RickyFitts

That much cuteness should really come with a warning, I think I've just grown a uterus

Just came across this article and thought it was an excellent and timely message, so just wanted to share: https://adyashanti.opengatesangha.org/teachings/library/writing#what-would-love-do-

Great idea - I'll check it out, thanks!

@Gianna Absolutely loving the tracks you've posted, so glad you started to thread - introduced me to a lot of music I may never have heard otherwise, thanks so much for sharing

What a great way of putting it ?

Yes! Great way of looking at it, these sorts of situations can definitely be great opportunities for growth if we can remain present

Oh it's just awful, I wouldn't wish it on anyon - so sorry you had to go through that Glad you're feeling better now though Completely get where you're coming from about not wanting to break the masseuse's spirit - I think just being fully present, noticing any tension you might be feeling and allowing it to release can also be very helpful, too. Anyway, hope you have a great massage, you're very welcome soul sister <3

Agree - I'm very much with the Buddha on this one: 'Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional'. The real issue isn't so much the pain as the resistance we build up against it - that inner resistance causes emotional repression and energetic blockages, and we're never really free whilst there's anything unresolved in us. I know that for me in my own healing journey, becoming conscious of that inner resistance, which manifests in the body as contraction and tension, and then allowing it to gradually release has been absolutely crucial.

Demonising desire isn't helpful, as it's only liable to lead to repression. Far better, in my opinion, to endeavour to understand what's at the root of it - inquire into it, feel into it. To desire is human, there's nothing wrong with desire in and of itself. To believe otherwise is to go to war with yourself, and that helps no-one.

Oh no, I'm so sorry you had such a bad reaction to the sugar I guess these sorts of situations are learning experiences if nothing else, though I don't suppose it's helpful to know that when you're suffering - I hope you feel a little better today, anyway ? RE the massage, might be best to just be honest with the masseuse about how you're feeling at the moment, she might be understanding

The following guided meditation for the practice of non-resistance just came up in my Youtube recommendations and I thought it was very helpful, so figured I'd share it here:

It starts, I think, with bringing attention to that within you that isn't at peace, and cultivating compassion for those wounded, traumatised parts of yourself rather than judging or suppressing them. Having compassion for our humanness is so, so important, I feel.

@Judy2

@Judy2 Thanks for elaborating I've come to think that when we're very young we just haven't yet learnt to think that it's not all right to express our emotions, and so they can actually move through our systems much more quickly because we haven't been conditioned to repress upset, anger, fear, etc. - when we're upset we cry, when we're angry we scream, and so on, we're completely unfiltered at that stage. And emotion is energy, of course, so to repress emotion is to repress that energy, which ends up causing all sorts of mental/emotional/physical/energetic issues. That's just how it seems to me though, maybe that's a little simplistic I don't know.

Okay, that sounds like a good reason to me Not related to interuterine trauma specifically, but 'Healing Trauma' by Peter Levine is a good book on the subject of trauma that you might find useful, could be worth a look. Interesting, so are you saying that trauma tends to affect us worse after identification has happened? Would you mind expanding on this a little?

I seem to be on a bit of an instrumental kick today, this is an interesting one that just came up on Youtube, never heard it before:

Why do you want to re-experience it? Not that I'm suggesting that you're wrong to want to, I'm just curious.

Wrong. Belief and faith are two completely separate things. Belief is of the mind, faith is of the heart. The majority of people don't know the first thing about true faith, because they're so caught in their thinking.

That's your problem right there - that you're approaching meditation as a purely mental activity. Compassion and wisdom arise from the heart, not the head, so of course meditation isn't going to give rise to those things if you're approaching it like that. Give more attention to what's going on below the neckline, notice where you're feeling contracted and tense and allow yourself to relax and breathe. Allow the arising of what had previously been suppressed, even if it feels uncomfortable, painful, or upsetting.

I know But I could've given a more accurate idea of what the video is actually about with a better thread title, that was a bit lazy on my part.

The following video from Shunyamurti came up in my Youtube recommendations so I figured I'd share it here, I know trauma's a big issue for a lot of people so hopefully some will get use out of it: