BobbyLowell

When people praise/ like me, it does not effect me as much as when people dont like me. help. im so sensitive to when peopel dont like me that i lose my confidence and be inauthentic, making everything worse.

@Kimasxi@Source_Mystichow can we change these patterns though? They are negative

@Marinusmaybe I'm not authentic in being non judgemental yet. But like not caring what others think of me and feeling like I'm just naturally going about life I feel like I'm authentic in that way. I don't really know how to fix judgement.

No one likes the real me. I have been becoming me but no one likes me I am too judgemental but that won't go away quickly. And no one likes me they think I'm too authentic. I want friends.

also, the best thing you can do for yourself right now. is love who you are now. it will get better. you are amazing. other people should only have a positive impact on you. no needing is good that is selfish. when everyting is good again you dont want it to be becasue you ran away from who you were. you are likeable, lovable, and when it gets better you wont judge you or others for being like the past you. thanks.

i know what it feels like to feel outcasted and just thinking like people are just living and bathing in shallowness. Today someone approached me and started talking about how passionate he was in equality. yea, he might of been perceived as wierd but there is always people who align with your interests and beliefs and just stick through. im sure that if you stay brave and authentic, everything will work out for you. im actually going through something similar right now. I set a lot of bad impressions in the past and i just dont know who to hang around. Im scared of getting judged, im sensitive, even though ive been drilling things like "i am completely independent of the positive or negative opinions of other people" for months. but i know if i summon my bravery and dont lose my values i will have an amazing life. people dont like being told their flaws- can you imagine if someone came up to you and said everything THEY THOUGHT was wrong about you (which might or might not even be right)? we are supposed to surround ourselves with positive people. if you want positive friends in your life, be a positive friend. dont be judgmental.

How can you be your authentic self if there is no self?

@Thomas Razzeto Leo refers to finding your authentic style though, and that everyone has a unique one. Doesn't this mean everyone is different? @Nahmisn't enlightenment the truth- that there is no self, not a state? And if being authentic is just engaging in higher consciousness activities, why does everyone have their own unique authentic style as Leo says in one of his videos?

LOVE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN MY OPINION

YES BECAUSE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE MAKES THEM ABLE TO HAVE GOOD LIVES AND IS SO SO SO SO SO AMAZING AND IMPORTANT

@Pelinhmm okk. is non judgemental diff from openmindedness?

-drill into my head "I AM completely independent of the positive or negative opinions of other people" for 5 mins a day -drill into my head "I love being confident" for 5 mins a day -spend lots of time around others?? ANY MORE TRIX?

@Pelin are u referring to his authenticity or openmindedness?

Every human being deserves love right and deserves to me loved by their family right? Everyone is lovable? i just want support. If you honestly think no don't answer this post. I want yes and your support for it. Thanks

@ZenTwizzlethis means you feel all the good stuff that other people experience too right? Life has good and bad in it but the good outweighs the bad. Personally, I love feeling. Also, though, I suggest you place yourself around positive external factors, maybe don't watch it read super sad stuff and don't hang around negative people unless it is someone you should be there for. This also means that you are super empathetic of others, which is a very positive quality. Love this quality, it is something good that makes you you

@PelinLeo says in his How to Make Friends video that if you surround yourself w people, your fake person will fall off so thats where i got that idea from. What do you think about this?

@Pelinthank you so much for posting this!

@ajasatya oK THANK YOU <3

@ajasatya i want both. i already am really caring though and pretty authentic but it can definietly still improve. so is it ok to work on both at once and they wont interfere with each other?

@ajasatyaok, thank you!! but i have a question. if being loving and caring of others is more important to me than authenticity, is it bad for me to drill into my head that i dont care about something on a daily basis? or will it not affect it at all because i really dont want it to.

@ajasatya hey! ive been doing it for a few months now. its definitely working but im just wondering, are there any more ways to move it along?

@LaucherJunge ok, thank you so much!!

@Max_V yes everyone is saying that but I'm not asking that. I'm asking about capacity to love others

@egoeimai " everyone can't do otherwise but love" does this mean that the truth is that everyone loves everyone else

@ajasatyaIf I work really hard on it though, can it get a lot better in 1-2 months?