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Oh cool. Well, then he very likely has high functioning Asperger's like I do. Thank you very much for looking for this. These videos actualy made me feel more optimistic about my potential. I really appreciate it.

I absolutely agree. I went to school for a Master's in OT and my mom is a very highly experienced Doctor in OT, who worked in the mental health area for decades. Plus, she has always been very street smart. She has always said to me that someone with PTSD MUST receive INTENSE THERAPY ASAP and for a LONG CONSISTENT TIME. I too have studied a lot of psychology in my spare time and know the gist of PTSD. Even though PTSD does not always correlate with anger management issues, the undeniable fact is that someone with PTSD has been extremely traumatized emotionally. This means that he is having extreme difficulty processing the horrors they just experienced. Right now, it's too much for him to remember or think about the thoughts and emotions associated with the traumatic event he went through with the right consultation and guidance from a psychiatrist and psychologist. Consequently, he cannot accept reality for what it is at all and is unable to emotionally connect with others at a functional level. It is extremely unlikely that you, his family, or any of his other loved ones can help him get through this kind of suffering without the aid of a competent psychologist and psychiatrist. Veteran soldiers who came back from battle or war usually come back shellshocked and become very distrustful of other people, even those very close to them. Some may be able to put on a facade of still appearing to be a strong, confident, and charming individual even though they just went through the worst kind of hell. However, they can suppress the massive amount of negative emotions pent up in them for only so long, until some random or unplanned situation that would be considered very normal to most people end ups triggering the memories of the hellish ordeal they were forced to partake in and witness. Whatever word or image is said that is related to war, battle, maiming, killing, etc. will very likely caused the traumatized victim to instantaneously have flashbacks of that or those same dark moments and re-live them as if they 100% real and happening right now. You also said that he had PTSD before from his abusive mother he may have PTSD complex, which according to its terminology is a psychological disorder thought to occur as a result of repetitive, prolonged trauma involving sustained abuse or abandonment by a caregiver or other interpersonal relationships with an uneven power dynamic. Also, to be quite frank, someone like him could be very dangerous around others and yourself. He could be great liability around others until he resolves this properly with qualified mental health professionals. I really hope he hasn't physically abused you and/or one day becomes extremely violent to the point of doing something horrific to you or others he is close to. As a veteran soldier, I assume that he owns a gun of his own. I really hope that he doesn't because that would be very scary for you, him, his friends, and other family members of his that are close to him given his mental state and the lack of mental health treatment that he undoubtedly needs. He can take all of the street drugs and alcohol he wants and smoke as much weed as he desires, but those substances will never allow him to truly face the feelings and thoughts of those traumatic memories. In fact, those substances will make it much worse for him overtime because he will never learn to fully cope with his real emotions and thoughts, let alone the fact that heavily abusing drugs, alcohol, weed, cigarettes, etc. will cause great physical damage to himself in the long run. This is not to say that all drugs are bad. In fact some are good if not essential to certain people. As long as they have been properly prescribed by the right medical doctor for you. Xanax is commonly prescribed to patients who have PTSD and/or Panic disorders. Have him ask his doctor about that (ideally a Psychiatrist as they of course specialize in prescribing patients with all sorts of psychiatric/psychology issues). There's no shame in seeing a qualified psychology and psychiatrist. Lots of people who are relatively normal see them all the time for various personal reasons. Hell, I've seen my private Psychiatrist who happens to hold both an MD and PHD in Psychiatry/Psychology for well over decade for my own issues. I've even seen many different kinds of therapists too when I haven't been able to afford to see my Psychiatrist during a certain period of time (mine is kinda expensive). I've been to a number of group therapy sessions including ones that dealt with managing my social anxiety (that group definitely helped a lot, thanks to their CBT methods). I understand that he's on the waitlist for EMDR. That is very unfortunate as EMDR is indeed a very effective method for treating patients with PTSD. However, I strongly urge that he join a peer support group for veteran soldiers with PTSD. This will allow him to primarily discuss his PTSD issues and in relation to his time as a soldier and really help him relate to others who have gone through very similar situations that he has gone through. In addition, he absolutely MUST find a Psychiatrist and Psychologist to see regularly ASAP to help deal with this at a personal level.

Holy shit! You were right. It's seriously true. I just watched the video. Well, I guess Tyler Durden (Owen Cook) is the first successful pickup artist I've ever known to really have high functioning Asperger's like I do. Thank you very much!

Couldn't agree more.

By 4'12" I assume you mean 5 in., right? If yes, that's still average, which is perfectly fine. What's your girth? In any case, the penis size really doesn't matter like everyone else is saying here. In fact, the "does size matter?" question is really getting annoying and stupid. It's like a woman asking "Do the size of breasts look big enough?", "Are my tits too big?", "Does the shape and size of my ass matter?", etc., etc. Practically every man throughout the whole world, whether he looks unattractive or plain or handsome has inevitably found someone who accepted them exactly as the way they look just as virtually every woman throughout the whole world whether she looks unattractive or homely or hot has ultimately found someone who has accepted them for how they look. All of this holds true if you want to just settle for someone whom you deem to be merely "so-so." However, as a man, if you want to get and keep a woman whom you yourself perceive to be hot and has an amazing personality, the size and shape of your dick still would be the LEAST OF YOUR WORRIES. Remember, the vast majority of women aren't as visual as men, which is why looking handsome or sexy as a man matters the least to women (even if you are exceptionally good looking). High quality women, who are both physically attractive and have great character, are most attracted to men who have both SOLID CONFIDENCE and VERY GOOD SOCIAL/SEDUCTION SKILLS. If you are able to achieve those two major qualities through hard work and dedication, then only a small handful of women out there who are size queens with only half a brain cell will ever give a fuck about how big and aesthetic your willie is. So when you have sex with almost any woman you want, she still won't care at all how good your dick looks as long as you know how to use it well. The only possible exception to all of this (which actually may or not be even true) is if you truly have a Micropenis, which is a penis that is about (2.75 in) in erect length or shorter. Oh by the way, work on your clothing style and make sure your diet is in check and that you workout at least 2-3 times a week. Although most women aren't sexually turn on by looks nearly as much as men are, virtually all women, especially those who are high quality, do want a man who at least looks well put together and gives off the impression that he takes good care of himself and is socially cool. Your ex broke up with you either because you lost her emotional connection with you and respect for you or there was something wrong with her or you didn't make enough time to have a sufficient amount of sex with her (like you said in your post) or it was simply because you two were never truly meant to be together forever.

I've been getting a lot of contradicting advice on whether or not it is a good idea to approach a girl who already rejected you before. Some have advise not to do it because you have to respect the fact that a no is a no, otherwise you will end up annoying her or even harassing her. In fact, part of the reason I got kicked out of my previous gym what that I made a couple of girls I approached feel uncomfortable after approaching each of them twice even though I was always completely respectful to them. Others, have stated that a girl's emotions change from time to time (even more so than a guy's emotions), and so even if she rejected you during one point in time, it doesn't mean that she won't ever change her mind about it. Maybe she just was in a bad mood the day you first approached her, but then next time you see her she may be in a more pleasant and welcoming mood. Also, they say that girls commend a guy who is persistent. Hell we've all heard of stories where a girl said no several times to a guy who asked her out, but eventually after asking her out over and over again she finally said yes. Also, what if you happen to just run into the same girl who already rejected a few weeks ago or a month ago or a few to several months ago or what have you? How likely can you change her mind the next time you happen to bump into her again and make a better approach compared to last time? Sighs. It's all so confusing.

I'll see if I can find it. But yeah, I still am curious as to what Leo and any of the moderators have to say about this.

Do u have Asperger's?

And what if you can't shoulder the burden of all of that responsibility? I am not sure if everyone is strong enough to adapt to such stresses.

Does he see a Psychiatrist and Psychologist regularly?

Do you have swag?

Not acting like a victim can be easier said than done. It's can very tricky to distinguished between what we can and cannot do. Even I still have trouble discerning what I am truly capable of. Hell, even Leo has declared that he has always been more pessimistic than optimistic to a degree. Your perception can be your reality to a degree; however, at the end of the day reality is reality whether you like it or not.

So, what if I accidentally run into the same girl again a few months later or even half a year or more later? What if he had positively changed his way of interacting with others the next time you see him, especially if he's a really good looking and high quality guy? Sadly, I won't be able to move out of my city until at least a year or two. My mom even prevents me from approaching any girls anywhere now. I've tried all kind of venues and different hobbies to meet all kinds of women, but they all failed me. My therapist had told to be patient and that my time will come, but I feel like I almost can't take it anymore. I wish I knew how to deal with this frustration I keep having with my social and sex life. I really cannot just move out of my parents' place. I hardly have any money of my own and I am heavily invested on finishing my grad degree, which unfortunately will take at least a year and a half to complete (hopefully). This is why I feel socially and sexually powerless and am very worried that I might turn really crazy if I don't get my sexual needs satisfied soon.

Oh yeah, I saw this video already at least 3 times. Technically, he didn’t say that he has Aspergers. He said that he had major depression and a lack A LOT of social experience, as he has always been naturally more of an introvert. I’ve been trying to find someone here on this forum to tell me how to properly practice pickup as an Aspie, but so far I’ve had no such luck.

I couldn't agree more. So, how often have you gotten girls you re-approaching to end up going out with you?

So then what would you suggest someone like me do to learn step-by-step how to socialize without having any negative repercussions with any of my interactions, Aurum?

I see. Alright that helps me understand things more. Oh FYI, I’ve actually stopped hitting on girls at my new gym for about 11 months. It has sucked, but I guess it is what it is. I wish I could go to a big city everyday and approach many attractive girls there everyday, but my parents won’t let me. I don’t know what I am gonna do with the beast inside me.

And what if after several years waiting he still hasn’t found a good partner to fuck? Then how will he be able to deal with his sexual urges without turning into a pervert like those phony priests or monks who molested innocent children? Assuming the OP of this thread is young and has not had much experience with making love, then without sex or masturbation how will he be able to effectively manage his sexual desires if he continues to suppress and deny them indefinitely? I ask this because I feel like I am in a position where I can only use porn and masturbation to deal with my urges because I’ve hardly had any experience with love and sex and have never had a serious girlfriend before, even at the age of 30, and I have a relatively high libido.

Really? Where did he mention that he was officially diagnosed with it?

Why haven’t Leo or any of the moderators answered here?

I wonder what Aurum and Leo would say about this.

I've tried finding someone who is a reformed Aspie and learned how to overcome it especially when dealing with women, but I still have had no luck.

I do agree that in general within any sort of skill, you still need to start taking consistent massive action with talking to girls and everything else you said in there, Girzo. However, having Asperger's or Autism can pose serious limitations on my ability to learn social skills. I am actually not sure anymore if I am really ready to cold approach women because now I don't know if I have enough basic social skills to practice effectively on women without getting into any trouble. What if I get reported for harassment even when I didn't mean to harass a girl all because I didn't properly read her non-verbal cues. Regarding Tourette's syndrome, that of course has always been considered as a social stigma, and can you make come off as being somewhat weird. However, I don't that that negatively effect's one's social, sex, and dating life as much as Asperger's because if someone with Tourette's syndrome knows how to be aware of other's people non-verbals like a normal person can and can act normal around others besides having the sporadic tics then he can still fit in with others if he works at it. He can just explain to new meet he meets that he has Tourette's and the vast majority of people will be very understanding of it. I actually knew someone in my undergrad years who had Tourette's syndrome. I first met him during my Freshman year and he seemed to be a very funny, confident, and cool guy even around a lot of other people in our dorm and elsewhere on campus. A couple of years later I coincidentally became his suite mate in a new dorm during my junior year, and he was still a very likable guy. He would often bring a group of regular guys and girls in his dorm to chat with. I didn't know that he actually had Tourette's syndrome until about a week after I began my junior year when he mentioned it to me and showed me the kind of twitches he tends to make on his face when it accidentally happens. However, when someone like me has Asperger's they usually get judged by certain people for sometimes being too annoying even when we don't mean to and I just trying to have a good time or not what to do or say when a person looks bored or saying a joke that was uncalled for.

I see. Ok, so it is true that most people you meet and like will say no and that most employers will deny you a job you want because it's usually a long and hard process process to get a good friend you want and/or the job that you wish to have. Alright, Thank you for responses, @Key Elements

I know that many people like me would like to have a lot of friends and be hired by almost anyone for virtually anything because we want to satisfy our egos as much as we can. Of course, I've always realized that in real life there will always inevitably be certain jobs out there that I will apply for, but will not succeed in getting hired for because I was not the kind of candidate that they were looking for their particular business regardless of how great my game and qualifications are for that job. Similarly, when it comes to establishing new friends, I obviously won't be able to be everyone's cup of tea, even if I had great social skills, high social status, and looked extremely attractive. However, I didn't think or believe beforehand until I watch one Youtube vid of Corey Wayne that MOST employers will never want to hire for their company and MOST people will not want to be your friend, no matter how much you have or what you have to offer to people. Is this actually true or is Corey Wayne really exaggerating?