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@SageModeAustin I didn’t phrase it well. I meant that you are not avoiding personal responsibility.

@SageModeAustin This probably revealed surface level stuff, yet I think it’s good it was exposed and that you aren’t avoiding or blaming her. You are open to looking at it. That’s huge. I would be careful tho about spiraling into a place of “see I’m too insecure and can’t be confident. I’ll never be able to have a healthy relationship”. My second Ayahuasca ceremony went into the depths of my deepest insecurities - how they formed and how they were subconsciously directing my feelings and behavior. Later I was shown everyone else’s inner insecurities and deep empathy and love arose. This could probably be revealed in other settings, yet an Aya ceremony is a great atmosphere due to the love and support there. One of the keys I’ve found is to stop identifying with the insecurities. Rather than “I am insecure”, it becomes “A feeling of insecurity has arisen in my body”. It is a totally different orientation.

Awesome progress. I would call this Law of Attraction, rather than nonduality.

I just wanted to chime in that ime, it doesn’t work out well by trying to repress and hide insecurities and act secure. It just causes more internal problems. I found it much better to work through inner insecurities through introspection, contemplation and discussions with others. Insecurity can be expressed in immature ungrounded ways and mature grounded ways. We all have insecurities - when one person expresses it in a way that grasps for validation and attention in a “please don’t leave me” way - it doesn’t transmit a sense of well-being. The other person has their own insecurities and the last thing most people want is to take on someone else’s insecurities. . . Yet there is also a mature way to express insecurity. Once a person has worked through it, they can sit with the feelings without clutching for another. When the timing is appropriate, one can have fearless vulnerability and speak from a place of experience and grounded confidence. There is no longer fear of rejection. This can come across as being sturdy as a rock. This can allow a safe space and the other person may sense the other’s maturity and stability in this area and open up with some of their own insecurities. . . Yet one has to work through their own issues first - one can’t fake it, they will get exposed if it’s not genuine. Plus, timing is crucial. One doesn’t bring up the topic to relieve their own insecurity by grasping or to try and look fearless. One doesn’t need to raise the issue in a needy way because they are grounded when the feeling of insecurity arises and they can deal with it without seeking and clutching. Occasionally it may come up in conversation, yet in a grounded way that can be helpful to the other person and relationship. Almost like a role model for the other person’s insecurities. A role model as how a mature, stable person deals with insecurity within a relationship.

As a neutral example of repetitive thought patterns and the Law of Attraction: Imagine someone is pursuing their dream to write a book. The writer has repetitive negative thoughts that he is unworthy as a writer, he fears that other people will see his deficiencies, is defensive to feedback from others and worries that he is investing too much time into something he will likely fail at. He worries that no one will buy his book and how embarrassed he will be to face his family and friends. . . It is highly likely that due to this orientation, his book writing journey is not going to turn out well. Imagine another person is highly excited to write her first book. Her recurring thoughts are about how passionate she is about her topic and how much her book will help others. She is open to feedback because she sees editors as experts that can help her develop writing skills and produce a better product. It is much more likely that her book writing journey will turn out better than the guy above - even if they started with the same skill set and resources, because their mindsets will attract different realities to unfold.

Too far off the topic of self actualization.

As requested, the OP would like to stop. Keep in mind that inflaming and baiting others into arguments is a form of trolling.

Space vs not space is a dualism. My initial impression of the this thread you started was that you were genuine and open regarding your question into nonduality. Yet it appears you are oriented toward arguing and defending a pre-conceived set of beliefs.

There is no “my” god. That would entail dualistic separation.

These are all constructs. Your mind won’t expand if you are contracted within constructs. You haven’t broken through with direct experience yet. It’s not something I can explain to you. If you want it, do the practices.

“It” isn’t a thing. We may use the word “It” as a pointer, yet all words are inherently dualistic and aint “It”, including the word / concept “It”. Yet as humans, we communicate through language. I find it helpful to relax the mind and not get attached to the words, the words are only pointers.

@ColdFacts One word is too many, a trillion words not enough.

You are still making constructs of existence vs. nonexistence. “It” is prior to intellect, constructs and images. All those thought constructs are fine and dandy. That’s what human minds do, including my mind. Yet to go prior to that, one needs to surrender all. This is why direct experience of the absolute is so crucial. If you like a sense of grounding, the images of quantum mechanics of superposition and position may be helpful. As well, Leo’s video on Actuality.

All images and concepts of it, existence, space, things, within etc is Everything. Any thing you imagine is Nothing / Everything. You can spend years of your life trying to escape (I spent 23 yrs trying), yet when you deconstruct all things, you are left with Nothing = Everything. There are no more priors. This is why the direct experience is crucial. A mind cannot see it through thoughts, concepts and images.

Any ideas of me, whatever, existence and space is Everything. Any thing a mind can image is Everything. There is nothing outside of Everything. Everything = Nothing. There is no escape. It is unpalatable to the ego, yet ih so liberating.

@ColdFacts Ime, simple images and concepts are best. I like the image of Everything. If there is One Everything, there is no thing. You cannot name a thing outside or separate from Everything. Thus Everything = no thing = Nothing.

It’s not intellectual. You eon’t figure it out with more analysis and constructs. It’s direct experience. Set the thought stories down for a bit and simply observe what is revealed.

1-1.5g is a light shroom trip - just enough for a magical boost, without things going cra-cra. I’d shroom at a music festival over drinking, hands down. I’d suggest checking out Nahm’s shroom tea guide thread - to reduce nausea

I would recommend “How to Think Like Leonardo Da Vinci” by Michael Gelb - a great read.

Ooohhh yea. . .exploration into uncharted lands. So beautiful ♥️ ?

@apparentlynoself I find it helpful to engage in various spiritual practices. Over time, the categories of meditation and non-meditation begin to collapse. I find it helpful to have formal meditation sessions sitting on a cushion in a quiet setting to help ground and limit distractions. It’s more likely presence of being will reveal itself. Over time, that presence of being may reveal itself outside of my meditation room. I may be sitting in mature and realize that meditative presence - “holy smokes, I’m meditating”. The boundaries between meditation vs non/meditation break down. . . Yet I still find formal meditation sessions helpful. It’s easy or the ego to blow off practicing meditation by thinking “I’ll just meditate while I’m running or driving to work”. This can be an avoidance tactic for the ego. . . On the flip side, one’s meditation practice can also become an escape from regular life.

I would first look at how the mind and body has contextualized this as: sexual cravings are “impure” and no sexual cravings is “pure”. For me, this would set up inner turmoil and conflict. When sexual cravings arise, I would observe without criticism. Get curious. What thought stories arise with the body sensations? Perhaps a thought story about how I am “impure” and need to “purify” myself by getting rid of these feelings? . . Deconstruct it and let it go. I know it’s much harder to do in the moment, yet ime repression just reinforces inner turmoil. On a more practical note, I find exercise such as cycling and running to be helpful.

@vibrate For me, actual physical sexual contact would be too much. One exercise I did with a partner was to sit in a meditation posture facing each other. Get grounded. Then we might put our hands on each other’s legs, perhaps inner thighs. A bit of sexual energy may arise. If it starts to overflow and the mind-body gets into “screw this exercise, let’s get it on” mode, then I pull back. Just a bit of sexual energy and observe it. That energy can overlap and merge with energies of strength, creativity, desire, humor, attention and so on. Then the mind-body may become groundless and not sure how to categorize sexual energy. Ime, just a little sexual energy is best. The mind-body is conditioned to amplify and pursue sexual energy. Don’t let it “go over the edge”. I found starting with a small amount we each could stay grounded and work with was best. . . A more advanced exercise is an interactive yoga with a partner and mixing in a bit of sexual energy with other energies. Like different paint colors. It’s super cool, yet it’s hard to find a partner into this.

Ultimately, there is a clearness - within that clarity of nothing, any thing can appear and disappear. Observing creation (construction and deconstruction) without attachment and identification can be quite insightful.

@Enlightenment I’m not anti-materialism. I teach and research material within my career as a science teacher and researcher ?