Hi,
sort of a catchy title, but hey, learned that from Leo. The question is related to "Understanding How Paradigms Work" and generally paradigms:
Over the years I've come across communication models/methods revolving around, simply said, being polite. Examples:
When getting offended, do not accuse the other. State what has happened, how that makes you feel and how that (negatively) impacts you
Apologize early and often
When a friend is sad because you aren't available for a meeting he suggested, you express regret to your friend. You'd do that even though the way you see it is that in the past you've tried to meet, and your friend could never make it. So you do not actually feel regret. The model tells you that the important thing to communicate is your understanding of the other ones position, which is the sadness, which is independent on your story of how the other one has behaved previously.
When contemplating paradigms, the above came to my mind, and I thought: "Wow, this may not be itself a paradigm, but could it be part of one? I've practiced this for many years, but never really questioned it, I only questioned my ability to follow through. What if that's actually based on a paradigm? And what would be alternatives? Honesty comes to mind. I guess radical honesty eliminates any need to use a communication model, because, well, you're just speaking your truth. But is that all there is to it?
