Tyler Robinson

If you are afraid of traveling, the only way to get rid of it is to travel a lot and everyday. Then you are no longer afraid of it. Also over time you become an expert traveler. You learn what stuff is more important, how to pack your bag, what languages to learn, how to meet and greet, how to stay safe, what not to eat, how much money to carry, what not to spend money on, how to save money. Similarly...... Women are like traveling. Make more women friends. Hang out. Don't approach with the idea of making a girlfriend. Simply talk the way you will talk to any random person. Woman like a guy who shares(in a friendship sense) share your stuff with them. Just engage them. One thing I noticed is that you guys are very Impatient. I noticed this a lot with my male friends. It's a really downer and takes away valuable opportunities for growth in men. Don't be so Impatient for pussy. Don't look at every woman as pussy or no pussy. It doesn't give you a chance to bond. What will you do by getting laid anyways if you cannot sustain a bond with her. Would you have anything to talk to her about after sex. Then that would soon turn boring. Approach as many woman as you can without any intent. Some might not like to talk to you, it's okay, don't take it egoic way, let her go, approach next girl,offline or online. Now if some girl friendzones you, it's perfectly fine too, you still get to talk to her. What you guys generally do is of there's a chance to get a girlfriend and when she isn't giving you enough solid signals or opportunities you simply drop everything, lose interest and stop talking to her. But that will not help you grow with women. It's extremely myopic to think of women only in the girlfriend-sex sense. It won't help you genuinely bond with women. Understand that a woman is made of 3 parts - Her mind/intellect, her heart which is most important to her and her pussy/vagina /womb /fertility center. This is the most precious part after her heart and she can't give this precious part easily to any man. A woman craves for heart/mind/soul connection. Although it is sometimes possible to win her heart through her vagina but this needs incredible male power and skill.. You have to be extremely adept and seductive to win her directly through vagina. Most men simply cannot do it. It needs a high sex drive in a man and the ability to fuck a woman through eyes only. But if you lack that, you can compensate through heart connection. For this have a lot of conversations with women. Connect with them. Bond with them. Learn how to make them feel engaged, entertained and respected. Respect is a huge thing for most women.. When a woman feels protected, respected, she automatically sees the guy as boyfriend material. All of this needs you to break out of your ego-laziness-fear zone, just talk to women and see what kind of communication tickles them and learn from it. It's all about kinesthetics rather than theory or hearsay.

What will a strong man say to a woman - 1. I trust you 2. I won't shame you 3. I won't judge you 4. I will forgive you and offer you my compassion. 5. I won't complain 4. I respect you 5. I love you 6. I embrace your flaws and I am ready to look past them to see your love.

It seems like it's a garb that women develop over time because society doesn't give them enough love same way society has incels, rapists, exploitative players, deceitful guys, unhappy toxic males etc because their needs are unmet so they develop behaviors as a coping mechanism so we blame their character, shame them, mock them instead of understanding the reasons behind their behaviors. Easy to shame and mock. Difficult to understand. Same goes with women's behaviors. Instead of blaming the person, it's about owning that this is what our society is and many are left with unmet needs and of course trauma. The objective is to not hate, shame or criticize or put down someone for their character flaws but to turn your Masculinity and take charge and embrace the flaws of the opposite sex (this is a part of your abundance as a male) where you give room for someone imperfect to get love from you. It's called being non-judgmental and showing compassion. This part of your Masculinity makes you a strong person. It shows your capacity to love a woman who is not perfect. A boy will judge a slut. Laugh at her. A man will love a slut. That's the difference. We don't become our best selves by pairing with someone who is perfect. In fact our best selves are tested, challenged and displayed even created when we are paired with someone who is not perfect. That's how God is testing our love. It's always easy to love someone who is perfect. It's always easy to see beauty in something that is already beautiful. But we don't become strong in life by facing easy situations. It's the harder things that make us stronger. It's the challenging things that bring out the best in us. This also applies to femininity.if a woman always stayed with a perfect man, what will she gain for herself? But if she stayed with an asshole, her capacity to understand and forgive will improve, maybe she will even fall in love with an incel or a violent person, maybe her love will make him a better person This situation already happened in my life. My ex was a brutal player violent asshole kind of a person. He used to have deep anger issues towards women because he wasn't loved as a child. But when I came into his life, instead of judging him as a violent person or an asshole, I decided to show him compassion and forgiveness and show him my love and trust, and within like a year, he was a changed man, my love had transformed him to be less hateful towards women, he became less angry, his anger was the lowest level from the time I had met him, he was not completely changed but a significant drop in his anger or violent behavior and he wanted to turn his life and work harder to make it better. I realized that he needed love. If I had judged him as an imperfect guy and left him and if all women had done the same, he would have probably hated himself all his life and never found the love to cure his anger. He would have always been bitter towards women for rejecting him. But my love helped him to cure his inner bitterness. He felt good and he thanked me for being by his side when none of his exes or family would support him. For me it was a lesson in growth as well because my capacity to non judgementally understand the other person grew exponentially, I became aware that love can heal and my heart became bigger. This is not to say that you should be in a toxic relationship, of course, if it's toxic you must leave, but I'm just saying that growth does not always happen in a comfortable environment, you have to deal with challenging situations to have that growth. In fact your most growth will come from your deepest most confusing experiences in life. To be able to love a man who wasn't perfect, I was able to be more compassionate and in some ways that only added to my femininity. It made me more loving and more feminine. That's why dark traits in the opposite sex are not always an indicator that you should just dump a person, but you can also heal them by understanding their situation and by showing them love. And that can also add to your masculinity/ femininity. For example, I've seen men who are with girlfriends that aren't perfect, let's say she is the type who is always full of shit, what I have observed is that such men have greater depth and generosity and maturity in their attitude and they are also able to have a fulfilling relationship because they aren't constantly complaining about their partner, they are able to integrate their own shadows of judgment and understand the reasons why their partner acts a certain way, and this understanding itself becomes a solid foundation to the relationship, because she is grateful that he is giving her so much room in the relationship despite her obvious flaws and that makes her admire, value, trust and respect him even more. She sees him as a stronger masculine figure who is not being mad at her but instead able to trust her and work with her which other judgemental guys won't offer her, this man appears stronger to her and he appears as someone that she can rely on and learn from to become a better person, someone who can lead her and guide her in a good direction, also someone that she now has to prove herself to, since he showed her trust, in a way that it becomes her responsibility to respect that trust, which also puts the onus on her to behave better as an obligation to continue to earn and keep his trust and respect.

This is what my ex told me when I asked him what he wanted in a girl — 1)She takes care of herself, maintaining her beauty and charm. 2)She is in touch with her femininity and sexuality. 3) She is non needy, jealous and over controlling. 4)Gives a time for me being by myself, let me alone. 5)Respecting and understanding, caring and loving ( but not as a mother/ son dynamic) 6) Doesn't suppress my freedom seeking energy ( Book by Devid Deita "Way of superior man" talks about it greatly). 7)Has interesting personality, shares my values. 8) Has a purpose, sense of direction.

Alpha males doesn’t necessarily look for their equals. Alpha males know what they want. They are passionate, have a vision, focused and assertive. They’re a good at their field of expertise which leads to being a good provider for their family. what an alpha man wants in a partner is someone who’ll encourage them with what they do instead of being a distraction. Someone who has her own thing going on for herself. Those are some of the characteristics they would find in a perfect girl (Alpha Female). http://www.mensaxis.com/alpha-male-traits/ http://www.traitsofthealphamale.com/77/25-traits-of-an-alpha-male/

Feminine qualities If you look into Yin qualities, it will give you a much wider and deeper definition of femininity than our social caricature of femininity. Our social idea of femininity which is really two dimensional has more to do with how a man views femininity in a woman when looking for a mate, and not how a woman experiences her own femininity. If you want to highlight your femininity to be attractive to men, there are many resources to look into for that. Make-up tutorials and how to act like a feminine woman are great search terms for this. But the experience of femininity is so much more than about sexual attractiveness. It's about being, receptivity, natural cycles, mystery, the unconscious, the a-rational, darkness, emotions, the instinctual nature, the present moment, beauty, respect for the Earth and its creatures, unconditional love, non-heirarchical thinking, stillness, cooperation, and many other things that aren't quite celebrated in our society or even recognized as feminine. These are the things that must come up in power in order for us to solve most of our world's big problems. The masculine counterparts to these (respectively) are doing, communication, goals, clarity, the conscious, the rational, light, thought, the conditioned nature, the past and future, utility, prioritizing society and economy, conditional admiration, hierarchical thinking, movement, and competition. These can be wonderful qualities, but our culture is quite obsessed with them. So, most everyone in our society values these traits more and prioritizes them over their feminine counterparts. Boys and girls are conditioned from a young age to develop their masculine side, but are often unaware of or neglectful of developing their feminine side. But this imbalance is what causes a lot of problems on the global scale. Having said this, human beings are highly androgynous creatures. No one has only masculine or only feminine traits. All people contain a unique ratio of these traits. So, there are men who are more feminine than masculine and women who are more masculine than feminine. So, be sure to be authentic. Don't read the traits and try to fit into only the feminine mold because femininity and masculinity are pre-conditioned states. You can't really change your orientation that much. But you can choose to highlight the femininity that's already there,that you genuinely embody, then find ways to develop and highlight those traits further.

I feel like women's identity struggles because we are always compared to how men are, but the men's traits are more celebrated in society where as women's are not. The thing is that we have different strengths and weaknesses because we have different values, even mindsets. Then again, I think you have to find that out for yourself. You need to find the right balance between feeling good with yourself and others. I think women often take care of everybody around them except themselves and are thus saved for last. It should be the contrary. Take care of yourself first. Accept your own nature : sexual fantasies, need to communicate your feelings, your need to give to others and don't be ashamed of that because it's too girly or whatever. Support other women. Stand up to men. Be happy of what you are made of.

I was eating cheese and cutting the outer wrapper and some part, a 2cm wide plastic foil got stuck on the cheese slice and I swallowed it whole. I ended up swallowing the piece of plastic as well. Would that be dangerous?

Maslow makes the distinction between two different types of love; deficiency-love and being-love. D-love is needy, possessive, and neurotic. Infatuation (the "in love" experience) is a form of D-love. B-love is completely non-needy and non-possessive, it is admiring rather than needing. You love the person for as they are without needing anything in return (or needing love in return). B-lovers are independent of one another and do not get easily jealous or threatened. It is the love between a healthy mother and her baby. Perhaps you love some close friends and family in such a way? Personally I think simply seeking to fulfil your deficiency need for sex will be quiet unsatisfying in the long run. I think you could have much more satisfying sex with someone you have a genuine emotional connection with.

Here are some things I am not attracted to or don't care about: How much money a man makes What type of car he drives How big his dick is How big his muscles are Drinking/Drugs Sits on the couch watching TV for hours or playing hours of video games... Although I don't appreciate this. Excessive neediness Not being humble- I'm just going to touch on this twice because nothing turns me off as much as a man speeding in his lifted truck, lol. Is engaged in uncessary drama (Facebook, friends business, etc.) Is into fighting people to make a point. Yells or gets angry

What are women attracted to in my opinion? The number one thing women are looking for in a mate is "congruence." Are you being the man you present yourself to be? Women can pick up the slightest social nuances and are absolute masters at spotting bull shi*t. That age old wisdom "be yourself." Nothing can be more true. Good eye contact, voice projection, vocal tonality. Leading... lead, lead, lead, and lead. Girls are addicted to emotions. The reason why most women like the often idolized "bad boy" is because he is King at making her feel all different kinds of emotions. It is like a roller coaster. At one moment he is holding her close hugging her kissing her forehead and the next he's pushing her away (albeit lightly) saying "Oh my god your such a beautiful disaster I can't deal with you anymore." Then withdraws his attention from her. He automatically becomes a beacon of validation for the girl. Girls that are able to self-validate themselves are a RARE BREED. Hell even men able to self-validate are a rare breed. She might say "Be Nice. Buy Me flowers. Shower me with affection." She might complain about how her last 3 boyfriends were total a**holes and she doesn't want that. If she doesn't want that? Then why were her last 3 boyfriends a**holes? You get the point. Be respectful but she has to earn that right. To many guys throw themselves at the feet of women. This is the last thing a woman wants. She wants a strong man who will lead her into adventures untold. Into a night of beautiful festivities of lore and candor. Create a we dynamic with the girl. It shouldn't be a you vs her frame rather an us frame. Be confident and step with authority. Make zero apologies for your desires as a man. Women want to be desired. Be cognizant of her feedback. Is she stepping back? Step back. Is she leaning in? Pull her closer. Is she playfully pushing you back or is she giving real resistance? Just be smart. Also understand that women LOVE men. With a capital L. They also LOVE sex with a capital L. Do not ever be dependent on a women's reactions. One girl might find you to be scum while another finds you to be absolutely intoxicating. Understand that seduction and love is just a beautiful dance between the sexes. Also realize that the person who is more willing to walk away has more power. Many men has emasculated themselves. They cower from the very thing that makes them so strong and handsome to women. Be a Man. Stand tall, be calm, and walk through the world with ease. Love yourself. Also if you remember anything from all of this remember this: People feel what you feel by the law of state transfer. If you want a woman to feel happy, horny, and affectionate. Put yourself in that emotional cocktail first. Take action. Women won't come into your life behind a computer screen. Talk to girls as you go about your day. Go out and socialize. Also keep in mind that talking to girls is FUN. There is a reason why it is called game and not work.

Prodigal son.

Why did you put me on ignore?

Lately I've realised how strong my conviction is that I can't do both at the same time: self-actualization and having an intimate relationship. I'm clearly in favour of self-actualization but I'm not happy with this situation. I read a lot of books, meditate daily, explore the world within and without and every new day I try to massive fuckin' action the shit out of it. But for some reason I can't do the same with intimate (sexual) relationships. I fear that I'll lose myself in relationship monkey business, getting distracted from self-actualizing and ending up doing it half-assed or losing myself. I'm really content with how things are progressing in my self-actualization except for my relationship problem which I see as a huge blindspot in my Maslow's pyramid. I've tried a number of times but always ended up withdrawing.

There's also something called healing and not just personal ownership.

I think I would define a 'shallow' relationship as one that is very selfish and superficial - two people getting what they 'want' from one another with no real meaningful connection. In otherwords, two people who don't have an integrated world-veiw, values and beliefs. Two people who aren't fundamentally interested in one another's model of reality, interests and pursuits. I would define a more meaningful relationship as one in which two people are interested in helping one another grow and be the best versions of themselves. Support and encourage one another. Have integrated beliefs and values and are on the same page in life. Not needy or superficial, not selfishly just using one another as a supply for their own needs and wants. Is it better to have shallow relationships than none at all? In my opinion I would say maybe not. They are a distraction and drain on emotional and mental energy with no real true value.

You can become enlightened in so many ways.. So it doesn't say much. Can sex be used to expand one's consciousness? << Definitely Can celibacy be effective for focusing the mind on meditative practices? << Definitely Can you do both at different times in your life? << Definitely Can you stick to only one path your whole life and still be enlightened << Definitely So you have a lot of options. A lot of the reasons that Eastern monastic school abstain from sex has to do with tradition and culture of the area. Of course sex and relationships are very messy and distracting, so it's nice to not have to deal with that stuff at all when doing enlightenment work. Imagine you're trying to meditate while you're girlfriend cheats on you. It will screw up your progress big time.

Why don't you understand that telling someone that they're stuck in victim mindset is not empowering?

When you say the game was rigged because you didn't win.

embarassing but instead of asking my girlfriends who would rather give me an odd look, I prefer to say it here. Thanks for taking the time for a detailed explanation full of useful tips on dealing with pms pain. But the sexual urge has become a real problem. Last time I tried to masturbate to take care of it. But it seems the more I masturbate, the worse it gets, I get more urges, it turns into a vicious cycle. And then I get immediate pain after masturbating. Like menstrual pain right in my tummy. The sexual urges leave me with hot flashes and a feverish feeling. It forces me to masturbate and leaves me feeling a bit annoyed and stressed out. After masturbation, I feel like it would be over. But the urge re-emerges the next day the same way the previous day and I start getting sexual thoughts. It interferes with my work, there is no focus and I feel agitated like I need to have sex really bad. Back when I had a boyfriend, I had sex so it took care of it. But I decided not to have sex early on in a relationship and wait till the guy is really good because in the past having sex with my ex made me feel a lot of regret like I gave my body to a pathetic guy, it left me with a lot of guilt and shame and feelings of unworthiness. I felt like I shouldn't have had sex so early and easily. So this time I decided to hold off sex until I feel completely safe around my next boyfriend and until I feel like he is willing to commit and show respect to my body. Till then I will only communicate with them , get to know them for a while and then engage in sex if I feel he is really deserving of my time. But till then, even if I have a good partner, it's not like I'm going to have sex all the time. If he is not in the mood then I have to find my own ways and that is masturbating of course. But masturbating is not easy. If I overdo it, it causes pain from contractions and then agitations. I'm reaching full orgasms and sometimes multiple orgasms and it is no great favor. It stresses me out. It is relaxing in the moment, Because of endorphins and then I get good sleep the day I masturbate. Yet the nightmare of intense urges begins the next day again. I have been feeling anxiety because of this. I'm dreading my next period. I also drink soy milk. Before drinking soy milk this never happened. After drinking soy milk, I have begun to experience some changes like breast softness and feeling weird sexually, like a bit stronger sexually than usual. I also saw that the more sugars I eat, these urges intensify that month When I eat less sugars, that month it's a bit low. But taking away sugar completely feels like a nightmare of body weaknesses. I have gotten such strong urges this month that I have been looking at random men and feeling sexual just looking at them which has caused me to Shame myself for feeling so sexual around men and wanting them so bad. I have begun to feel feelings of intense shame whenever I feel sexual. I have never slept around, except strictly in context of solid relationships and I just don't want my moral integrity to be compromised in any way. These days the new trend for me is that whenever I see male chest hair I get turned on really quickly and I feel very ashamed about it because it could be any random male whose shirt is slightly unbuttoned and that turns me on and then I begin to guilt myself later for feeling horny about it. This is first thing these sexual urges have done so far. Now I don't know how much more horny it's going to make me, I don't want to reach a stage where I simply look at a man and get horny. That would be super awkward and kinda shameful I don't know how to go around this whole female sexuality thing that has suddenly made me have intense arousals. Never happened before. I took a break from relationships and it seems that I have been going through some kind of mental sexual withdrawals where not getting sex has charged the body with intense chemicals. I never felt before that female sexuality was this intense. And now I see the ugly side of it. A jacking up of female hormones and increase in female horniness is a pathetic nightmare. I never felt so extra horny before. So I never realized the nightmare waiting for me. And now with these intense urges, my sexuality is turning very wild and crazy. Like I want a man in bed really bad. But this leaves me with guilt because I just don't want it mentally yet my body keeps orgasming and wanting it.

First is to value yourself a little more. What's your value as a man dependent on? Have you built your Masculinity? When you do that, you're confident in yourself, you automatically aren't impacted by the attention you give to women. You aren't needing their validation. You also don't get impacted by rejections. The fundamental problem with you is that you haven't developed your value as a male and then the only way to feel confident for you is to be validated by a female. It becomes a crutch. We use a crutch when we're unable to walk. You walk properly and you won't need a crutch. By pedestalizing women, you have activated your crutch or coping mechanism. This prevents you from building yourself as a man in turn perpetuating the cycle of putting women on a pedestal. The main question you have to ask yourself is - what am I without a woman? When you get the answer for that question you will be less focused on getting attention from women and more focused on cultivating your own value. As a man you have a lot of value and you can provide that value to society and community by serving, fulfilling your passion or life purpose, building your skills, it's just so many things you could do to feel valuable as a man. Don't submit to a culture where men derive value from how many women they date or sleep with. Instead cultivate your own manhood. It has a two way benefit. It builds you as a man, makes you confident in yourself and automatically makes you stop pedestalizing women. Hit two birds with one stone.

This might seem like a trollish post but it is super serious. I have noticed that a lot of guys on the forum and men in general put women on a pedestal. It's not cool. It makes you look weak and Un-masculine. If you want to cultivate your real Masculinity, then stop putting women on a pedestal. Respect women of course but don't place them on a pedestal. Learn to respect yourself as a man. Women are just like you. Even though the pussy is extremely precious (there are reasons why the pussy is precious and I'll explain it) but even then don't put women on a pedestal. You put women on a pedestal and then complain. There's a good reason why women get so many likes. A pussy is as precious to a man as are loose bone fragments to an archeologist. You have to understand that a penis can impregnate semen every day, even every hour. But a pussy cannot be penetrated everyday, I mean impregnated. A woman can be pregnant only a few times over her lifespan. So she is all about conserving energy and finding one perfect dude to give her eggs to. Meanwhile a man can go about impregnate several women if he wants to. And most of those women might not even get pregnant if they aren't fertile or ovulating. So he has try harder to achieve a successful impregnation. Which means he will try many times and many women. That's why sex is so cheap for men but not so cheap for women. That's why the demand for pussy will always be high. Yet... This does not mean that you should put women on a pedestal. Absolutely not, since it impacts male self esteem. Hope the positive message was delivered.

First is to value yourself a little more. What's your value as a man dependent on? Have you built your Masculinity? When you do that, you're confident in yourself, you automatically aren't impacted by the attention you give to women. You aren't needing their validation. You also don't get impacted by rejections. The fundamental problem with you is that you haven't developed your value as a male and then the only way to feel confident for you is to be validated by a female. It becomes a crutch. We use a crutch when we're unable to walk. You walk properly and you won't need a crutch. By pedestalizing women, you have activated your crutch or coping mechanism. This prevents you from building yourself as a man in turn perpetuating the cycle of putting women on a pedestal. The main question you have to ask yourself is - what am I without a woman? When you get the answer for that question you will be less focused on getting attention from women and more focused on cultivating your own value. As a man you have a lot of value and you can provide that value to society and community by serving, fulfilling your passion or life purpose, building your skills, it's just so many things you could do to feel valuable as a man. Don't submit to a culture where men derive value from how many women they date or sleep with. Instead cultivate your own manhood. It has a two way benefit. It builds you as a man, makes you confident in yourself and automatically makes you stop pedestalizing women. Hit two birds with one stone.

You get pussy only when you impress a woman. Just don't go overboard with it.