Charlotte

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Thank you for bringing this to my attention @Nahm, with my partner, I sometimes feel he uses his PTSD as an excuse for his anger e.g. After outburst Me, "You have to gain some control of this anger?!" Him, "I'm on the waiting list for therapy, I can't help it" You see I feel he sometimes uses the PTSD as an escape route, especially since the anger is usually directed at me. My thinking is, because someone is mentally ill doesn't mean I'm their verbal punch bag ? I see where your going with this! I think your absolutely right. This is exactly one of his main problems, he was in the military. Seen and done things I can't even imagine. Before he went into the armed forces he also had childhood PTSD from years of abuse from his mother, so it's like PTSD on top of more PTSD. I see this in him ALL THE TIME! Your spot on @Nahm, I've asked him does he want to be enslaved in his own mind for the rest of his life. The emotions and memories surface from time to time, especially when he's had alcohol or via a nightmare but also they have penetrated deeeeeep within his subconscious, so much that it's warped his version of reality and his perseptions. He's shown interest in meditation but I think he's to afraid to be left alone with his thoughts (he's always looking for mental stimulation). Is there any type of meditation that would be safe enough for him to try? To understand? Your memory does serve you well Nahm yes ? I did decide not to, I just sat with how I felt at the time and observed, see what came of it, what came of it was that I decided to give it another try. Yep, your also right about the smile, thank you for the compliment! I managed a little little one . From the bottom of my heart Nahm, thank you for taking the time to write this to me, I can't tell you how much I appreciate your support & care ♥️

@spicy_pickles If you think about it he's done this to himself, he abandoned you a long time ago, he gave you no choice with regards to his children, he's caused HIS suffering himself!! He made this choice when he decided to treat you the way he has. I don't know where your located but in the UK there are programmes ran for people that have been abused or need help to leave an abusive relationship (safeguarding) or wish to gain knowledge for future potential relationships (to make you aware of early on and what to watch out for) it's called the 'Freedom programme', maybe something like this could be of use to you? Sending you strength and love ♥️

@John Iverson whilst I appreciate your input and advice, I somehow believe his PTSD and anger issues are separate, so therefore I'm not asking anyone on how to manage his PTSD but his anger.

Just finished watching the latest episode, @Leo Gura amazing episode, thank you. Not going to lie, after taking notes, I looked back at my "Never to buy again" list and muttered "f**k" ?? Question... Do you have any personal recommended website's with recipe's for this diet/lifestyle please? Or anybody else have any recommendations? Thank you ♥️ Edit: Just realised this should of maybe been posted in the Health and nutrition section.

@Shin certainly ♥️

@spicy_pickles that life you envision without him, this new life your excited to start, use this as your guide. Believe me when I say I know how hard it is to leave one of these types of toxic addictive relationships, like you, I was a people pleaser so I felt I couldn't just grow a pair and say "I'm leaving" let me tell you, that didn't serve me in anyway positively. You seem to be at a crossroads in your life where your starting to take back some control, use what you've learnt in your counselling sessions and implement them into the biggest positive life changing decision you'll make. Imagine your life in another year, 2 year's even 3 years with this man, how does it look? Bleak? Don't wait around for the next big fight or for him to leave, your still giving away your control, don't leave it up to someone else. You CAN do it, as Leo says "Just do it", try not to catastrophies things in your head on what it will feel/look like. This is your year @spicy_pickles I have the up most faith in you. If you need a handhold or someone to talk to, I'm here for you ♥️. Set YOURSELF Free

Thanks so much for your response... He is scheduled to start EMDR for his PTSD which apparently has high success rate but thank you for your advice. He seemed interested in mediation for a while but then decided not to, I also agree it would help. To be honest I think he's scared of his own thoughts (traumatic experiences pop up), I've noticed he's constantly looking for mind stimulation, never properly relaxes, I'm guessing this is a learnt behaviour to avoid memories. Thanks for your help @Space Brilliant idea @Shin !! As always, thanks for your input ♥️ No, but is on the waiting list for EMDR which is Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing just incase you didn't know. It's a type of therapy. It can't come quick enough.

Aaaah brilliant! Sounds motivational but also really fun! Good luck on your retreat, I'm sure you'll enjoy it *little bit jealous i haven't got one planned yet* ??

Good for you ?! Helped me in more ways than one. If you don't mind me asking what are you visualizing towards? Anything in particular? (Just being nosy).

For me personally, I love to journal @Cjaryo

Lol!!

What am I irritable about? Everything ? I dont show it though, I hold it in. Mine seems to be a good solid 8 days PMT. I can also sympathise with the 'bigger half' of the cycle you mention, bloating, lethargic feeling? I generally just want to wrap myself up in a quilt. I do push myself though even though it feels like your pushing a brick wall, not a nice all round feeling at all.

Girls, how do you deal with the mood swings? I go through intense PMT symptoms (depression, anger, frustration, irritability, mostly negative) Any suggestions?

Literally practice saying/writing no, it hasn't been part of your vocabulary so it will be tough for you to even hear it. Start by writing it down and then go to just practice saying it out loud @spicy_pickles

That's all they know, I understand why they are the way they are. How far they'll go in life? In terms of what?

Not that I'm aware of ????

That's fair enough ?

Oh no, he's on anti depressants so his sex drive and our sex life IS literally...

I decided to keep drinking it because I read a cup or 2 a day is good for you ? That's my lower self excuse for having one in the morning anyway. But I am going to go 2 week's caffeine free and see how I react, if I crave or have any addiction like behaviours, I'm coming off it.

Once again, ignore these boxes ⬆️ Innuendo means 'allusive or oblique remark or hint' You said earlier... "At least there is one good thing coming out of it ... Easy sex the next day" And I replied "They'll be nothing coming out of anything in my house" My house referring to the people in it (me and my partner) As in, they'll be nothing coming out of his d*ck tonight, as in, we won't be having sex. Now I come to think of it, it is quite confusing ? Either we are miscommunicating or my jokes are just shit

Hahahaha aaaaarw @Shin ? It's a sexual innuendo to what you said ? Where are you from shin?

They'll be nothing coming out of anything in my house ??

He has me everyday, that's enough ?

It's just a way to make more money out of us @Shin ?