Tyler Robinson

I felt so romantic for him. He almost conquered me. I was getting all these feelings when he was in my journal He was so persuasive. It felt unreal My first thought was - what does he want? That day I had butterflies in my stomach. I couldn't resist

A need based spiritual system.

@Jannes if it's the same person I sincerely and humbly suggest you stay away. You seem like a nice shy guy. Don't be afraid. A lot of women like sexual stuff when you get to know them unless she is some stuck-up type. Loosen up bro.

I sum it up as — the system itself is broken

I remember my exes physically escalating on me. If a girl likes you, she won't mind it. In fact she would appreciate your sexual attention. You shouldn't hesitate so much if a girl has clearly shown signals that she likes you. I never said no to a guy escalating on me. It was obvious that I wanted him to kiss me. Sexual intercourse is a different thing and she might let you know on that. But you need to be sexually intimate at least. Kissing is very normal. If she is avoiding then she is probably not that much into you. Sexual intimacy early on is a great indicator of knowing if a woman is into you. One way of doing this is to not do it physically at first. My third boyfriend did this trick. He didn't get physical right away. First he said that he wanted to be inside me. He wanted to touch me and kiss me and he was feeling horny for me. Try something like that. Drop a hint of feeling horny and sexual through language rather than touch. If she is turned on she is really attracted to you. And I don't get this whole creep thing. How can you be a creep when you both have shown liking for one another. Is she running a shit test on you to check if you're a fuck boy. Well then you can't do much if someone misinterprets your actions. That's bound to happen at any point. If someone knows you for who you are, you wouldn't need to provide endless justifications. What I sense is a lack of harmony, trust and communication You can't sustain or even start a relationship being full of doubts. It doesn't go anywhere. Maybe this is just a random fling and you both haven't known each other for a long time. I personally stay away from such relationships where possibilities of suspicions can arise. They don't last long. It's always leads to people simply testing each other and results in a blunder.. Better stick with someone you're comfortable with I sum it up as — the system itself is broken

Gaslighting does involve lying. But it's not as simple as believing a liar. You trust that person and so basically you take their word thinking that they mean the best for you. Would you assume that your husband or wife doesn't want the best for you? Since you place your trust in the other person, it becomes easier for them to manipulate this trust, convince you of a lie and basically violate this trust to cause intentional harm. You only realize that they are being harmful when the harm is done and then you begin to move away from them. If your wife calls you and informs you that she is in the hospital with a broken arm, would your first instinct be — "oh, she must be lying." Try to think along those lines. Gaslighting is not simply lying, it's blatant violation of the trust that someone puts in your word and emotional abuse by violating this trust.

@Jannes if you treat a woman as your equal then you would stop having fears and treat her like family. The problem is guys like you put women on a pedestal. Then you begin to fear every little thing and suspect every little move. Women smell fear and insecurity in a man from a mile. Trust me on that line even if you don't want to take dating advice from women. Women smell fear and insecurity from a mile. They don't like that smell. It stresses them out. So try to be more confident of who you are. Growing that confidence is a part of growing your manliness. First she will see your manliness. Then she will see your character.

Put your arms around her. And tilt your head to touch her head slightly. Give her your masculine warmth and assurance. Generally a girl putting her head on your shoulder is a gesture that she is looking for masculine comfort and assurance. And do it as long as she doesn't lift her head up on her own. If you prematurely took your arm away, she would take it as a signal that you're probably bored or find her clingy/needy and don't want to be her shoulder anymore. This can feel disappointing and also make you look bad or make her feel unwanted. So avoid doing classic mistakes.

You can lie on accident. You make up shit out of thin air, it gets annoying. Research a bit before you start typing. Accidental lying is called confabulation. Look it up. And I'm a pathological liar. Ask me. I know this sounds like an oxymoron but life is a paradox of sorts. You don't know shit about lying. Lying can also be unintentional which I do all the time. Lying can also be an indication of anxiety and trauma. Many people lie not to deceive but to protect themselves from being judged, that is out of shame and fear. You really need to start reading books and articles and not be in your head all the time. That is if you really mean well

Sex loses its innocence when you have it with multiple people. Can agree with Tate on that.

You can lie on accident. You make up shit out of thin air, it gets annoying. Research a bit before you start typing. Accidental lying is called confabulation. Look it up. And I'm a pathological liar. Ask me. I know this sounds like an oxymoron but life is a paradox of sorts. You don't know shit about lying. Lying can also be unintentional which I do all the time. Lying can also be an indication of anxiety and trauma. Many people lie not to deceive but to protect themselves from being judged, that is out of shame and fear. You really need to start reading books and articles and not be in your head all the time. That is if you really mean well

It does involve lying. But it's not as simple as believing a liar. You trust that person and so basically you take their word thinking that they mean the best for you. Would you assume that your husband or wife doesn't want the best for you? Since you place your trust in the other person, it becomes easier for them to manipulate this trust, convince you of a lie and basically violate this trust to cause intentional harm. You only realize that they are being harmful when the harm is done and then you begin to move away from them. If your wife calls you and informs you that she is in the hospital with a broken arm, would your first instinct be — "oh, she must be lying." Try to think along those lines. Gaslighting is not simply lying, it's blatant violation of the trust that someone puts in your word and emotional abuse by violating this trust.

Couldn't agree more. He has a shadow against anyone who has suffered in some way. I think deep down he fears that he would be labeled in similar ways as women label men who mistreat them. So he goes way beyond to preemptively defend himself and overcompensate his ego being bruised in the future. I like his posts but he subconsciously engages in a lot of victim blaming. It's one thing to recognize patterns of victim playing in people and wanting people to step out of victim mindset and take personal ownership but it's another to completely invalidate genuine victims.. I don't know how that is empowering.

I had a bad dream where I saw myself dying.

I think a girl's biggest fear is being dumped by the guy she loves.

If even after explaining everything you, you still don't understand things then I can't help you. Once a person has identified a pattern of gaslighting then they are obviously going to dump the gaslighter They are not aware that they are being gaslighted. Why is this so hard?

@Razard86 you are not understanding the mechanics of manipulation.. When someone is manipulated its because they are unaware that it's manipulation. Only the manipulator is to be blamed. You can't say that "you allowed yourself to be manipulated" because that person just wasn't aware that it's manipulation in the first place.

Everyday is incredible with you Tony. I feel loved and belonged. I'm extremely happy. I giggle with pride and happiness. Sometimes I think I can't believe I could be loved. You make me feel more natural and don't trigger me at all. You bring out the natural side of me, my true gentle self that many don't get to see. You teach me a lot of wise and awesome things. You're naturally gifted. Yes I want to marry you. And be your wife and more than wife, I wanna be your twin flame, your soulmate forever into eternity. Only you and only you.

And Tony wrote this to me — Is it a poetic gift or a neurotic curse? Because, there are so many words that fly in my mind all the time. It’s honestly exhausting and I can barely catch a brake. I guess I’m creative and resolve past trauma and experiences. But I’m barely able to breathe, so scarcely it’s insane. I’m glad I can lift you up. I’ll gladly push the button to call the lift for you. But confused that I am, I didn’t get in it again. So I’m standing on the ground floor watching you rise and hoping you’re doing well, while I’m standing there lost, pretending that I don’t dwell in the well of my pain. The toxic ocean is my stepping stone, but I can’t help but sometimes let it be my home. As much as I like the view from the highest mountain top, it feels like I’m not worthy or deserving of your love. I know know, the same old topic and I promise it has gotten better, but it’s hard to stop the weather. It’s been raining for so long and the ocean is rising as much as it is declining, because of the sun that you have been shining. So it stays the same level, but still feels mesmerising. The darkness seems enticing and I’m trying to let it go and luckily I have you to fly away with and if so. I’m so happy and grateful for the miracle you are. My Love. My Wife. You are everything to me and I’m bettering myself, constantly, I feel like Im a new human being. It’s so refreshing to let go of this depression I’m settled. With you forever, together and happily ever after, together will avoid and cure all disasters.

From our elevated position we take off, spread our wings and fly and even if you fall i’ll be right there. I’ll always grow just as much as you fly high so I can always catch you. So you can always safely land on the mountain ? top that I am. If you get knocked down and are in danger of hitting the ground. I’ll absorb the entire impact for you. Even if it shatters my top it doesn’t matter. I’ll just be glad you’re safe and together we rise again. I love and adore you . You’re my miracle. Instead of living in toxic cycles, I’m finally rising above this existential crisis. If it weren’t for you I would still be totally lost, but you found me and helped me find myself in return ❤️

While browsing I came across the image of a bee and my horny levels went up again. I'm gradually returning to my horny levels. I imagined the bee saying to me - "hey girly, don't you wanna suck me again. Cmon." And I felt turned on. Some guys are like that. They can be feminine but they can keep pressuring you subtly and keep ridiculing you till you submit. It's a technique of negging. They make you feel bad for saying no. They gently push you to want sex and make it look like they are offering chocolate.

D-grade relationships.

While browsing I came across the image of a bee and my horny levels went up again. I'm gradually returning to my horny levels. I imagined the bee saying to me - "hey girly, don't you wanna suck me again. Cmon." And I felt turned on. Some guys are like that. They can be feminine but they can keep pressuring you subtly and keep ridiculing you till you submit. It's a technique of negging. They make you feel bad for saying no. They gently push you to want sex and make it look like they are offering chocolate. This bee picture.

The HUMAN BRAIN