Alexop

You are massively exaggerating the situation in Romania. We have great programmers, well educated doctors, engineers etc. We have programmers that earn more money than the engineers in Sweden. Those barbarians are found in the countryside and resemble the typical third world dynamics. Your rethoric reminds me of my childhood when I was afraid to go out and play because some "barbarian" group might beat me. Of course they are toxic as hell, no arguments here. Yea I would still maybe open a business in Scandinavia because there are better regulations and opportunities. I did not say that Scandinavians are bad at their job or at business, in fact the opposite, they are killing it. They are world class at hard skills: design, innovation, engineering etc. the problem is with the soft skills and mainly in men. Social skills, body language, tonality authenticity, EQ, humour etc. they have to play less videogames, go out socialize, dare to be and say what they want without intoxicating themselves with alcohol. They have to unbraiwash themselves from gender blindness ideology, from the law of Yante bullshit and learn about healthy masculinity and so on. So that women find them attractive and they won't be forced to passport fish women from Thailand. It breaks my heart because they are good guys, really good souls and willing to do their best, but they got brainwashed into mindless conformity and post-modern gender nonsense. We cannot force everyone to behave the same. Some people are born with a chill, laidback, feminine personality that fits the nordic overly polite, consensus culture. But guys like me, an ambitious, spicy introvert who sees problems everywhere does not fit this. Why did Kid A say that they don't make any new friends after a certain age? Because it is very hard to create a connection if you only talk about positive and polite shit, it is the controversy and negative shit that shows the real face of a person, and that encourages the other to open up too. Why should I choose you to be my close friend over another if you talk about the exact SAME boring shit that I heard at 1000 more people before? Yes conformism comes with benefits, it makes people stick their head into the sand and collaborate, to build a boat together. This is why Sweden works so well while Romania is shit, because in Romania everyone builds their own small boat for their family and friends not for the whole country. Vulnerability is key, without vulnerability, connection is absent. For example I make myself vulnerable right now by sharing these controversial opinions, this behavior is appreciated by serious mature people while the kids might avoid me because it disturbs their fantasy lollipop world of toxic positivity and avoidance of vulnerability. Even quality playfulness, teasing, and humour requires vulnerability. You risk offending the other with a bad joke, not all the jokes land well, especially with new people you meet. Dare to joke around, dare to talk serious shit, and the serious people will appreciate it while the snowflake kids will run to their mommies. Things that put you in a bad light done with the hope for connection is some serious vulnerability. It is saying: "look! I am not perfect, I am human" and that creates connection not fake perfection performance done by these fucking whimps. Vulnerability is real diversity not this snowflake bullshit.

@Daniel Balan yes dude I lived with those people too, and they are the opposite extreme. If Scandinavian people live in a systemic fakeness and emotional suppression, most romanians live in an uncivilised circus, traumatizing and hurting each other with aggressive words and behaviour.

@Kid A highest rates of depression in the developed world says something about it. The fact that they open up when drunk says something about them, it shows that something was suppressed. This is a very insidious problem, it is not like someone explicitly tells you to conform and fit in, it Is that you learn it through the pain of being avoided/rejected/ghosted. When I came here I was very interested into meeting new Swedes, but now it's not that wow anymore, I feel like getting a girl that did not get completely brainwashed into this madness and live happily with her and just let the others play their fake game together.

@Kid A I agree, I mean this is a thing in the whole first world but here it is just too much. This law of yante of not showing vulnerability and authenticity with people for the sake of social consensus is a big factor. People are brainwashed into fakness and lack of personality from day 1.

It is hard to earn good money from a wow profession that will keep you floored with passion and enthusiasm all the time, especially in this fucked up economy where a few winners dominate the markets. You can find some job that you like doing and gives you enough money without spending lots of time at work, and in this way you'll have time for side projects that might grow into something. Or use that time for growing yourself, it is fine to not "kill it" in business and to find a way to just live life happily and grow yourself. If you live in a poor country without a welfare state then you need to find a way out if wage slavery unfortunately, in countries like the US or third world (same thing), you have no choice, you need to kill it in business, otherwise you'll be a wage slave your whole life.

@MightyMind forget muslims, even traditional romanians cannot integrate. I know people that worked 10 years in Sweden and did not make 1 Swedish friend. They just avoid you if you dont fit the frame of "the friend" they look for. They want to help them but from a distance, through taxes.

Well, if weather and social Climate affects you then you have to move. Sweden will not be your place then. Rainy climate and cold people.

That is very true. They are ruthless when dating but overwhelmingly indulgent when already in a relationship. Maybe this is a reason for being ruthless when dating, because they foresee that.

@Butters i don't know that much about dutch people but I assume they are quite Green and somewhat snowflakes if they resemble the germanic people today. My question is how many immigrant background friends do you have if you are dutch? How many immigrant background friends, like from middle east or so, does the average dutch have? What I notice in Sweden is that these people live around each other, they don't really blend, no matter if they are zoned together or not. They might make some swedish friends at work but that is minimal and aquantiance level usually. So, there has to be some caution about immigration. Now don't get me wrong, we need immigration, but in a way that will make people blend and assimilate culture. Stage Green is a special stage, quite easily offended and picky, they want to take in people but I will ask them how close do they really keep them. It is like me taking in refugees and keeping them in my garage.

Women sometimes say no to healthy things. She might say no to a cool guy like Leo because some video rubbed her the wrong way hehe. An saying yes to some people pleaser nice guy wimp instead that will slowly ruin her life.

@Carl-Richard great points!

I get you. Similar issue here, moved from Romania to Sweden. Well this is Stage Green brother. fakness, lack of personality, shitty relationships. Find a cool partner that also had enough of this shit and live happily and authentically together. Focus o yourself and let the snowflakes be snowflakes.

Healthy feminism is mostly showing how toxic masculinity is destroying women's sanity and femininity and correcting this. Teaching men how to deal with women better, how to understand their needs, how to complement each other in and yin yang way. Teaching men how to accept their feminine side and emotions. More EQ and less aggression Toxic femininity is just unconscious reactive shit against toxic masculinity. It is bulldozing masculinity completely instead of understanding it and clensning it of toxicity. And teaching women how to basically become men because men become toxic if we let them be men right?

Shit results, few dates with girls that just check the waters and don't know what they want. Maybe I could get better results by fine tuning my profile in an autistic way.

when you cannot concentrate on your classes and daydream about how to build a better warrior in some stupid game all day, then that has to be fixed.