Hardkill

Damn. I wish I got more of an answer than a half-assed response from Leo. Please moderators or anyone with experience with coaching, help me out here.

Yeah Leo, we would appreciate it if you could respond to these questions we all have.

I think being a complete jackass is much more fun.

Yeah that’s why I am considering being a complete jackass again like I was when I was young child. I used to enjoy annoying the shit out of people for my own self-amusement because I always knew that would work for me when I had trouble making friends or getting along with others.

Ok well, I don’t really have a problem with open many sets consistently myself even without a coach or a bootcamp. I’ve approach about 1,000 girls five or take in myself mostly all by myself (though there were a few times where I approached girl with a wingman). My trouble is more mid to end game and converting numbers and/or approaches to consistent dates and/or lays. I’ve gotten numbers and a few first dates from cold approaching, but that’s all I got. The lays, 2nd dates, 3rd dates, 4th dates, 5th dates, and 6th dates I got were all from girls I met online (except for a couple of girls whom I met at a previous gym I went to). Would a PUA bootcamp and/or good dating coach definitely help me convert more of my approaches to more lays and/or dates? If yes, then why? If no, then why?

"How do you deal with people thinking you're a nut?" Ask them to help you bust a nut.

Ok, this has really been a great burden on mind. I know that it's not always good to compare myself to others, but we live in a competitive world and a lot of times I can't help, but comparing myself to other people. With that said that, why has it been so easy for some guys to be able to get laid or get popular with people ever since they were in high school? As we all know by now, about 99% of men haven't ever learned or tried any sort of pickup methods for approaching and dating women and very likely have never cold approached a girl in their entire lives. Yet, out of that percentage of men, a number of them have been able to easily get laid with hot women and keep them for long. In contrast, I've approached over a 1,000 women I have been truly attracted to with all kinds of cold/warm approach methods and not once have I ever been able make any one of them an official fuck buddy or girlfriend of mine. Is it because those guys who have always had it easy with women have a genetic talent for seduction?

I've recently thought about it and I don't see where slut-shaming is happening within developed countries such as the US, Canada, UK, etc. Maybe a little bit in high school, but that's seems to be it. Also, many high schoolers like to say all kinds of shit to others just because they are going through puberty and are still underage.

Thanks for the responses guys. So, slut-shaming is usually only subtly implied on a subconscious level such as when someone else says "your clothes are too skimpy" or "I wouldn't want to date a girl who has slept with more than 20 guys because I won't feel special" or "a girl who has slept with more than 40 guys would intimidate me" ?

Even many regular people my parents who have been happily married never met from pickup. So what's the point of pickup, especially when it has failed for most men?

I know that high status men get and retain the women they want; however, so do guys with great seduction skills. Yet, if we had to choose between the successful pickup artists and the high status men, who would ultimately come out as being the most seductive to women. I ask because maybe achieving high status from either my career or social circle or wealth or can completely substitute the need to learn how to attraction women through "game" with your personality. Like Leo said "pickup isn't the only way to attract girls you know. 99% of men do not know pickup, and yet they still manage to get laid." Hell the most well known men in the world who have gotten the hottest women out there have very likely never tried pick up in their entire life.

How? I’ve tried practically everything there is. There seems to be no guarantee that I will be able to improve my charisma. However I am absolutely certain that I can raise my status in some way. Also, don’t tell me there are no guarantees in life because while that may true in the grand scheme of “life”, it’s a unhelpful cliche that does put me at ease. It makes me feel powerless and I know that there are certain things in life that can be ensured.

No no. Something doesn't add up. Are you telling me that ALL of the most successful men in world who are businessmen, lawyers, athletes, actors, singers, politicians, princes, kings, models, etc., and who we know can get any woman they want, have always had great charisma since the day they were born? None of them ever had to work hard on developing their charisma? Also, good looks don't mean shit for men (I know from personal experience), except for a few of the freebies you may get on rare occasions.

So then how do the vast majority of high status guys who have never pickup ever before in their entire life ever land the hottest women? How did they get enough game?

So are u saying that I should neither try to raise my status nor learn pickup?

I am from Los Angeles, California, US.

Okay, I will buy the Life Purpose course some time in the future. It better work.

Guys, I know I already asked if whether or not I should become an entrepreneur, but my parents have convinced me that it's not worth it (at least for the moment). I am in a Master's teaching program, but I am not really enthusiastic about becoming a teacher. I really don't know what I want to do and really wish I knew what my passion would be for a living. I cannot afford to pay for the Life Purpose course now or anytime soon. I believe that if I knew I what I wanted to do for a living then I would be completed 100% focused and productive. What do I do?

The problem is that I don't know what avenue to choose that would be realistic for me. For example, it would great if I became a video game designer, but that's an extremely competitive field and I don't even have nearly enough computer skills to be qualified for such a job. Regarding other kinds of careers, I used to want to be a scientist, but I don't know exactly what kind of scientist I want to be and I don't think that I smart enough to become one (at least not yet). Also, I would have to go back for a lot more undergraduate schooling before I could ever seriously consider applying for a master's or doctorate level grad program. Plus, the positions for scientists are very competitive even amongst those who have a graduated with a formidable doctoral degree from a prestigious university. I also thought about medical school, but it's not only very hard to get into any medical school, but also it's very life-draining to do the program. I don't even know if I have the mental discipline for it. Hell, I thought about becoming a DPT and I don't know if I even have the mental discipline and organizational abilities to get through something like either. I've even thought of trying to open a fitness gym of my own, but that too seems very unrealistic. Practically speaking, all of the professions that I've ever dreamed of have become pipe-dreams that are very unlikely to come to fruition for me.

I am not interested in want to have sex with ugly women. There have been a few girls in the past whom had propositioned me into being their boyfriend; however, I was never sexually attracted to any of them.

Science, math, and art. I did sports and played too many video games and sometimes hung out with friends from school.

I don’t judge if a girl sleeps around when she’s single. It’s better than cheating on someone.

The vast majority of dating coaches and pickup experts do a terrible job at teaching men how to pickup. They don’t explain how many girls to approach per day. They don’t give effective methods to have good inner game even when you get rejected countless times. They also manipulate you into ultimately paying for their expensive courses or personal training. They tell you certain contradictions that are not helpful for your self esteem such as “don’t take it personally when you get rejected because the women you approached don’t know you, but then essentially say “you suck with women and u gotta own it and learn to be an alpha male or a better person.” Furthermore, they don’t effectively teach guys how to they can analyze and deduce what they need to fix given the seemingly infinite number of variables they are in any given interaction. Plus, many do not explain how much of pickup is a numbers game. It’s fucked up and these dating coaches and pickup artists need to be held accountable for misleading poor bastards on how to approach and date women. As far as I am concerned, men like me have been allowed to deceive ourselves into thinking that we definitely have a solid chance with the woman of our dreams. I am telling you, I’ll probably defame all of these dating coaches and pickup scum bags one day.

Well, it's another week of torture in this god forsaken miserable world that we live in. Recently, I've thought about what I want to REALLY DO for a living and I can't decide what kind of career I want to have for the rest of my life. I actually envy people who already know what they want to do for a living and know that they will love it.

I am extremely physically active and fit and eat healthy, and I am close to my family. I have a lot of hobbies. Yet, it’s still very hard to deal with the lack of success I have with women.