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@Marcel 'Je suis un table' - I mean, do you really need any more French than that? ?

Brilliant!

@ivankiss That's some high-level shit right there, Ivan Like, literally

@Preety_India Nein! I learnt French at school! (I don't really know French either ?)

@Preety_India Oh but Preety, you haven't lived until you've eaten a Chilli Heatwave Dorito, they're da bomb!

@Flowerfaeiry Thanks for sharing, I love Emma McAdams' 'Therapy In A Nutshell' channel, she's amazing!!

@Gianna ???

Fuck, not the point I know but I've a sudden craving for Doritos.. ... yep, I'm suddenly feeling ravenous ?

I'm so, so sorry to hear that, my love ? I love you so much, my darling, take really good care of yourself - there's no rush to do anything at times like this if you don't feel like it, be really kind to yourself ?

@Gianna Wowwww... I don't think I'd have ever interpreted the song as a message from my inner child, but that makes so much sense to me, I love that! It's devastatingly beautiful when you put it like that... Sounds like the universe is speaking to you loud and clear at the moment, darl, and the nice thing is that you're available to hear it

@Gianna

Yes! I think so too, that's such a lovely moment ? And such a lovely song, too! Reminds me of when I was having a really hard time, I was walking down the street one day and this guy's blasting music out of his car, and I hear this one line: 'These wounds are all self-imposed, life's no disaster' (from a song called 'Waltzing Along', by the band James who I absolutely love). It was like the universe was giving me a sorely-needed reminder

You know what, I reckon you'd be the coolest dad ever! Really nice thread, Ivan

I think this is key, yeah. I can completely relate about the feelings of intense guilt and shame, I felt that after an ex had a complete breakdown when I ended the relationship, I ended up blaming myself for it and getting back in touch with her out of guilt - and it just made things worse in the long-run, I just ended up hurting her even worse, and then I felt even more guilty and ashamed. So it became a vicious circle, and I resolved never to make the mistake of acting from a place of guilt ever again, because I'd seen that it just made things worse. It can seem so hard to resist those guilty impulses though, so I really do feel for you ? I think just reminding yourself that you aren't responsible for this guy's well-being and trusting that he'll be all right without your intervention is important. Boy, though, working through those feelings was tough... they can run so deep, and there can be so much pain underneath them. Maybe it was worse for me because I'm a guy and, as you say, we do tend to bottle these feelings up so much. But you're strong, Gianna, so I know you'll be fine ?

Beautiful ?

There's no rush, don't force yourself to do it if you don't feel inspired to do so

I'm so sorry you're going through this, Gianna, I can't imagine how awful it must be for you Maybe this is your problem - that you don't understand what's at the root of his behaviour. I'm not proud to admit this, but I can relate to this guy - I was stuck on a girl for years, too, just couldn't move on, wasn't remotely interested in other women. I had a little more self-control than your ex has, thankfully (though I did pursue her pretty hard for a good few months), and I knew it just showed that I had some serious issues to resolve - but it was so, so hard, I was in so much pain and turmoil. It took me a long time to come to terms with it. I don't say this to try and diminish the severity of your situation, I'm just trying to help you see the situation from his perspective. I think maybe feminine compassion is the answer in this instance. I understand you feeling frustrated, but please don't allow the situation to harden your heart, Gianna. Feel the inner resistance to the situation within yourself. Allow that to relax. 'What you resist, persists.'

@Preety_India Not at all, Preety, I'm so touched you posted those two beautiful songs ?

Couldn't agree more. It's a complete abdication of responsibility to point the finger like that, not to mention downright tedious.

They've gotten the lyrics slightly wrong in that video - the line is 'You can't play ON broken strings', not 'OUR broken strings'. Bothering me much more than it probably should, it's making me want to send a strongly-worded letter of complaint to someone ?

@ivankiss That's interesting, I'd always thought that consciousness and God were one and the same, I hadn't considered consciousness as being an expression of God. That's a deep thought, I'll have to sit with that one