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Right, but is it true that most people won't want to hire you and most people won't want to be friends with you?

I agree that relationships themselves can't give you happiness. Now, You have not answered my question for the topic of this thread.

Sorry, I got preoccupied with other things in my mind and life. I did watch his video and I get the gist of it, which is that if you don't off as being needy then you will be very attractive. However, I don't quite agree with this. I've lately been much less than ever before over the past two months and it actually didn't improve my results with women or people in general. I talked about this with an acquaintance of mine who has been struggling with attracting women for years and has very little to no friends. Unlike me, he has hardly every complained about his lack of results with women and says that he doesn't ever care if he has any friends or not. He also says that he never texts a girl more than 2-3 times in a row. He also has pretty calm vibe to him every time I talk with him and I've seen some of his recorded approaches with women and while he does appear to come off as being a little quirky he actually seems like he's having a good time with each of the women he talks too. He's also a good looking guy who has a muscular physique. I've said to him before "you know XXXXXX, you don't appear to every be needy at all and you look good. I don't get why you haven't been able to attract a lot of women." His response was "non-neediness doesn't make you attractive, it just doesn't make you unattractive."

I am looking forward to finding out what the mods have to say about this.

Okay, cool cool. Yeah, one of these days I am gonna move into or at least very near to a big city. I get that you need to have that mindset of being the "chooser" and the fact that she didn't reject you for who you are because she's didn't really know you when you first met her. However, what I was trying to get at was have you ever got a got who said no to you or ignored you before to later on become interested in actually going out with you or sleeping with her?

Hey guys, so I know that it's best to practice cold approach in a big city where there are millions of people there, including an ample amount of attractive women to meet. However, is it possible to ever be out of new HOT women who are single and available to approach in a major city like LA, San Francisco, NYC, Dallas, Austin, Houston, Chicago, Las Vegas, London, Paris, Rome, Madrid, Moscow, Prague, etc.? What about in a city that has only a population of about 500,000? What about in cities or towns that have a population that's much less than 500,000?

So, does that mean that it’s impossible in a major city like Miami or LA, to run out of not just women, but HOT women to approach for the rest of your life? Regarding the same girls u approached many times before, did any of them reject you the first time u ever approached them but then got them to change their mind the next time you ran into them? I wonder what are the chances of that happening to any guy in general.

@Aquarius where do u live? Also, check out Hayley Quinn’s vids and blogs on women approaching men. She’s been advocating for women to approach men. In fact, many guys have said that they would be impressed that u approached a guy. Hell I wish that hot women would approach me all the time. Btw, the vast majority guys don’t cold approach because they are worried that they will come off as a desperate weirdo to a random girl, which is not true as long as they approach in a respectful manner. When cold approaching, treat the guys you talk to with respect. Don’t do any cat calling or going up to a guy and be like “Damn boy! You look like you’re packing down there!” or saying “Are you a fire hydrant? Because you just got me soaking wet!” or go “Hey baby! You look like hot stuff! You wanna comeback to my place for a good time??” Also, don’t physically escalate too fast with men or start touching his upper thighs or butt from the getgo of any interaction. Remember, men are people too, not objects, and most of them are worried about being taken advantage of by women. I mean there are some guys who just want to get laid and have casual sex, but generally speaking men tend to look for an real emotional connection with a girl before they have sex and are looking to settle down with someone whom he can make a family with. Plus, they need to feel like they are safe and can trust a woman enough before they feel comfortable to fuck her.

I believe I've taken massive action in trying to make new hangout friends, from multiple meet ups, and from my hobbies: martial arts, weight training, and running. Though they all failed for me. Either I must be a big-time social loser or I am missing something that is so obvious. I take an online course for my new Master's program so I can't meet new people in a class. I've been to social workers, psychologists, and psychiatrists countless times and I still couldn't get the advice I needed to help to me solve. I've read how to Win Friends and Influence People and the info. from that turned out to be mostly useless for me. It's not just making friends for the sake of improving my social and fun life, I will never make it far in the real world if I can't get effective social skills under my belt. Is there no helping me in this? Am I suppose to just be a victim to this fate of being a social loser forever?

The frequency of cheating is quite high. Also, I do remember Leo mentioning in one of his Youtube vids, Why Men Cheat - And 8 Ways To Keep Your Man Loyal, that humans are actually biologically more polyamorous than monogamous. However, do most cheaters cheat because most cheaters are with the wrong person for themselves and have a certain flaw in their character or is it more because of our biological wiring as humans?

So how the hell are some people able to do it easily ever since their mid to high school years? Don't tell me that's it because they are more socially gifted. There must be a secret that's holding me back. What exactly have the popular people or even a lot of normal people been doing to succeed at this?

I see. Okay well thanks for the advice.

I wonder what percent of people have ever been in a open relationship. Also, is it only a minority of people who only want to be in a non-committal relationship?

Really? How can make good money work from working online? What would be a realistic way of doing this?

You guys are overlooking the most questioning pertaining to twerking: “Does she have a sexy bubblebutt?” Come on guys.? jk? or am I?

Sometimes, not being sore is a good thing because it means that your connective tissues and muscles have adapted very well by becoming more durable than before, especially for the exact workout routine (exercises, sets, reps, number of workout days, etc.) In fact, you can use it as an opportunity to improve your flexibility. If you muscles get too sore too often then it can significantly reduce the range of motion in each of your joints. So how do you know if you effectively worked a certain muscle or group of muscles you targeted for each of the exercises you did if you didn't get sore over the following 1-3 days? The answer is noticing whether or not you are making progress in a certain exercise. If you are either able to do more reps with same weight you worked with as before, or feel stronger than before and feel like you can lift with more weight than before, or you see that you are gaining more muscle mass or they feel harder when you flex them then you are making progress. Any of these signs hold true whether you are primarily training for strength or if you are mainly focusing on building muscle mass. If you goal is primarily to develop muscular endurance, then you know you are making progress if you can do more reps without feeling too sore for the next 1-3 days.

I've tried dating methods from Corey Wayne, Hayley Quinn, Kezia Noble, Gunwitch, Gambler's Stealth Attraction, Chief's seductive Introvert, etc.

Okay, this is a common misconception. Muscle soreness has nothing to do with lactic acid build up. It is an inflammatory response to the microscopic damage done to the muscles and connective tissue. Sometimes if you're muscles and connective tissue including ligaments, tendons, fascia, cartilage feel sore for more than 3 days then that means you did either too much total volume (too many sets and/or reps for the exercise, though sometimes it could mean too much weight) or did too many exercises that primarily targeted a specific muscle during a workout session. When a certain muscle group or groups of muscles get sore for more than 3 days then that means that those muscles and connective tissue associated with them got too damaged and will not be able to recover efficiently and effectively from them. Regarding lactic acid, lactic acid always clears from the muscles completely about a half hour to an hour after the workout session. Hell, most of the lactic from that worked muscle or muscles (depending upon which specific exercise(s) you did) already gets recycled to the liver and then back to the muscles turning it back to glycogen (the stored form of glucose). Also, lactic acid build up and muscle soreness have different physical sensations. Lactic acid build up is the burning feeling you get during and several seconds after doing a certain anaerobic endurance activity for a set period of time or doing a specific muscle building exercise for moderate to high level of reps. Essentially, the feeling of lactic acid build up is that sensation that gym bros or coaches typically are saying when they say "feel the burn!" Now, Muscle soreness is when the muscle feels more like an aching tightness especially when you try to either contract it or stretch it. Also, when the muscle and its respective tendon(s) and ligament(s) are sore, they feel more tender when you touch them. When a muscle has lactic acid built up in there, it doesn't feel more tender when you touch it. Btw, going to failure on every set is another common mistake. I used to do that all the time because my ego compelled me to do so (especially when I want to really grind hard on the last rep on the squat, deadlift, bench, and OH press). However, I've backed off from doing that on most of my exercise and my joints feel better and I have been able to recover better. U usually want to go 1-2 reps short of failure for each set. For accessory movements it's okay to go to failure on the last set. Also, by failure I mean missing a rep. It's okay if on your last set for each exercise (even the main lifts) you break your form a little bit as long as you feel for sure that you can complete that last rep or finish executing one more rep. This will take some experience to know when to stop short of failure. In case you're wondering who the hell I am, I am a highly knowledgable trainee in weightlifting, cardio/conditioning, fitness, flexibility training, nutrition, anatomy, and physiology. I've been studying all of this stuff down to a very scientific level for well over 14 years and have devoted over 4 years to heavy lifting and bodybuilding. I am also a highly experienced martial artist and half been training for a half-marathon for almost 6 months.

Thanks for the response everyone.

So I've thought about paying for a dating coach or a PUA bootcamp one day, because I feel like I am in a very desperate position with very little to no options. How many people here have tried a PUA bootcamp and/or tried a dating coach before? Did any of them ensure any significant degree of success? If not then I don't want to have to waste my money on any it as I know that they are very expensive. I would appreciate it if a bunch of people who have done any of it before could let me know.

The more important question is does she have a sexy bubblebutt?

Today was another day of feeling so down and frustrated. No one at my gym have offered to hangout with me. No matter where I go, I can never find new people to meet up with on a regular basis. Society is really fucked up. I am starting to hate alpha males. I am so incredibly jealous of them. It seems that no matter what I do or how hard I try I may never be able to solve this area of my life. Yes I know that when it comes to dating, sex, romance, and friendships there are no guarantees that I will ever get good with women or with people in general; however, alpha males are able to guaranteed themselves that they can get any kind of girl they want and as many cool friends as they want. It's fucked up, especially considering the fact that I've worked so god damn hard on this and the most popular guys out there have always had it easy!!! Not to mention that I was promised by my psychologists, social workers, and a number of coaches that I will get good at all of this. What a load of fucking horse shit this world has turned out to be! "You're doing great, Ross. You're getting better at this. You'll find someone. All you need one is one...blah blah blah blah blah blah." I've worked obsessively for countless trying to figure out what I need to change and I still CANNOT figure it out! Everything anyone here can suggest I've tried. You name it. This method, that method, taking a break from all of this for several months to a year, etc. etc. I am getting so tired of all of this! THIS ISN'T SUPPOSED TO BE HAPPENING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Optimists such as Tony Robbins have mentioned that it's better to be an optimist even though pessimists are about 10 times more accurate than optimists. Even people like Leo have mentioned that you always got to visualize success in order to succeed at anything. However, Overconfident or cocky people are criticized for overestimating their abilities, making an ass out of themselves, and even possibly jeopardizing their own lives. Of course it's ideal to have a healthy balance of confidence and solid self-esteem along with humility. Though, I wonder now if it is actually better to be overconfident or cocky then it is to lack confidence because you don't believe that you can succeed at something?

There has to be a full proof method to making new friends. Someone is not doing a job at teaching us how. Yet, people like us wouldn’t have to keep comIng back to forums like this one or keep going to stupid social workers and shrinks and suffer through torturous self-criticism which of course diminishes our social confidence. I mean I wouldn’t mind analyzing myself if it lead to me figuring out exactly what I am doing wrong for certainty and lead to noticeable progress (unless I was close to our genetic potential, thereby having almost reached my limit of improvement). However, what’s the point of self analyzing so much on what you’re doing wrong if you can never figure out what the solution is and can never find a really good social coach (which seems extremely difficult to find and afford)? For several years of my life I’ve constantly tried to figure how the fuck to improve my ability to make new friends to hang out with and once in a blue moon have I ever been to find one that I think is really cool. Dating coaches say gay it’s a great idea to make friends with attractive girls to increase your social circle and have them hook you up with attractive single women hey are friends with. However, I’ve tried that many times and it never worked. I mean WTF?! I feel like guys like me have been lied to about having a hopeful social future.

I thought that was primarily a dating book. I don’t think that there are any books out there that can help me.