Igor82

Postmortem* What do you think about the title? Knowing what for example kind of wasted most of ones life away, from many; can surely be incredibly insightful for society at large.

@Leo Gura I understand! And I love the mastery of relating to others. And when I do so, I know and clearly distinguish that which is my thoughts of other people's subjective experiences and my actual subjective experience of them. I think that it is important to draw this distinction in order to more clearly define for oneself what is directly true from what is indirectly so (true). With kind regards!

@Leo Gura I honestly think you are "diluting yourself" (so to speak), about this. I do not know of the subjective reality of others unless I subjectively am them. I only know of my own subjective experience of others, which sometimes is presenting that which other people express through or in use of their own subjective experience. Do you understand what I mean so far, or do you perhaps want me to give you more examples about this notion? With kind regards.

BUY TIME! BUY TIME!! BUY TIME!!! Live as cheaply as possible while being as healthy as possible (figure it out, if you wish); and MASTER LIFE. Invest all your time in following your soul's purpose or FOLLOW YOUR HIGHEST: EXCITEMENT, PASSION, AND JOY (if that is what you wish to do); at all times, to the best of your ability, taking it as far as you can until you can take it no further, with zero expectations as to what the outcome ought to be:

@Leo Gura I agree, so may I summarize the idea here that I think you are expressing; that one may preferably take into account what one-self knows about what are the clear signs that appear in one's own reality; of what certainly may be the experience of other people's reactions. In this way, I may, so to say: be scientific using my own subjective experience (my truth) directly; rather than what I think other people's thoughts are (which I am sure would be more of an illusion or "indirect[ion]"; although with truth in it: in my subjective experience). Yet that would in such a case have my energy be spent on creating such thoughts or illusions, rather than focusing on expressing myself fully; if that is what I wish to do. I think many people believe that they have to think of what other people are "certainly" (so to say); thinking of them, yet perhaps this requires "too much effort" (so to speak), and by that I mean that it may limit one's own self-expression to invest or divest energy on doing so.

@Leo Gura Hello. You seem to imply an error here that in normal conversations with others, one ought to take responsibility for what other people's reactions are; while it is usually the case that I do not even know the reasons to why they appear for the other person unless I fully am them. If you wish; please remember that in social interactions, one might place one's focus on what is being expressed by oneself and only that. Because we can feel for ourselves if something is coherent with our truth or not, and even if the truth in question was accurately described or not. I only take responsibility of that which I express; where I focus mostly on expressing my truth clearly, rather than diluting my focus with what might me speculations about what other people thoughts are of me.

Hello @Leo Gura. Be careful there.

Hello @Leo Gura! I regard the information you share as being highly valuable for society. I am very grateful for what I have so far reviewed (most of it); of what I know is your work. Here are some of the problems or optimal transformations to make; that I see for Actualized.org and the forum it concerns: In the forum, there are; thousands of posts and only 14 categories to fit them all. This results in making it hard for me to find certain posts in the “ocean” of posts that are in one general category. It is hard for me to determine the quality of the posts due to the quality of the thumbnail for the posts being quite uninformative; where the thumbnail can be more than just this: A title, the name of the thread creator and the date on which the thread was created, when the last post was made and by whom, how many replies and views a thread has, and the optional tags of; “Hot, Featured, Locked, Pinned”. Instead, there can in my opinion be: A custom descriptive picture that the creator of the thread chooses for the thread. Certain types of tags (from 1-10) rating the quality of the thread in different ways such as; the general “quality requirement”, and the “general quality” of the thread itself; where this can give people an expectation of what is allowed to post in a thread (according to the “quality requirement”), and also if it is worth reading (according to the “general quality”). Here are some more ideas for tags that can be visible (even only as symbols) as inclusions for thumbnails for threads; Comprehensiveness (being the rating of the quality or efficacy of the words being written). Information density (being the rating of the “richness” or “density” of the information that is in the thread). Poeticness (how artful or beautiful the sum of the content of the thread is). Thread length (being the amount of content that a thread has within it). There can perhaps be more tags that can also display (or stand for) the sub-topics that the main 14 categories themselves can be split into; such as having the thousands of threads that are currently existing; be more optimally divided into at least 100 categories (or tags). There can also be differences in the colors and even the size of the letters forming the titles of the threads in order to categorize them, where one idea that came to my mind when writing this is to in this way perhaps clarify the different stages of the spiral (from spiral dynamics) to which the thread relates to. In these ways of categorizing the information, it will certainly be easier for users to find the posts or threads that they prefer to read, and also identify the posts or threads which they don’t prefer to read. This will over time filter away “shitposts” due to people becoming more proficient at ignoring them due to the clarity of categorization (such as the tags above) being put in place for certain threads or posts to be found. There is more: I have noticed that the search function for the forum is roughly in my rating; 2/10 compared to the 10/10 that would be what Google offers with their search functionality (where the search function for the forum does seem to require the spelling to be exact, rather than approximate, and that the results are not sorted by certain kinds of relevance, with more to be said about that). I have noticed that the logo for the forum (as seen below) can be improved to be more representative of the meaning of the forum. Especially the font for “Self-Improvement” can be more stylish where the letters themselves can be more aligned and colorful. Also, instead of having a black background as implied on the top 1/6th of the frontpage for the forum as seen through my monitor, there can in my opinion be a more colorful background of even a symbolic image such as one from your “The Gallery Of Absolute Infinity” video (https://youtu.be/m7t75E2gCg8): And also, your “free email updates” has not arrived to me for about three years as far as I know. Also; there are radical differences between the meaning of all of these categories (buttons), yet they look very similar to each other in terms of the colors, shapes and fonts (as seen in the images below). My suggestion here is to make each individual “gateway” (or button) to be customized in its design to what kind of “world” (or webpage) it leads to. The same goes for this: Another request I have is for this text (as seen below) to instead contain the logo for the forum (now describing “Self-Improvement FORUM”) to be that, instead of “Actualized.org Forum” in order to make it more recognizable. Also, this part of the main page takes up so much space (which is seen below), where the space under the search box can for example be reserved for suggestions for browsing; such as a list of the categories your videos belong to, perhaps even with something similar to that which is the organized structure of the “playlists” page that is found on your Youtube channel page. And, the “log in” button can look to be more exciting or colorful (so to speak): And I also see it as appropriate that the same suggestion as above goes for the “create” button for the forum: Also, the design of this heading is “relatively primitive” in my opinion; because it uses the same fonts that describe the title of the discussion area to create a categorization for it; where some other kind of design can be what creates the categorization instead: And also, these logos can be replaced with representative images. Another suggestion I have is that you can in my opinion describe this text more professionally or appropriately using one of the words; “Subjects, topics, resources, etc” rather than the word “Stuff”. Also, there are many words describing one kind of “categorization”, where I see 11 words that are synonyms to describe one “field” or “area” (as seen in the picture below). Yet, there can instead perhaps be there one word describing the area itself, and 10 words describing the sub-categories within that area, which can somehow be accessible; perhaps through a bullet list below the general description of the area itself, or by having a “toggle heading” function just like in the app Notion, as shown here; " https://www.notion.vip/unwrapping-notions-newest-features/ ". Now. I have a grand idea for actualized.org and even the forum, which is to use the app or software called Notion to embrace (but perhaps not replace); all of the information that concerns actualized.org. I have tempered with building a commonplace book or such a database for all of my information ever since Leo released his video about it (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0wNk25KEBpw). I have diligently used Microsoft One Note (2011) for a couple of years, but then one day when I saw what Notion is, I realized quickly that the future of my commonplace book is to be used through Notion as it seemed to be a very promising app with features that One Note generally was lacking in. This made me start a construction project to have a ready-made system for all of my notes to reside in, where this database within Notion would embrace any kind of information that I can use in my life which is also digital. After having worked on the project for over 250 hours of focused deep work in total spanning over 18 months, I finally completed what I call the “Cortex” which is the structure of my notion systems today. I have not yet found anybody on the internet who has evolved database systems for Notion in similar ways where the information is much more interconnected; available (to be found), visible (in many ways); within categories that can embrace endless amounts of information (deepening to sub-categories of; sub-categories of main areas, and possibly beyond that). I know that Notion can function as a forum for many people to discover and unfold information in many new or innovative ways. A book has some sort of information categorization to it; being the title of the book, then the chapters, then the headings within them, and more. A commonplace book can in similar ways have its information be categorized and then read like a book, similar to how Wikipedia works, although it can also have a structure to resemble or be conducive to; how the mind most easily categorizes information, so that the structure can be mastered or “gotten used to”. In this way, a commonplace book can become a very powerful tool or extension of the mind. I intuitively know the power of the independently developed database systems I have created within Notion, where I see that It’s more efficient for the time being for me to develop myself spiritually before starting to use this tool because it can otherwise limit me if I use it improperly or without the information required to use it as efficiently as possible. As said, I see that my systems can be used in a way that efficiently “extends the mind”; and I see it as amazing that this can be done collectively within Notion, so as to say that the same systems that can extend the mind of the individual, can extend the minds of many or several individuals together in order to form a kind of collective commonplace book which can be structured as optimally as possible to fulfill the purpose of most efficiently making available to the collective the information that individuals need to find; perhaps through making the information very easy to find or browse with the use of tags in systemic ways, topic-categorizations, efficient visibility, sophisticated search functions, interconnectedness or interlinkages in various ways, and more! Leo, I am inviting you to share a zoom call or communications with me in similar ways so that we can together review these systems that I am talking about, and this will perhaps inspire you to use these systems for personal use, or perhaps for the forum in general if you wish. I will send you a private message with a link to this post, and also my private contact information so that we can communicate more easily going forward. I also wish to point out that I see myself as a highly developed human being. In this way, I see it as efficient for me to deliver information appropriately so that it efficiently facilitates or inspires change or aid for as many people as possible (towards joy)! For example, I think that Leo works more efficiently when a topic he talks about is heard by thousands of people in total, rather than just one individual off the streets (so to speak). And so for example when I take my time to write something of quality (of course) on perhaps a forum like this, then it is quite fulfilling for me to know that many people will review the information rather than “maybe the one individual that has created the thread”; and for my text later to be “hard to find” in the “ocean of topics”. Or (as a joke): it’s like instead of Leo filming a video like he usually does, he then translates the words spoken in the video into text format and then only posts the text to the forum, to then let the 2/10 search function do its part in fulfilling the task of presenting the information efficiently to as many members of the human race as possible. The reason why I’m taking my time to write this specific post is because I know it is highly efficient for the greatest good of all of life for me to do so. PS: You may know that you can add vision-logic to your use of words, such as how a painting can be described with a thousand words; you can use the aid of pictures or videos (that perhaps are AI-generated) to more accurately or efficiently represent the insights that you deliver within your videos. Thank you for everything, I am grateful for what is God.

What about being intellectualization? Are not the masters aware of their own thoughts? May they also be aware that they themselves are the thoughts? How is "intellectualization" a negative correlative of consciousness? What is "intellectualization?"; is it the same as the thoughts which appear when we are creating art, or when we dance? Do those thoughts also negatively correlate? Is there a degree-spectrum to which certain thoughts are effective at negatively correlating consciousness? - What are the most conscious thoughts relative to the most unconscious thoughts? Check out this diagram mainly created by Dr. David R Hawkins (attached photo)

Yes! Thank you for bringing up the trauma part where I do agree that self-doubt could stem from the fear of re-experiencing past trauma. Yet, I found a solution to the self-doubt + her turnoff spiral which you described, which is for the man in this case to be honest about his feelings of fear to her. If it was about walking up to her, he can walk up to her and at least say that he felt afraid of walking up to her and start talking about that. How turned on would she be if he honestly expressed his emotions all the way, all the time with her? Even the fear? What if the fear disappears after two minutes; as maybe she could've taken his hand, looked into his eyes and said "there is nothing to be afraid of, I won't hurt you". Why wouldn't she react that way? It's certainly possible. How would he know that he would get hurt? Is it truly logical? At least he can be logical with his fears, at least logical enough to be emotionally honest with her rather than emotionally repressed. If he is repressing his fear with her, then that might be more creepy for her than if he is emotionally honest, which could even be seen as attractive. In that way, he can be afraid (maybe from a trauma), and that's okay for her; if he is truly honest about it.

@Leo Gura I interpret masculine desire here partially as what feels right to do in terms of a decision. An example in words: It feels right for me to walk up to this woman and tell her: 'it felt right for me to walk up to you'. Yet when we doubt our own apparent feeling of "intuitive sense" / "what feels right", it requires self-deception to convince ourselves to act otherwise than what feels correct for our being. When she sees you hesitate, she might assume that what you express in your hesitation actually feels right for you. Otherwise, why hesitate? Why is it appropriate for you to show hesitation? - So, the mystery for her, behind the reasons why you might hesitate can make her feel creeped out, because we naturally doubt something that feels wrong, such as when something seems suspicious/unclear. So, by the law of state-transference (a term used in "pickup"), if a man doubts himself for some reason, then a woman might "get the state-transference" and start doubting you/her 'for some reason', otherwise why would a man doubt himself? Self-doubt means self-conflict. Self-conflict is an inefficient state of being, whereas efficiency is attractive in any eyes. Efficiency is an attractive quality in many ways as depicted through the laws of physics and evolution. Being inefficient (in self-conflict) is non-existent in nature (except for humans), because every being is evolved through having had effective ancestors.

Here is Chris Bache's official playlist https://chrisbache.com/FAQ-1

I got a piece of very practical advice for you. Research Enagic (the Japanese company); which manufactures water ionizers. They have a marketing system which enables you to earn money doing teamwork to sell these machines to people close by. Water ionizers (filtering included), enable the body to be fully hydrated. Spread that, if you find purpose in that. Having a purpose is all about doing what feels right for you. Ask yourself this simple question: Dear divine, tell me what I need to know.

@Intraplanetary If frequent DMT use can be "balanced" (integrated into lifestyle), then why not use it as such? Maybe not every day, from an economical standpoint. Although with the ability to spike habits such as meditation and visualization with DMT; I think we can present frequent opportunities to intuitively learn how reality works. I'm sure that Intuition maintains the balance.

Nowadays for the past 2 months, I have been vaping DMT around every other morning before visualization. Just low doses after doing breathing exercises. It can definitely be integrated into daily lifestyle, if the lifestyle is kept supportive of such frequencies, and kept clean for such frequencies to flow. An example of such a supportive lifestyle is: Keeping the home clean and harmonious; the body too, our different areas of health, such as our financial health & more. If we can live in harmony with daily awareness, then vaping DMT every morning would be like brushing teeth. Just like how an enlightened master would not be thrown out of balance by anything; not even frequent DMT use. And so the tolerable frequency of using this lies within how happy we keep our lifestyle. A good calibration would be the difference between Hedonism & Eudaimonia. The hedonist would be less prepared to support daily use of nn-dmt/5-meo, than the one in Eudaimonia. Jesus Christ would definitely be able to handle dmt frequently. Just tell me, why wouldn't he? DMT is Love. How could frequent Love hurt; only for the ones who live their patterns in limited/destructive ways.

@JosephKnecht Defining substance is like for a ball point pen to describe ink on a piece of paper. The ink in of itself is substance, then if you write with the ink "ink <--", that's a representation of ink, but not "more" accurate than just directly seeing substance. Substance is already as close as can be. It's nothing other than you. Although substance tries hard to describe itself, an efficient antidote would be to stop describing, but just be what represents. Be the substance of representation. Find yourself being, substance itself.

Let's forget our beliefs for a moment, especially the belief that "God can't be spoken". What I will do here is refer to your own direct experience to describe infinity, in this way, you can anchor infinity yourself, and see it in direct experience. Forget what God is, forget what anyone told you, just for a moment; you open your mind for this thought experiment. Thought Experiment: Substance You are conscious. Right? Let's agree on that. You are conscious of "reality". Let's agree on that. Reality is here. As whatever is "reality" it's made out of a substance. And you are conscious that there is a substance here. Let's agree on that. If there is a substance, let's define substance. What is the substance that can take all of these shapes and forms? "The substance of reality" can take on many forms. Sometimes it appears as a computer screen, or other humans, etc. It's even possible for us humans to construct/invent almost infinite amounts of the form (such as in sculpting), so what do you think would limit the substance from being any form? Why would the substance be limited in any way of taking "particular forms" but "not other particular forms". What forms can't substance take, and why? How do we know? Can we agree that substance has unlimited potential in what forms it takes? The solution here is that we can't think up a form that doesn't exist because there would appear a thought of that form, and that would be a representation of that form's existence. When we think of an object that "can't exist" (therefore substance can't take all forms), it would be a lie. Because that object actually appears to be taking a form, as a representation, a thought. The solution is that we can't think up a form that doesn't exist, therefore, reality has no reason to be limited. For there is no mechanism that can limit it, other than illusions such as "thought representing 'something that doesn't exist' while not seeing that the representation exists in of itself". So let's agree that Substance is unlimited in it's potential to take on any form. If Substance is unlimited, then substance will unify with its potential. Potential means "the possible forms that substance can take". But if substance has infinite potential of shaping itself into any form, then substance will inevitably be all these forms. Because nothing limits substance from achieving it's potential. Because if substance can take on any shape, that by definition means that substance is unlimited in it's freedom to do so, which means that it will eventually happen. Let's agree on that substance can take on any form, and is already doing so. This is where time comes into the picture. Time is here for substance to experience itself. As substance already exists in it's infinite and unhindered potential, then substance will be just in the shape that reality is for you right now. In your reality there are a bunch of colors, sounds, feelings, sensory stimulation, time, thoughts, maybe more. This is because substance can take on any form, and is already doing so, therefore your experience must exist just as it is right now, as there is nothing hindering substance from existing just this way for you. And that included the experience of "time". What time is, is just a thought in your experience. The concept of "Time" doesn't exist if you don't think about it, because concepts require thinking to be held within substance. So, what is time when you are not holding a concept about it? Well, it's movement. It's change. Change is the way where substance can experience itself changing. For substance to take all forms (as it already does), it has to also experience every form, because every form that is possible must happen (as the substance of form is unlimited), and so the "experience" of "substance" "just like this" is possible, thus exists, and it's morphing, because substance is every possibility, and it can be limited to this experience, while also being everything all at once by maintaining limited but constant movement, where experience will morph to be everything. Let's agree that time is constant movement. Constant movement of substance, is a feature of the substance's unlimitedness, because constant movement (without end) guarantees that substance takes all forms "eventually". But it also garantuees that substance will be experienced as what it is. Let's agree that substance limits itself with endless movement of limited frames, so that it can experience itself as limited. This completes unlimitedness, because if total freedom cannot limit itself, then it's truly not totally free. Substance is by definition totally self-accepting. This is because substance cannot not be itself. Then it would not be substance. Substance must be itself, therefore, it's also self-accepting. Complete self-acceptance is inbued within every single one of substance's form. Yet with substance being unlimited in it's creative capacity, it can limit itself in it's unification with itself, but not totally. There will always be total self-accaptance within substance, yet it's potential to create, can create limited forms, that are inherently self-accepting, but may not appear as such. Substance does this by creating your sensory experience, with a lot of thoughts and beliefs, creating the illution of "being human", etc. All of this to limit itself, which is a feature of total freedom. Substance is always in existence. For there to be a substance here, it means all of these things stated above. Substance must be this way per definition; unlimited, timeless, totally free, totally self-accepting. Substance is immortal. Yet, substance can believe in death. Death is merely a feature of movement. As one frame passes, another one replaces. The first frame thus disappears (dies) to make life to the next frame (life). Death and life is thus the same thing. It's movement. As substance is eternally moving, substance is immortal. As it always dies by being alive, it trancends death. Death is life. Death is substance. Substance is beautiful. Death is ecstasy. Substance is beautiful, because intelligence is a feature of unlimited freedom of in shapeshifting potential. Intelligence must exist in infinite potential, because why would infinite potential be limited to not include intelligence? That cannot be, because substance would not limit itself to exclude any potential form, thus intelligence must exist as a feature of substance. Let's agree that any form that substance takes, is inbued with intelligent design. Every object has in fact infinite beauty, because every object has an infinite context, because it's made of an infinite substance, which interconnects itself through a singular shapeshifting timeline, which is eternal, thus "in the end" embodies every possible shape. And so, it's as if a part of the substance has an infinite history, and infinite "connectedness" to substance. Let's agree that the substance loves being human. Because substance would limit itself to being human, instead of infinite. Yet substance is infinite in it's limitation to human, but there is still a sacrifice made in "being human" rather than "infinite", and that is because substance loves being human, as the human experience is a divine experience. It's eternal - self-accepting - infinite potential - all experiencing - infinitely intelligent - one with itself. Substance is one with itself, because there is no reason for any part of substance to be limited. This is because the substance that grounds all of reality cannot be limited, and what actually limits, is the illusion that substance creates for itself which compartmentalizes certain parts of substance to be "split" into "sections". This is using infinite intelligence for substance to actually succeed at limiting itself, while it remains unlimited at the same time. For substance to be playing this beautiful game, in infinite self-acceptance, immortality, and infinite intelligence, limited & unlimited. Otherwise, substance couldn't be defined as substance, thus wouldn't exist. For substance to exist, it has to have features of Love. The substance is God. God is infinite; self-acceptance, intelligence, life; Love. God is love everybody! There is nothing to fear.

We can create anything. Anything. We have free choice to do so. Free choice is loving design (we can get anything we wish) . Intelligence would always do the most loving choice. The most intelligent choice is love. Infinite intelligence = infinite substance = infinite love. We have free choice to do anything we wish. It's lovingly imbued in our intelligent design. And what are we doing now? Truly?

@Natasha Amazing Boquet. It will last you a lifetime! Here is a poem I write called "To Maria" The rest of the time, I was not still, but when suddenly moved to a halt.. By the rest of the Love that I share, within the stillness of time, unmoved. In stillness, I saw my beautiful mind. Being still, in midst of winds. The long-forgotten stillness upon me, as insights form a beautiful mind. Now I know that Loving is still. For from stillness comes the relevant response. For stillness knows beauty Like the eye knows the bird; The Falcon knows the fish; only In stillness of the wind. In stillness, I saw you; Keep my mind, Flowering with Awe.

I just want to knee-jerk react to this before having read the rest of your journal. Pardon if you need to repeat yourself if this is already answered (explicitly or implicitly), but your text begs the question: "Isn't 'I can't fall in love with her, or else...'" a limiting belief? Why would you to try to limit your natural inclination to fall in love and stay in love? For me at this moment, it's a defining question too. Yet, what if "falling in love" is a feeling that takes into account your circumstances, goes meta on rationality, and thus is actually the best for you, but maybe fear is doing the rationalization. How do you know this? Could you be missing out by limiting natural inclination? Maybe you have answered this. Also, when I read, I kept saying "thank you", because this is VALUE. Your descriptions are Gold for those who seek inspiration.

@Insightful27 I'm 19. I have tripped and such since about 15. I'm currently slightly addicted to weed, where I have had certain awakenings using weed, which is one of my excuses fueling the addiction. I won't label this behavior "right" or "wrong" thus, because in the end, awareness is curative. Use your awareness too young man, use your intuition here. By having even asked for other's advice, you are opening up for other's authority to affect you, but althewhile, stay connected to your intuition. If it feels right to try, because you have actually sit down and pondered your situation, and considered the potential risks, and it still feel right, then go! That is your intuition knowing everything will be fine. So, the resource I will give you which you might want to consider to fuel your intuition is: If you are in a situation where your survival patterns hinges upon suppression of emotions, such as guilt, anger, grief, or if you eat a toxic diet, have an improper posture: All of these things will affect how the psychedelic will open your mind. See the psychedelic as a blood pressure; the more the pressure, the more blood to all veins, then the more clogs will be *hit upon* with more awareness. The danger is for you to suddenly be aware of many of your deceptions. So, being prepared to let go is a wonderful tool for any trip. Consider all your tools and potential risks, see if tripping feels right. Also, tripping means of course what dose you take, and you can of course start small.

Guide for men: Grab a fleshlight, an anal vibrator or crystal dildo. Get naked. Attach the fleshlight to a large mirror. Or if you want privacy; on the bathroom wall with the shower water gently running down (blending the sounds). Take your preferred psychedelic aphrodisiac (mine is Weed). You can also aid with aphrodisiac scents Put on your speaker with your favourite sex music Begin foreplay: Touching body Taking that shower Looking into that mirror Gazing at the fleshlight Playing with the anal toy Fantasizing Now that you are horny, begin the sexual act with the fleshlight and/or the anal dildo. Make sure that you start slow. Avoid premature ejaculation. Aim for 1 hour. Incorporate Taoist/tantric breathing techniques; actively transmute the sexual energy using your conscious intent and breath. You can also moan (sounding). If you are using the mirror, make sure that you look at your body and muster full self-acceptance of your body and sexuality; feeling your sexiness. If you are using the shower, make sure that you are looking at your body from available angles; feeling your sexiness. Now when the breathing is semi-automatic: Let your fantasies run wild! I have done some sessions: While raising the sexual energy to my third eye -feeling gratitude- while manifesting my dreams of financial freedom. As if I fucked my visions; Pleasurable. Fantasizing sex with a potential partner (I'm single). Imagining myself fucking myself as if I were "The girl in the mirror". Imagining a perfect intimate partner to which I loved to give amazing levels of pleasure to. Vividly imagining (with the help of sexual energy) having sex with a beautiful partner (as if it were real because the mind can't tell the difference). Dominating her with my endless sexual energy, looking her deep into her eyes while dancing-thrusting to the music Alternative climaxes: Regular ejaculatory orgasm, enhanced when looking yourself into the eyes (in the mirror), or when vividly visualizing your dreams. Also enhanced by the vivid imagination of having simultaneous orgasms with your imaginary sexual partner. Energetic orgasm using breathing and tantric/Taoist techniques. No orgasms, just a closing gesture when you feel satisfied. If ejaculation: Sit with yourself for 15 minutes after the orgasm, to turn the post-orgasm boding moment inward for self-acceptance & self-love. //// This practice is likely to increase self-esteem: Through radical self-acceptance. Through psycho cybernetics of attracting a partner through visualization. Practising imaginary sex is no different from practising real sex - for the mind. Through mastering sexual transmutation thus building confidence in being able to last a long time in bed. Confidence in your ability to pleasure her. Through being able to radically fulfil your sexual desires solo, thus not needing a partner. Through potentially transforming PMO addiction into something more desirable and healthy. Through practising semen retention due to mastering sexual energy transmutation and weening yourself off from less pleasurable forms of masturbation such as PMO. Through connecting more with your feminine side, embracing it with love. = = = = = I once had such a powerful ejaculatory orgasm with the fleshlight attached to the mirror after 10 days of nofap, looking myself deeply into the eyes, in pure awe of the climax, while high in weed. Radical Love. A radical level of self-acceptance that significantly altered daily life.

What ultimately helped me drop many addictions is the law of "awareness is curative". Leo made a video on it. When I scroll on facebook nowadays, I'm very aware of the minutes ticking by. When I watch porn, I'm aware of the sensation in my body, the after effects When I eat junk food, i'm aware of the taste, but also how I feel the day after

Sweden: Järntoget. A "capital" of drug dealing in Gothenburg. It's a place I have researched through imperical observation. I have been tripping in that place more than 3 times (Moderate doses: LSD, Weed), deliberately observing. 4 times I have been scammed in the same way: Black people trying to sell me weed. Of course, the weed was fake each time. But these people were convincing. They were so convincing that I repeated my mistakes. Basically, they acted as if their weed was real and that I was getting a bargain. They used always doubled down on their lies that "the weed was real", they even acted as if they expected me to buy the thing, because it was gonna be worth it. Their reasons always made sense, their acting went along with their style, the environment. Basically, they acted superbly as if they had good weed and that I should buy it. They acted as if they were real-deal sellers, selling me good stuff, where they actually didn't. The thoughts always came to me that they might be scamming, but I couldn't find any evidence for it, because their act was so congruent; and so I got scammed in self-doubt, "taking the risk" so to speak. I can only imagine people who has not been scammed before thus don't get the suspicion in the midst of their congruency. But they have to be very congruent: to make their reasons for trading with you, believable: "Win win" It's as if the scammers apply to our good nature, and they do this with congruent acting. As if it was real: No suspicion = free money for the scammer.

I read everything up until page 18; what a beautiful tread! I brought out the snacks for this one. I think that all sexual and relationship problems between men and women stem from lack of understanding the truth of the other person's perspective. Where intimacy lies in expressing radical honesty - to share one's perspective with another. For if the man was truly interested in hearing the perspective of the woman, there would be no problem for the woman, vice versa. For some reason, men and women have a hard time understanding each other's perspectives. I judge men who don't understand the importance of understanding the woman for intimacy to even be enjoyed, to be unwise. From my experience of doing cold approaches with radical honesty, it seems obvious to me that the majority of women are unwilling to truly listen to the man's perspective, understandably as many men can be labeled "predictable" and "sneaky - hiding their true intentions". But tell me, whenever you as a woman feel the vibe that the man hides his intentions, or "just wants sex", do you ever tell him outright -your perspective- that "you think that he just wants to have sex with you and that he hides his intentions?" This will bring the problems right up to the surface to be processed. I'm saying that it's effective for intimacy to occur when all the "assumptions about the other person" are brought to light. Because assumptions are by definition false, where intimacy entails the correcting of assumptions. Understanding each other doesn't happen until a person gets thoughts that match the reality about the other person. Both people can reach a full understanding of each other while still being "man and woman": Where they can understand that they are both turning each other on. And so, the solution to all sexual and relationship problems is where everybody communicates in a way that makes other people understand them, where understanding leads to "consent" (understanding consent). Thus: if you as a woman are dealing with a drunk guy, then maybe it's inappropriate for you to expect that he will understand your "subtle cues". Be more explicit with words. If you as a woman are dealing with men approaching you, seek to understand their perspective and probe that understanding by explicating your thoughts and feelings to him! This forces him to be honest. If you are a man, always explicate your truth. Same for women. Seek to be understood with your truth, especially in your intimate relationship investments. If you are a woman and you know that you live in a society where men are prone to be unwilling to understand your perspective, please be honest about it: while you wear a pepper spray to reduce risking having your physical boundaries be crossed. If you are afraid that if you express your feelings that the other person might dislike it; <- express that! I know that I am attractive (because I turn myself on). And so, Girls who reject me without understanding me are not willing to understand me. That makes me turned off. I, as a man, get turned on by women who are open to understanding my perspective, because it fits perfectly with my willingness to understand hers. I feel satisfied enough with the love I give to myself at the moment that I don't need an intimate relationship with a woman because I already have an intimate relationship with the woman within myself!! And so, a woman who is not interested in understanding me is missing out on me. Here where I live in Sweden, the majority of women that I approach seem either: Not willing to understand my perspective (for reasons; Projection, fear, boyfriend, busy, etc) Showing unattractive features which makes me disinterested in the investment of understanding her perspective any further (in case of fulfilling the purpose of the approach which is to have an intimate relationship.) A combination of 1 & 2. It's rare for me to find a girl who is willing to open herself up to true intimacy and understanding right of the bat, where it's extremely rare for me to find a girl who radiates self-love, radical honesty & curiosity for the perspectives of men, where she explicates all her feelings and thoughts to him unconditionally, prompting him to do the same. Such a girl will attract a partner who values radical honesty and will unconditionally explicate their own perspective to her, where they both are full of self-love, they will enjoy a fantastic interdependent relationship. Although it's very rare that such people will even meet: As it seems like the majority are stuck in a state of unwillingness to truly and directly understand each other. Afraid of intimacy as it seems. Note that a "subtle signal" ("implicit") is actually an explicit signal if the other person verifies that they understand. I love "subtle cues" and it's a great form of communication, only if it's clear that they are understood. - - - - - We are great at misunderstanding each other, until all the rape, abuse, pain and suffering will force us to empower effective solutions; such as simply telling the truth and prompting others to do the same. All rape would cease if the people committing rape would truly understand how it feels to be the one getting raped.