Alexop

Peace dude. I compare me with myself. Not with others. I am no pickup artist, but I evolved from a bullied loser who was rejected even from highschool Freshman prom's preselection to having multi-year relationships with women who look and behave better than any of those who called me loser could even smell. ✌️

Sure, Thanks Chad I am looking for a woman with whom I can have intellectual intimacy. I know what I want. I had lots of sex, chill.

I agree that I am in a low prospect situation and this is affecting me. Mainly because I am looking for a mature woman with whom I can have a deep relationship, maybe for life. The same as Miguel, the moderator. We had sex, and we evolved over it. If I just have sex with some random chick from the videos of this dude who came here to give me advice, it will feel for me like I am masturbating with a body.

again, I shared something I noticed. I don't complain.

Translation: I need to feed my ego giving a guy unsolicited advice.

They had to make some effort and get to know the guys, and make themselves VULNERABLE. It is not just because dating apps and social media, it is a change in culture. It is encouraged to stay single and "wait for the guy". It is just that "the guy" was in your face and you ignored him. And not just women. Guys too. Everyone is so afraid of vulnerability. Everyone is so fucking boring, they don't risk making some joke or sharing something deep. That makes them too vulnerable It sounds that I am whining right now, but I felt the need to share this. It started to get scary when almost every girl I liked and started talking to in real life at physical gatherings, not even took the chance to get to know me. Just to meet her on dating apps later. And no, I am not some noobie in dating. I know how to talk to them and had lots of sex. But yea, it is fucking Sweden by the way. Imagine the social problems you have in your country and make it 2x worse. That is northen Europe 101.

Yes. But women have very little patience to get to know men now. After they had so many bad experiences with low quality relationships and boring guys. When you get scammed over an over, you just give up.

I did not ask for your dating advice dude. I was presenting something I noticed. I know what I have to do.

I was not complaining. I was noticing a pattern. And dating is hard nowadays. 90s were much better dating years. You need to be myopic to not see that.

I strongly doubt that. Maybe relationships that "originated online".

According to Pew Research, about 12% of overall dating app users report finding a committed, long-term relationship or marriage through the platforms. Wow sounds like shit.

Definitely. 90%+ girls i met via dating app had avoidant patterns. And yes, guys suck ass, so women have a hard time getting attracted to the few ones they meet randomly. So they try dating apps instead.

This is what I was trying to show. It became the norm not the exception. In Romania, 7-8 years ago, I remember that being on a dating app was a loser thing to do. Now I live in Sweden and I see that this is the norm. It is either some masterful social circle you do or a dating app. And there is a high chance that the women you meet in real life will also consider dating app options. So you'll compete with that.

Agreed.

Relationships can form like that but many times women who use them, they get choice paralysis. They stop answering or they go to the date just to message the guy the next day that "there was no spark". I personally had a relationship made on dating app. But many other girls I found there were just confused or sacred of vulnerability.