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@Preety_India I think the pun is intended lol Phil Good is Feel Good ? Yes, he does seem circular in his videos, talking on and on about the same things. @DreamScape Can you elaborate?

@Visionary Indeed, he seem to be very sensitive to spiritual matters, listening voices, channeling spirits etc. He reported to have gone through a dramatic spiritual awakening a few years ago that changed everything. It looks like he didn't fully integrated his new reality and got stuck in the fairy land while receiving praise by his equally delusional following ending up trapped in a perpetual circle jerk.

Before i comment: are you just venting or looking for solutions?

That's kind of my approach on the dating forum, almost got banned I agree 100% with you, some people are just so lost that reason alone won't do it, some strong awakening has to happen.

Average looking? Maybe. Overall average? Nope.

Well, it is very rare that you will find a friend that will 100% get your most authentic self (but don't let this be a limiting belief, they do exist). You can find friends that are, at least, partially align with your values (this is easier). Find people that are positive and encouraging and you won't feel like you are wasting time being with them. You can see this also as a spiritual practice by being fully present and loving with people that do no share much of your interests. Make people feel listen, appreciated, talk about them, touch them, smile genuinely when you meet them, look them deep in their eyes, give them true compliments and people will love you. In my experience, you have to take the iniciative to make new friends and to deepen the relationship, invite people to do stuff, to your house, cook together, bound. Remember, everyone feels insecure sometimes, if you are introverted, they can interpret this as you not liking them. Do not assume people know you like them, show them, tell them. But, ultimately, this is indeed a lonely journey, the deeper you go, the lonely it gets, so you being perfectly fine with being all by yourself is a must. Self-Love and complete self-acceptance, be always kind to yourself, talk to yourself, laugh by yourself.

@7thLetter I am giving the answer that you need to hear, not the one you want. When you gain experience on the journey you become really good at recognizing where people are stuck. Here is your problem fundamentally: You are focusing on things you can't control instead of the things you can. Simple as that. You have valid points? Of course, nothing new but of course. Does your points help you getting laid? Not at all. Instead of creating a topic about how unfair online dating is to men, make one asking how you can succeed in online dating or what the alternatives are. This is a resourceful mindset, which, by the way, is a key mindset in men that are successful with women. So, again, stop complaining, start to focus on what you can do to be successful.

So? Good luck jerking off forever then. Listen, stop looking for problems and start looking for solutions. That's the mindset of a top 5% men anyway.

Is this new for you? Wtf Of course, it will not favor you in any way and the women there will choose the top 5% of guys with a better profile, not only looks but all the points i wrote in my previous post. But my point is: you can bitch about it (and it explains in part your lack of success with women) or you can find solutions. Online dating shouldn't be your primary dating strategy anyway. IT's simple: with online dating the best thing girls can select you is by your looks and social proof. In-person you can be a total loser but if you act like a boss in front of her, she will love you. She isn't paying much attention to your looks, it is only a bonus at best. IF you are good looking but shy and lack confidence, she will not like you.

Something tells me that you were looking for a confirmation bias Yeah, online dating isn't optimal and should be used as a bonus, not your primary dating strategy. But it is totally possible even if you are average looking but have a good profile (good photos, funny unique bio, social proof, dog photo, good text game etc). Most men just get frustrated and start to bitch and moan when they discover that online dating isn't as easy as they were led to believe. They think "oh god, YES, this online dating thing makes so easy to get laid, it is only pressing buttons", which is kind of the least manly mindset ever.

Jealousy and high self-esteem aren't compatible. I would bet your self-esteem isn't as high as you think. Having a true abundance mentality. That's why i always preach practicing cold approach, it is practically the only way to have true abundance with girls, to have a firm conviction that if your girl leaves you at any moment you could easily meet someone new and, maybe, even better than her. Having a strong sense of purpose is also key, that grounds you in a way that people come and go but you remain focused on what is important to you. The sweet spot is when you truly believe that your life is as awesome, if not more awesome when you are single. Women sense that shit oozing out of you and they love it.

No.

Oh GOD, just START ALREADY WITH THE AWESOME QUOTE AND LEO'S BALD HEAD

I love this guy! Cried a bit when he died

yeah, that's a trippy experience for sure!

Cold approach every girl you see, they won't give you the time of the day if you approach with this weak people-pleasing mentality, the pain from acting this way will soon motivate you to try a different approach, like actually being authentic. Also, don't be authentic in order to receive positive reactions, this will quickly turn into another mask. Find something funny with each rejection, because, really that's not a big deal at all. I once miscalibrated an approach, only to get a group of 6 people to scream/chant "asshole", "asshole", "asshole" to me and guess what? Nothing happened, to minutes later i approached another group on the same spot and got positive reactions. Nothing is personal, kid.

Since you shared his channel with me, i subscribed to all his content, great stuff, i like how broad he approaches his topics. I see he learned a lot from Owen in his way of thinking self-help.

Alphas are leaders, people with higher status, socially dominant, stronger frames. They can be males or females, doesn't matter, but this is a manifestation of strong masculine energy.

Yes, online dating should be a bonus, not your primary or secondary strategy.

You should take a look into a full structured dating course, search for RSD stuff, it could be the program "Boss", or "Pimp", or "Ten Game", or "Daygame", or "Foundations". You can easily find those on Google. A basic structure of game is: 1. Open: introduce yourself, establish a sexual frame from the beginning, make sure the girl feels safe and knows that you are not crazy or creepy. 2. Hook: talk, talk, talk until she starts to invest in the interaction (the hook point). Assume all the burden of the conversation, don't ask anything from the girl until she starts to get interested in you. 3. Vibe: flirt, make some jokes, touch her (high-five, hugs etc), lead the interaction, change venues with her, establish familiarity. Explore a full range of emotions, push-pull. 4. Close: when she is super invested, maybe kiss her but don't kiss too much or make something huge about it, make it seem as natural as a high-five. Now it is time to move her to a more private location. "Hey, let's get some drinks at my place, it's five minutes from here." Logistics is super important here, most of your questions depend on logistics, both the girls and yours. It is way easier to take a girl home when it is 5 minutes away than it is if is 1h away. This is where your "pre-game" phase should be, plan shit out. Also, the girls logistics is super important. Is she free? Does she have to work soon or is she with a friend? This is where you have to be creative and solve her problems, this will also make her like you more. The frame the girl should be in is: "there is zero reasons why i wouldn't go to this guy's house". Instead of showing her all the benefits she would get from going with you to your place, REMOVE all her objections (could be simply being judged by he peers or you, or she doesn't feel safe enough with you). Make it sound and look like a no-brainer adventure.

Watch out to not demonize them too much, if you met them in other circumstances you would probably find that most are actually cool people. Yeah, they are acting out low consciousness stuff inside them, traumas, anger, maybe some insecurity, need for validation etc. Don't underestimate the power of drugs and alcohol, it can literally possess people, maybe even make them susceptible to evil spirits manipulating them. I can relate with this, not long time a ago, if I drunk too much and, for some reason started to get annoyed by something, maybe an gf nagging me, this low vibration took over and I could act pretty nasty, almost like another person took over my body and mind. I noticed the same with a lot of people, including a few girlfriends which could act nasty, almost possessed. But in other situations, they could be the sweetest people ever.

Bitch, after the third rejection you will realize it is actually fun as hell. Soon you will be like that even on your first approach. Pick one easy target, just put yourself in front of her, try to speak non-stop and self-amuse the hell out of it. MAKE the "rejection" as fun as possible and you will be a lot freer when the interaction end.

Cocaine makes people aggressive too. What is the mystery here? Bunch of young dudes with high testo, drunk, probably using drugs, possibly steroids also, in crowds, they act dumb and aggressive and people are surprised?

I was sarcastic, used his own words.