are right. We see a big difference in political views between men and women. Dating today can be a purity test. Do you have the "right opinions". If not, sorry bud. Just so I become clear. When I mention dating I mean relationship building no just hooking up. I don't get this hookup culture, I don't get too much value from sleeping with a woman 2 times then ghosting each other.

It is harder to date right now. I don't think all our grandfathers had to learn pick-up and shit, they just were part of a system that gave them opportunities to date and prepared them to date. Churches, third places, extended social circles, friends of friends who had a some cool single girlfriends etc. i don't know how it was in USA or Australia but in Romania it was easy to date 25 years ago. You did not need all these nonsense techniques and shit. Men challenged each other to be funny, masculine, interesting... They had their brotherhoods On the counter, it is possible to date today, maybe easy to date for a developed serious guy, but the bar is higher, women don't depend on men longer. If you don't come and offer some serious value you are dismissed. The standards go higher, and the candidates are worse.

@Natasha Tori Maru I get them, maybe because I am a man idk. The feeling of getting rejected my dozens of women in a row or knowing you are a virgin at an age you shouldn't feels like nothing else. It feels you are the last piece of shit in the world. You can sell anything to such people if you just empathize with them enough and call out the "external evil". Just saying they are some stupid pricks and moving on is a naive, low consciousness approach (I say it rethorically, I know you didn't). "Stupid" people usually have a sad story to tell.

@Oppositionless i should call shamans to wipe my ass too.

Yea me too. But the mature ones used to be 35 plus.

Green can be especially conformist and echochambery. I invte you to meet Scandinavian people. At least those redpill movements I can understand because it is composed mostly of frustrated sexless kids, but I have higher expectations of highly educated mature people. I hanged in many Green groups and I don't feel great there. It feels like I am walking on eggshells, you have to have the "right" opinions in order be welcomed. It depends what personality type you have. If you are very feminine and agreeable then they fit you well. But I cannot just stay an talk feelings and shit all day, not having a personality, not influencing the situation in any meaningul way, just being an emotional automaton.

Both redpill/blackpill/incel ideolgy and post-modern nonsense prevent healthy relationships. And one triggers the other. The more post-modern nonsense you'll see in society the more women hate and redpill. Both these camps prevent men from developing into serious healthy adults. Women also, but especially men. People are not so stupid, they see every day through personal experience and andecdotal evidence that men and women are different. You come and tell thme it is not true and you'll get solid backlash. In any big movement there is some truth, big movements tell some truth, otherwise they would not become so big. Even though that "truth" can sometimes be very toxic. Germans chose Hitler because it told them the "truth" of how opressed germans were at that time. I hope this idea does not get misunderstood.

I think this community is as healthy as a self-help community can be, but it still is limited by it's times. You just cannot create a healthy self-help community today. Maybe only with super-aggressive screening and paywalls, but even then you cannot be sure. You cannot create ANY healthy community focused on big stuff like spirituality/truth today, communities are about survival, ideology, power games, ego... not Truth. This is why serious philosophers do their work alone in silence, far away from the apes. For me anything that involves more than 2 people (myself included) that has a higher purpose than basic tasks like collagues doing ape work at work or some buddies playing sports, any purpose that craves openmindedness, emotional maturity, ambition form others (creating deep friendships, philosophy, self-improvement) has a high chance to piss me off, make me lose patience. Because I have a very disagreeable personality and you simply cannot gather too many serious, conscious people together because they are so rare nowadays. This retarded society we have nowadays creates braindead people not truth seekers.

Pair Dancing, climbing, running, archery, fixing technical shit.

Lol, women blaming/incel nihilism YT influencing is a real industry already haha. I mean I get them. I think I am above 80% of guys in looks and social skills, I am 30, and I barely get any attention from women when I go to events and stuff. Imagine an average guy in his 20s who looks childish and inexperienced. He will check himself in the mirror many times a day so he makes sure his isn't invisible. The world is fucked. The secret is to not care and try anyway. but in order to not care you need somehow to burn that karma by having some sex and relationships. I noticed women talking friendly to all the guys they meet at the dance events or similar stuff but they dont get locked in/sexually attracted. "It seems like they don't want cock anymore" - to quote a friend who was frustrated about this.

I did not say that. That is your interpretation of my post. Most people, like 99.5%, men and women are not interested in Truth based on my standards. These people who spin up shit in philosophy circles do survival not truth seeking. Women tend to be more intuitive and trust their feelings. Men use logic as a compass, women use intuition/feelings in general. Now of course you'll meet some very intelligent women who will be able to swing form their masculine side to their feminine side and they seem that they break all these generalizations. But what is the chance to meet one?? Hell, what is the chance to meet such a guy either? And some guys say that women who are so much in their masculine side, in their conceptual/abstract/figuring out side, are less attractive. And I can understand that, because they bascially behave like a man. But I don't fully hold that statement until it will happen to me personally. Truth seeking is done alone, people in groups do survival. Show me a group of people/organization who does not do survival. If you get involved with other people, I recommend to not expect them to do truth seeking. This forum is maybe the most uncorrupt community in the world, this is very unique and is due to Leo's huge efforts to keep it as least corrupt as possible. And still, you see lots of cheap chatting and shit here also. And talking about truth is not the same with seeking truth.

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I think there needs to be a whole course for guys on how to satisfy yourself properly with masturbation. There are some specific technical details like how often, which mindset, porn/no porn etc.