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You won't learn social skills by reading scientific studies. Both genders have their challenges. Women can have sex anytime they want but they have a lot of trouble finding a high-value man to commit to them. Yes, the average woman has more "power" on the sexual market than the average man, but the top 10% of men usually have more "power" in relationships than the top 10% of women. That is basically explained because most men live in scarcity, thus losing all their power. When a man lives in abundance, no woman can have "power" over him.

Dude, you are too in your head about this entire process. Take it like a man would mean to go to the next girl without thinking too much into it. Yeah, do reflect about it, but don't get stuck in endless reflection. As with anything in life, take 10x more action than you think about the theory. I guarantee you that you were too in your head to miss out on all the signals that it wasn't the right time to call her out. Social calibration requires presence.

Save your money, go out and talk to people, nothing will replace this first hand experience.

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@Karmadhi One can see you don't know what you are talking about. As i said, maximize your looks and shut the fuck up (no personal offense to anyone, just tough love), go work on your game.

That's very simplistic and unrealistic thinking. Ugly guy with game beats a good-looking guy without game every time.

Men don't need to be beautiful, only women do. Women are like flowers. Don't be a flower. As a man, you have to work on your character above all. Maximize your looks, great shape, nice style (don't be generic), beard, a nice haircut, maybe some stylish tattoos, and shut the fuck up (no offense lol). The fact that you are ugly will make your feats even more impressive. When you date hot women, they will get puzzled and fascinated about you because of this. Make a goal to break women's standards of beauty (like dating model-like guys). Don't try to be the good looking guy if you aren't. What you can't change, feature it.

This one! Changed everything for me.

We, humans, are hierarchical creatures. We are always assessing where we are in this hierarchical ranking, wherever we are, all the time. We also have a general ranking for ourselves and this is what limits us. If you see yourself as a 7/10, when you see a girl that is 8 (not only in looks) or above you instantly feel like you don't have a chance and this hurts. The secret to girls (and life) is your level of entitlement, of deservedness. Whatever you feel entitled to, is what you are generally going to get. To get your personal 10, you have to deeply feel entitled to get her. This cannot be a gimmick behavior, this has to be a subconscious certainty. Not a situational confidence either, or else you can even get the girl but you won't be able to keep her for long. That's why cold approaching/gaming is key. You are exposing yourself to new realities, testing your (mental) limits all the time and you will be mindblown when you realize it was all on your head.

It is painful to realize you can't get those hot girls. You aren't on their level and this bothers you, as it should. You can use this as a motivator or bitch about it like an incel, your choice.

@OBEler I meant t say that you can only redose once per trip. You take the first dose, the MDMA kicks in and when you pass the peak (about 1~2h after taking it) you can think about taking more to extend the trip, this is called redosing. Doing it only once will make the comedown and the crash way easier. It is not too low if it is quality stuff, it will be a memorable night. You can take higher dosages next time but get used to the lower ones first (do not underestimate it). Cialis is the best, i would make an effort to buy it. Viagra is harder on the cardiovascular system and keeps your dick hard for too long. Some men can have erections, but some don't. My dick gets awkwardly limp when i take MDMA. Maybe you can take a small dose to see what happens and talk to your girlfriend about this possibility beforehand. About music, you can look for "sex playlists" on Spotify. Meditation music is also great, maybe some electronic/shamanic type that is slower and good for intimacy and making love. Prepare to laugh and talk a lot.

I feel you, bro. Once you go through a certain point, there is no going back. Metaphysical realizations tend to be scary at first, all you need to do is do your best to integrate it. Practice presence, like you, are in the center of a hurricane. Doesn't matter what happens, just practice presence, acceptance, and love. I am also in a place where Reality became so fluid it is scary like i am perpetually in a microdose of shrooms or something. It is hard to ground myself in such a fluid context but what can i do besides continue to try? It is not like you have a choice like it was said to you: you are falling, groundless, you can scream in despair or you can bliss out in pure acceptance. Think like this: how would a Master Zen or Buddha deal with this situation? Have you ever thought about the perspective of a spiritual master? Do you think he lives in a groundless reality or a material one? He is probably experiencing a constant mindblowing Reality but keeping his shit together by flowing with it as a non-stop meditation practice.

I have experience with this. 1. Small doses at first. 70mg for her and 100mg for you. You can redose later if you both feel like it (probably will). Do it only once, 50% of the first dose is a good place to experiment with. I like to crush into fine powder and dissolve it into water, the taste is fine, not great but you can take it easily. 2. Do it in a place where there is no distractions (music is fine). Just the two of you, no one else. I lived alone and did this at home with my ex girlfriend all the time, mostly on my bedroom. 3. Set the intention to be loving and vulnerable. You can do: intense eye contact exercises, sitting in front of each other holding hands and caressing one another. This position is great: Prepare to have sex, I recommend you to take a cialis (couple hours before), lots of men (including me) have trouble getting an erection with mdma. Thank me later. You can use some coconut oil to massage each other bodies, all of it, dick and pussy included. Light up some incense too. Just flow with the experience, be present, touch a lot, hug, say nice things, share intimate stories etc. This can create a strong bound between you two, be prepared.

Pink Floyd did it first.

Take so much action that it shuts down the thinking mind.

How is this a new approach?

By putting yourself in challenging and new situations. Go into situations where you are alone and thrive. This will develop self-reliance, which is the core of adulthood.

This! Forget about information during sex, practice being SUPER present, flowing with the moment and your feelings. Tantric sex is an active meditation, with a partner. Take your time, do things awkwardly slow.

We need more videos like that one! Actually, I was pleased to discover that I was in the right path with my self-inquiry/enlightenment work. I already "knew" and "got it" everything that he talked about in that video. Unfortunately, to this day, I haven't experienced any AHAAA moment, this process has been slow and gradual for me since a couple years ago. Psychedelics immediately trigger this realization for me, which is why I am avoiding them for some time now lol it is more like a panicky feeling than anything else. I did had one non-dual experience while I smoked some weed and practiced hatha Yoga with a few pranayama breaths, only a glimpse for a few minutes but that was it, i am unable to replicate the experience since. During Leo video I managed to get into a nice meditative state, but I feel I need to boost my consciousness with a serious practice like strong concentration, kriya Yoga and psychedelics.

It is like a meditation, you do it just to do it, if you are always wanting an outcome DURING the meditation, it will be a poor meditation practice. Of course, you have to have a strong INTENTION to meet and attract the woman and do what you need to do to achieve this (approaching, being funny, lead the interaction etc), but, at the same time, if the woman smell desperation, she will be turned off. Maximum engagement + minimum attachment.

@neutralempty Commonsense.

Well, what's the difference between Hatha yoga and random stretches? From an outside perspective, some people from the circus can do impressive things that yogis can't do with their bodies, but the circus people won't experience self-realization or anything of sorts. The Tantra approach of sex, sexuality and sex organs is vastly different from the average approach to those topics. For instance, in Tantra, the penis is called lingam and the vagina is called yoni, there is a sacred view of both, you only touch them with the utmost respect and reverence. Everything is sacred and treated as such. In Tantra, we value DEEP intimacy (i am talking about 20 minutes of non-stop eye contact and only that), slow and conscious movements, zero judgment, repression or anything like that. It is a sexual approach from the heart, from love and from the divine. This can lead to all sorts of cures and transcendental experiences.

I recently did a 5-day Tantra retreat, lots of active meditations (like Kundalini by Osho), tratak (fixed eye contact with a partner), light touch massage and full tantric massage (fully nude and genital massage). Those were 5 days i lived in an altered state of consciousness, like a shrooms microdose, lots of catharses and even a moment of ego dissolution during one of the exercises + feeling deep love. Maybe i can answer basic questions, although Tantra is a huge science, like Yoga, lots of schools of thought.

You seem very needy, no wonder, people don't respect you. Focus on improving your value by working on yourself. Stop using your friends to complain about your life, only talk about positive topics from now on, make people associate you with nice feelings and they will want to be with you and respect you.

@MrBON you are seeing only what you want, I addressed those points in my previous topics, it is not rocket science. Girls don't like assholes, they like man with balls, which is rare and, sometimes, only present in assholes. They hate nice guys because they can see the fakeness from miles away. This "kindness" is nothing but a fake front to gain something (sex and intimacy) from women and they can see this clearly. I also hate this fake nice people, I prefer someone who is somewhat of an asshole but authentic. BUT THOSE ARE NOT THE ONLY TWO OPTIONS. That's the point, stop with this "all or nothing" perspective, there are, literally, infinite ways of being. You can be a good person from a place of power and some girls will appreciate it, just don't be boring and spineless.