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Buddy, don't worry about me, my goal here is to wake people out of this arrogance position in which they keep talking and shitting on something that they are clueless about and THEN missing on the life-changing benefits of it and that's just sad to me. Again, all of this stems from a fundamental assumption that you know what you are talking about, which you don't. What I want here is for you to drop this idea that I have made of what PickUp is and go look into it deeply and practice it. All you have said are superficial, apparent stuff, this is what most people think when they talk about pick up. And this is also how most newbies think when they START this journey. First of all, you don't have to approach hundreds of girls before your first success. It all extremely personal, some people are way ahead of other when they begin, depending on several factors like charisma, confidence, social intelligence, self-esteem, previous experience with women, knowledge about PU etc. Second of all, success is a personal definition, some might define success as saying hi girls, some as having sex, some as exchanging numbers etc. This seems obvious but is crucial because if a newbie defines success in PU as having sex, yeah, maybe it will take him hundreds of approaches or more and this will demotivate him a lot. If a newbie defines success as saying hi to anyone, he will have a lot more chances in succeeding. It's like defining success in meditation as having super focus one-pointed concentration for 1h straight. Yeah, it will take you years to accomplish it. Anyway, PU is way more complex and fluid that you imagine it to be, go do some serious research before making conclusions.

Holy shit, dude, this is genius! No one has ever thought about doing this before Really? You are in a self-development forum and wonder why deliberately practicing skills, setting and achieving big goals are important? Why not just let things happen naturally? Why meditate? This isn't natural! Stop trying to copy some formula to develop self-mastery, just let the monkey-mind take over and be miserable like a normal person

Define a "scam". This is way too simplistic. If you paid for some self-development program and got nothing out of it, chances are, you are just too dumb to grasp the depth of the knowledge presented to you. Seems like you are expecting the teacher to do the work for you, as most lazy people do. And when that doesn't work, they get upset and say it' a scam. I would bet that even if the program is very basic, if you apply the principles, you will get something out of it. A lot of people came to these programs with this "cup full" mentality, they see themselves as knowledgable and don't really grasp what the teacher is saying because they are always thinking "I know that already", but really, they don't or they only have a superficial understanding and think they are experts. Those people go to self-development programs expecting mind-blowing complex concepts and when they find the same concepts that they once heard but ignored thinking it was too basic, even if they completely fail to see its depth, they will say they got scammed.

Well, very simple. Pick-up is a skill, like meditation, it needs practice. I can pay some enlightened guru to teach me everything he knows about meditation and, in the end, get zero results because I didn't practice it, only accumulated information, which clearly isn't the point of meditation. Pick-up is like that, you can have the best teachers 1-on-1 with you, if you do not approach, you will not learn. You can learn for free if you watch a few free videos on YT and go out to practice it. People love to cut corners, paying high sums of money to teachers in order to not do the work and then they are surprised it didn't worked.

100% his fault for 0 results.

Self-Actualization/Spirituality Tattoo Ideas?

That's normal, you will change your whole life many times if you go deep enough. It's like layers of an onion or a snake shedding its skin.

Exactly, most people define themselves by their victim personas, is like an easy way out, everyone will feel sorry for you and tell you how mistreated you were. In turn, you will hold on to this because if you were not victimized you get no sympathy for your failings, you are alone and with no excuses, that's scary as hell for most people. Who would you be without your limitations? That's a tough one to contemplate. It's so "open" and full of possibilities that is scary. You would assume that most people fear failing but I would bet that people often fear success more than failure. Imagine yourself as the president of the US with all the responsibility, all the accountability 24/7, now imagine yourself as a homeless person that sleeps in the open, skips a few meals, which one is scarier? I compare this limitless possibility feeling to swimming in the open sea, so vast, deep, and unknown that is scary as hell.

Only the best one can, the rest is bound to suffer forever. lol just kidding, of course not, everyone IS self-actualizing in a way or another, but only a few do it consciously. Don't go on a self-actualization crusade, that almost always backfires. Do your thing, show what is possible, throw some hints here and there and let people ask you for help.

The way Buddha looks at you when you are fapping to that filthy porn.

Toxic Green. I wouldn't raise shit either.

Well, you can see this from many angles. One of them is that, in an ultimate sense, is God "victimizing" God. God abusing God, God raping God, God being "homeless" in a world that is nothing but God. Of course, if it is all God, there is also no "abusing", or "raping", those only exist when the ego-mind, which separates itself from everything else (from God) and project meaning into something that ultimately has none. Ok, but let's say that the argument above is too much to grasp (and it is for most people). Let's say then that you got beaten by some bully and that beat made you swift from passivity to proactivity in changing your life, now you workout and practiced some martial arts, which led to making new friends, developing skills, more self-confidence, which made all your life better from now on. That change would never happen by it's on. When an organism is comfortable, change doesn't happen. Now, looking from that angle, the bully is good or bad? Could be that the bully is actually some sort of angel sent to put you into this self-transformation path? See all your problems as a curriculum given to you. You came to this life, shit happened, people mistreated you in horrible and various ways, now you have a particular set of things to work on. Let's say that you got raped as a child by your uncle. Now, to overcome this you have ti develop: self-empowerment, emotional intelligence, forgiveness, self-love, trust, sexual repression, guilt etc. None of that would be properly looked at and worked on if that shitty thing hadn't happened to you. Getting out of victim mentality is about realizing that shit inevitable happens and you have to deal with it, but the best way to deal with it is to see it from empowering angles like the ones I mentioned or some other. You can cry and be angry all you want about the "injustices" (from one partial point of view) that happened to you but once you realize that that approach won't make you better and no one will do it for you, you will seek for solutions instead of problems.

Sorry, only now i saw your comment. Yes, absolutely related. Weak sense of reality is how I define the feeling of being ungrounded. When you are too much in your head and not in your body, you create your sense of reality through thoughts, logic, and overly-theorization. This phenomenon is described in-depth in the book "The Betrayal Of The Body" by Alexander Lowen. There, he talks in terms of the character structure he calls "schizoid". They are people that, due to the inability to deal with extreme negative feelings like fear, retreat in their heads and kind of forget the body, making them one step away from the schizophrenic. They do that in order to not enter in a full-blown psychotic state. Chakra one imbalance. Schizoid types are basically chronically ungrounded people, they describe this kind of unrealism about life, like their are living in a state of dream, where things do not appear real (in a sense of SOLIDLY REAL). It is like watching life behind the lenses of a binocle, things get too fluid and impersonal. I relate a LOT with all those symptoms and most my immediate family (mom, aunt and grandmother) suffer from it, I was raised in a household full of schizoid people that are completely unaware of their condition, which creates a huge shitshow. I am no different from them, but i have a lot of self-awareness and this gives me at least a chance to overcome this state. Needless to say that psychedelics to schizoid people are dangerous. I have a good experience of psychedelic use but at some point, they got overwhelming for me because i was ungrounded and didn't knew that. The feeling is literally losing your mind, going crazy, which is a big fear of mine due to my family history of mental problems. During my worst trips, i remember doing my best to "grab" unto anything that seems familiar and "solid" for me, could be a good friend, a familiar/safe place like a bedroom or even a tree (yes lol in one of my ayahuasca trips i literally started hugging a tree to ground myself).

I was always against guns and pro heavy regulations for special cases but seeing those riots on USA and how easily the government lost control of the situation, it made clear for me why we really need guns: when shit goes down and Big Daddy fails to protect you, you better have a gun to protect yourself, your family and your property.

It's normal to feel fear, it means you are not stupid. If you do not feel any fear before taking some psychedelic, you must be enlightened as fuck or stupid as fuck. Psychedelics are wild, unpredictable, and scaringly real. Not like some video-game or some movie but as real as life can get. In a way, my trips got scarier as I advanced because my contemplation got deeper about the nature of things and it turned my reality upside down, a great magical mystery. But that's also what makes them awesome, they have a tendency to put you in a place of humility, breaking down the house of cards you call "reality", making you question literally everything, which is, of course, scary. It is a matter of preferring a scary but awesome truth or a comfortable lie (which most call life). If you decide you want truth, here are my best tips: 1. Master meditation, seriously. Your ability to control your attention and handle strong emotions will be essential during the trip. 2. Ground yourself as much as possible. All the bad trips i got were due to lack of grounding, my mind was all over the place, my sense of reality was already weak before the trip which only got worse as the psychedelics kicked in and my fear and anxiety got through the roof. 3. Do it only in a place you feel 100% safe and will not be bothered by random people. It is great if you live alone, but if you do not, tell everyone what you are going to do and ask to not be bothered. 4. Do it in a place where you can do any weird shit you feel like being naked, practicing yoga, mantras, exercising, or just laying in your bed comfortable. I personally always feel the need to move a lot, practicing yoga (asanas and pranayama, mostly). 5. Have a plan b just in case. Have some strong and fast-acting anxiolytic substance ready and someone you can call if you need to. If you have those two, you will be a lot more at ease. One time i was on 4g of shrooms and 50ug of LSD and started to freak out a little. I was alone, my anxiety was high, i lost any notion of time and that scared me as time seemed to last a lot longer midst my panic attack, which made things worse. Luckily i managed to text my best friend, he replied to me, i told him what was happening and asked him to come to see me. Even before he arrived, i was much more tranquil because i knew everything was going to be fine. If wasn't for him, i might make something dumb like calling my dad. 6. Surrender, surrender, surrender. If you are shaking, let it shake, if you are crying, cry a lot, if you are scared, just feel it, breath deeply and slowly. Breathing is key when going through some challenging experience. 7. Listen to your body, not your mind. The body knows what you have to do, it will guide you to do something like asanas, just do it. What the body is doing is giving you instructions to break free from old traumas, stuck emotions/energy etc. You mind will be confused as fuck trying to make sense and often making wrong assumptions and inducing you to make poor choices like call the cops, ambulance or something like that. 8. Full detox a week before the trip. No porn, no drugs, no junkie food. Be as present as possible, stay away from screens and electronics, spend time in nature, contemplating, reading and writing.

What you call scam, someone can call life-changing experience, watch out for close-mindedness.

They absolutely do. Men that gravitate towards that are lost and broken, society does NOT do a good job transforming boys into men. Teach men how to fight, be assertive, create and respect boundaries,be disciplined, be resilient, act in honorable ways, act in the service of others but also teach them how to love, how to express affection, how to compliment someone, how to dance, how to sing etc. Not one or the other, but BOTH. I see a lot of stage green men that are spineless, overly docile and passive. Yeah, they have compassion but this came from a place of weakness, not strength. It is better to be a warrior in a garden than to be a gardener in a war. If aggression is not an option for you, your peacefulness is meaningless, is just your survival strategy. Take what is good from it and leave what is limiting. Learn from everyone.

To be fair, the most cringe thing I saw in this was your extremely judgmental opinion about it. Actually, spaces that allow men to bond and express their primal nature, always been and will forever be needed. Most man nowadays lack masculine roles in their lives and they grow up without experiencing that kind of energy, this creates a hole in their consciousness which is usually filled by the mothers (or women's) opinion of men and that is always embedded with self biases. Source: book called Iron John by Robert Bly. You can't just skip to green, at best, you will be incomplete and full of judgment against masculine energy, not a healthy green. To be whole, you have to love all your parts, including this masculine aggressive energy which should be acknowledged in order to br directed to a healthy path.

You have us!

It usually means that you are unconditionally lovable and worth of the very best life has to offer.

Didn't saw it but it's real. One could argue that a lot of good PU exhibits sociopathic behaviors like low empathy, high ambition, highly selfish etc. That's just something that attracts that kind of people, like politics. But you don't need to, you can still be empathic and a good person in general, self-love and self-acceptance is the answer.

I would say low self-esteem. Low Self-Esteem means low self-acceptance and self-love. When you love and accept yourself completely and unconditionally you feel pretty good and internally grounded, external opinions don't come close to affect how you feel inside and this give you confidence, not that you will not get rejected, but that everything is going to be just fine either way. Most people don't love themselves enough to not be affected by external input. It's like if you have one billion dollars in your bank account and more coming every day, you could be pretty reckless with your spending without worry. But if your bank account is low, you are constantly afraid to lose it and try to protect as much as possible your money. That explains why sociopaths and psychopaths tend to be confident because they do not give a fuck what anyone thinks and they just go for what they want.

Why can't i perceive myself? If All is One, wouldn't that mean that whatever I perceive is me? Including body, feelings and thoughts? It would be more precise to say that I am not only this or that. Saying that I am not anything I can perceive seems to create dissociation.

This can be dangerous. You have to appreciate how pervasive our self bias is. The ego can easily color your psychedelic visions and insights. I had a lot of visions on psychedelics that were misleading. With ayahuasca I once had a strong guiding to drop everything and take full care of my cocaine addicted mother that were ruining her life and those around her, including my two small brothers. My plan was to shower her with infinite unconditional love because that was lacking in the first place. I actually started to act on this plans while I was under effect of the medicine and afterwards I went to see her only to realize I couldn't hold that love vibration without the ayahuasca and reality slapped me in the face, my plan wasn't going to work. What mother ayahuasca showed me was the power of true unconditional love, what was possible. The message wasn't to drop everything and chase the vision but to work on myself to reach that place of unconditional love. Psychedelics show you what is possible, they say: if you raise your vibration this much, all of this is possible, that's how you will perceive life, so work on yourself to someday vibrate in this frequency constantly.