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So, did you end up sleeping with her? I'm sorry, too many dating-related posts nowadays

How fear works part 1 “Tell me who you are and ill tell you what you fear Tell me what you fear and ill tell you who you are.” Fear is not a psychological problem or a human problem Why does fear occur? At the existential dimension. People barely teach fear because they don't understand it, we don't put importance on it where you would think to find understanding of fear like science, scientists are full of fear they usually don't know how it works so why learn from them about it. Fear might contradict current culture and science. Fear dominates your entire life -peter Ralston You’re fish in water a human in fear swimming in fear every day of your life this is deeper than an emotional problem-constant fear. And you don't even know it. The majority of your emotional system is outside your awareness its controlling you. Fear is a survival mechanism it's the thing that keeps you alive, it's not only that. All emotions are elaborate and sneaky or subtle. Fear is there to help you maintain whatever you identify with--maintain whatever you think you are. Survival is not just physical it is conceptual-social-cultural emotions are important facts don't exist in reality all that exists is emotion. You can kill your self image by not avoiding fear You cannot have an accurate perception of reality or do proper science if you are in fear. That you are is defined by your fears and what you fear defines what you identify as. Identities like being a human of a physical creature or real Identity is like the sun it has various layers to it the layers become denser and denser when we say your identity is the edges of the sun and the inside you cant be another way like being its easier to detach from your car then your family then to being a man or a woman it's hard to detach from being a human then a gender. You make yourself up to be this way out of thin air this is what your identity is as a human being you fear losing all of your attachments this is what you call death. total ego death or loss of self. All fear boils down to the fear of death. Psychological death or death of the self image. Suicide bombers don't fear death they fear being a bad Muslim this is how powerful identity is. Identity is relative it's hard to change it calcified Fear is constructed from the mind and is never objective or found out there then its projected outwards. ALL FEAR IS IMAGINARY Try validating this, the fear of death is imaginary. Become conscious of this it will change your view on so many things relationships, war, and politics. Everyone is scared shitless and all fear is falsehood and a lack of consciousness if you were totally conscious you would not fear anything you cannot even imagine a life without fear. There is no objectively dangerous situation even if you run into a bear it only depends on what you identify with Truth transcends fear because it transcends survival this is the way to realize Truth. Fear is an illusion. If you think the fear is real, it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy society doesn't care about truth it cares about survival. It uses fear against you for survival. Your controlled through fear. Even high quality stage green fears are imaginary there's levels of delusion. Low level is being afraid of homosexuality or other religions higher fears are global warming or environment going bad these aren't completely irrational but there is a problem with the fear itself, Under the materialist paradigm where they think death is real fear seems legitimate or when you run out of money or when you meet a wild animal. There is nothing scientific or rational to fear. Radical terrorists don't want to disobey their god so this surpasses the fear of death so they suicide bomb in the name of truth. Which in reality is just another religion that became hideous. The real god allows this freedom you made up your whole life out of thin air, it's just a story you invented. You must misperceive reality in order to experience fear. If you know what death is you wouldn't fear it keep your mind open its possible all fear and death is just a misperception of reality and maybe death is an illusion. Maybe it's not true that no one can know what death is. Bring up a fear and feel it. Your not going to contemplate fear while a bear is charging you it's designed to keep you alive. Survival takes precedence over truth. Its a reaction without knowing why or what it is. Notice the times you are in fear and instead of reaction unconscious you can pause, feel it consciously and mindfully and ask what is it where is it why is it here what's its function and purpose. You only have fear when your in a bind. If you want to transcend it you have to change how you react to it start to feel it before you react to it it's counter intuitive. Every cell in your body will try to react to it. Real power is standing calmly and consciously in response to grave danger don't put yourself in grave danger most of your fears are relatively minor start with small stuff. Fear is resistance to a future experience The strength to experience everything (the strength to be okay with your daughter down an alleyway sucking dick for cocaine) Understanding this will transcend fear. You don't want to experience what you fear you refuse to experience without resistance. Consciousness doesn't have to do with god it has to do with this. Be able to cut off your hand experience everything without fear. You become conscious that you realize no harm was actually done and that pain never existed, you have to stop identifying as a physical body. The only way you can do it is totally align with truth. Use your imaginative mind to come up with radical fears that are with you that you don't even know this takes lots of consciousness and work fear is directly attached to survival. Brute survival trumps everything, Attachment creates fear. The solution is to surrender yourself to the very thing you are afraid of. Your beliefs logic and ideals are survival at work fear is the base/foundation of the pyramid and it gets less important as it goes up your logic does not touch your fears. Fear of being poisoned (Donald Trumps fear) the Russians are the masters of poisoning this tells you that he fears being crossed WRITE DOWN ALL YOUR FEARS (not going to give them here but that would be another fear for it to be public) Most common macro fears below Macro fears below There's thousands of these kinds of micro fears you will notice more and more. Become aware when you fear, notice micro fears and how it shapes your behavior and affects your thinking not just in your actions but feel them more rather than just reacting fear is not held just in the mind but tension in your body you have a lifetime of fear in your body. Fear happens in humans collectively Life is a love simulator another way to say that is to say life is to learn not to fear fear and love are inverse to say life is a love simulator is that life will present fear over and over again and life is trying to teach you to transcend it life grows your love the fear is an illusion this requires consciousness don't deny or avoid the fear confront it head on facing it so deeply that you won't react the same way when it happens again. It will probably take a long time to realize fear is an illusion. Confront your learned helplessness confront your mental behaviors obsessive habitual negativity boils down to fear. Confront the worst of it feel it. You will get relief and this will help you. Face your own greatness fear is a poor survival strategy sometimes it's healthy and effective but human life is more complicated than bears in the woods fear is a self fulfilling prophecy Fear of being authentic Fear of facing yourself being your best self. Face fear of death - You cannot manipulate your way out of death YOU WILL FACE The more you run from it the more you feel stuck in the fear There are real dangers in the world when it comes to relative fear and its healthy for physical survival this is a good short term survival strategy but never a long term. Fear is status quo fear is not for great change a great society has to be built on love Homework Observe your micro fears at the end of each day you will write down your micro and macro fears for the next 7 days contemplate the following question: How are these micro fears realized to my identity? How is my mind projecting these out onto the world? How am I creating these micro fears? How are your thoughts shaped by your fears? How are your actions shaped? What am I unwilling to experience? Coming in part 2 Top 10 ways to overcome fear What is the most important quality you need to succeed in life? Sorry for shit formatting, I copied it from youtube comments

HOW FEAR WORKS - PART 2 [NOTES] "Wherever there is other, there is fear." - The Upanishads Make sure to have watched part 1 where a lot of foundation is established. Recognize that without fear you'd be dead. Therefore, fear is not bad or evil. Don't reject it or demonize it. Fear is there to serve you. Fear is absolutely necessary for base survival. All of your spiritural persuits, as well as everything else in your life, are predicated upon your base survival. You already know how to live through base survival, driven by fear, that's just nature. But there's also a way of living life beyond fear, beyond base survival, which you have to work hard to understand. Don't judge. There's no such thing as a legitimate fear versus an illegitimate fear. Fear is relative. What you're afraid of is relative to what you're identified with, what kind of situation you're living in, how you were raised, what kind of enviorenment you encounter yourself in, your genetics, your beliefs, among a million other factors. Notice that whatever you fear is completely irrelevant to somebody else. The very nature of fear is to be completely self biased [check episode on Self Bias]. Let's dig a little deeper into fear. Question: existentially, what is it that you ultimately fear? All fear ultimately boils down to fear of yourself. How? It doesn't make sense. Yes, it does, once you have a proper understanding what a Self is. Once you understand all is one, all your fear ends up being part of your Self. Consciousness is terrified of itself. Nothing exists but you. What you fear is your own infinite scope: when you're born, you're identified with this limited, weak, fragile body and everything around you threatens you, so you fear everything around you that you disassociate yourself from. As you grow up, you start to get over some fears. That's what growth is, essentially. The ultimate growth is when you finally realize that you're infinity itself, so there's nothing to fear. This entire process can be smooth or very difficult. You are God becoming aware of itself. You are being forced by the Truth to realize your true nature, so you need to be strong and corageous to accept it, when many people are in denial about it. You fear the enormity of what you are. It's difficult for conciousness to accept itself. So how do you ultimately transcend fear? By expanding your sense of self. It's pretty hard, though. It's super rare to find a fearless person. You can attain high levels of conciousness and feel no fear while you're at it, but it's not a state of conciousness that's easily sustained. So don't be a perfectionist and don't give up. Try to improve your life through this practice. Persuing fearlessness will get rid of a lot of unnecessary suffering and your life will be better, your survival will be easier and smoother. So don't aim at some sort of Jesus Christ kind of conciousness and fearlessness. It's too radical a decision to make. This can't be stressed enough. So don't kid yourself. Are you actually willing to make the ultimate sacrife of not even caring whether you live or not? Most people aren't. For most people talking about fearlessness is a joke. So set realistic, practical goals for fearlessness. So let's work on practical things! Practical things like fear within your marriage, your family, your career, your ambitions, etc. But realize that your fears will never end. There will always be fear unless you tackle the root cause. Recognize that there are many degrees of fear. Some people can't even leave their house because of crippling fear. There's difference in overcoming specific fears versus transcending fear as a whole. Is fear a thought? No. It's a feeling. It's a very distinct feeling. To get a sense of what fear is, feel it in your body through mindfulness work. Thoughts can contribute to that feeling and the feeling can contribute to thoughts. You can realize that through mindfulness practice. Is there truth behind fear or is all fear innacurate perception? There's a difference between absolute Truth and relative truths. In the absolute sense, all fear is false. But in the relative sense, fear can be a valuable indicator of something that's going to be harmful or dangerous to whatever you're identified with being. Isn't it dangerous to eliminate fear? If we eliminate all fear, what will keep us alive? Nothing. Because if you successfully eliminate all fear, you literally won't care whether you're alive. But to surrender to the idea that you will die is different than actually dying. The thing that's going to keep you from danger if you get rid of all fear is conciousness, wisdom and caution. Being fearless is not being reckless. Doesn't God want us to fear him? Otherwise what would prevent us from sinning? Absolutely not. Any religious or spiritual teaching based on fear is a corruption. God loves you no matter how much you sin because God is concious that it's you. God is not the devil. The devil judges. God doesn't. 12 METHODS FOR DEALING WITH FEAR: 1 - Face your fears head on. Just do the thing you fear. If you avoid the fear, all it does is deepen the fear. 2 - Put yourself proactively to challenging situations. Don't get too comfortable. Push your comfort zone. Be bold on purpose. Be bold, not reckless in a stupid way. 3 - Training. Massive experience. Massive exposure. Expose yourself to something mindfully, conciously. Feel into the fear. Get comfortable with that fear feeling. 4 - Rigorous mindfulness practice 20-30 minutes a day [see episode on Mindful Meditation] 5 - Be totally present. When fear comes up, if you're able to be totally present, you can notice that your mind is jumping into the future. This can be done through a lot of meditation practice. 6 - Psychedelics. One of the most practical and powerful tools for dealing with fear, because it puts you face to face with death. 7 - Kriya yoga, which is sort of a meditative yoga rather than physical [see episode on the Importance of Yoga] 8 - Contemplation using a journal: what is this fear? Why is it arising? How is it connecting back to my identity? Contemplation alone will not be enough, though. Fear is too powerful to just reason your way out of it. [see episode on How to Contemplate Using a Journal] 9 - The letting-go technique. The Sedona method. [see episode on The Power of Letting Go] 10 - Breathing conciously, slowly and deeply as you feel the fear. [see episode on Body Awareness] Fear is a physiological phenomenon. 11 - Visualization and law of attraction. Overwhelm the fear with a positive vision. 12 - Love. Love is the ultimate solution to fear. Whatever situation in life that you're in when you're scared, the most counterintuive move you can do in that point is experience love. There'll be a separate video in the future on how love and fear inter-relate. Be grateful and more appreciative of life. When you feel grateful in your heart, there's no room for fear. When you're feeling afraid, do something selfless to another person. Help somebody. Fear is selfishness incarnated. LAST OBSERVATIONS AND HOMEWORK EXERCISE Notice that knowing somebody's fear allows you to predict their behavior. This allows you to help them, create rapport with them, come up with solutions to people's fear, have good relationships, be a good leader, etc. Get into the habit of accessing other people's fears. For example, sit down with a piece of paper and brainstorm: what does your mother fear? What does your father fear? What does your spouse fear? What does your fear? What does your company fear? Your client? Scientists? Christians? Spiritual people? Atheists? Muslims? Etc. [Download the file in the decription to guide you] Don't judge people's fears. Understand their fears. Everyone has unique fears. Realizing how selfish, limited and ridiculous other people's fears are ultimately helps you realize the same about your own fears. The paradox of fear is the shocking truth that what you really feared the whole time was not bad or evil stuff, but rather what you really feared is the realization that there is no such thing as bad or evil at all and that all is infinite love. What you really fear is dissolving into that love that leaves no room to your limited ego. Love is scary and radical. The surest way to fail at life is to allow yourself to be crippled by fear and to not be bold. You're not exploring the Earth. You're exploring your own self. What is the most important quality you need to suceed in life? Fearlessness (which is synonymous to courage, love, conciousness). Fearlessness means that you feel fear but don't succumb stupidly to it.

Why do you think it's getting collapsed?

He is getting involved directly in a sense on this forum. He is participating and answers questions here a lot. Nice analysis, though

I invision it as a mix of "Spiritual", by which I mean deeply contemplating and inquiring into the nature of art and surrounding topics and what they mean metaphysically and "Life-purpose" in which there'll be practical topics on how to be creative and resourceful as an artist (producing more and better, more profound artworks and probably some practical real life problems surrounding that aswell). And maybe also a small fraction of that would be a "Theraputic" kind of art where we'll be disccussing "art-therapy" and different flow-states you can go into while doing artsy stuff. Sort of art-meditation. For me, though, the most important is Art philosophy (inquiry) and Life purpose kind of art

I'd actively participate in it. I found contemplating art, design and creativity can lead to very profound practical insights and breakthroughs, so I'm all in for that! @Leo Gura , need your attention, man

How old is she? If that is indeed that much serious for her, I would respect her and move on, the most noble thing you can do. I wouldn't try to convince her to "surpress" her desires nor would I suggest compromising your values and goals in life too. What do you want? If you want kids soon aswell, you can try to negotiate with her and make it in 5 years or so but only if you want it and only if you want to be with her for a very long time

Yeah, that realization had a big impact on me too. Explains so much of human's ignorancec

I think you HAVE to be a populist in order to have a chance in that race. Doesn't make the racer worse tho

Wtf you're talking about man. This career is okay even if you're 50 years old, I know DJ's like that. How age is limiting you in this industry?

Just start doing meditation and visualization exercises and you'll grow your real size (not physical one) very fast. Physical size is almost useless to have a good sex although it appears as it matters

My biggest disappointment with meditation was that this field is big as fuck. There is all kind of meditation disciplines and there is so much stuff to master (Concentration, observation, feeling your body, breathwork, visualization, contemplative inquiry, witchcraft, meditative sex, etc) it's just overwhelming. Once you get into this swamp you can't just focus on your breath anymore, like you used to do when you were young

@MuddyBoots Yeah, I agree, there is all kind of information flowing around in society, a lot of it is probably wrong and far-fetched. Even those people who are closely related to these problems I believe can be highly dogmatic and believe what their professor or textbook says for granted. And then they try to make the hype out of this information. It's very hard to know who to believe in those kind of things and this situation being very far away from our "casual" problems that we face every day (Such as issues with health, money, carreer, etc) doesn't really motivate us to do anything about it

The problem is, it doesn't get enough exposure in the media. You know a lot about this stuff because you've studied it a lot and invested shit ton of time focused on that particular subject (or set of subjects). From my point of view, I don't care almost at all about these problems because they don't exist in my perception, I believe the same happens for 99% of people, they just don't know

Can confirm, good shit, indeed. I've read about 30-40% of his booklist already, planning to go for 100% in the next 2-3 years

There is one good book about this topic called "Integral relationships" or something among these lines. The author took various models, most known here are spiral dynamics and Ken WIlber's integral theory and laid out a pretty good advice for so called "integral aware" relationship seeker

@Leo Gura

INTJ\ENTJ

How do you take fun and chillout ? Do you play video games ?

You're drowning in symbols and believe in them too much as though they are real, guys. That is what Leo is basically saying to you. 1+1=2 is true in the context of mathematics and our language but if we strip away the cultural meaning of symbols and the math theory behind them it doesn't have any meaning whatsoever, but you treat them in way although they do. That's a false assumption you're getting pointed into

Hell, you can even become a Meditation and Yoga teacher and charge $ for it. I imagine it is very easy to setup in the current 21st society, especially if you live in the west. You can just rent a space in the gym and do marketing inside of the gym and on social media

Whatever you like. You can make money off of pretty much anything if you're very good at that thing and learn some biz and marketing skills. You can make money off of bodybuilding coaching, diet coaching, graphic design, playing music, electronics, voice overing, copywriting (this is huge), online marketing, social media management, video editing, making illustrations, making AI algorithms, selling (being good at deals), project management. There is tons of stuff, don't limit yourself to just programming because it's a trendy path right now. Following masses leads to mediocrity by definition

I'd set a high priority into deliberately developing mastering and expertise in some domain that you like, so later you can avoid wage slavery and instead focus on your growing and enjoying life.

Interesting observation