Shroomdoctor

@Hardkill I think the overall answer to this thread still is "who cares?" and "why do you care?"

@Max_V If you have a good girl with you, she won't care if you ejaculate too soon. You will have a laugh about it and go for it again. And also, its not like there are no other ways to please a girl, besides your dick. If she already came a few times, she won't care at all

Dude, if you were on NoFap for a few months, just wait 10 minutes and you are good to go again

Hmm...how often were you able to close? I can really recommend this course from James Marhsall to get the basics: https://www.thenaturallifestyles.com/dating-accelerator-is-live?utm_source=youtube_description&utm_medium=OrganicSocialMedia&utm_campaign=DA_is_LIVE It is normal to get rejected or get it working in the first 30 seconds or so. I did my first approach yesterday and it was so bad I laughed for ten minutes afterwards. But hey, the third one worked. Were you in a good mood?

I think that depends on how long you know each other and how often that is a problem. If its a one time thing at you are just getting to know her, I would prefer the gum method. If you are in a relationship and its a chronic thing, just tell her.

I did it. I fucking did it. 3 Approaches. The first one was so hilariously bad, I laughed for ten minutes after it. It was inreeeedibly bad. The second one was a bit better. And the third one was okayish. The third irl was incredibly cute though, and she was flattered! She gave me her number totally eager! I can't believe it. I'm just glad I finally grew the balls. Never give up.

Hey Guys, So I decided that Cold Approach might be the best option for dating, as it is both a form to get to know girls, and second a good way for self improvement and learning attraction. The problem I face is my inability to initiate contact. I have gone out like 3-4 times now, walking aimlessly around town and thinking "okay i like her. I should approach her" and then watching as she passed by, with my heart pumping in my chest, unable to move. Do you have any tips on how to overcome this first obstacle?

Aaaaand the f* 6th time I went out and did not talk to a single girl. How is saying "Hi" so freaking hard.

Hey guys, As I have mentioned in earlier posts, I have done meditation focusing on the breath for a year now. A few minutes ago I have tried my first do nothing meditation for 30 minutes. I think it was the first time I did not control my thoughts. And boy, shit hit the fan. At first, my mind was going crazy screaming "I can think what I want! Finally" then it went into some sexuell contents and then just jumped over the place. After like...15 minutes, things got really disturbing. This childish voice popped up inside my head, which kinda did feel like it was me but not really. And it prompty started sprouting the most disturbing secrets and thoughts I have ever thought. All the while a second voice, which sounded like my adult save was like: "Okay. Let it all out. Im not controlling shit right now." and after like 10 minutes of crazyness, the adult save started talking about its views of the world. I am kinda disturbed, relieved and terrified right now. Is this...normal? Leo said that the mind would test its limits at first, but boy I did not expect that.

Sounds interesting, at least. But I do not really like the notion that men are by default prone to ego and women are acting through truth. If I look at people around me, women are just as clouded by ego as men. On a more practical level, in western culture, I don't see much "oppression" anymore. There are issues with gender stereotypes, yes, but they go both ways. I do see the problem with men rejecting their feminine side, though. Maybe I am just not knowledgeable enough on the cross-point of genders and spirituality.

@Little Plant that sounded extremely sexist.

Okay, that calms me down.

Hey! So for about a year or so I have now done meditation that focuses your attention on the breath, as I learned it via the "Headspace" app. Leo has presented the meditation technique "Do-Nothing" which seems to lack a specific focus. Could someone give me some pointers on how to stay aware without having a specific focus? And which of those methods do you prefer?

I don't know if I should laugh or cry. There is something called responsible drug use right? If you want to be really sure you don't do dump shit, get a trip sitter. No fire, no driving, no nothing.

@doronshadmi What do you say to a person that was killed under the influence of nutella?

Why the f* would he do that? Maybe you might consider the fact that some people use drugs in a responsible way.

After doing this, I have to say that it wasn't as powerful for me as you have described. My mood increased by like 30% or so.

@JoJo I do think that mindset is narrow-minded. I won't however continue this discussion, as I can't see any argument I make penetrate through your beliefs, which is okay. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I do think however, that your beliefs are toxic to both men and women.

@JoJo Dude, really? "harrassing"? He is just talking to them. If they don't want to talk, its fine. He just wants to get to know them. And belief it or not, many girls actually really enjoy that. I am really annoyed at those people trying to talk down to guys who get the balls to actually go out and meet women. Because often times, you can crush the self-esteem of that guy and he will never try again, feeling like shit all the way. Going out and trying to approach women in a honest and authentic way is not objectifying them at all. Its the opposite. Its treating them like human beings and not like gods on a pedestal.

There are seduction guys that go for that route, but there are also ones that go in there with their own personality and without any tricks and treats. Watch a few of James Marshall's videos and you might see that there are people who do not need pick up lines or fake personalities and also don't teach those traits but work through PD and authenticity as well as female attraction.

James Marshall is the man. He has spent several years studying meditation before going into the seduction field and he does it in a high consciousness way. I can fully recommend him.

@see_on_see Thank you for the real-talk. @Hardkill I can't really say much more to that topic, except that you should really really really try to go deep inside yourself. Read all your posts here again. Read all the answers. Do it 10 times. And then do it again. And then try to see this from an outside perspective. You might see where the problem lies.

I wonder what his Life Purpose Statement is...

I think I have a good spin on that topic by going for being a psychologist, where I plan to incorporate much of pd. It seems authentic to me and I think that is what counts.

Nope. At the moment I am focusing on calming my thoughts and emotions, as well as creating a passionate and fulfilling life. Enlightenment might me tackled in a few decades.