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I really dont have my life together. Im 20 y.o., never went to college and while some things Ive worked out, many things i still am having trouble with in my life to the point where it makes it difficult to function normally. Is it okay if i dont pursue enlightenment for 1-2 years? I see everyone here pursuing it and I feel bad for not pursuing it. Can someone validate me and tell me if it's okay to work on my mental health, finances and relationships first before enlightenment?

Thanks everyone for your opinions, I truly appreciate it. Much love @NoSelfSelf How so? Which practices and what do I do?

@Shiva hahahhaah

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_stages_of_competence Any skill can be developed

Letting Go by David R hawkins

ego backlash?

Much love, good luck.

Holy fuck... It's because they both eat pizza... why didn't it click until now????????????????????????? Why has society lied to me?????????????????

From my research there are 2 sides to this, those that research it and say it's dangerous and those that have done it long-term and gotten good results

my life coach lives in the middle east and she makes lots of money coaching. she coaches people in the USA so she makes dollars and spends in her home country

purple too

which part? please be very clear, precise and non-dodgy

this forum tries to stay away from dogma as much as humanly possible, possibly more than any other community on the internet given that, it would be beneficial if you took some time to question your beliefs and try to understand the non-duality in an honest manner your epistemology could use some refining, which is something you can grasp fairly shortly. I would check out leo's videos on radical openmindedness, mechanism of belief, and default positions. once these concepts jive in your mind, you will approach this discussion differently. good luck

@Ether do u even woke bro

should i wait for a couple hours and let it digest then

@kieranperez same question. I just had a massive meal and junk food so i'm not sure if it's the right time

i watched that vid @electroBeam for me, ive experienced fear in my gut when making decisions but ive also experienced real intuition. its crucial to separate the two

@kieranperez same. i thought it was funny. but my gf was v upset lol

i like missionary backseat. thats as about best it gets in the car lol

If you have a best friend and he has replaced with you mostly with other best friends how do you react to this? We are still good friends no doubt. Just bothers me a lot. I don't really have other best friends. Should I go on my own path and find more friends now

Why not knowing each other?

@Sevi_smag thank you, that was a perfect answer. much love

yes but suppose you have you a friendship that was so incredibly deep and fulfilling and then you see that friend develop that friendship with someone else that isn't you and your connection starts to fade away because of it? i know this problem feels small, yes i understand but it bothers me greatly

whats a good philosophy to go by here? should i be expectant to be someone elses #1? if i was somebodys #1 and no longer it, should i give a fuck? should i scrap this whole hierarchy? as long as we good friends and can maintain a relationship that fulfills both our needs, he can do whatever he wants? feelsbadman to be placed lower in their eyes. i see my insecurities flare up and stuff but what to do about them, i do NOT know