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personally when I use cannabis, even a little I become a retard and have very bad short term memory.

@Feel Good I think those topics were banned because from the perspective of people who havent experienced mystical states (myself included) this seems too fantastical and speculative. If I ask myself genuinely whether spiritual awakening is a delusion the brain creates, my answer is yes. Including past lives, future lives, channeling, etc. That is not to say I dont pursue it and that im not openminded to it though. Sure the brain is a concept in "my" awareness, though I dont know if there is a reality outside awareness. Maybe there is a reality outside my awareness where a brain exists or maybe not, all of that is speculation from my perspective.

I think I finally decided to get a girlfriend, after a long time of doubting, I have a few obstacles I face and I need help to overcome them: not really an obstacle, but a question- is cold approach the way to go? from personal sightings of people doing it and from youtube videos it seems very assholish, selfish, you disturb women. It feels wrong to disturb girls in the middle of the day. maybe it might make them feel good, but not always. that leads me to- I dont know when and where is it appropriate to approach girls. I have a few places in my town and a few outside of town where there are a decent amount of people, my area is lowly populated and the average age in my town is 60 i think, so its a bit tough to find places with women my age. though in the places that i would guess there would be women my age when is it appropriate to approach? what if theyre in a group? there are rarely girls going around on their own, what if theyre busy doing something or in a rush to someplace? it seems inappropriate to start a conversation with a girl while shes grocery shopping. there are a few cafes so what i think the best way to approach is to make a few eye contacts with the same woman and then go talk to her. im afraid of my friends finding out that im doing this, because again, my town is small so theres a big chance i would meet a girl who knows one of my friends and i dont want them to know because its a lot not like me, im very reserved and not outgoing so the huge difference in personality might trigger some lightbulbs in my friends. i know it shouldnt be really a problem, but it feels uncomfortable thinking about that. I do have very good social skills and sometimes im very funny, but only sometimes. its like it depends on my mood and whether im relaxed and detached. i dont know how to forcibly detach myself and relax myself. i might be very awkward or i might be very extroverted. another fear is being awkward or assaulting some girl or making her uncomfortable by mistake, and then maybe my friends will know about that and they might not want to go out with me anymore, and i kind of need that group of friends because it makes my socials skills better. i saw leo's vid on how to get a girlfriend and one of the points was to push for sex. i understand where that's coming from because she wont care about me really before sex, though it seems very aggresive and selfish, i feel dirty when i think about doing that. i also have no idea how to do that, what if i go too far and it might be considered sexual harassment? i dont know where the limits are. im also a virgin, so "taking the lead" might prove very difficult for me. lets say I go on a "hunt" to a mall or something, try to talk with girls. lets say i get rejected by a few and I stay around to talk to more girls. what if the girls who rejected me see me talking to more girls or bump into me again? i seem very desperate in the situation. more importantly what if a girl sees me talking to some other girl, she rejects me, and i happen to approach the girl who saw me? she might think im some desperate dude hanging around the place picking up girls, so she will definitely reject me or even throw a hurtful comment, which will lower my motivation and increase the fear. also, if I get a girl's number, am I supposed to leave the place and not get more numbers? if a girl that gave me her number sees me with another girl she will ignore me on the phone. can i have a date right after i met a girl? is it ok to take her out of he group of friends if she has one? I think the biggest one is 2, i dunno if its appropriate for example to catch up to a walking girl in the street, also i would guess i would need to be more direct, because she's in a dynamic state so it will be weird and disturbing if i try to talk "around the point". and what if she has a boyfriend? do you have any crucial tips? are there any ways that i can get in trouble doing pickup? p.s. should i approach girls that i dont like, but are not ugly? i know by being picky i wont get anywhere but what if i dont have anything genuine to complement a girl on?

show him somehow the impact he made on you, thats ultimately what hes living for

a beautiful poem, thank you

@crushangel haha i know i answered already, but i have a different perspective. ideally you want to have a partner who shares similar life goals with you. how you put self actualization into the category of "life goals" depends on you. the video applies to women also.

are you sure? i think i just cant know if theres something beyond my experience. doesnt necessarily mean theres nothing. thats an idea, "location" is a concept

@YogiLogan also after the mahamudra i have to take quicker breaths because its exhausting, so the ujjayi has little effect on kp1 which cones after the mahamudra i think also during mahamudra, i should try to reach the feet and have a straight back right? and then when i chant ohm to flex the scrotum and the belly, right? my questions is should i put pressure with that flexing on the ajna chakra? like when you press and your face starts to go red.

@YogiLogan but in the book its written i should hold for 3 seconds after the inhale

@Feel Good thanks. that book is definitely on my reading list.

im in the midst of the life purpose course (for who bought the course- at the start of the life purpose assessment, where you answer a ton of questions). I have my values and strengths, I worked unimaginably hard on my values for a few months. since I finished my values and moved on to the next part, the life purpose assessment, I got stuck, I had extreme motivation issues and no passion to want to have a life purpose. right now I simply dont want a life purpose, its just a means to survive for me. I got about 7 years of guaranteed work and university, so i have a lot of time to figure out what my life purpose is. What I think is happening is that I have a lot of emotional blockages that I need to break through, I need to get a taste of what love is, im stuck at the bottom of maslow's hierarchy so i dont want life purpose "stuff" like contributing to society and being creative. Do you think its wise to halt the life purpose course for now and to focus on emotional mastery, socialization and relationships? i need an outside opinion on this, i think its not too wise, but to do the life purpose course takes a lot of emotional labor because i dont want to do it, i dont feel any passion when doing it.

i never get what travel means. do i go different places and talk to people? i dont know how to start conversations with strangers, especially in other languages, it seems nice on paper but in practice i havent the faintest idea how to do that. also life experience is so vague i have no idea what you mean.

@Feel Good thank you, man. I commit to finishing the course fully IN ORDER even though i might hate it and come up with excuses. I will do I think a few days intensive to contemplate the course really deeply, because im tired of being dust in the wind. @0000will0000 I dont have places in my town where I could socialize with people my age, the average age is 62. I am planning on going outside of town, though that will take money and that's limited.

@YogiLogan you seem like a pro, how am i supposed to do the practice? the way it is comfortable? for example in KP1 inhaling and exhaling for 6-8 seconds and in mahamudra to bend the knees, or to try hard and manage 10 seconds and straighten the legs with pain? sometimes when I do KP1 and I inhale and exhale too much time I feel the lack of oxygen as a pain in the lungs.

@Elisabeth you're right, I can come back to the course later to do it 100% properly. thank you, i think ill do that.

i also think theres something wrong with me often. i came to the conclusion that if i cant change it, i shouldnt give a fuck, doesnt benefit me in any way. you should be able to stop the thought if you dont believe it, if you believe it, see if you can improve or check it somehow, if not, stop thinking about it, if you cant stop thinking about it start meditating.

the questions I ask to decide whether i join some new age stuff are the following: can this benefit me in any way? is it just superstition? lets say I try the thing, do I see that its working? does it hinder my growth in other areas?

My neck twitches sometimes, if no pain, ignore, move on

"What is the biggest Mindfuck?" there is no answer to that, because different people hold beliefs differently, so for different people the biggest mindfuck will be different

@Brittany by survival i mean that currently i dont have a job and i depend on my parents because im studying. i need to figure out what to do in the world in order to earn money, survive later on.

yeah, im doing the course, thats what this post is about, as i wrote. im in the life purpose assessment part and im struggling to answer the questions because i dont care that much about what ill do in the future. im only worried about my survival for now. yeah but there is urgent stuff that could be somewhat fixed, like social anxiety, emotion regulation. also i meant not only shadow work, but stuff like having a relationship, experiencing fun stuff, going on adventures, taking psychedelics, etc.

@Joseph Maynor then how do i deal with the lack of passion i have towards it? the whole discovery of a life purpose comes out of passion.

according to the yoga system to clean the energy channels, energy will move more freely. its almost always done before yoga practices ive seen, like in inner engineering it also takes a short time

@herghly I think nadi sodhana is important

I genuinely wanted a life purpose before and i believe i still do, but after a year and especially after a few trips i got clearer on what i want and my motivations changed dramatically. the course will be useful later on anyway.