RickyFitts

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  1. My experience has been the exact opposite, vulnerability and emotional openness with my girlfriends has tended to precipitate sexual arousal (not that that was my intention, I should point out, it's something that happened naturally).
  2. @Esilda This is a lovely idea for a thread, I can't wait to hear more of your thoughts on the subject of love
  3. Thank you so much for sharing
  4. An Eckhart Tolle quote came to mind in relation to this thread, and I think it's worthy of consideration: I think we humans have such a strong tendency to turn away from what feels uncomfortable and to escape to the apparent safety of thinking that we often end up in denial of our true feelings. Becoming aware of these feelings can be distressing and upsetting, but it's so important, I believe, where spiritual growth is concerned.
  5. Great question, I tried to figure that one out for years without ever really getting to the bottom of it. Now you've got me thinking about it, it seems to me that feeling must precede thought, just on the basis that we've always been able to feel, but we haven't always been able to think. Maybe that's too simplistic though.
  6. It's good that you can see this, not everyone would have the self-awareness to recognise that this is the core issue. I watched the following video on the subject of healing an abandonment wound a short while back, which I found very useful - it's quite a long one, but it might be worth a watch if you can spare the time:
  7. Never heard of the guy before, not thrilled to hear that he appears to hail from my part of the world. Sounds like a bit of a plum.
  8. Always struck me as being the real deal, not someone who was just parrotting nondual rhetoric.
  9. @aurum Excellent post. Even relationships that become very dysfunctional and end in a lot of heartache can facilitate lots of growth, as I've found in my own experience, they can expose your core issues so that they can be dealt with.
  10. What's so wrong about having a feminine side?
  11. As long as both parties are committed to being open, vulnerable, supportive, and understanding with each other, I think it's perfectly possible. I think a relationship with the right person can be very healing, just so long as you both go into it with your eyes open and take full responsibility for your internal environment.
  12. @Applegarden8 It does look like a challenge to play, to put it mildly This is something else I discovered before, I didn't know you could get bass guitars with more than 4/5 strings - apparently you can get eight-string bass guitars, for pity's sake, though why you'd need eight strings on a bass I really can't fathom!
  13. @Thought Art Just had a look at some Vernon Howard quotes and I'm liking his work, lots of wisdom in there. Though my favourite quote is probably this one:
  14. You don't think men have a feminine side? What do you think a feminine side is, exactly?
  15. I can imagine! Fuck's sake, I want one now
  16. Sure does - little wonder, then, that women tend to be more intuitive
  17. Absolutely agree with this, learning to play instruments like the violin cultivates sensitivity and presence, it seems to me - it brings to mind something Shinichi Suzuki said: that he taught the violin not to add more violinists to the world, but to develop the heart and improve the character of the music student. I love that, I think that's a great way of looking at it
  18. Nah, you can't really kid yourself I don't think. I think the real issue is that you believe that life should have meaning, that you can't live without it because life seems pointless if it doesn't have meaning. I think it's on the level of emotion that you need to focus - how does this apparent meaningless make you feel? Become very intimate with your felt experience when you contemplate this question, notice exactly what's going on within you without thinking about it.
  19. Just doesn't feel natural when I lie on my back, I always feel more comfortable curled up in the foetal position (figures, I guess, given that that's the position we were in when we were in the womb). I'll give it a try again though, see how I get on with it.
  20. We've all got a feminine side, and it's beautiful - it should be cultivated, not denied.
  21. Good Lord, how am I only just now learning of the existence of the eight-string guitar? I've got the standard six-string guitar as well as a twelve-string guitar, didn't realise there was anything in between. Anyway, really looking forward to hearing what you come up with, bro