Shroomdoctor

@Hardkill There is no "quick fix". And I think you might want to realise that a quick fix would not make you happy. You would not feel better and your negative thoughts would still continue. I think you have to go from two main perspectives: 1. Work on your thought patterns, inner beliefs, conciousness. This means: -Daily meditation (no excuses) -I can recommend the book psycho cybernetics for some subconciousness work -Finding the courses of your extreme lack of self worth and chipping away at them 2. Outer Work As said before, some real hands on experience from your approaches would help us to see your problems. I can recommend the books "Models" as well as "The Way of the superior man", as stated before. --------------- One thing that you really have to start thinking about might be the following: What do you gain from your current perspective. Does it help you to hold on to your victim thinking? And if not, why are you doing it? Is it a possibility that you are afraid to actually really take life into your hands and work on this stuff for real and that it is easier to just say you tried everything please give me the quick fix? @see_on_see @ajasatya I just wanna say that I really appreciate your desire to help others. I can really see it in your comments and I have never found such a supporting community. I am kinda astounded.

@NEW11 You. are. the. man.

Everything that is "taboo" becomes exciting when normal stuff starts to bore you. Maybe you are a bit too involved in porn?

I would first finish the LP Course, before taking action, just so you know where you are heading. I did drop out after the course too.

I am at 54 days now. I would recommend the following tactics. When urges arise, do one of the following: -go to the gym -go outside and try to talk to real girls -contemplate your desire in contrast with your goals or all of the above.Positive side effect: You get muscle and talk to girls

I can also recommend it.

@Light LoverI know I might have sounded a bit rude. Its just that sometimes all the advice in the world won't get you out of your victimhood and you just need to actually start facing your demons instead of talking about the unfairness of the world. My answer wasn't meant in a mean kind of way, as I know exactly what he is experiencing. I had the same outlook on these things for years, and I would want to yell things at myself that are far less nice if I had the chance. @Hardkill Why should you not have faith in yourself? There are countless examples of people going from being the absolute looser with women to abundance. Why do you think you can't achieve it? Maybe it will take years, maybe you have to kick youself in the butt a hundred times and fail. But that is worth it isn't it? Have you read books on the matter? I strongly suggest "The way of the superior man" and "Models". Maybe that will give you starting points? And btw. probs for going out and actually trying. In that regard you are far further than me. Cool, right? What have you tried exactly? I'm curious.

Dude, really. This is like your 100th post on how you suck with women. Instead of whining you might want to look at the causes of why it doesnt work. And you will clearly see that your neediness is 90% of the equation. Work on that. I might not be the best guy to say that, as I still deal with the same issue, but at least I am not moaning about it the whole day. I am improving myself and I am starting to let go of the neediness while at the same time starting to go out to meet women., Hell, I wasnt even able to talk to one on the street, yet. I know that is kinda lame, but you know what? I don't care. I'm trying and I know as long as I keep going I will improve. Like with everything else in my life. But you know what won't improve your chances? Crying about how evil women are and how they have the totally unfair advantage.

Moderation is key. Porn addiction, as any addiction really is distraction. The problem is, when men want to break the addiction, moderation is actually harder to do then flat out not doing it. That being said, if you do not have any addictive behaviour towards porn and /or masturbation, then this isn't a topic for you, just as if you dont have an alkohol addiction, drinking a beer from time to time doesn't hurt. It hurts the addicted person, though.

Working out does the trick quite well.

Hey Guys, In the recent months, I have felt a deep kind of alianation from my old friends and even my family. Their understanding of self-actualisation is null and void and my attempts to self-actualize are mostly laughed and frowned upon. While I understand that I can't force these people to understand the ideas and process behind that, I am quite sure that having a social circle of people with similar interest and drive would really elevate my current life experience. I do struggle, however, in finding those people. It is so rare to find someone that has bought into this, that I sometimes feel like a guy from jehovah's witnesses, thinking he has life figured out while actually being totally delusional. Any tips on finding likeminded people?

Bremen, Germany

Hey there! So I did the Life Purpose Course. The outcome was what I had in mind even before that: Studying psychotherapy and having my own business to "give people conidence, perspective and inspiration." At the moment I am still studying computer science and I am totally fed up with that. I am thinking about doing a huge leap and travelling to New Zealand from Dezember to June and doing work&travel. (Until I can start applying for the new studies.) This would be a huge step for me and something I am terrfied but also excited of. I think it would be an opportunity to really grow myself in terms of independence and a challenge that might give me assurance and confidence in dealing with future endeavours. The downside is that I only have one and a half year left to complete my degree and I would throw away 3 years of work. But I am quite sure that this drastic change might be the right path for me, I can't let myself be held back by fear. I would be interested in your opinion. Is this a mad choice? Greetings Marco

Thank you for all the advice. I am quite sure that is the right way to go. I can still finish this degree after my six month of travel if I then wish so but I hope to really grow myself in the process. Tons of Reading, Meditation and of course Work and seeing a new country!

You got this! But don't do much at the same time. Meditation is the most important habit at the beginning. Good luck

Excited to share my Vision Board