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@Michael569 Cheers dude ??

I've had to completely slow down my Yoga practice because I've strained my adductors (possibly Grade 2, yet to be confirmed) on both sides. I was just getting into some serious training as well, going back to the gym for the first time in around 12 years, starting pilates and whatnot. So my questions are please... Should I go to a Chiropractor or Physiotherapist? Is there any exercises I can still actually do because I don't want to go dormant again? Is there anything I can do at home to promote healing? (no medication). Anybody got any personal experience with this type of groin strain? As always, thank you ?

@Michael569 Yeah I will do just that Michael, I don't want to cause further possible permanent damage. I'll work on my upper body, bit disheartening but never mind ? Thanks again buddy ?

@Michael569 The pain has been present for around 2/3 week's? Would that mean it's just a strain? I don't see any bruising of any sort. Thanks so much for your reply.

@Samra Thank you for that beautiful reminder lovely. I'll take your advice ?

I never thought I'd write this but here goes. I'm allowing my dad to trigger me, he's utterly selfish, self centered, drowning in ego and delusional. He preaches self actualisation and Christianity but he couldn't be more further from the truth. He's utterly delusional, honestly. Sick to death of him telling me how my own mother's mind works. He analyses her behaviour, tells me what her faults are and makes himself victim. I've tried pointing out to him that he needs to self reflect but he's so adamant he "knows himself". I've also tried to gently point out to him that he cannot tell me how other people process their own emotions ? (my mum). He tries to manipulate people's language/thinking to suit his own agenda, it's absurd! My mum had a mental breakdown around 15 years ago and he blames there relationship difficulties on her 'illness', no sorry pal, once again another example of his super power to distract and deflect. It's gotten to the point where these issues are for the first time ever, effecting our relationship, whenever I point out (gently) to self reflect it's met with complete resistance from him and then pure silence, it's getting to a point that it's just awkward. Any ideas? ? I'm lost with it.

@Ingit Be aware of homeostasis and compromise

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@Outer I'll quote this to him, thanks for that dude! Awesome by the way. @Joseph Maynor Joseph I have called him out on his shit, even my mum has but she has literally given up, he twists and turns things round to like I said, to suit his own agenda and it's just a boring cycle, it becomes eye rolling and you start to realise your better off keeping your mouth shut to conserve your own energy and not waste your own breath. I've been where he is, I remember saying myself just this time two years ago "I know myself", so I know exactly what kind of trap he is in. They are going counselling and from my own personal experience, the therapist helped point out my own BS so I'm hoping he/she will do the same for him. Who knows. @RendHeaven Thank you so much for sharing your personal experiences and advice. I'll quickly run through it. Me and mum have a beautiful relationship, we are very close, this is how I know so much about what's going on. I see her suffering and can see her pain. My dad doesn't live with me so I'm okay in that department. He isn't aggressive, he doesn't shout if I'm honest. Apart from this obstruction in the road me and my dad do have a beautiful relationship, we're always telling each other we love each other, that's why this is so upsetting because for the first time, I feel, our relationship has been shaken a little. I might be completely completely wrong but I'll say my personal opinion (my mum agrees also) my Dad hide's behind his faith, he uses it as a psychological crutch and as a distraction to his own behaviour. I see his current behaviour as his shadow he needs to face and integrate, I see a lost man if I'm honest. I'm not going to lie, sometimes I feel deeply sorry for him because of this massive red herring he calls religion, he might not agree, actually he would firmly correct me but I feel it's guided him further away from himself. We don't clash ego's when we talk, I suggest something, he questions me/corrects me, I answer with another question for him to ask himself, he shakes his head, rolls his eyes and walks off, we don't confront each other. When he rolls his eyes and walks off I see that as pure resistance. I can see he isnt willing to introspect so I then keep my mouth shut because I'm not wasting anymore breath. Thanks again so so much for your replies ?

@Mirror of Confusion I haven't. I'll look into this thanks. The reasons he needs to change is simply for my mother's well-being, nothing else. She is suffering. If it wasn't affecting anyone else I wouldn't be bothered.

@NoSelfSelf Thanks for your reply. If this was a friend I would of cut them off. It's repetitive bs. It's my dad though. Just going to keep my opinions to myself with regards to anything he says, sit there and smile.

@MrDmitriiV you don't need gear/place. It's a tub, in a bag, and then a little later on, a lamp with a daylight light bulb. Where do you live?

@Emerald Thank you so much for your reply. I totally understand what you mean. So how do we begin to cut through the bs?

@Emerald Apologies to @RendHeaven for jumping on here. Emerald, what if all the answers to your most previous questions was yes?

@cetus56 maybe I should post an example like OP to check I'm on the right path

@Samra Thanks for replying. I admire your courage and I hope to learn from it ?

@cetus56 Thanks for replying. I know what you mean... I find questions I have within the contemplation if you know what I mean, it's basically questions within a question within a question. Does this make sense?

Do you ever get to a point and just feel a bit stuck? I'm not going to lie at the moment I'm extremely frustrated. I want to have multiple direct experiences of the absolute and be able to embody it. I can't do large doses of psychedelics due to fu**ing panic attacks (it really frustrates me, apologies for the language), I self enquire, meditate, remind mindful daily, I practice yoga daily, I'm working on systems thinking and I eat clean af. I do everything I possibly can and I feel stagnated with it all. I don't know why but I feel like with all my practices (apart from meditation) they are pulling me further away somehow. Why do I feel lost? Wtf is going on ? Can anybody recommend anything to cut all this bullshit?

Apologies for late reply had family health issues to attend to. Your absolutely right faceless, thank you for your response. At my local Buddhist temple they are holding a talk on fear and I jumped right on it and bought a ticket. I look forward to hearing this talk and will update.

May I ask, after contemplating for 30 minute's, I reached a question I do not have the answer to, what do you do in this situation? I pondered the question for two days and still no answer.

Thanks for sharing @Samra always love reading your reports, I'd love to know how you got on following the few weeks after your 'bad' trip ?

@Socrates Haven't you thought about acquiring them yourself? As in... Erm.... How do I say this without breaking the rules of the forum... Do that thing you do when you plant a seed into the soil ? ?

@Solace Thank you so so much solace! I got up to minute 5 or so and realised it's a practical video so I'll definitely continue first thing in the morning. He seems well chill that guy, looks stoned out of his head but I like him ? Thanks again ❤️ @WelcometoReality Yes, somebody called me a warrior the other day, and I asked what she meant by that and she said "you push forward" so I've taken what she said and linked it with what you said and it makes sense. I'll slow down and take a back seat a little more. Thank you. @Feel Good Thank you dude ❤️

This is exactly what I meant by... Thanks for replying Nahm

If you've recently feeling some blockages around your heart lately (like I have) or feeling like you've been carrying a weight around in your chest area or you just want to feel some love, sit down in meditative like posture, pop your left hand on your heart, followed by your right, listen to this song fairly loud and close your eyes. ❤️?❤️